My Mormon marriage was a trap!

[@mindingmybusiness6309]

I am so tired of people pushing this trad wife BS, it leaves women too vulnerable

[@brooklin_bernek]

Yes and stuck like idiots!!! Because I don’t care what anyone says we’re left with nothing and then we are blamed for all of it too.

[@kellyTaylor-uv3co]

The problem is not trad wives !!! This happen to the career woman too !!!

[@naomihu9399]

@@kellyTaylor-uv3coI don’t think so. If the career woman actually has a career, she wouldn’t have to take the BS from the man when things are going too far. The man on the other hand will expect her more cuz she also contributes to the family financially. Money is bargaining power even inside of a family, and trad wife obviously has none…

[@JeantheSecond-ip7qm]

@@kellyTaylor-uv3co Career women have so many more options. I was a career woman. Divorcing my cheating husband was easy. When we sold our marital home, I moved into an apartment I could pay for with my job. I carried on living the lifestyle I was accustomed to without even having to worry about it. I have a friend who is getting a divorce. She’s not a trad wife, but left her high paying job because she wanted to stay home for their child. She has built a part time career, but makes a tiny fraction of what he makes. Her future is far more uncertain than mine was when I got a divorce. And she’s in a much place than an actual trad wife, like the lady in this video.

[@Random.sachen1]

That's the goal unfortunately

[@malenaqueteimporta5729]

I am so appreciative of my grandmother who told me that I needed to go to college even after I was married at age 19. I am part of the Mexican American middle class that no one talks about. We are very Catholic and conservative. Most women stay home and care for their husbands and children. My mom did the same. My grandmother was a widow at age 28 with 3 kids. My grandfather was killed in a bar over a woman. Needless to say she never truly trusted men. Once I was married and started to have kids, she babysat my kids so that I could finish undergrad and grad school. I was lucky, my husband at his young age also began to see the horrible life that could have happened if we didn’t change our ways. We had 2 boys and we started telling people that I was not able to carry anymore. That was my grandmother’s idea by the way. Grandma died in 2017, she saved my life. She stood in the gap for me in so many different ways. I miss my Romana Banana. That’s what I called her.

[@jenniferweisinger6014]

From the depths of her soul, she looked at you and knew her suffering served its purpose. One life to live- ❤

[@bewitched3912]

❤ I love her and her wisdom

[@animefreak1149]

Wow! Your grandma is a badass women!! Reading your comment and then looking at your profile picture to see Rosie the riveter gave me the biggest smile! How did your grandma survive as a widow with three children? I know they wouldn’t give women much work back then. My mom is a stay at home wife and I grew up hoping the same for me. I married my high school sweetheart and would love to be a stay at home mom eventually, however I am nervous and aware it would make me vulnerable, I’m at crossroads.

[@claireconolly8355]

Bless you and your Grandma ❤

[@f.frederickskitty2910]

Grandma's are awesome

[@tinyshepherdess7710]

I quit my job after one year to stay home with 1st child. Then came 2nd child. For seven years I stayed home and lost all the seniority in my career. Then the marriage ended & I had to start over after my ex got the better of the marriage settlement. Happily ever after is a fairy tale. Women must look after their finances BEFORE marriage.

[@Sunflowers_220]

He did. He left her for a younger woman. He cheated and left her with nothing.

[@rockin-krockin-k7607]

My dad left our family of 3 children for a co-worker when I was 12 years old in the 1960's. My mom had been a "1950's housewife" - completely dedicated to her husband and children and making a home for them in the mid west. It was devastating when he left, and my mother struggled financially for decades. While I wouldn't wish that situation on anyone, it taught me the biggest lesson of my life - that I needed to be able to take care of myself and any children, on my own, in case of divorce, death, disability and needed to have the independence to make my own financial decisions that could secure my financial future. I'm here to tell you - you can do it! It's been challenging, but I've prioritized my education, training, working hard, and savings and am now comfortably retired from a long career with 2 independent adult daughters and a supportive spouse.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

I’m sorry you had to learn the hard way, hope your future is happy and full of success.

[@laetitialogan2002]

As my 80 year old Mother always said.."Man take care of himself, Woman do likewise"...

[@lillaborsos7332]

Same! My 92 year old grandmother said this

[@mdiwan2597]

My mom has always told me and continues to tell me, "Money is your 2nd husband"

[@Random.sachen1]

​​​​​@@mdiwan2597should be first actually. Money doesn't leave you if you take care of it, never breaks your heart, never betrays. Money 1st, a man 2nd. Only after securing the 1st one should a woman consider getting involved with the second. Because the 2nd one is risky. You can take risks only when you secured yourself.

