ObGyn Reacts: Didn't Know I Was Pregnant | 40yo with Thick Blood?!

Ob/Gyn physician Mama Doctor Jones reviews an episode of TLC's "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" while teaching and commenting on the show.
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[@RosyRosie42]

“Michelle, you’re having a kid...” “...-ney stone?” “No, a kid. You’re in labor.”

[@alisaarama5585]

this made me burst with laughter :D so silly, I love it

[@KayBlossom]

Take my like!

[@vocalsunleashed]

This is exactly what I was thinking 😂

[@EDuGoIHuvvet]

Amazing 😂

[@RosyRosie42]

Lol! Thanks for the likes 😆 Seriously tho... 7:34 - missed opportunity!

[@katyalupochev9589]

It’s always hilarious when there’s a birth scene on TV and the doctors pull out a whole entire 8 year old with some grape jelly on it

[@polkadotteandglitterspots5367]

This comment right here. This one ☝️ wins. Ahhh...whole entire 8-year old 🤣😂🤣😂. So true.

[@jasminchronicles1945]

With grape jelly on it 😭🤣😂 I’m HOLLERING LMAOOO

[@MrsMrMoney]

Seriously one of my biggest pet peeve. This kid just crawled out of her on his own accord. THATS NOT A NEWBORN! 😂🤣

[@denisemcdougal6445]

True

[@forwerd4ever]

Yessss 🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@amberblank]

When I was five months pregnant with twins, we were in the middle of moving, and because of some weird loophole in our medical insurance, the new place would not accept the positive pregnancy test from the first doctor’s office (I have zero idea why this was, because they accepted my medical file and all of the ultrasounds). At 5 months, I was HUGE because my twins were each the size of a single baby (born at 35 weeks weighing over 6.5 lbs each), so the looks on the faces of everyone within earshot was priceless when I walked up and was like, “I’m here for a pregnancy test.” The entire room went dead silent. The receptionist couldn’t even speak. Finally she was like, “Sweetie.. I think it’s pretty safe to say that you’re pregnant... and probably pretty close to delivery...” I started laughing so hard, I’m surprised I didn’t pee. Or get the psych ward called on me. That’s what I think about every time I watch these.. 😂🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@theatorrisi9695]

That's such a great story!

[@DinocoSparrow]

That's so daft! Here in the UK I'm always surprised they don't ask for any evidence at all. Part of me wonders if I'll show up to my first scan at 12 weeks and there just won't be a baby in there because they took my word for it. 😆

[@AVSgirl1985]

Thank you for the giggles 😅😅

[@ThePrinceska73]

This is hilarious 😂 I😂😂

[@cortney3798]

Lol as a momma of 2 sets of twins I found this to be the funniest thing I have ever heard

[@Kageoni187]

Her reaction “I CAME IN HERE FOR A KIDNEY STONE, NOT A BABY!” Lmao

[@Luubelaar]

That reminded me of a nurse I used to work with telling me about this woman presenting at Emergency with horrible abdominal pain. She thought it was appendicitis. Spoiler: she was in labour and didn't know she was pregnant. When she was told, she lost it, screaming that she wasn't pregnant, she's infertile and can't get pregnant, and "I'm gonna die of a ruptured appendix", and yadda yadda yadda. She wasn't a big woman, definitely didn't look pregnant, apparently had no symptoms of pregnancy. She and her husband were in shock.

[@ruzahel6287]

@@Luubelaar Ok so how was the baby? Was it underdeveloped foetus thats why the baby bump wasn’t obvious?

[@Luubelaar]

@@ruzahel6287 - No. Baby was full term but quite small. Some women just don't show much. At 7 months I looked like a beached whale. At 7 months one of my coworkers looked like she'd had a big dinner and had a "food baby". Our kids were about the same size at birth.

[@mariaguilar4623]

The actress sold on the hysterical part

[@agapi1904]

Yeah she wanted her stone not a baby 😅

[@Laurastar2009]

"we do the best that we can with the information we have" This helped me recently when my grandma was taken to hospital. I wasn't to know things were worse than they seemed. When the seriousness did become apparent I acted accordingly and took her to A&E. I felt guilty for not doing something sooner, but I remembered Mama Dr Jones' words of wisdom. My grandma is recovering well and will be home in a couple of days.

[@ingobaby1]

It’s good to hear she is recovering. :) It sounds like you did the absolute right thing, given the information you had!

[@dorathyjohnston3986]

A similar situation happened with my great grandma. She has Alzheimer’s so we didn’t know that she was sick until she got really bad. We blamed ourselves but had to come to terms with “doing the best you can with the information you have”. Grandma is fine now but it was so difficult to feel that guilt when she was so sick

[@olivegreeneyedbeauty]

We tell our patients this all the time in Mental Health, especially to parents who are struggling with coping skulls.

[@nunpho]

It is great advice for so many situations. I know I feel a lot of guilt over things I can't control. I'm glad your grandma is doing better 💜

[@0Jenna7]

@@olivegreeneyedbeauty Yes, coping skulls are the best! You can squeeze them and take them out for a walk, and they hardly ever talk at all cause they're coping skulls! :D

[@infinitecurlie]

* Thinks about exercising * * Hears mama doctor Jones talk about exercise can kick up ovulation * * goes back to the couch * 😭😭😭😂😂😂😂

[@estralla_star]

Bahaha! Same lol

[@daze.png_]

lol

[@catiareis91]

Omg same 😂😂

[@emilylaurel8301]

Meeeee

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Lmfao XD I actually want to ovulate normally, I've put on too much weight recently and think it blocked my ovulation this month. So yeah, time to get my booty moving again lol.

[@Irehs72]

I love that you tell people we do the best we can with the info we have. I was 20, had lost weight, had my cycle like normal and had zero of the other typical pregnancy symptoms. One day I woke up and had a migraine. I went to the dr and found out I was pregnant, I was on my cycle during this appointment mind you. Because I was on my cycle they did a sonogram and found I was 6 mo. The dr kept harassing me about not coming in sooner, because I apparently needed to be made to feel bad while facing down being a single mom in the early 90s. Literally every appointment why did you not come in sooner. I finally snapped and said why would I have? What symptoms would have brought me in sooner? I went off on him. He stopped asking that question. Thank you for not making people feel bad when they really just don't know

[@kit2489]

You can most definitely bleed when pregnant but cannot physically have a period or cycle I mean unless you have two functional uteruses and are only pregnant in one. But yea if I was bleeding regularly enough to think it was my period and had no other symptoms I wouldn’t think I was pregnant either, therefore no reason to go in. So wrong of ppl especially drs to just assume you had any reason to know.

