My Step-Family HATE ME After I Had To Move In With Them After Losing My Mom r/Relationships

[@JasperCatProductions]

This first story is disgusting, how can your father treat you this way? You just lost your mom and they rip up all her photos? God what a bunch of trash people. This is so sad.

[@insideAdirtyMind]

well....he cheated on his wife, he just thinks about himself

[@joaolima7131]

It's way worse than that story were OP father was just as bad but stepfamily was on OP side, here is the opposite.

[@mbyerly9680]

The good news is this family of monsters can now rip at each other since OP is gone.

[@andredunbar3773]

@@mbyerly9680 We can only hope that that's what happened, but there's also two other possibilities: 1. The family turns their anger against OP'S father, who deserves the scorn that OP suffered 2. The family goes back to how it was before OP arrived and moves on like nothing happened Either way, I hope OP is healing and goes on to live his best life

[@andredunbar3773]

It's pretty easy for a father to treat their kid the way that OP's father did when the father's a selfish coward

[@ditzyhere3138]

The way I got whiplash when the “dad” didn’t understand why he wanted to move out. You serious, dude??

[@michaellane4054]

He probably wanted him to take all of the hate, and hated him at the same time, so when he realized that OP wouldn’t be the scapegoat anymore, he threw him away.

[@kaylawest2088]

@@michaellane4054 exactly what i was thinking

[@despinasgarden.4100]

Story 1: NTA i can't believe this woman has the audacity to leave a kid outside the house while it's raining but lacks the ovaries to divorce her cheating husband. I can undestand being bitter and angry about the situation and not wanting to be around your husband affair child but this woman is straight up evil. I'm surprised that the stepbrother still has his teeth intact after what he did.

[@turogamer-oi4nq]

yeah why dosent she just leave this means either A she is a narcissist or B she is after op's dads money

[@edgetransit7383]

This isn't AITA

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

She felt duped bc he hid the affair kid from her for 16 years. If she knew about it she would ve taken another decision. He couldn't stand up for his affair sin bc he felt guilty for cheating and hiding the baby from his wife and he had to look the other way. I Don condone what the wife did but if you you see your own son punched by a bastard affair son and then get punched when you are trying to stop it then you would ve taken more brutal and cruel route. Also the son saw the pictures of the whore who ruined his family inside his own room so yeah he would snap.

[@despinasgarden.4100]

@@gostavoadolfos2023 "The whore who ruined his family" scuse me, i agree that OP mom's was not a good person for sleeping with a married man, but the only person who ruined the stepson's family was his dad, he is the one who cheated, he is the one who ruined his own family. And the stepmother can still divorce the dad, i get why she is angry and i feel for her, but she needs to leave instead of taking her anger out on OP.

[@ineedhoez]

Facts

[@Tammohawk1]

1. What a horrible situation. I can understand a wife being bitter over the situation, but locking the kid out in the rain and cold? The fact that Dad had an affair w/OP's mom by cheating on his wife, this entire situation is one of his making. OP shouldn't have had to deal with this mess to this degree. 2. I'm sorry, I'm just evil enough that I would tell her what he's been up to while she has been gone. Oh yes, I would. I feel she needs to know is why. Before she marries him.

[@sephiroth661]

Op should have kicked in the door

[@pippo17173]

The mom and the step siblings should be kicking the dad out but of course, they don't run on logic.

[@tiffinyhunter5901]

1-who tf takes their anger out on an innocent child. Both dad & stepmom have shown they shouldnt be married to each other

[@robertx8020]

@@pippo17173 maybe but does that justify how they treat OP?

[@pippo17173]

@@robertx8020 nope. I said this before, they lost all victim status when their brains are mush and think abusing the affair child is better then the guy living with you, breaking your trust and causing you to stress out.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

SYORY 1: Dad’s NOT Trying his best for OP. Taking the kid in after he lost his mom so he doesn’t end up in foster care is the bare minimum. He’s not putting any effort to protect his son from his wife and his children being hateful towards OP. OP is literally at the point where he feels completely unwanted in his dad’s house and has to keep his valuables tied to mom in a backpack with him at all time so they don’t get ruined. It seems more so like the Dad is just letting the family take out their grievances against him for having an affair onto OP being the product of the affair which is BS.

[@Guitarbarella]

Seriously the dad is horrible..just a crap human, lucky there were friends that realised he was prob a crap dad too.

[@13thMaiden]

Of course he's a crap human, he had a freaking affair, lied about this kid's existence, and then this poor kid is forced to live in this hell-hole because his Dad likely just feels guilt and maybe afraid for his already shambled rep., and just allows his family to beat on the kid like their personal whipping boy for their anger toward their dad/husband. And the Dad isn't the only crap human, his maternal grandparents are bags of dicks too. And of course that scum family of the Dad. The poor kid was fucked the moment he was born, and I hope by 18 he takes his mom's maiden name (if he doesn't have it already) and makes something great of himself, if anything so he can have a good life he rightfully deserved as a child. (And in small part a big 'fuck you' to the crap family he had been stuck with.) (Or maybe he can adopt the friends as his new dads, they definitely act more like ones than his sperm donor.)