[@Maple_Mari]

Its still very popular in Russia, when wives depends on husbands financially (so are their kids) and wives has no choice but to tolerate abuse, addiction, cheating and etc. of their husbands without option to leave and be safe and be able to provide for themselves and kids. Now the government policy is to motivate girls to have marriage earlier (uni education is not necessary for girls in their opinion), get married and become a housewife, they do this to raise populations (now we have crisis that girls doesn't want to have kids cause situation is far from being stable), all of this is scary. The best luck to you and big hi from Russia❤

[@lifetaketwo7662]

Hello! Thanks for the comment. I studied Russian in college and have always wanted to visit. ♥️

[@TheKing-er1ji]

Also didn’t they decriminalise domestic violence

[@Maple_Mari]

@@TheKing-er1ji yes, unfortunately that's true

[@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar]

This is the direction 45% of people in the states want to go in. 😞

[@jamieleigh807]

Jordan Peterson pushes this narrative

[@antidotebrain69]

I saw bits of your story on various channels discussing the trad wife stuff. Thank you for speaking out and warning young women about the dangers of that lifestyle. I hope you're doing better nowadays.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

Hello! My life is better in many ways, I still struggle financially and with health problems. But working hard to get to a better place ♥️

[@jamiejones8508]

@@lifetaketwo7662 So glad to hear it. Obvious point, but you weren’t just stuck with an awful man; you were stuck in an awful system that colluded in maintaining your “relationship”. Most of us just have to get rid of a man; you had a whole culture to escape. Congratulations on having the determination & strength to do so - and helping other women to do likewise!

[@m.s.1067]

Thank you for this. My mom left her job in a dying industry when she had me and became a SAHM. 15 years later she discovered my dad had been cheating on her for over 10 years. Her only skills and experience were no longer useful and she had no other way of supporting herself so she had to stay. But she started working first inofficially and then officially in my dad’s business. She now has marketable experience and she‘s a completely different person. Confident, happy and while she chose to stay with my dad, she’s no longer doing it out of necessity. She doesn’t take his bullshit anymore and he‘s also much nicer to all of us, knowing that he could lose us. Her job is actually making the entire family better.

[@Helena-ou8ry]

When my mother divorced my dad back in the 1990’s she discovered that he was such a drain on the joint finances that the 3 of us actually had more money without him. That doesn’t even take into account all the domestic chores she no longer needed to do for him.

[@cecilyyates22]

People, never confront your husband. Go to a lawyer. And always have your own stash of money and secret

[@cecilyyates22]

.....in secret

[@Expired_Antidote]

I’ve always advocated for a joint bank account AND a separate one…ALWAYS…for men AND women… :)

[@slofty]

Why get married in the first place? You can still partnership with real estate and have durable power of attorney for medical crises should that ever happen.

[@cecilyyates22]

Getting married is great. There's a level of commitment that engenders trust that you can't get from just being partners. Just don't be a slave. Have your own stash or arrangement to be paid from the get-go so that your value is acknowledged. That inspires trust too.

[@slofty]

@@cecilyyates22 I was never a "slave." Doesn't change the fact that some people grow apart and even without too much contention it is HARD to disentangle from someone legally as marriage is the most legally binding thing that exists outside of the creation of a birth/death certificate. Even if it isn't a 'rough' divorce, any marriage that was 10+ years will require lawyers, period. IT'S EXPENSIVE. That's why some people separate, move house, date, but never fully finalize the legal union. Marriage exists historically for FAMILY BUSINESS purposes, and guess what? It is still that way. We're still friends but I have to say-- never again! Bad idea!

[@territ1231]

My mom always told me, no woman needs a man. Do it yourself and you'll have only you to worry about!!

[@mayperez1420]

I’m so glad your channel is growing. You deserve it! You have suffered so much. I hope this channel becomes a very stable income stream for you.

[@auggiedoggiesmommy1734]

It’s not just cheating either. What happens if your spouse becomes disabled?

[@chariots8x230]

Or unexpectedly passes away

[@clapwithonehand9304]

My great-grandma, grandma and mom always say that trad-wives are the most irresponsible parent on earth. They forget that moms are always the back up plan for their children. Mothers are the major stability for their children. If mom is not stable the kids will suffer greatly.

[@Nostradevus1]

Yeah and if they aren't home then how are the kids supposedly getting that stability?