[@MollyFC]

I found it amusing how it showed her laying in the hospital bed and the doctors just came charging into the room like she was under arrest 😂😂

[@jadakeen2542]

Cardiac arrest

[@Lazrqueen]

😂🤣I know right?!

[@wxwxsrg]

I heard the doc gave her 18 years...

[@zarasbubble1748]

@@wxwxsrg lol. This comment is so underrated! 🤣🤣🤣

[@SandraRamirez-gl4hz]

😂😂

[@JB-gq1bm]

First baby, first prenatal appointment my doc saying “well the damage is already done” after I told her that I was on Zoloft. I was devastated. Loved hearing you say we do the best we can.

[@MamaDoctorJones]

I routinely prescribe this in pregnancy. That is nonsense.

[@MamaDoctorJones]

And I’m sorry someone would say something so mean.

[@eliscanfield3913]

Dafuq? My ob (Not Dr Jones) prescribed it for my depression when I'd just started my 2nd trimester. He said he'd never seen a baby have any problems related to parental zoloft. My baby is now a healthy, happy 4yo learning her letters and numbers.

[@hydrogen3266]

I’m sorry to hear that you went through that :( People should never feel bad or shamed for the treatment they take for their own personal mental health, and as a doctor, whoever they were, should be ashamed for pushing the narrative that mental health treatment is bad in any way

[@cindylou1954]

@@MamaDoctorJones Dear Dr. Jones...I feel abnormal. 67 separated 2yrs (beloved husband went back to active addiction 4 yrs ago). I look after my mom. Last 3 months I've literally been in pain with sexual desire. It doesn't quit no matter what I do. Uncomfortable. Not nice. Totally physical origin. I do love my husband but boundaries are solid. Return to recovery or I can't be with you. Please...very embarrassing. I did tell my doc and he referred me to counseling which is great. I belong to Al-Anon and have a rich spiritual life. Please...will this subside?(ok I was on methadone for 11 yrs for codeine addiction and went to beautiful rehab 4 yrs ago to get off of it. Methadone ramps down libido...maybe my body is goin wacko in the opposite direction..) Am I nuts?

[@ik7968]

I know this isn't really how MDJ meant it and it's very silly..... but every time she talks about how it is completely ok to be reserved at first before you get to know your babies I always imagine it as a formal date. Like you are sitting at a nice restaurant with your bebe. You have a glass of wine and bebe bottle of milk. There is a candle in between you two and you have questions prepared. You: So baby what is your favourite topping on a pizza? Baby: .... smiles .... You: Hmmm better than if you said pineapple. I would have thought they switched you at the hospital. So who's your favourite painter? Baby: .............................g....oghg You: Oh you like Van Gogh too! That's great. I think we have a lot in common and we are gonna get along great.

[@siewitnessnews]

This made me laugh! 😁

[@uzmaahmed.catmoon]

aah thats lovely.

[@-Ghostess]

So where are you from? Baby: burbling coo sound Oh right. I was there.

[@emjl6082]

It's kind of exaxtly like that though 😆

[@birdgirl8390]

Thank goodness I'm not the only one 😂

[@tinamcguire3660]

Who saw the headline about the woman who didn't know she was pregnant and gave birth to her son prematurely in an airplane bathroom and there just happened to be a doctor and 3 NICU nurses on board who helped keep her and her baby safe until they landed in Hawaii and got her to the hospital? I really want them to make that into a I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant episode and watch Dr. Jones review it.

[@azbaye324]

That was pretty cool how there were already icu nurses on board and stuff

[@barbarawild2478]

When I was nearing the end of my pregnancy I conducted the back stage chorus in a Tosca production. There were three nurses in the semi-professional chorus! I felt safe😊!

[@harringt100]

Oh, yeah, I saw an article about that when I was pregnant myself. I was very impressed with everyone involved, lol.

[@ssjineon7032]

I was told that I would never have kids. Many factors from radiation treatment to a disease of the pituitary gland were against me. So me and my husband decided not to use birth control. Well.... I'm almost 2 months pregnant now! We're shocked but very happy about our little mirical!🤰

[@sisi7304]

don't stop using the corny joke, I love it edit: woah, 1k likes

[@Desiree917us]

Agreed, yes never.

[@emilylaurel8301]

I third this. The joke makes my day every day.

[@MissMiseryGloom]

This joke never fails to make me smile. :)

[@marthahawkinson-michau9611]

Totally!!

[@unpronounceable8012]

More 🌽

[@il42]

here i am sitting casually with my itchy leg (constantly, but esp after shower) and remembering that my dad was diagnosed with polycythemia several years ago. shit. Will bring this up at my appointment tomorrow. Thanks MDJ!

[@SevCaswell]

Yeah it's something for me to think about too. I was told that my grandmother had 'thick blood', and when I was unable to donate blood due to vein collapse as a teen I was told I probably had the same 'thick blood'. I also itch a lot, and esp after a shower, but was diagnosed with eczema as a baby. I get regular blood counts due to other issues so at least if I do develop polycythemia later in life it will get caught early.

[@leabugmp]

@@SevCaswell I would suggest your eczema diagnosis be revisited as many babies have it and outgrow it. Perhaps it's something else now. (Maybe not! I still get eczema, always have, but my daughter for example had it terribly as a baby and then it went away, when it came back a few years later we just assumed it was the same and missed it as an allergy symptom.)

[@SevCaswell]

@@leabugmp my eczema has been constant throughout my life, plus I do get skin irritation as part of certain of my many allergies. My life is fun.

[@leabugmp]

@@SevCaswell miserable for sure!

[@AgaTSC2]

Definitely something to look into. In women, it's usually not as obvious as in men, until women go through menopause. The monthly menses helps to keep the hcg/hct down a bit. But, it doesn't paint the entire picture, as iron studies also need to be taken into consideration. For a diagnoses, it's just a blood test that looks for a specific genetic component.