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

I very much agree that it's the bare minimum, and the bare minimum unless you have no other choice (e.g. on the streets and can't afford the best stuff), is actual abuse. I wish the dad could get charged with child abuse and put in jail, as well as the step-family

[@cheekyftoro8962]

Agreed and op need to realise that. And while it might hurt like hell. He needs to see what a useless pos his father is so he can move past it prepare and knows how to deal with him.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

What sticks out to me as truly pathetic is the fact that once OP moves out, dad washes his hands of OP once again, never once calling to check on OP to see how he’s holding up! The fact that 2 strangers care more about him to actually get him into therapy for his grief is very telling of the character of his father 🤬

[@ladyofthelake93]

The first kid broke my heart. I hope the couple that took him in end up being permanent healthy parental figures for him.

[@ceciliacalvin207]

Story 1: too bad OP couldn’t charge his stepmom and half brother with child abuse. I’d also spread the news of what happened to all their friends and destroy the reputations.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 1 absolutely infuriates me. That poor boy. His mother died so young in his life and his dad is beyond horrible. He let's his family abuse OP and neglect him. I hope the best friend and husband become OP's family. He needs someone to love and support them

[@robertx8020]

Push the stepmother of the stairs ...and when she lies there all broken and says "please call me an ambulance" just say "sorry I don't speak French " or "sorry but I'm on the phone right now :P

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

@@robertx8020 LOLOLOLOL

[@RokoFireFox]

Story 1, thats not a dad, thats a sprem donor nothing more.

[@jackspring7709]

Story 1: heartbreaking for the child - to be bereaved at that age and then finding himself in a hostile situation like that. Destroying pictures of the deceased mother is just despicable. In fact despicable is too mild a word. Glad to see he has got away from all this and is happy.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

It’s very telling to the father’s character that it took 2 strangers to get OP into therapy instead of his father! In fact the father cut contact again after OP moved out…so much for a caring father. The way he is acting tells me he is more of a child getting his panties in a bunch because OP wanted out of the hostile situation! 🤬 I literally shed tears for this kid for a situation he has no control over and no one in his corner to help navigate his current life 😢

[@Mrwillie95]

A father like this deserves to lose all contact with his son forever because he is doing a terrible job of being a father and let his son down and if I was op I wouldn’t let him see his future grandkids

[@LikeWaterBaby]

Story 1: I can’t believe the lack of empathy from the dad and the dad’s family. I feel so sad for that child.

[@WobblesandBean]

He felt nothing for his wife and was happy to sleep around behind her back, why are you shocked he's a terrible person and an awful father?

[@pippo17173]

@@WobblesandBean it's no surprising and the step family lost all victim status because their legit in emotional pain seeing their cheating dad but thinks it's the affair child fault. These people will forever be alone with these additude.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@WobblesandBean I'm 99& sure that he's using OP as an escape goat

[@Daydream_N]

Story1: if it were me and I was outside in the cold ass rain while step mom was inside and refusing him entrance, I would've called the police and told them my parent locked me outside and get her charged with child neglect

[@ineedhoez]

Facts

[@rubymeaddle]

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 bless the friends who took OP in. They probably know better than anyone that the family you choose will always be stronger than family by blood.

[@ChefDuJour78]

Story 2. FFS, this OP was embarrassing. That man is in a relationship and has done an awful job of hiding it. Still you ask “what should I do!”. Walk away! Stop being a doormat.

[@LilChuunosuke]

*Story 1:* This absolutely broke my heart. While people who haven't lived the experience can empathize, being in a household where the people you are supposed to call a family actively cause you pain and are disgusted by your existence hurts *so much.* I really don't know how I was able to survive it. I am so glad they were able to get out. That post-traumatic fatigue really shows how damaging that environment was for them to live in. I'm so glad the dad's friends were able and willing to step in and get him on the right path to recover and have a better life. That therapy is going to be so helpful and so pivitol.

[@ApricotSauce]

Dear Lord, the first story made me so mad. How come there are such cruel people out there?? Thank God that amazing couple stepped in and helped op, it made me cry how relieved he sounded when he was finally out of that hellish house

[@Sylphella]

What happened to op in story 1 was horrifying in ways I can't fully express and I really wish op went scorched earth with his sperm donor's abusive wife and kids.

[@joaolima7131]

As an affair child myself, I really feel for OP, in my case my father died first from Covid, his wife knew all along about the affair ofc, but what she did when he was hospitalized, was inexcusable, she deliberately lied to the hospital that he didn't have a son, it was a pain to have to prove that I was his child. She also took my inheritance, but odly she was paying for my college, idk why, unfortunately I couldn't do anything because I didn't have the money for a lawyer and they live in another state. Then my mother passed away last year from cancer, and somehow my stepmother find out and cut the college money (paying college works differently in my country), I can't wrap my head that she did it on purpose. Other family members took me in but it was hell because they are highly ignorant and I was pretty much unhappy and depressed, my brother and Sil were the only ones by my side, they helped me find a place to live and a job, things are still tough, but I'm getting through it. I have the feeling that my stepmother would treat me the same way as OP stepmother if my father was still alive, my grandma said that my mother feared for my life if I visited my dad, she would always deny it to go visit him, but he would visit me sometimes in his business trips, I hope OP life gets better.

[@seleneledezma3543]

And this is why women should not have kids by married men. Seriously put some responsibility on your mother.

[@joaolima7131]

@@seleneledezma3543 and how do you think I felt? Of couse I was mad at both of them, not just my father, and how I would confront her after her diagnosis? Not to count that she was also married to a POS who was my stepfather, (they didn't know each other yet, she was single at the time) hell, she didn't knew he was married, according to my grandma my father lied saying he was single. But now the truth is buried forever with both of them.