[@clapwithonehand9304]

@@Nostradevus1 I can't stay home with the kids forever. That is why you have daycare, nannies. I know you westerns frown up the idea of getting a nanny which is funny. If you truly love your kids then no nanny under heaven will replace that. Plus by the age of 6yrs I could stay at home with my younger brother then from time to time we chilled with my granny. It was perfect. I'm 30 and my mom still has her career. We love her and granny like crazy. All women under should and must have income just incase. No man is a future plan.

[@Angaloth19]

@@Nostradevus1My mom was a stay at home mom, and being around your mommy 24/7 past the age of 7 is suffocating. I wish my mom had a job and let us go to public school. We sensed that she needed us more than we needed her, and that itself is a form of parentification.

[@Rosa-c2t]

I felt it in my heart Mormon women are used too ! I am from Lebanon , the middle Easter women suffer too , All women suffer all over the world With men

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@Rosa-c2t yes they do. Time to stop that cycle.

[@fabdragon2071]

Tis the patriarchy! However in America women are getting more degrees and landing higher pating jobs. Progress is possible!

[@JamCherry]

Facts!!!!

[@ladygreenlife]

​@@fabdragon207150% of grads in STEM in Iran are women. Getting better education and better jobs are not the only things that gets women out of the cycle. Better laws and safe guarding better laws are what breaks the cycle.

[@fabdragon2071]

@@ladygreenlife hahaha yeah sadly I can't report that laws related to women's rights are in a forward projection in America....

[@blackdragoness21]

This video needs to go viral. This video can save a lot of young women a lot of misery.

[@snowmiaow]

This should be taught in school but could you imagine?

[@cecilia-mareebernadette4022]

It’s terrible morally what he did with cheating- but also he could’ve/would’ve seriously gotten you or your children sick through an STD. It’s criminal what he did and I wish society would charge these men and protect wives and mothers (and in so doing maybe the seggs workers as well) so sad all around. Amazed by your strength!!

[@Rikanoelle]

Yes, the entitlement that sex addicts are enabled to perpetuate IS criminal. They can do whatever they want while their spouse and children suffer. No justice in that. But then where would the sex and porn industry be without their customers? Maybe start there…

[@JenMaxon]

@@Rikanoelle With the customers? Yes, start with that

[@Susweca5569]

More important is that our society gives a woman freedom to get away from these men, freedom to get an abortion and make choices over their body and decide how many children they're going to have or not have any, and a living wage so they can take care of themselves and their children without a man.

[@purplehaze20011982]

I think she discussed this in an earlier video. Her husband gave an STI to her.

[@Nostradevus1]

Should women also be charged with crimes for paternity fraud and also potentially bringing a STD into the family? If so, I am all for it.

[@tigerdenvintage6783]

You are stunning. Inside and out. You are literally the ideal woman when it comes to what Mormon men want. If YOU can get cheated on, all women are game. Thank you for the work you are doing. It’s so important to break the fantasy these high control religions sell. Keep up the good work! You are such a rockstar!

[@corriewatterson]

Totally agree. Just a side note though, that the decision to cheat has nothing to do with a woman's looks - Beyonce and Catherine Zeta Jones were cheated on! Cheating is due to a character flaw in the cheater. A person with integrity asks for a divorce, or works with their partner to improve the relationship. They don't lie and abuse their unknowing partner. After finding out their partner has been cheating, a betrayed person usually blames their own attractiveness or other personal qualities, and can't help but trying to charm the cheater "back" to them. The awesome infidelity website ChumpLady calls this the "pick me dance". TL;DR: it doesn't work, because it was never about the betrayed. It was about the selfishness and poor character of the cheater.

[@evie-wu5qd]

I raised my daughter to get a college degree and I do not encourage her to get married. She is a beautiful stunning woman with brains and beauty. She saved her money and is financially independent! I’m so proud of her. I told her to just live with someone. Don’t tie yourself down with a legal document! If you are unhappy just come home and never share a bank account!

[@tinachristine4573]

Best advice ever.

[@rockin-krockin-k7607]

Absolutely have your own bank accounts! You can even have a yours, mine, and ours/household accounts.

[@jenniferw1595]

Disability leaves women vulnerable too! I have MS and gastroparesis and cannot work. I get $900 a month from disability. The state that I live in has a 10 year wait list for housing. We need to give disabled people enough of a disability payment to be able to not be stuck in an abusive or homeless situation.