[@Ashleybecause]

She kept saying "I'm 40 years old!" As if she thought that you magically can't get pregnant at that age.

[@aurorakirkham3671]

Yeah. My mom had my little sister at almost 42 years of age, so I was also confused on why she was so hung up on that.

[@HEllis-qu5nn]

Its not like 40 yrs old is old or something either

[@HelloNewMoon]

My dentist just had her first baby without fertility treatment at 47. It happens

[@jessicacharlton7347]

My mom had my brother at 43. She didn't find out until she was almost 20 weeks and had to go to the hospital for something else. She thought she might be going through menopause when her periods stopped.

[@l.tc.5032]

I know right My mom had my youngest brother at 39 and turned 40 less than a week after the birth.

[@hengwin]

I mean, I understand the shock, but how she cries out "I'm 40 years old!" That's not one foot in the grave, woman!

[@lenawagenfuehr53]

Well, it's not all her fault. Hollywood (and the former President) don't like women to be over age 34.

[@daniellekeyes304]

Right? My mom had me at 37 and my brother at 40 😅

[@elizabethshaw7472]

Some women are actually taught (incorrectly) that it's impossible to get pregnant after 35...for some reason.

[@utej.k.bemsel4777]

Well, i'm 55 and feel very alive!

[@rxbiluhvrp]

My mom had me at 37 too

[@WantedVisual]

This video usually comes with my time of the month... The fact that it hasn't yet means either my birth control kicked in, or we need to ready ourselves for the next Messiah.

[@emitorresbun]

Omg hahaha

[@Djinn_Entonic]

I love your coment

[@Fluteperson01]

Lol

[@mackinzielizabeth872]

this is great

[@FeScully]

Lol

[@morganbaines4996]

"Urine tells us almost nothing about how far along you are" Clear blue: 🤫

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

LOL right?

[@isabelleblanchet3694]

Those don't even check the HCG level. Electronic pregnancy tests are the same as the non electronic, but instead of looking for the line yourself, the electronic parts checks for the pregnancy line for you and tells you "how far along you are" according to how dark the line is. It's only a waste of money and resources. And it adds to the tons of pollution of our planet since you throw it in the trash with its battery and electronic parts.

[@Absbabs88]

Did I miss something,, because I've never seen a urine pregnancy test that does that either. Now, the blood ones we run in the ER will give us a number that correlates to weeks of gestation.

[@LaurenWoz421]

@@Absbabs88 the US no longer sells clearblue week prediction. (Assuming that’s where you are). They only sell regular digital ones that say “pregnant / not pregnant”. But I do see people that use the weeks predictor tests in the UK, Canada and Australia.

[@Absbabs88]

@@LaurenWoz421 ah, ok. Yeah, that's where I am, I just wasn't aware that was ever a thing 😂

[@sheilazachowski4731]

When I was in labor with my youngest child (and I totally knew I was pregnant) I was in a teaching hospital. When they told me I could push, I shut my eyes for a minute, and when I opened them again, there was a whole class of nursing students suddenly crowded around me, and you are right, a big crowd is jarring.

[@haytoo]

Oh no! When I was in nursing school we went in ones or twos and asked mom first if it was ok. Then we’d do things like hold her hand or get her a towel

[@oflifeandstuff]

Wow, that’s awful. In the moment it’s also hard to say no. I had a medical student watch my IUD implantation without my consent and I complained afterwards and left the practice. I would have said yes if asked, but I felt violated

[@Celebriel82]

Oh wow, I would have thought that they needed your permission to do that. Is there implied permission when you are at a teaching hospital?

[@emimonsterlicious]

Granted my doctor friend is in the UK (Cambridge) but they had to ask consent at any moment when they were med students. Even if they were just 1 student coming in the room with a doctor to do routine exams, they asked. Coincidentally, he's also a Gyne.

[@fiightbacktogether8399]

My mum has notoriously fast births, she agreed a team could witness my birth. The Dr went to the corridor to get them stating they would be waiting at least 15 minutes. Turned back to walk into room, and boom there I was 🤣 poor students missed it haha

[@addison8269]

My mom had me and my twin brother when she was 46. She chose to get married later in life and had issues getting pregnant, so it just happened late. My brother and I are very healthy!

[@samanthaparmley1386]

I’ve heard that women who are a bit older when they get pregnant are at an increased chance of having twins or more, I think when women get older they can release more eggs when they ovulate

[@xondraluna9965]

I want to thank you! You doing these videos and telling everyone to test is how i found out i was pregnant. I missed my period in feb, i was under a lot of stress and had all of the normal symptoms of it coming. The day it was supposed to come, branches fell through my roof because of freezing rain. I just thought i was still too stressed for it to come even the next month. But watching one of your videos reacting to this show on april 10 i took a test! Im due in late october. Thank you so much. I sit and wonder how long i wouldve went without knowing because i have zero symptoms of being pregnant.

[@lindseyhiccups]

Congrats 🕊 sorry to hear about your roof x

[@Syd448]

Congratulations! I think we get a little too busy sometimes, but I’m glad you thought to test! :)

[@mikaylamccay2219]

Wow what a blessing to come out of a stressful situation! Congratulations!!

[@lisarodriguez6966]

Happy for you! Hope you and baby stay healthy and happy.🌷

[@just_me_marla7310]

Congratulations!👣

[@Feral_Fruit]

"so she's in denial, and I'm on confusion" 😂 I love that

[@jakual339]

With the "telling her she's in labour just from a urine test" part, I'd guess that someone did an exam when she came in, and already *suspected* labour from her symptoms, so when the test came back positive it just confirmed it.

[@imperfectly_megan]

I'm thinking it's because the doctors saw a bit of the bloody show in the urine and that's how they knew she was in labor.

[@emimonsterlicious]

Yeah the one-sided, traumatic memory, ego-centric telling of this show does leave a lot to be desired. MDJ does a remarkable job of not being at all cynical about these people.