[@joaolima7131]

@@melodyharpole8272 thanks, it's weird living alone, I miss them, especially my mother, my POS stepfather would always interfere in spending time with her, and they would argue constantly (they didn't know each other when the affair happenned, my mother was single, he was just an horrible person) he did a horrible thing in her funeral too, sometimes I blamed myself for all this chaos, and having existencial crises, if I really should have been born, trying to go to therapy, but with work I wonder when I will be able to.

[@audreym3908]

@@joaolima7131 🤗🤗🤗 hugs from someone who would never treat a kid like that. Hope you'll find the time to talk to someone soon

[@thedarkestkinghtstar]

@@seleneledezma3543 Why you attacking Joao? Of course they have some feelings regarding their mothers role but that's not what the story is about. The particular story was about OP's terrible treatment from their father and his family and Joao was relating to that part because like OP; they dealt with horrendous situations that weren't their fault. Notice you didn't blame the person that took the vows and married someone. Nope. It's the other person' fault. I wonder why it's not "and that's why married people shouldn't step out of their relationship". Cheater's aren't known for their honesty after all; yet the other person immediately is to blame? A cheater would never lie and say they are single in order to get what they want; nope, cheaters are always truthful and let the other person know they are married. /s

[@ForenzaAudio]

this broke my heart reading. Can . . .can we all just adopt OP?

[@carolroberts4614]

I wanted to as well! I can t even take a cat in at the moment, but I still wanted to scoop op up and look after him.

[@Lisapizzza]

I'm hoping for a third update on the second story where OP is able to reveal everything to the 'ex' fiancee. With the fiancee deleting the post it could be that she's been poisoned against OP, but I'm hoping that she's figured something out and the relationship is rocky atm.

[@athenastewart9167]

He will do it again because he was successful this time. The fiancee will catch him then. I feel as if this is a lose-lose for the OP. He is the shark, she was the chum.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

You're probably right. He still wants to have his cake and eat it too, so he's likely poisoned his "ex" fiancé claiming she is some "stalker ex, giving him and his family problems".. Ohh, hmmm, wasn't that the exact same BS line he gave OP? Well, at least we know he doesn't like to stray from his favorite one liner jokes. So here is how OP handles it - She gaslights the gaslighter. Create an all new fake persona - FB, insta, burner phone, etc. Make sure you keep the privacy setting high, after all, you want the "ex fiancé" and the gaslighter to see the profile exists, but not that it's a dummy profile. Find pictures of a VERY attractive woman who looks nothing like OP, take one of the photos OP took with the dick, and photshop the Fake woman over OP, then set that as the profile pic of the Fake accounts. (Do this multiple times, so each account has a diff pic but still has them together, so it looks more realistic). Next step, take screenshots of their chats and texts, but any place that would have OP's name or number, photoshop the fake person's name and burner number over it to make it look like he was having convos with the fake woman. (Save some of the juicy texts and messages for OP though. Like half for the fake girl and half for OP, in case the fiancé wants proof from "both" women.) Once you have thoroughly established the "existence" of the fake woman and the "relationship" between the dickless wonder and the fake woman, then message the fiancé as the fake woman. Be indignant, be angry, ask her "WTF is wrong with you, you home wrecker?! We've been dating for over 2 years and now you think you can come waltzing in and pretending like he didn't already dump you 3 years ago? He warned me you were a stalking psycho that couldn't get over him, but I thought he was just exaggerating! Except here you are now, coming out of the woodwork pretending like you're with MY man?!" Use his poison against him. It will plant the seed in the fiancé's head; "wait.. He told her I was a psycho stalker ex? He told ME some other woman was a psycho stalker ex!" Even if she responds aggressively, she'll still start to question things. If she comes at you like "OP, he already warned me about you..." reply back with "Who TF is OP? Don't play dumb with me, why the fuck are you trying to hook up with my fiancé?!?" Don't let up, don't let slip that it is actually OP. Then, when the microdicked dick and/or the "ex" fiancé actually do contact OP to confront her, once again, play dumb. Turn it around to "who the fuck are you?! Why are you calling about MY boyfriend? Don't lie and claim you've been with him! We've been together for almost a year, I've practically lived at his house all this time, and never once saw you or any other woman's things there. Do you think lying about being with him will convince me to break up with him?? He warned me you were crazy, but fuck, I guess he was right." Make sure the fiancé understands it's 2 different women, with 2 different relationships with him. She will eventually think "where there is smoke, there is fire". For bonus points, OP should keep her profile public, make her profile pic a pic of her and him AT his house, in his car, etc. I'm sure she has to have some pics with something in the background that when the fiancé sees it, she will recognize it. Make it harder for the penile-challenged philanderer.

[@13thMaiden]

Actually it's probably that the boyfriend doesn't _want_ fiancee to have anything up. Notice she suddenly didn't have anything linking them together? It's highly probable that boyfriend saw and freaked, gave some lines to get her to hide their relationship (maybe even using OP as an excuse). That way, any girls currently or in the future won't find out about fiancee and vice versa. The ex is trying to make it easier for him to cheat as he pleases.

[@Lisapizzza]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan I love how you've thought out a whole plan for this

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@Lisapizzza lol, if you're going to scorch and salt the earth, you better have a plan going in.