[@tan89284]

This happens to non religious couples too. I’ve SEEN my girl friends cry over their man texting other women from their work outside of work hours. I’ve SEEN them cry over their men proposing to open their relationship to become poly because he “has so much more love to give” and she doesn’t understand it because he’s all she wants, she doesn’t want anyone else. I’ve SEEN these exact same friends say to me “I have a good man” “he’s such a good man” and wanting to marry their men, because it’s better than being single? A woman’s ultimate achievement in life is to wed and have kids, even if the man micro cheats, proposes an open relationship and disrespects their partner. These same women don’t understand why I chose to be voluntarily celibate, I look at their lives and I want nothing they have meanwhile they look at my single childfree life and think I’m a failure? They’re lying to themselves trying to convince themselves that they found a good man, meanwhile he’s out cheating but it doesn’t matter because her ultimate goal in life is to have a man and be in a relationship. The bar is so low. Non of these women work either (due to disabilities or postpartum depression) so if their relationship ends, they’re fckd.

[@Theestallionsimp]

Glad to see you on KZbin! I don't have tiktok so I've only seen clips on other channels. It's amazing how these ~godly~ men cheat, pay for sex, and abandon their children when they don't want their mom anymore. How can they live with themselves??

[@parkwood6334]

The double standard of what men can get away with versus what women are punished for is crazy.

[@erickapoletti2053]

I just don’t understand how these men can leave their families so devastated and they aren’t required to pay and support their children. Such a travesty.

[@Cheyennney]

My mother was a traditional wife in the sense that she stayed at home with us was the homemaker made the meals etc while dad paid the bills but she also went to college beforehand and was a registered nurse before she had kids and went back to work as a nurse after my dad left her with 4 children. She told me to never depend on a man and she chose nursing not out of passion - though she was a very caring and lovely woman - but because she knew there would always be a need for nurses and she would have job security.

[@platypusgirl14]

“I have so much drama in my life; I don’t have to make stuff up.” Mood gurl

[@childfreechick2980]

I will never understand putting your financial dependence in the hands of someone else, especially when you don't have to.

[@rukittenmerightnow]

Manipulation and brainwashing of young girls so they can grow up and basically be dolls, bang maids, mothers, for their husband's to only cheat/abuse and leave them with nothing

[@carmyopteryx]

I was in a therapy group with up to 20 women, most of whom were LDS, had at least 3+ kids, most of which were trad wives or mostly dependent on their spouses. Most of the members were around the Ogden, SLC and Provo areas. (I am in SLC myself but not a trad wife or LDS) We were all dealing with spouses that were struggling with some form of infidelity/s** addiction. All of them were terrified to leave despite constant "relapse" because if their spouses left they would lose everything. I respect you so much for telling your story. I hate that this man is free to abuse other women. There are SO many women that are in the same position as you. I have to say that so many men in the LDS church are SICK. Their teachings mess people up and set them on this path of s** addiction. I know other religions are very similar but Ive seen so much here in "wholesome" nothern UT it makes me physically sick to think about.

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

Thanks for sharing your experience. Women need to be forewarned of these dangers that can destroy their lives by men who have no conscience. Wishing you and your children all the best futures. Subscribed!!!

[@PGOuma]

Remember ladies, it CAN happen to you! "Oh, I picked the right one. It won't happen to me." - There's always a [high] possibility that he's lying to you though and living a double life. Men, especially raised in these types of religious upbringings, aren't challenged to develop their EQ (statistically speaking too, men tend to develop NPD & ASPD more often than women do) and won't feel guilty about betraying you due to it. Men aren't encouraged to be empathetic and have emotions other than anger and will not think outside of himself and his own wants. They are seen as "kings" and the "top of the household" so why would a king give his power to what he sees as peasants (women)? Another stat is that women tend to get 💀'ed more often by an intimate partner than a stranger whereas men get 💀'ed by strangers more often (and that stranger is usually another man), so don't let your guard down completely if you're a trad/stay at home wife. Why else do you see dads freaking out about their daughters dating?? Men aren't dumb and know how other men act and how dangerous they can be, so don't fall for his weaponized incompetence either. Start a hussle, get a part-time job, do something on the side to stay safe and don't let him take advantage of you or brainwash you into "safety". Men aren't gonna change any time soon since they are at the top of the food chain so you unfortunately have to look out for yourself and for your kids!

[@bell191991]

Even in the midst of this terrible story of betrayal and abuse, I still found it funny that you called your husband a hoe at 9:00 😂 Thanks for sharing your experiences, it can help so many other people.