[@beccyshore1303]

Yeh or maybe they did an ultrasound to look for kidney stones and found a baby? Idk 🤷‍♀️

[@ccheyenne]

Or maybe they tested for amniotic fluid. I had to be induced at 39 weeks because I had a tiny tear in my amniotic sac, we went to the hospital because I had been losing very small amounts of liquid for about 8h and wasn't sure what was going on and I called the hospital and they said to come in. They told me initially my water hadn't broken but they were going to do a chemical test for it a used a swab and tested to for amniotic fluid and it came back positive. They told me they can detect minute amounts with that test and they kept me in observation the rest of the day and about 20h after the dripping started they decided I needed an induction because of the risk of infection. First time giving birth, I had told them clearly I didn't want the epidural and they were lovely, it was a super respected birth despite being induced, it was 6h from start to finish once the contractions started. I really hope the experience is as positive this time around, as I'm 24 weeks along!

[@alwaysinbloom12]

I was that person who didn’t use a condom once & got pregnant with my first child (my husband refused to buy more & so did I, because we each said it was the other persons turn & we’re both stubborn). Wouldn’t change a thing, she was the best thing that happened to us ❤️

[@justapuffin7303]

I’m glad! I’m sure she’s beautiful.

[@mustangrose]

I'm sorry, that's wonderful you don't regret it, but that's just hilarious to me. "You buy them, no you buy them I bought them last time." Sounds like a concern over finances and ended up causing a major financial concern for both of you lmfao

[@harringt100]

@@mustangrose Condoms are not that expensive. It sounds like this was a case of genuine stubbornness--or just semi-indifference to whether a pregnancy resulted, not a serious financial concern.

[@harley-amybanks2168]

It's EDS awareness month - Please can you do a video on the Ehler's Danlos Syndromes from an OBGYN perspective? We are more likely to have pregnancy/birth complications, uterine prolapse, endometriosis etc. Our joints are more likely to dislocate during menstruation and pregnancy too. It's a scary condition and there isn't much awareness about the comorbidities of EDS, having a video covering it would mean so much to me and other young women with EDS living with so much uncertainty about their condition 💕 I love your channel 💕

[@FeScully]

Up!

[@jaejae9503]

I have been wanting her to do this for a long time!!!! I have EDS.

[@SaltFreeSea]

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[@theatorrisi9695]

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[@Rain-np7tk]

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[@AMHapple85]

You should look into the woman who gave birth on an airplane on her way to Hawaii and didn't know she was pregnant. Craziness!!!

[@KristenK78]

YES! I saw the story last week and immediately thought that MDJ needs to cover it!

[@birdgirl8390]

I just have to laugh each time you say "I first had to get to know that baby" because I just get the most awful Kopfkino of you sitting next to the bassinet being awkward like "sooo... what do you like to do in your free time?" 🤣

[@southboundpookoderm9802]

Hahaha “what’s your favorite food?” “You come here often?” And thank you I just learned a new word “kopfkino” thank you!

[@katieheath424]

I'm so glad you always mention it's okay not to have that starry-eyed moment when baby is born. I always thought i would, but when my daughter was born 3 months ago I didn't feel that because I was too exhausted. I would have had major mom guilt if I had never heard you say that. But the feeling grows more every day I get to know her 🥰.

[@kellysutter3315]

One of my best friends was the same way, she also was in labor for 30 hours So She just was like "oh its a baby" Now she loves her daughter more than anything on the planet but at the moment she was like "hm, you look squishy" and fell asleep

[@roseroycehayes5585]

Same, I really wanted to sleep. I love my angel more than anything! But at that moment, I just wanted to sleep... comfortably.

[@karmamoss8072]

Detachment is also expected after medicated births, which are unfortunately now the norm. No bonding biochemistry during labor and birth = no bond

[@kristinarusnok3283]

I think that the scary comments are given by TLC screen writers rather than the doctors.

[@JenniferKlumpp]

Doctors can say really thoughtless things. I had a high risk pregnancy and my high risk ob/gyn told me that something they saw in my ultrasound "doubled the chances" my child would have a chromosomal damage. Which scared us out of our wits! It turned out that it moved the chance from .7% to 1.4%. Sure that's double, but COME ON!

[@Elf0304]

@@JenniferKlumpp True, but I think it's also true that some people will hear the worst case scenario no matter how something is phrased. I'm probably one of them and can imagine hearing she might die from the suggested rephrase.

[@sweetporcupine56]

Yeah, I do think that sometimes, because doctors are used to the “it’s complicated” aspect of risk and informed consent, they don’t realize that a terrified patient/family member is going to take away only the scariest scenario, no matter how well they try to explain things.

[@leabugmp]

Patients also misunderstand or over simplify things too. I work for a surgeon and it's pretty common for patients getting bad news to feel a bit overwhelmed during an appointment and call to clarify stuff later.

[@gabriellaporazzi6182]

I'm not surprised that she got pregnant at 40. My parents were trying for 6 years to have me and my mom got pregnant finally at 40 and was 41 when I was born.

[@Trekkie_Gal]

I kept shaking my head every time she said that she couldn't be pregnant because she was 40. What does you age have to do with it? As long as you are menstruating, you can get pregnant, no matter your age.

[@MzyraJ]

I get the feeling some wen become complacent in their 40s, think they're less fertile and close to menopause - my mum had a colleague a lot like the woman in this episode, a large woman in her 40s with two teenage kids, cryptic pregnancy, went home from work feeling ill one day, had a baby within 24 hours 👀

[@caitlin329]

@@Trekkie_Gal People definitely are misinformed about fertility. Education is so important; I hope that it's gradually getting better through the generations.

[@lhodgens]

Right! My great grandmother gave birth at 46... and got pregnant again when she was 60. She terminated that pregnancy because her doctors didn't believe she would survive birth at her advanced age, but women are amazing creatures.

[@alexandravialcanet487]

I’m 42 and 6 months pregnant. It’s planned and took only 2 months trying. So yeah being 40 is still very much child bearing age!

[@UnscrupulousAgitator]

I want to thank you As a grandmother helping her father, my son, to raise my 11-year-old, in puberty granddaughter I find your channel very useful for info and a way to start "awkward" coversations So much has changed (for the better) since I was going through it. Other than better options for medical care, the best thing is that it openly talked about

[@antoniocasias5545]

No? Cuz. That’s the last thing you want talked about you creep.