[@soulechelon2643]

Story 1: obviously NTA. Sounds like textbook "Sins of the father" syndrome here. The dad messed up hard and now the son is getting the brunt of the vitriol for no reason other than existing. While I commend the father for trying (at least initially) to make amends by bringing him to his home, he clearly wasn't trying enough to make things right in his household. While I agree it's a distressing and extremely bad situation for everyone involved, it doesn't change the fact that this was a hurdle the father wasn't present enough to jump over. Why did he agree so immediately to the son moving in with his friends? Because that was a way out. That was his golden ticket. He couldn't find a way to fix the issue, and so his friends came in and saved the day for him. All that said - we should focus on the fact that the OP was able to get out of that situation, and that he's already improving. This is good. I wish him the best. As for the father's family, they're a bunch of vindictive pieces of crap. How could you attack and blame an innocent kid over something his father did? And the half brother cutting up those pictures....18 years old? That means he's an adult. This adult was so childish and vitriolic, he destroyed a person's memories of their dead mother...and for what? For WHAT exactly? Did he know the mother? No. Did the OP do anything at all to this guy? No. There was no reason for such an act, and I hope karma absolutely tears him a new one - along with the rest of his sh*tty family. I swear he better had gotten an actual punishment when he "apologized" or the father is even more disappointing than he already is - if that's even possible.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

Dad can’t keep it in his pants, let’s blame the child! The father’s friend is the real MVP though. Good for him. I really feel for this kid, I tend to hold grudges so I imagine if I was in that situation I would never forgive my father.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

From the sounds of it, he won’t have to see his father again. His dad washed his hands of him once again when he said he wanted to live with them instead of living in the nightmare of his father’s family!

[@crowdemon_archives]

​@@stirrednotshaken4823 frankly, the father is too chickenshite to even help his affair child get even the barest of basic decency. Better to YEET his existence out of OP's life going forward.

[@jodieg6318]

Story 1: I don’t know how it works in France but being locked out in the rain for over an hour would have been more than enough to call child protective services in the States. Thank anything on the side of good that OP’s father’s friend and his husband, if this had kept up OP may have had to go to his country’s embassy for protection because make no mistake, he needed it!

[@Donald43]

"By the time my dad got home an hour and a half later, I was soaked and cold and, when we got inside, S just said that she was on a call and couldn't hear the doorbell ringing." S is just lying. She doesn't answer the doorbell on purpose.

[@slippyquack7672]

Everyone in story 1: They'd all have to live in fear. You don't have to respect me. You don't even have to show me common decency. If you aren't, in the very least, do those things then you will leave me alone. If you don't, then you leave me no choice but to make you fear me. Op didn't do anything to deserve any of that. He didn't bother them, he was just there.. and it all started with "m". "M" would've been half passed dead for that stunt and an example for the other two. That father failed them all.

[@rogerrabbit80]

If I were OP, "M" would be learning how to walk without kneecaps. Baseball bat in the middle of the night. "What? You can't say I did it, he said he didn't see who did it because it was dark."

[@carolemoores2480]

I'm with you!

[@candypettynettie487]

The dad didn't try his best. He sat by, hoping the problem would solve itself.

[@missmax2492]

Disgusting humans. I'm so sorry for OP, poor kid. I love my mom so much and I wouldn't be above murder if someone ripped up a single picture of her if she died, much less all that I had Edit: oh lord, first update- honey please take your dad's friend's offer please.

[@Digitalfairy]

Youandme both, better yet Id wreck something of equal value and refuse to apologize or own up until tjey apologize on their knees - I csn be as nasty as a skeksis if I put my mind to it.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

I hope M gets absolutely annihilated by karma. Like what the actual fuck who does that.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Just hope they never have to experience what OP has had to go through. Karma is a bitch and if she about getting even, then it would mean stepmom’s death! Then maybe those kids would have some empathy for OP’s struggle! The father washed his hands of OP once again when he said he wanted to live with the father’s friends…couldn’t even call to check and see how he was doing. It took 2 strangers to get OP the therapy he desperately needed. That should have been one of the first things his father did for him! 🤦🏼‍♀️ Instead he got stuck in a bedroom with a kid who hated him and was gonna make him pay for having to give up space for a kid who ruined their lives!

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

The half brother who just learned about his father infedility and affair son and few weeks later saw the whore pictures inside his own room, so yeah he would ve snapped and destroy them. Also the wife just was hit by a brick after learning about tye affair baby and saw her own son punched by a bastard inside her own house. Anybody I her place would ve taken revenge.

[@pattyslater514]

My word! The first story had me full-on MAD ugly crying! As a mother(48[2M 20 & 18]), I am confident if this situation were to be sprung on me by my husband, I KNOW the last thing I would do would be to isolate, alienate, and simply shame that child purely for their existence. I am disgusted by OP's father to help, defend, even mend bridges within his family's home. Honestly, what disgusts me more is OP's fathers wife. As one mother to another.... she isn't worth the skin she's wrapped in....

[@damien678]

What M did to OP was straight up evil, TF, and he's 18 too!!!

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Seeing a grown adult punish a teenager who lost his mother just because his father couldn't keep it in his pants just makes me see red. I'm so glad the Dad's friend are saints and got that boy out of there.

[@pa-pa-plasma]

my heart fucking breaks for that first story. damn. what the hell is wrong with these people?? no one should treat a kid like that. I don't care what the situation is, there is literally no excuse besides they are evil and this is what they do. that is abuse. those things--leaving OP out in the rain for over an hour, destroying their stuff--are 100% malicious. They should've had CPS or the cops called on them, at least for destruction of personal property. OP, the dad's friend & his husband are literally the only innocent people in that situation. Everyone else deserves the worst that comes to them ffs

[@seleneledezma3543]

The other kids don't know any better. They don't have the maturity to handle what's going on. Op is the representation of their family falling apart.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'm less hard on the step siblings being passive aggressive bc they are young. But the nearly 50 yr old mom of 2 leaving a child, her husband's child in the rain-- horrible. And the stepbrother ripping up the photos is unforgiveable. 18 is way past old enough to know not to destroy property

[@pa-pa-plasma]

@@AndyyWithAY I 100% also blame the step siblings. though it IS the parents' fault they act that way, there's no excuse for that level of abuse and neglect.