[@_Boomstick357_]

Wait a minute… he confessed to the bishop, stake president, and you got a written confession on a Valentines card. And still you were left destitute, without at least half of the life you help build?! wtf! I’m so sorry this happened to you, I’m glad you’re speaking about this ❤

[@Obake796]

Thank you for sharing your story. Your strength for the choices you made to leave your marriage and "start over" is inspiring. My mother was a trad wife and I know she felt trapped in a marriage that she was unhappy in because she felt she had no money or job skills if she left my father. They stayed together until passing away, but they were both in an unhealthy codependent marriage. It was a huge lesson for me, and one she would share with me in my teens to not rely on a man and to make my own money. I don't think my mom's trad life had as much of an impact on my brother as it did on me--daughters will see their mom's struggles differently than sons as a daughter can see themselves in their mother's footsteps. I'm cheering for you!

[@ShanaMoore]

Your voice is so so important. It needs to be amplified for the people in the back! 🔊Thank you for sharing.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

Thanks for being here for it♥️

[@Laudon1228]

So much for family values. Where was your Mormon community when things fell apart for you? I have a Mormon friend talks about what a tight community the LDS church is, how they come together in times of trouble , pitch in and hold each other up. Regarding full time moms, my older sister would seem to have been one of the lucky ones. She married into a Catholic family, she and her husband had five kids. My sister wanted to be a full time mom, she and I were latch key kids and she didn’t want that for her children. They made the the sacrifices to be able to do that for their kids. My brother-in-law is one of the good ones, an honorable man. They have just lived their lives, not gone around making a big deal about it. When I see people, a church, denomination, whatever make a big deal about “Look at us, we live Godly, righteous lives, we are an example, this is how everybody should live!”, I know to start waiting for the other shoe to drop. Can we say Duggars?

[@MistymeQueen]

I am financially independent. It has allowed me to be free from two cheating husbands. They thought they could treat me however they wanted and I'd just keep running back, begging and pleading. Ha ha ha! NOPE. Buh-BYE !!!

[@lupo323]

Thank you for your honest videos about your "tradwife" experience. I was lucky, that my parents always told me to finish school and complete an education and become financially free - and they were bloody right!

[@jennyjones7987]

Jennie, you are seriously amazing! 👏 💖

[@lifetaketwo7662]

Thanks, I had to be strong. No other choice.

[@nattyznook]

Women vote! Vote for your own voices.

[@Candy_Mountain]

I’m so sorry :( I dealt with similar. So many lies and betrayal destroys you. I’m sorry the church also betrayed you

[@MariaPetalcorin]

Could you make a video about what women can do in the situation that you were in when leaving? Of course prevention is best, but what about those of us that are currently in a “trad wife” situation? Could you talk about how you think they can make the most of a situation where they need to leave? Thanks again for sharing your story. Although I’m not in a similar situation (and pray that I never have to go through what you went through) I admire your courage and eloquence in sharing your message!

[@lifetaketwo7662]

I teach classes, do workshops and support groups, and take private clients under my Manproof Your Life program. I’ll be doing some videos for sure. I’ve worked with attorneys, psychologists, accountants and more to develop an incredible guide for young women, already married women, and divorced women. I’ll do a video this week with some basics. ❤

[@trinsit]

It helps if there's a network to reach out to. Don't know if there's one for this, but there needs to be. For religious people that let go of the faith but are trapped in the life, there's a service called Recovering From Religion.

[@Mel.H_]

I am so proud of you!! You go, girl🎉❤❤❤

[@lifetaketwo7662]

Thank u for saying so.

[@Laoriginal718]

Being single and childfree is beautiful 🥰

[@ozzycortes]

💯

[@BelleResells]

This was so sad, but thank you for sharing your survival story

[@gildahondier8533]

You are a wonderful and brave woman. You will mentally, emotionally and physically survive this bad situation because you are strong. You will see: you will thrive in the future. You said you did not go to university because you married and had your first child quite young. Of course, I don't know what age the youngest of your children is but maybe it is now possible for you to study at a community College for free in the city where you live and to start something new. It is not to late. You look absolutely stunning by the way. I wish you the Best for the future. A French woman living in Germany.

[@nikkis8102]

I think I already said this on your video before but not* all heroes wear capes. Thanks for speaking out and helping women

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@nikkis8102 thank you.

[@Dunicika]

I am so thankful to my mother - since I was a teenager she told me to NEVER depend on a man. She encouraged me to study hard, get a degree and a good job. I did it and it truly helps having the safety of a job and my own savings.