[@mikaylamccay2219]

Thank you for talking about mums who don't feel that 'starry-eyed' moment. I feel like it's not talked about enough and makes some mums feel really awful when that moment doesn't happen. I didn't feel it for my son when he was born. At the time, as much as I loved him, I didn't think the whole experience was worth it. I felt so awful and like I wasn't cut out to be a mum. It took a good couple weeks for me to feel it was worth it. He's now 20 months old and I would do it all over again 100 times just to have him in my life. I don't feel ashamed of how I felt anymore and now realise it's completely normal.

[@karmamoss8072]

Detachment is also expected after medicated births, which are unfortunately now the norm. No bonding biochemistry during labor and birth = no bond

[@rinathomson6204]

My husband- what are you watching?I know its your doctor lady but what is it? Me- I didn't know i was pregnant Husband-why? * judgment* Me- because MamaDoctorJones makes them hilarious to watch.

[@ghjgme]

My mom had my youngest brother shortly before turning 44 so I'm always surprised when women in their upper 30s and early 40s think there's no way. This woman had a lot of reasons to not expect it, the I'm 40 doesn't seem like it should be the top of those reasons.

[@lenawagenfuehr53]

Well, you need to tell Hollywood males studio executives this (and their television counterparts) these are the youth obsessed freaks who won't cast any woman over 35 (unless it's for a grandma role)

[@ccheyenne]

Well I had to undergo IVF at 32 because I have infertility, after we had been trying with no luck for two years, so I mean the famous fertility cliff is real, the average age for a woman's fertility to drop steeply is 35, I guess for every one of us who falls off the cliff in our late twenties there's a woman who's still fairly fertile in her early forties.

[@ssansu]

I've known so many women who have become unexpectedly pregnant and had babies in their 40's. The oldest was 47.

[@katb6112]

My parents had me at 49 and it’s always cool to see other older couples, idk how my mom would have reacted if it had been a complete surprise like this though 😬

[@autumnl5630]

“we do the best we can with the information that we have” can really apply to anything. my best friend took her life yesterday morning and i keep telling her family and other friends that they could never have known this would happen unless she blatantly told them. everyone should keep this in the back of their mind ❤️

[@tammystockley-loughlin7680]

So sad for you and your friend...Positive vibes from New Hampshire and remember to be kind to each other and yourself during this pandemic and social crisis

[@airachica]

My mom had me at 39 years old. No issues during the pregnancy, labor or post-birth. You can have a perfectly healthy pregnancy at that age, it's just a little more likely to have issues in comparison to a younger age 🤗

[@eliscanfield3913]

Yeah, I had my daughter at 39, too. She's a nice healthy not quite 5.

[@helenf.7221]

Do you have any issues with her being older? Someone on tiktok made a video saying they hated the fact that their dad was 70 years old and they were so young. The comments were filled with kids saying how old their parents were and how they wished they were younger. That scared me. I’m soon to be 35 and not planning on having kids at least for a couple of years

[@Andrea-sg7qp]

My mom had me at 36 and my brother at 40, the only complication was that my brother was a couple weeks early. This was in the 80s too when I assume medical treatment for "older" mothers wasn't as advanced.

[@airachica]

@@helenf.7221 Would i love to have my mom in my life for longer? Sure. But that's just not reality. She had me when she had me, point is she's an amazing, supportive mother. That's all I care about. Quality over quantity ♥ Would rather have her for 10 years less then a mediocre mother for 10 more years.

[@michellezevenaar]

@@airachica sooooo true! My mom was 22 when she had me and isn't really part of my life anymore even though shes health and 'young'. I would love to have a better relationship with my mom like i see many of my friends have with thier patients that are older. I'm now 39 and pregnant with my second! I have a 3 year old that my mom hasn't bothered to come see in 2 years, corona has nothing to do with it either. Thankfully I have a great mother in law that loves my child sooo much and video calls all the time!

[@marinagibbs3213]

"This is a blessing I didn't know we needed." Oh my heart!❤ What a sweet outcome to what might have been the scariest day of their lives.

[@ellier.537]

As a human with a "that time of the month", I appreciate and love that corny joke. Dont stop

[@baileighb]

Idk why but your voice sounds different in this video like higher pitched than normal? Is it just me?? Lol all the love though 💛💛

[@rynb6616]

I’m glad I’m not the only one who noticed!

[@ablair24]

Probably a mic/camera difference

[@elizabethbingham9899]

I noticed the same thing too!

[@tbaby3631]

Ok I also thought so, sounded like it was sped up or something even though her pace seemed normal

[@beccadotelpy]

I thought the same thing but then I thought maybe I just haven't watched one of her vids in a while.

[@melisa_moore]

Literally EVERY ad I get on MDJ’s channel has been about birth control. 😂 I’m not really in the market for birth control.... since I’m 37 weeks pregnant. 😅

[@daisyhoch]

Hey I'm also 37 weeks! So ready to meet my little girl💕

[@siewitnessnews]

Congratulations to you both!

[@lenawagenfuehr53]

Please do something about menopause! Like how there are no cycle trackers for it - people think your period just stops overnight and there are no issues...

[@melisa_moore]

@@daisyhoch same here!!!! 🎀

[@zen_mindset1]

Ha. I just seen an ad.

[@lockepatton5689]

“She’s in denial.” “I’m in confusion.” Same.

[@autumn557]

That reminded me of how I confused a UTI for my period. The urgent care doctor was trying to reprimand me for not coming in sooner then 3 days but I was like…. Yeah I didn’t even think this wasnt a period until yesterday. Basically that painful feeling in the urithra you get for infections? That’s what the day before I start bleeding always feels like. And the next day I was bleeding so I assumed what I assumed. THEN the problem with not being able to pee started and that’s when I thought “ohhhhhh no”. And to this day, every month I say “hmmm, period or UTI?” Btw it’s always a period since them.

[@SjofnBM1989]

Last time I was this early Michelle still didn't know she was pregnant.

[@StarrySkies1995]

I’ve watched a this series for a while now and thought that this is so rare and never really happens until I was in the hospital one day visiting a friend and while I was in the bathroom, a lady rushed in and started screaming bloody murder. When I asked her if I she needed me to call for help, she opened the door and there was a baby swinging from between her legs....I went to go get help and later heard from the security officers that she didn’t know she was pregnant and just thought she had to poop really badly 🤣

[@freshsmile7569]

My mum was born like that.. although my grandmother knew she was pregnant..but shs didn't knew it was a labour pain..& back in those days people didn't really went to hospital for pregnancy and delivery..so yeah that's how my mother was born.. (my sis & i laugh at this story till date..😆)

[@LostJedi26]

OMG. That would be scary! And mind-boggling. Wow!