[@pa-pa-plasma]

@@seleneledezma3543 18 & 14 years old is old enough to know not to fucking treat people that way. it's the parents fault their kids are like that, I know, but there's no excuse. they absolutely know better, their parents just taught them that this specific person is okay to abuse

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@pa-pa-plasma If I were the OP I would have made their lives miserable. Messed with them while they were sleeping, messed with their food, clothes, etc. Then tell them they can either call a truce for the next couple of years or I will go nuclear which will, of course, get me kicked out, but will traumatize them so severely they will never recover from it and it will destroy what is left of their family unit. So? Truce or total mutual destruction?

[@CreepyBlueAnimals84]

Thank you to people like dad's best friend and his SO for being so supportive, understanding and loving. The world needs more of that. I hope dad and his family receive a healthy dose of karma.

[@kaylaclark3660]

Story 1: There is literally no good reason to rip photos of someone else’s loved one. Idc how angry you are, you should never punish someone who did nothing to you. OP didn’t ask his dad to be AH, he had no choice in his conception!!

[@jennywhite2462]

I hope OP will be ok. I am happy Dad's friends are the decent people Dad and his horrible family aren't. I hope karma comes for Dad and the stepmom. My Dad has affair children. My mom my siblings and I never treated or treat them badly. Because it's not their fault. Honestly I feel awful for them finding out your Dad is a philandering douche is rough. We got it in gradual doses over years they found out suddenly.

[@rayneingdown]

I desperately want the first story’s OP to call the police and put in word about the abuse he suffered in that household. Those people deserve to rot.

[@rebekahsegun8319]

Obviously the wife and the kids are being horrible towards OP for something he had no say in, but ultimately, this is all his father's fault. He had an affair, then he brings the product of said affair into the home he shares with his wife and children- who are now constantly reminded of the father's selfish and unfaithful actions. He forced OP onto his unwilling wife and kids and basically told them to suck it up and accept OP and OP is paying for it. Again, that doesn't excuse anything the wife and kids did to him at all, but I don't blame them for being cold towards him. Like I said, he's a constant reminder of his father's sleaziness. If I were the wife, I would just divorce that sorry arse of a father the second I found out he had another child from an affair.

[@crowdemon_archives]

Frankly, a divorce would be a much better path. Less damage in general compared to straight familial abuse bullshite.

[@ineedhoez]

Story 1: This is a heart breaking story. Foster care would have probably been better. At least if he was abused there, it would be by the father that was supposed to take care of him. I legitimately cried.

[@dm9078]

Dad is a spineless punk. The friend and his partner are stars! Never put me down. That broad has a low bar for a guy!

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - M pulled a really vicious stunt and should be punished to the hilt. If only the two boys were home at the time it happened (and OP is SURE it couldn't have happened earlier in the day) then it's pretty hard to see how it could have not been M. I shouldn't condone violence, but I can't blame OP for hitting him. The father not punishing M because "There's no actual proof" sounds like bullshit. Later - Thank God for B and J who came to OP's rescue! I hope the rest of his life will go so much better now! I also hope that someday OP's stepfamily will wake up and realize how horribly unfair they were to him and feel some remorse.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

The only way this family will have any awareness is if Karma knocks on their door and one of them dies!

[@emmys.8323]

Ok so let me get this straight: the boyfriend is sick, the mom is quarantining the house because of it, BUT the friend is allowed to visit? Seems fishy to me

[@KCCAT5]

Omg that poor boy. Sounds like a story I was reading but had to stop because it upset me too bad. I'm so glad hes safe now.

[@amandarose4469]

I lost my mum at 15, I would have done awful things if someone destroyed memories of my mum. You hold on to everything you can and there is no going back.

[@maximumbees]

"he was sick and his mom was quarantining the house" but his buddy was over later............

[@fishsticks3729]

First story is so heart breaking for OP, their circumstances are so bizarre and unfortunate and by no fault of their own

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

The dad seems shocked that all of his victims aren't handling the situation well. HE'S handling it just fine, HE'S trying, so why aren't his victims OK too? And yes, S, A, and M ARE victims. It doesn't make their behaviour acceptable, but they need therapy. S was lied to, probably stayed with the dad because they already had a child, and then she found out he's been hiding his affair baby and he wouldn't have said anything had the former AP not died. I bet things were tough on M after it all came out and of course OP coming to live with them may bring those feelings back. Again, he needed therapy, not to be allowed to lash out, but OP isn't the only victim.

[@MaresBarres]

They're victims but they're also ab*sers. Yes to therapy for everyone, but if we excuse abusers for also being victims, almost no ab*sers would ever get justice served.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

@Seni Rania Yes, you're right, but I'm pointing out that the bigger piece of the picture is that dad is surprise Pikachu at OP being offered to move out after it's clear that he HASN'T done enough, he only thinks he has.