[@jennifermccrary1570]

So, I found myself taking care of my ex financially for 5/8 years we were married. So when he left (at age 33- I was 37) for a 22 year old my finances actually improved- we could have a full fridge of beautiful prepared food and that "man" would STILL blow $100 a month on breakfast burritos alone (I did the math). I got the last laugh though. The 22 year old ended up treating him like an ATM, much like he did me and he ended up breaking up with her on her 23rd bday. I did warn her...I don't know what she was thinking, because if he was willing to treat the woman who supported him (including paying for schools he never finished) for 8 years that way, wtf did she expect him to behave with her? They deserved each other. Ironically, his "goal" was to allegedly make so much that I would stay home- and he genuinely expected me to agree to that like it was just the natural order of things. The should have been my que to leave. The marriage only survived about another 2 years after I made it clear I would always work no matter how much he made. I didn't bust my ass to get an MA to give up my career just as it was really taking off, and it was pretty shitty of him to expect me to. I shudder to think what divorcing him would have looked like if our rolls were reversed...not that they would be. He could get jobs, but couldn't seem to keep them longer than 6 months and ended up living in a tent for a few months after he moved out (after promising to "take no action towards the divorse" while I was away with my Army Reseve unit for 28 days). "A man is not a plan" saved my ass.

[@catherinekennedy8358]

Good for you for helping women to move forward from horrid relationships.

[@Idontcare31789]

Currently stuck in this same situation. Right down to in Utah. I’m completely dependent on him. Don’t know where to go, don’t know where to turn. I’m beat down to zero self esteem. I’m a shell of my former self.

[@JustFollowthePetals]

❤

[@yesthatmousyiris4887]

Would i be a weirdo to say i think it should mandatory for stay at home wives and moms to recieve some money every month into a protected bank account so ladies can have something in case their husbands die or are abusive or cheating?

[@saolálainn]

No, a basic universal income is currently being studied in Europe and would give (women in particular) people financial independence from their partners❤

[@sabrinacomotto3565]

The worst part was when you said he cheated on you, in your bed, while you're recovering from cancer. This shows he had not respect for you, not only as a partner, but as a human being. A really despicable man.

[@luciousalpaca6481]

prenuptial agreement. Get one before getting married. The cost of having children is always higher for women. Time out of the workforce, loss of wages, illness or injury. If he wont agree then he doesn't care about your and your children's wellbeing.

[@agneteht]

Precisely. Even working married women with kids take more risks and costs as mother's.

[@snowmiaow]

My mom was a housewife. She worked 7 days a week cleaning, cooking, and working at my father's business. He said he should pay her so she could get social security. He did once or twice - meaning he filed taxes for her as if she was paid. When she needed disability, she couldn't get it because of not enough work history. He gave her money for household expenses and if he found out she saved any of it he took it. He ended up leaving her for a GF and she was starving, which I didn't know. He said once, "She didn't have to work." He was a pillar of the community. Mom went along with all this because she thought that is what you were supposed to do. RIP mom and dad.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@snowmiaow oh my gosh I’m sorry. I hear this story all too often.

[@DNA350ppm]

You are very brave to share your story and what you've learned from it to help others. All the best wishes for you! I hope you'll find peace of mind, a safe place in the world, and strenght to keep up your extremely believable advocacy. You are 100% worthy of the trust we put in your words of wisdom and experience.

[@auggiedoggiesmommy1734]

Those trad wives on KZbin telling women to stay home are all making fortunes on their content.

[@off.record13]

Exactly

[@brackalack1]

My great grandmother was widowed and left with 13 children. No money or job and 13 kids! 😮😮😮

[@nattyznook]

Let’s stop it, and start fighting for equality when it comes to being paid.

[@RoseNZieg]

I know people who are cheated on and the rest of the social group tried to comfort them by saying that it's normal and expected of men. they never tell them to divorce or get therapy.

[@joe-edward]

Great video, and this is absolutely consistent with all of the content from ex-(fill in the blank for your preferred religion that emphasizes a chauvinistic worldview). It's always the same story. As a true non-believer from the age of reason, I can't relate with the religion thing, but I certainly can identify cult-behavior when I see it. All of these religions fight tooth and nail to be able to keep their children's eyes and ears away from anyone on the outside who might introduce logic and poison the well of indoctrination and free child labor. I'm sure you know her, but if not, check out Cults to Consciousness. She (Chalise?) talks to survivors like you a lot, and your story would be compelling to hear on her show, as it is on yours! Great video, thank you for making it!

[@Mystic_Paths]

Some people may feel trapped by these roles, particularly if they desire more freedom in career or personal development outside of traditional expectations.