[@BatsonicAbie]

“If you’re not sure, take a pregnancy test.” 100% yes. Had a pregnancy scare a few months ago, which I’m not sure you can call it a scare cause my fiancé and I would be happy either way. My fiancé and I had recently become sexually active, using protection. But I noticed my period was a few weeks late, so I took a test, which turned out to be negative, and I did get my period again shortly after. If you have any concern that you might be pregnant, just take a test.

[@samcole3795]

You should do a video about the woman who didn't know she was pregnant and gave birth on a plane in the way to Hawaii

[@siewitnessnews]

Yes!

[@Mac_an_Mheiriceanaigh]

didn't she already? isn't that the one that was drinking a lot while pregnant?

[@siewitnessnews]

@@Mac_an_Mheiriceanaigh No, this just happened a couple of weeks ago. It's gotten considerable news coverage, but this wasn't covered on any t.v. shows.

[@tanisha9732]

6

[@reptilianstudios8994]

And I will never stop laughing at that corny joke, every time one of these is posted during my period

[@aislinncurran146]

Yeah me too

[@pien9257]

Well at least you know you aren't pregnant

[@motylekmotylek4662]

Betther than in PMS looking like starting pregnancy 😂

[@CheeseISlikeFEET]

I really like your point about better education helping friends and family be less scared about birth. I really think having siblings born in my teens and my mum being very open and informative about the whole process means I am more comfortable and informed about the prospect of giving birth than a lot of my friends.

[@DinocoSparrow]

I agree. I couldn't believe how much I didn't know about labour until I was pregnant and read The Positive Birth Book. Why had everyone let me feel so scared of it all my life??

[@Melisa0318]

I would just like to say thank you for saying it’s ok to be reserved when you first see your baby. I felt horrible after giving birth to my son because I didn’t immediately cry tears of joy like everyone talks about. I love my son more than anything, but in that moment I felt like the worst mom.

[@RamiresHelena]

My mom always says that she didn’t feel an immediate connection when my brother and I were born. She says that later, as we started showing our personalities was when she really felt it

[@katiehensley290]

I love the mom's face when she explains how the heat of the moment got the best of them! Lol!

[@ceilinh6004]

Again, thank you for talking about breastfeeding during pregnancy! I breastfed my first baby all the way through pregnancy #2.

[@MrsYukke]

I also brestfed my firstborn during the second pregnancy, but the milk flow stopped at around 5 months into the pregnancy completely. Before, I had enough milk for my firstborn all the time and he almost didn't eat "normal" food at 20 months old. He just wasn't interested in food, but suddenly startet eating then. So I felt like it was the right time for us to wean either way.

[@boi.9936]

I wanna say that my mom was in her late 30s when she had my sister. It's not surprising to me that this woman was able to get pregnant in the first place.

[@dangelnikipm]

My mom had my younger brother at 40, a cousin's wife. Had her first child at 42. So its not surprising

[@lenaeospeixinhos]

A friend of mine had a surprise pregnancy at 44. I guess we're game until menopause is really settled and in my family that comes at about 50 so... better get with that contraception 😂

[@koretmulder6316]

Yes, I think we have confused optimal fertility age with potential fertility age. My grandmother had her last son at 44. No effort, just, you know, sex. My son-in-law was born 13 years after his closest sister, when his mom was 46. I'm only surprised when I hear about women getting pregnant when they thought they were well into menopause. And even that occasionally happens.

[@koretmulder6316]

@@lenaeospeixinhos Exactly.

[@gabbymarquez7322]

I’m so glad you brought up that fact that it takes time for some mother’s to feel that connection with their babies. When my daughter was born, I had some issues and we needed to do an emergency c section and I didn’t even get to see her or hold her they gave my husband my baby and kicked him out and I passed out. Next thing I remember is being in recovery room and looking at my husband hold our baby girl in his arms. It took about a good 3-4 months to have that connection.. and that’s okay. I couldn’t imagine my life without her.

[@Fluteperson01]

I’m here super freaking early! I almost had a I didn’t know I was pregnant moment

[@thekathrynwest]

I’d love to hear this story

[@baileighb]

@@thekathrynwest same!!

[@Fluteperson01]

So I was 12 weeks post partum with a depo shot so I thought I was super good with BC and I hadn’t had my period since before my 2nd child, but I had a weird feeling like I should take a test just in the back of my mind, and it was positive I had no symptoms and only a weird feeling, come to find out it was a missed miscarriage, I apparently was pregnant at my post partum check up and got my depo shot. And then miscarried about 6 weeks later so I was 9 weeks

[@jennicaharris9134]

You mean you have 2 children, you got pregnant shortly after the second was born, but the 3rd pregnancy miscarried? I'm sorry to hear that. But I'm glad you have your 2! I have zero, but I'm not ready for children!

[@Fluteperson01]

@@jennicaharris9134 I actually have three this was right after my 3rd like a couple of months ago

[@lisalee2206]

I take a dollar store pregnancy test every month. This show has me too stressed out lol

[@mog-gyveroneill2500]

Better than being stressed, a great idea!

[@katelyndisorbo9561]

Do the dollar store ones work?

[@lisalee2206]

@@katelyndisorbo9561 Mama Dr. Jones says they work just as good as the test that she uses in her office.

[@kitssewingkit]

Yep, they're just as accurate as more expensive ones!

[@emilyascencio8767]

@@katelyndisorbo9561 ⁰p

[@MegaMindyLou]

This little baby is now 15 years old. I love your commentary ❤️

[@casiberrier704]

Thank you SO much for highlighting the fact that sometimes a good mother doesn't feel a wave of rapturous joy after giving birth! I judged myself harshly for feeling "meh" after the birth of my first child and was ashamed to talk about it. It's my 1 piece of advice I offer to expectant moms. It's okay if you need time!