[@hugoumero9723]

@@slytherinlibrarian3501 well his wife have chose to become an doormat and spineless and M chose to become an asshole and jerk His wife and dad really deserve each other and not gonna get an divorced

[@crowdemon_archives]

The whole family seem like absolute chickenshite ngl Just wet stinky mess that squishes too easily... OP did right by wanting out. It's not going to improve upon hitting 18. I'd argue it will be worse.

[@Audiogeek-kf2ez]

OP needs to get out of this mess, mentally OP is being abused beyond rational thought. The physical part is almost secondary. These people have no love or feelings for OP, he needs to get out. This friend may be the godsend OP needs , move out , get a bed of your own. The father did the minimum. He is not wanted!. Get out of the house. Go with your father's friend. They do not want you there. Please leave this hell hole.

[@browniewin4121]

1) So terribly sorry for the loss of you mom, and how awfully you are being treated. To say there is no proof is BS. Your dad should step up and do better. It's not your fault your dad was a cheater and put everyone in this position. Your dad should pay for the restoration of you cards and photos. After update: It's sad that you are in this position. Your half siblings are nasty and making your life more miserable than it should be. Do say yes to an offer to move elsewhere, staying where you are is untenable. I do not agree that your dad is doing his best for you. After next update: I am so glad you have others on your side and will have somewhere to go where you will not be mistreated. It is sad your father can't be better at being a father, but you can make a good life for yourself now that you have support and help. A different school and therapy will be very beneficial. 2) Sorry OP that the relationship you thought you had was deceit an illusion. I'm glad you started realizing the truth and can now take the necessary action. Do not wast any more of you life on this POS. I hope you message his (not an X) on facebook to let her know what a lying cheater he is so she also can know the truth and make an informed decision. After update: Please do tell her the truth to his fiancee, and then move on. So sorry for this situation, you did not deserve to be played this way.

[@DystopianOverture]

OP in the first story is being abused, and his dad failed him big time.

[@WobblesandBean]

I really want OP to call the police on his wretched dad and his equally awful wife.

[@libras.groove.]

This first story is so sad I almost cried his dad failed him in so many ways.

[@Misspellednumbers]

Story 1: There's so many children, but they're all supposed to be adults. Dad didn't even do the bare minimum. He probably only took in OP because he felt bad, but if he truly cared for his son, why didn't he do more? Isn't he the person who cheated? Isn't he an adult? Wasn't all that resentment supposed to be on the him? Yet he let be carried by a 16 yr old and was "blindsided" when OP wanted to leave? Also, that 48 yr old child shouldn't be a mother. She's teaching her children that it's okay to be disgusting to innocent people. That's not how a mother should act. She created and flourished a hostile environment by directing her resentment onto the innocent party.

[@Kortita]

I feel so bad for op in the first story. It breaks my heart.

[@SheilaNorthcutt]

I would want to be warned about a cheater before getting married and leaving my country, so she needs to let the fiancé know and suck it up if her parents find out.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 2: Ghost him. If your Spidey senses are tingling, there's a reason. Don't try to figure out his motives because you'll never get the truth out of him. Just put it behind you, and find someone better.

[@williamreding2175]

OP you're not the A your step family are crude and self centered. They have no compassion regardless of the circumstance you are a human being that just lost the only constant person in your life and to treat you like that along with the failure of (I can barely call him this) father to stand up for you (there's no real proof) what a piece of trash cut them off and be the best you you can be, that will be the best revenge.

[@selbarton]

1. Not thinking is not an excuse for assaulting someone. Cops aren't going to respond differently. He's trying to excuse his actions like he's ignoring how would brother feel having to sleep in the shared room with the brother that chose to attack him physically where he could wake up being beaten on? Not saying the family was good in any way, but he really doesn't care what he's done any more than they do. No one is considering the conversations between the friend and the father aren't here nor is the fact the dad might not be fighting to keep him because he knows his son is safer in the friend's home. 2. She needs to stop dating and work on herself. They are both red flags everywhere. Any partner of hers will have to wonder what she's snooping through to try to accuse them of cheating, let alone her partner has to be her dirty secret so she's not much better than him on that count. She has to lie about dating him. She is so immature that she can't risk anyone knowing she was dating him so thinks letting him cheat on someone and use her is okay. Her choices throughout it all are questionable and makes her story questionable. Did the post ever exist? He knows how to hide the chats so how did she so easily find them? Too much falls apart when you think about it.

[@opal5138]

just got back from a camping trip now i'm going to binge watch all the videos I missed

[@grantgappens6532]

Thanks for keeping me company while I work! 😄

[@mimiwhite1963]

Story1 that is straight out abuse by that family , they are crap people and the Dad is not really stepping up and you know he knows what is going on. Leaving and never speaking is the best option. Op is giving his Dad far more credit than he deserves. I cant stand people like that. His Dad didnt really care if he left what piece of crap

[@Rienneil]

Story 1 you need to tell this to your school you are being abused. Teachers should be able to help you to get into care from this situation.

[@robertx8020]

Mark, the man of the video's with updates! Love it!

[@jennilynne1977]

I was out with my husband today and forgot my phone at home, so I'm catching up on the 2 videos from today. I hope everyone has had a great day/evening/night! Peace, hugs and love to everyone!