[@verablexitasap858]

NPD men are drawn towards this and towards the mormon church

[@antoninajucovscaia8439]

I wish all of these young girls listen to you. We all know, its not the Ballerina Farm and Nara Smith who will be left with no means to support themselves. I feel sorry for those ones, it's just a matter of time.

[@MyDuckSaysFucc]

I don’t know how women can raise children while also working. I think more women should be childfree.

[@auggiedoggiesmommy1734]

I heard this story more than once when I lived in Alpine. Because I wasn’t Mormon/LDS people told me things.

[@emmamunro7208]

How dare he! Cheating is one thing, but how dare he expose you to stds. I would have literally lost it. What an absolute POS!!! Im still halfway through watching, this made me sick

[@maine086]

Remember, men always put themselves first. Since the structure of society allows them to have families without making sacrifices for this, they are not really attached to any concept such as family. No, he would never get married if he had to make the sacrifices you did. For the state and religious institutions, you are a womb that will keep men tied to a house and give them all the social care that the state or church does not provide and give birth to more people. I don't even need to tell you what you are for men. Always put yourself first. Because neither the state, nor the church and other religious institutions, nor men who protect each other with a deep bond of brotherhood will help you. We have no one to care about us but ourselves. Never be selfless, never give anything without getting something in return. And this value is only measured by money in today's world. A man can forget the labor you have given for him for years for free in a day. Or he never sees it! But money is not like that. Never give more than you receive!

[@TeacherKellyTag]

I told my daughter to get a degree and work experience before she even thinks about getting married and having kids. I’ve seen SO many women screwed over like you were. I stayed home with my children for 5 years but I had a degree first. Even if your husband is not an abusive jerk, he might die, become disabled, leave you, etc. You never know what life will throw at you and you should be prepared. Thanks for shedding light on this.

[@InTheGlow135]

I remember that whole Jodi Arias thing. Mormons talk a good game but the guys really don’t follow it. I’m not saying what Jodi did to Travis was ok but ultimately she became very triggered and he wouldn’t stop messing with her which turned out bad.

[@amberinthemist7912]

Yep. Mormon men are terrible in their treatment of non mormon women and the church encourages them to use outside women and then return to virgin mormons and lie to them to get married. It's disgusting.

[@lauraestrada7279]

Why do you want to go back to a time when you sacrificed everything for this fairy book life. Then after two kids, working part time or going without for their husband, they leave them for another women. She is blindsinded. Never had a job job and later had to sell the house he bought for her. This was my Aunt. Who became a very strong but bitter jaded women for many years. Bc she FOLLOWED the rules. This was 1965 until 1978 or 1979. I remember how miserable my Aunt and cousins were.

[@SurlyShirley]

The trad wife concept sets women back at least 100 years. Why would women want to go back to that? Just look at what’s happening in 3rd world countries.

[@off.record13]

Exactly

[@agneteht]

Women in the third world aren't trad wife. They farm, work as cooks and cleaners, wash clothes etc for money. The stay at home wife is a victorian middle-class invention. Working class women always worked. They kept poultry, sold eggs, peddled goods etc.

[@TheEmpress185]

Any self aware and logical woman will not cut herself off of an income and independence 😅

[@hello_sunshine4875]

Long ago I had someone say to me this about pathological liars - anyone who lies that much - has very very low self esteem. And it’s dangerous. It sounds like Mormon divorce is totally different set of laws than other divorces. It also sounds like you didn’t have the best attorney and probably needed better representation.

[@hello_sunshine4875]

I’m so happy you found your voice ❤ almost your share with us is much appreciated and not just for Mormon wives, it’s for every woman in the world. We can still have dreams aspirations and go as la and be a wife and mother too, we don’t have to trade one for the other.

[@di3486]

Your ex husband told the business partner to tell you so you would make the move to divorce him. Classic coward move.

[@jusssable]

When your ex confessed to the bishop, I think the bishop was just thinking to himself: 'yes, that is exactly the purpose of our religion: granting men all the freedom in the world while enslaving women.'

[@alid965]

I’m fully aware that there are more important things in life BUT can you please up the volume!!!!