[@Christine_990]

I told my husband some people didn't know they were pregnant like 2 weeks ago & he genuinely just "HOW 😳!" Hah. Which after seeing how awful my pregnancy was I can understand hah. I found at 3 weeks cause I started nonstop vomiting very early on 🙃🙃 hah. Told him I'm gonna end up makin him watch a few of your reaction vids

[@Christine_990]

Ooo!! NEW MERCH, I am vaccinated so I may just have to buy that shirt or hoodie!

[@Annie_Annie__]

I had hyperemesis and was nauseated at 3 weeks and puking at 5 and didn’t stop until 36 weeks when they had to do a c-section because I couldn’t keep *anything* down, even with IV meds, and the baby was losing weight in utero. My husband was shocked at the idea that someone could not know they were pregnant too, lol. Sometimes I think he was more traumatized by the pregnancy than I was. It’s hard to stand by helpless and watch someone you love go through hell. At least I had Phenergan to knock me out some of the time.

[@lenawagenfuehr53]

@@Christine_990 I am just waiting for Tucker Carlson types to scream about pro-vaccine onesies 🙄 He'd probably call child protective services too...

[@Melissa-wx4lu]

I had 0 morning sickness. In fact I was much further along in my pregnancy than I thought because of the lack of symptoms. I went in for my 10 week check up and the Dr. was like..."No...you're not ten weeks, unless there's two babies in there." turns out I was almost 20 weeks.

[@maoui5304]

MDJ : I think this is a really good cry for "we need better sex... Me : amen sister 🙌 MDJ : ... and physiology education" ... ... ... Me : Oh. Right. That too.

[@AndiniKissesGoodbye]

in a perfect world, we would have all three 🙏

[@irishuisman1450]

@@AndiniKissesGoodbye ...three?

[@voidsvoidsvoids8488]

@@irishuisman1450 better sex, physiology and education. Lol

[@irishuisman1450]

@@voidsvoidsvoids8488 I mean I'm not gonna disagree that we need better physiology, but I feel like those last two words were supposed to be one thing xD

[@carinakamangoesmael7669]

@@irishuisman1450 better sex, better sex education, better physiology education lol 😂

[@saje239]

"You do the best you can until you know better and when you know better you do better." - Maya Angelou That quote has guided my life since I first heard it 12 years ago.

[@carolmclean8535]

You are so warm and personable. You’re educating so many people

[@itssteph263]

Thanks to Dr. Jones I now take a pregnancy test every single time if I'm even a few days late for my period lol.

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

The rule of thumb is to wait until you're at least a week late :)

[@r.m.demeester9535]

@@RedRoseSeptember22 There is no way I could wait until I was a week late.

[@nyssac2914]

@@RedRoseSeptember22 May I ask, why is that? The ones I’ve seen are all 99% accurate if taken on the day your period is due. And I would think if your period is a week late (and you’re normally regular), you should probably see a doctor, pregnant or not.

[@NellFace]

@@nyssac2914 that rule of thumb is based on a margin of error for most people. Maybe you're 2 days late, maybe 4. Wait until it's 7 days and you're FOR SURE late. Of course some people have super awesome predictable periods and always know the exact date they'll start. (Not me!) So it depends. I wait weeks and then pay for the early detection tests. Lol. I am that unsure about my cycle.

[@rxbiluhvrp]

I didn’t get my period last November until like the 22nd. Now I had some questions there..

[@emmamehegan51]

I love these so much, all the drama of reality TV but with actual educational value

[@AsjJohnson127]

It's very pleasing when I spend a couple days clicking on recommended videos of your reviews, and then come across a brand new one.

[@improv6132]

Thank you for doing this channel MDJ, your empathy and insight are a breath of fresh air on the internet. I know it has to be a good bit of work on top of your already hectic job, so thank you for taking the time!

[@VikingHorseCreations]

I feel like here in Germany we have relatively good sex ed. I was already fully educated about birth, sex and pregnancy as a 3rd grader. As 5th grader I knew everything about using protection correctly. The only thing we never really went through in school was the menstrual cycle. But still I'm learning a lot new things here

[@lenawagenfuehr53]

Echt? I always thought we were much better in Germany...for a start, we call menopause Wechseljahre (Change years) which is a much better description of what happens, and also prepares you for a journey rather than just a fantastical overnight change.

[@sovietspy1792]

You didn’t do menstrual cycle ? I had this taught to me in 3. grade... which was good, cause I started my period quite early in 4. grade 😂😂😂 But considering all the stuff I learned about US SexEd... holy carp, we got so much better Sex Ed in Germany

[@VikingHorseCreations]

@@sovietspy1792 nope, the teacher was a trainee teacher and obviously felt uncomfortable going through this topic with a bunch of hormonal teenagers so we rushed through it. She basically said "Girls bleed once a month when not pregnant. Lesson end" Had to educate myself then. Primary school did the better job there

[@sarahgallucci8550]

At the school I went in Canada, we were not taught about Sex until age 12 (before that I was taught by my parents ). The school was acting scared or awkward teaching us about sex. Thankfully I became fully educated but school systems should really make it a priority when they feel the children they are teaching are of appropriate age to teach young boys and girls about sex. It’s a pretty important subject.

[@alainaatk.6210]

I personally would not consider that anywhere close to age-appropriate for my child.

[@lexie4713]

OMG IM FIRST!! love you! i look up to you and want to become an amazing OBGYN just like you!! my mom always tells me i can’t be an OBGYN if i want to have a family and you inspire me to do what i want!

[@user_1548]

Don’t listen to her I’m sure you will be a great obgyn in the future!

[@unapologeticallyamy9031]

It can be tough to balance work and family but there are millions and millions of women who do it everyday. What’s important is you do what your gut tells you to do regardless of the plans you’ve made. Some moms think they will be happiest when they stay at home but they change their mind. That’s okay! Some women think they’ll be happiest once they get back to work and they change their minds. That’s okay too! It might be easiest to get through medical school and have a few years working before having children but guess what?! They get pregnant during school and they do just fine. Your mom has very old school ideas because back when she was young women didn’t realize how strong they and that can have it all. Just do what your heart and gut tells you to do and everything will work out.

[@lexie4713]

@@user_1548 my mom is an amazing mother and role model and would never tell me o can’t do something . she’s just worried and wants me to make sure that it’s really what i want to do! i don’t want this comment to be misunderstood but thank you!

[@user_1548]

@@lexie4713 that’s great! Wishing you best of luck!