[@ynmonroe]

Story 1: The way the dad was surprised that OP didn't want to stay with him is telling. He isn't even trying to be there for this kid. No way could he be this clueless that he thinks everything is copacetic. God. I this is a good turning point for OP. Maybe distance, safety, and therapy will give him the chance to grieve and heal. Incidentally the stepmom is disgusting. If she knew about the affair then she knows who the true culprits are. OP is innocent. The wife was a victim until she started letting her kids isolate and torture OP. She could have left or made other decisions. There is no justification for this.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark.. Stay safe please. PEACE

[@Emma..9.75]

I am such a fan of your work, I Liston to your podcast all the time. I found your podcast 3 month’s ago and love it. It really helps me get stuff done anything from homework to housework and runs I love the quality of your auto you post such great content if you see this just know you are the best and I hope you have a good forever. Just the thought of you even seeing this makes me so excited, thank you.

[@TennantJunkie1993]

A wise man who thought Mary Poppins was a guy once said "That man might have been your father, boy, but he ain't your daddy.".

[@frith.calluna]

S1 My heart absolutely breaks for OP. He literally didn't do ANYTHING wrong, they're literally mad at him for existing. OP's dad (I honestly don't feel like he deserves this title) is just.... A spineless doormat. Not only did he cheat, which makes him an automatic asshat, then basically abandoned that child. The one thing this man did for his child was taking him in when his mom dies, while simultaneously introducing this kid to his future abusers. And then once the abuse starts to happen, he doesn't do anything. Nothing at all. And then when OP finally gets out of there, he just goes ''welp, so much for that!'' Absolutely horrific. Then step-mom, truly doing the evil step-mom stereotype justice. I think it's understandable that she would be upset and bitter because her husband cheated and now there's this kid suddenly in their household. Her emotions regarding husband's affair are valid and I would understand why she would be apprehensive about taking in this child she's never even met. HOWEVER, that DOES NOT give her the right to ABUSE A CHILD. Blatantly ignoring and actively shutting OP out by deliberately speaking in a language he doesn't understand, leaving him out in the cold and the rain for so long! What a disgusting monster she is for everything she has done. She should be ashamed to call herself a mother. Her childish behavior would almost be funny, if it didn't involve her abusing a kid. Next we have the half-siblings. The youngest is still a child, the other a young-adult. I'll go a little bit softer on them simply for that, because this must be a very confusing time for them. However, they are still bullies and should be held accountable for the way they acted. Sadly, they probably never will. And especially the half-brother's actions are just disgusting. 18 is young, but I was 18 fairly recently and I can tell you they know damn well this behavior is wrong. Tearing apart pictures of OP's mother, who passed away only 2 months ago! The malice behind that is scary... I really hope that guy is gonna be in bed one night in a few years, unable to sleep because of the memory of the horrible things he did to OP here. Thank god for people like OP's dad's best friend and his husband. Kindness came from an unexpected place, but it is so so welcome.. I hope OP can be happy in their care and deal with everything that happened to him. Best wishes, OP

[@psygaud]

FIFTY-NINE SECONDS AGO! This is the earliest I've been to any KZbin video ever

[@ericwashington8998]

My dad had affair children. When he died, my mom practically adopted the youngest child. To this day we are all family; my mom and their mom straight became friends after his death. I remember growing up spending quite a bit of time over at the AP home with my half siblings. This taught me that we make our own destiny, just because it started unhealthy doesn't mean it has to end that way.

[@hugoumero9723]

Story 2 : well i guess her ex fiance is gonna to have to deal with BF cheating and ended up been kicked out at house in very point in future,maybe ex fiance should never go back to him because he was cheated on her with OP and i bet in they are gonna to be an toxic couple who yelled and throw thing at each other and doing a lot drama at family dinner or maybe an party

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@OEDODRAGON]

For Story 1 I would've liked to call CPS on them.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'd like data on cheating in introverts vs extroverts. Between work and downtime after work, I'd only have time for one relationship. And, meeting new people and interacting with them would be so anxiety-inducing. This beyond cheating being morally wrong. Just with my lifestyle and needs as an introvert, it's not anything I'd have time to do even if I wanted to.

[@carolroberts4614]

Same here! My ex was an extrovert, and he leapt from affair to affair with gay abandon and not a single thought about who got hurt along the way. It all seems to complicating and exhausting to me!

[@someonebored0100]

The family in the first story aren’t even human

[@FriedaMMartin]

Good afternoon! Today I found out that the marshmallow peep plushies now come on heated pad form. Perfect for the cold weather

[@geckokid8265]

J and B are absolute legends in story 1

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗 sleep well m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@carolroberts4614]

Hi Broken! Hope all's well with you! I've had a good day today! I went to my great grandson's first birthday party, and it's only the second time I've seen him.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@carolroberts4614 aww so smol and thanks hope yours has been well 💜💜🤗🤗

[@tess289]

I love listening to these stories while cleaning up at home thank you! Keep up the great work

[@olga2023]

I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m sure you’re in a better place now 😢

[@Trampis04]

Story 1 had an update and a really positive one

[@pezlover1974]

Final update: Update Hey everyone, I know it’s been a while since I made my update post about moving out of my dad’s house and a lot of people have been asking for another update so I figured I would give one last update. Things have been relatively quiet since I moved out. I transferred schools and started therapy a few months ago. J and B have been really kind about giving me space to grieve my mom and I don’t feel like I have to hide all of her stuff anymore. I managed to get a couple of the pictures digitally repaired thanks to someone reaching out to me on here and, while it’s not the same, at least it’s something. Family wise, it’s still hard. After my post blew up, it ended up reaching A, my half sister. She said she had read all the comments and started feeling bad about everything that her mom and brother did. She ended up apologizing for what she had done and understood if I didn’t want to forgive her. We texted for a while about all of it and we’ve been in an okay place since that talk. I still haven’t heard anything from M and S, but I didn’t really expect to either. My dad has come over to J and B’s apartment to see me a few times and we go to lunch about once a month, but other than that, I haven’t really seen him much. J did tell me that about three weeks ago, my dad moved out of the house and got his own apartment. From what it sounds like, he and S aren’t separating yet but he’s giving her space. I tried texting him about it but never got a response. Things are okay now, even though it’s getting close to a year since my mom died, which will probably hard when it happens. Thanks for everyone that messaged me or commented, I’m sorry I didn’t respond to everyone but the response was a little overwhelming.