[@toloveandrestore2472]

That sounds so traumatic, I’m sorry

[@karen-rg6ss]

I watched another video of you before this one and I left a comment there that talks about how something can look different but is the exact same thing. I am a 64 year old Belgian woman. The 'trad wives' is something from another place and another time for me - I had a good education and worked as a speech therapist in the Dutch education system. I was not aware of something going wrong until there was no denial anymore and I just couldn't understand why everybody was so blind about the situation of women in obviously 'good' circumstances. In December 2011, I told Peter (my husband) that I wanted to divorce him and he didn't react at all (in fact, HE wanted to divorce me and I just made it easier for him). Now, I am a divorced MSM (Married Single Mother) who has A LOT of knowledge, but no income and no extra support. Maybe, I had to experience the disaster of a toxic environment myself to wake up the authorities (I fear an epidemic growth of suicides in the group of women between 50 and 65 years old). I don't want to live anymore and now my children don't need me anymore (my job as a mother is completed), I feel how exhausted the last 13 years have been. I started with nothing in my hands and learned how to cope with rejection and discrimination along the way, but I don't see the point of it all. The *ka-ba-la* is an important tool to analyse the problem, knowing that we were living in a ba-only society for thousands of years, but we need more sustainable changes than a court system that favourites the men. One of my concepts was letting every man pay for child support (and pay less for ba-related taxes). In that case, even 'rejected' women can start all over again (never too old to learn!). I want a job for life and every first of the month 3.560 euros on my 'pocket money' account. To be sure that nothing went lost because of a temporary situation, I designed my own employer: *ET.amine bvba* with 6 'equal' partners (including myself) to prevent that the masters win the fight they have started. I am the ONE Expected, although not the Chosen One and I know this for a while now, but I wanted to prove that I am worthy to use my voice. ka = female & spiritual, the Teacher, Source => to BE ba = male & material, the Master, God => to HAVE la = body (ba) & no-body (ka), the Student, Ego (external ~ ba & internal ~ ka) => Value (ba) & Worth (ka) => To have value and to be worthy!

[@peterirvin7121]

Josh may have told you because it's the right thing to do, and he didn't personally want to continue living the lie.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@peterirvin7121 I will always wonder! I should call and ask him.

[@LMc-l7h]

Im so glad your mother believed you!

[@justalil2much4me]

All I can think about is how she should have been moving his money slowly into a secret account. That's my modern woman brain.

[@iga1720]

Off-top, you have such pretty hair!

[@LynetteTheRogue]

Points to mom tho for going full detective mode when you told her your ex was cheating. Too many stories of women gaslighting other women when they tell them about being mistreated. Glad you got out

[@fortmacmom3122]

My daughter wants to live with her boyfriend. I told her that’s great…as long as she has a job skill and can contribute money to the household. No trad wife for her.

[@antoninajucovscaia8439]

A man is not plan!!!!!

[@snowmiaow]

How can a nurse not afford $300 insoles? My feet hurt horribly at a baking job. I had plantar fasceitis. Quit the the job, feet haven't hurt like that since.

[@LMc-l7h]

When you start suspecting abuse or infidelity, that's the time to start researching your safest possible exit per your stat or country. And start sneaking away any emotional, legal, and financial valuables (like entrusting them to a secure friend or family member).

[@parrotjunglecolada8270]

Stay at home moms should be compensated by their husbands for the job they do, just telling girls to have a job it’s always that great, I know allot women who work in marriages and they are miserable, taken advantage of, they want to stay home with their babies but can’t, they literally do it all, so having a serious talk with the man your about to marry about him putting money in an account just for you is an idea

[@beebaritter4952]

I want to read a book series about your life because your life is just like the lives of almost every middle class mormon woman i have ever known and they are all in denial about it.

[@Mel.H_]

Yes, I've been there too 😢

[@lifetaketwo7662]

I’m so sorry. Wishing u a happier future. ❤

[@IWillBeSaved]

Real life horror

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@IWillBeSaved yup. From beginning to end.

[@lightagainstdarkness99]

he seems like a classic narcissist. those people are sick con artists

[@MustbethepowerofGod]

My morman husband would not let me look hot. His freemasonry buddies all across the country make sure i have no access to anything nice or good for myself. Im targeted now..

[@kimarama]

I think you could be a motivational speaker. You should get an agent and register at professional speaker's sites. I can see you on stage at huge events telling your story and preventing young women from making the same mistakes you made. Just a thought.

[@defiantlypinki1107]

💔💔💔💔💔

[@helenculling9130]

Were you ever suspicious of who your husband was earlier on in the relationship or before marriage?

[@OliviaTrevino-pv7ff]

Jodi arrested

[@katielarsen943]

My moms friend said she had to go to church to see her younger replacement there after her marriage with his youngest. I don’t know how you guys do it.

[@hello_sunshine4875]

Are you still in Arizona? Do you have a P. O. Box number if any one of us here want to send you a gift? I’ve never been to either state Utah or Arizona