[@aishaavazova7559]

her nods are so comforting omg😭💗

[@justapuffin7303]

I think this whole family is so adorable, they seem so loving to each other and it warms my heart ❤️

[@flowerbed.nursery5922]

I just wanna say, I have wanted to become a medical professional since I was three, and it's changed over the years but because of you and Dr. Mike I'm thinking of becoming a family doctor or a gynecologist! Love your videos as well!

[@melissacoviello2886]

All I could think of was head, shoulders, knees and toes and the “Dem Bones” song, the foot bone is connected to the tow bone, etc when you were explaining that the bladder is connected to the urethra etc... 😂

[@jennyupabove]

Omg me too 😂

[@justbek8318]

You reusing that joke is the best time of month, much better than that other time of month

[@elijah-jamesmac2039]

This is the first of your videos I’ve seen, and I love it. I always watch this show wondering how things were mistaken, so great to have a doctor explaining all of my questions

[@Fluteperson01]

Also Momma Doctor Jones! Can we get a nurse pack with the vaccinated cause science? I’m a ICU veterinary Technician and I would love this.

[@slee7863]

I constantly get patients that didn't know they were pregnant from teens to older patients and LOTS of pre op patients. So yeah... Not uncommon for my hospital unfortunately

[@zenquartz3537]

"better than that other time of month" Literally never stop please 🤣

[@5foot2eyesofblue13]

Thanks for talking about how not everyone has a starry-eyed moment when they first give birth. I didn't and my ex made me feel like I was the worst mom in the planet. I was 17 years old and never wanted kids in the first place it took a lot of time for me to get over the post-partum depression as well because I didn't know it was a thing. No one told me when I was pregnant that I could have depression.

[@HyenaBellaDanceNSing]

Hi MDJ! I just graduated EMT school, im about to sign up for my national exam, and go into paramedic school in the fall. We were told that OB and Pedis are big on the exam. I remember one of these videos you were impressed with the EMS provider's actions and I was wondering if you could make a video on what you think would be best for EMS providers to know and do for pregnancy and delivery in the back of a rescue (or the patients house) Thank you!

[@ll44ll44ll]

😳 being pregnant is scary to me 😂 I do want a baby but being pregnant and giving birth is what I fear

[@7ab3tha]

Yea the whole coming out part. No thanks.

[@taylorswf23]

It’s scary but manageable and so worth it 🥰

[@emmaauty2922]

Just think of how many women have done it in history. And the done it again! That helped me. I had a lovely birth with my first and pregnant again. Although I don’t like being pregnant, lots of women enjoy their pregnancies and in the whole of my life, pregnancy and labour especially make up such a small part of my time on earth!

[@melissablackwood]

Or you could adopt. Plenty of children need good loving homes. Whatever works best for you.

[@m_d1905]

It's typically not as bad as you think. Once it's over the whole thing fades rapidly. It's very understandable to be afraid of something that is still "hidden" in our society.

[@hvylz]

I love that you always give proper bedside manner, thank you for that. It makes me so happy that our future nurses have people to advise them properly

[@glencoco3142]

You are really knowledgeable but also so kind. I wish more doctors were as kind as you are.

[@AnnaAnna428]

“If you don’t like learning about pregnancy and gynecology, I don’t know why you’re here. But don’t bother subscribing because that’s what we talk about.” You better go ahead, Mama Doctor Jones! Show them the door. No need for their nasty comments on something they’re not interested in. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@irishuisman1450]

3:49 "I think I've seen this question before in one of these episodes" You have, I watched that video yesterday xD

[@mariekastler5391]

MDJ, so much information, no judgement!!! So glad to have found your channel!

[@rams620]

I love your phrase "we do the best that we can with the information we have"

[@peachxtaehyung]

I LOVE the onesie graphic on it! So true! Polio is SO much worse than autism or grumpiness after a vaccine etc. And much more fatal too same with measles etc

[@mackinzielizabeth872]

loving the new merch 🙌🏻

[@Michellee970]

You are amazing, Doc! This being the first video I've seen of yours, you have already provided a ton of information and knowledge. When my sister was pregnant with her first son, I was a wreck. I was terrified every single day that I was going to lose her. The morning that I arrived at the hospital after she gave birth the previous night, I wept in pure joy that she, and my new nephew, had survived. Ten years later, I am STILL SO SCARED of having children.

[@zaza7594]

I'm not new to this channel but after the intro I had to check if the speed setting were on x1.25 or something ! Turns out it's just MDJ high on enthusiasm ;)

[@lehlomelakhumalo7535]

I was almost a "I didn't know I was pregnant" person. I found out I was pregnant literally yesterday at 28 weeks

[@brendablevins6859]

Was it a wanted pregnancy?

[@nono-gw7qm]

I’m 99% sure they had the same question last time

[@shadowdragon6170]

I really love the fact you go these videos it helped me catch my pregnancy that a store bought pregnancy test turned negative I went to my doctor and asked her to do a blood test and I couldn’t be more excited to know I’m going to be a mom

[@Maddie-kx6et]

I literally appreciate you so much! Your videos make my day! You seem like such an intelligent and kind soul! :)

[@zenaharding581]

Your "didnt know I was pregnant" reaction videos were the only reason I found out I was pregnant prior to my miscarriage. Symptoms were the exact same as my period, I have pcos with irregular periods, and had been told I wouldn't get pregnant naturally. Thank god for cheap pee tests I can take once a week

[@hollymackay4002]

My kid wears a Fanny pack to school everyday to hold her face masks. I so want to send her to school with this!!

[@RealPumpkinJay]

Why didn’t I find this channel before I started my OB class at the beginning of the term? 😆 I love it!

[@sarascute4life]

I absolutely appreciate you. I’ve had three babies and my first was a breeze at 19yrs old. My second was at 24yrs old and I had diabetes and delivered at 34 weeks. My third went at 37 weeks but was sideways and had an emergency c section. I was so uninformed about the risks of my baby and myself, and after watching your videos, I cried because I had no idea. Please keep doing these videos so more moms can be informed about the unexpected at the hospital.

[@morsh1130]

You should react to the episode "From Heartbeat to Heart Attack" in the future. It's one of my favorites because it shows a family with adopted and biological children.