[@CyeOutsider]

Story 1: OPs father is a real POS - ruined that kid in every way possible.

[@Icalasari]

Don't think I can finish watching this. It's too bad

[@AndyyWithAY]

Hi Mark, hi Waffle Gang. I'm at the gym now, will catch this later. Hope everyone is having a nice weekend.

[@monicathapar3107]

Have a great day and weekend to you too!! Go do that gym stuff!

[@AndyyWithAY]

Thanks Monica! Have a great weekend!

[@AngelaMerici12]

That's great! 💪☺️

[@zerobolt9506]

Story 1 is really pissing me off, I really REALLY WANT SOMETHING TO GO REALLY BAD FOR STEP MOM & HALF SIBS, THEY PISSED ME OFF SO MUCH 😡😡😡 Edit: really hoping people find out what kind of monsters they are & cut them off.

[@TennantJunkie1993]

Story #1: You had a right to hit M. I don't care if hitting is wrong, he destroyed all of your mementos you had left of your mom. And THEY grounded YOU for standing up for yourself.

[@caitlindooley7826]

First story I would talk to school what the wife is doing is abuse and see what they can do.

[@SorenPenrose]

OP's dad is excusing/ignoring blatant child abuse. He is a bad person. Simple.

[@itrasheditgood]

Getting in contact with the fiancé is a bad idea. The intention is not to save the fiancé, but to hurt him. Maybe in the back of the head the hope will be that she breaks up with him and he comes crawling back, that’s a fantasy. He blocked OP for a reason, he moved on. He’s set up boundaries because he has no intention of continuing the relationship, it’s time to stop bothering him. Yes he’s slime, but at the end of the day, it’s not worth putting anymore energy in pursuing revenge or trying to win him over. Revenge leads to law suits and who the hell wants to be second place, that is what the side piece is. It sucks to be burned, but moving on with your head held high is the best revenge, because it means you won’t be fooled again by that dude.

[@bertlemoi431]

about story one: can we acknowledge the fact that op was the living proof of op's dad's infidelity? to the family, he was the proof how much the husband/father did have an affair. of course they going to resent op. although it was a shitty situation to be in for op, it was also a shitty situation to be in for step-mom and the step-siblings. it just boggles my mind how nobody in the comments (at least how far we know) tried to come from their side. the root cause for the situation was the father cheating on his wife (about a year before having the second child). i just wanted to point this out. so often this is just overlooked. and then you hear suggestions of "just be nice"...

[@simonO712]

I mean yeah, the situation does suck for them too, but they're taking things out on the wrong person. The dad is the one who should be blamed, not OP. There is also a massive line that shouldn't be crossed between not being able to stop resenting someone for circumstances beyond their control and actively abusing them.

[@bertlemoi431]

@@simonO712 I know. The thing is that judging is easy and acting is hard. We easily forget this. Which is why separation was the only good option. Forcing someone to like someone else is never a good idea. especially in a emotionally charged situation like this. Fathers friend and husband knew and navigated the situation accordingly. If I recall correctly it was a gay couple right? which is probably why they knew, probably out of their own experiences, how to help OP AND the family.

[@simonO712]

@@bertlemoi431 Now that I can certainly agree with

[@samanthadelgado5970]

Hi Mark, hi waffle gang! I'm currently at work on my lunch break watching this video and relaxing~ I hope everyone is having a great day so far!

[@telinhajp]

Hi Mark! Just about to eat some breakfast. Wishing you and Poppy a great end of Saturday! ❤️

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hope you have a great day m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@telinhajp]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 you too! ❤️😊

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@telinhajp thanks 🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Sleep well m8💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 thank you broken I will. Hope you are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 thanks m8 and hope you are too 💜💜🤗🤗

[@uNkrEaTIvArTs]

Honestly It sounds like OP1 would have been better off in a foster home or even a group home. I know the system is not the best in many countries but this is just unbearable for him

[@kuno3336]

I think I'm in a bad place, mentally. Like, if I'd been in OP 1's position, I'd have had a strong impulse to off myself in step-mom's bed. OP shouldn't be the one being blamed for his dad's affair. I absolutely hate when people do that shit

[@--AreYouMemeing_]

Finally here early! Cant wait to snuggle in bed and listen 🎶😌 thank you Mark and everyone have a good night! 💛

[@DDs878]

there was a little update on story 1 . op moved in with b and j doing good so far. M saw the post and apologized

[@fhuber7507]

1... OP needs to record the French and have it translated. ESH except OP. (and the family that helped OP move out.) I hope OP can sue for back child support.

[@alphaleader870]

Story 1 is how people become sociopaths it would honestly not surprise me that if op had remained in that house with his father half siblings and step mother that one day his father would come home and find the step mother and the half siblings dead and op just slowly cutting up their bodies so I'm glad that op was able to get out of that toxic situation before that could happen

[@itsjustme7487]

Story 1.. Good luck with your new life. Your foster family sounds great. Your future can be bright. Carpe Diem