r/AmiTheA**Hole For Calling Out A Cheating Home-Wrecker?

[@earlinejackson8151]

What the hell is it with parents that think if their kid works, earns money, saves a good portion and purchases something with some of it, that they should be forced to share the purchase with siblings

[@AcousticGString]

My mom and dad would have NEVER done that. Whenever we bought anything, even gifts, it was OURS only, we didn't have to share if we didn't want too. That is just the way it was and we respected it, it made us better people in my opinion, we are not entitled. I think parent's who do that instill this idea in their kid's that everyone else's stuff is theirs too, which it's not. I know people who do this and their kid's are little monster's that cannot accept being told no. It's a recipe for disaster...you have to tell your kid's no and anything they buy is theirs unless they choose to share.

[@heartears]

Based on the OP's post and responses, I think they're a close knit family and mom is afraid that kid would close off the family and lock himself up in his room playing games. Not saying the mom was right, I just see where she's coming from. Mom seems like a good person and very reasonable and listened to OP after he voiced out his concerns.

[@pollypockets508]

Terrible parent. They are definitely the a-holes

[@daphnietudor2953]

I am a parent and if my child works for it its theirs and if they choose to share thats on them. I am not going to force that

[@paden1865able]

My parents had the correct idea that if one of us earned or were gifted money, what we bought with it belonged solely to us.

[@missvoorhees7964]

I've been the "other woman" to guys in relationships or marriages a lot and all without knowing,as soon as I've found out I've either told the woman or just cut ties with the man. I refuse to allow another woman to go through with the pain

[@jay-sansings5024]

I need to say it. You deserve love. Because what you did was amazing, and honestly I'm sorry about being "the other girl" in any relationship, and you would do a good thing and I was wondering if I could send you a virtual hug?

[@CalamityM]

51:34 I'm I the only one that thought it was adorable that one of his motivations to buy a Switch was so that he could co-play with his grandma? How freakin wholesome is that! ^-^

[@jay-sansings5024]

It is wholesome T^T

[@levygaming3133]

My only question is how exactly did they manage to break a Wii and it’s controllers, much less 4 Wii’s? I mean this is Nintendo we’re talking about, everything they sell is built to take as much abuse as you can give it.

[@tegantalks9612]

@@levygaming3133 right?! My son shoved money in the game slot and dumped juice in the Nintendo 64 and my boyfriend was able to open up the system and fix it so it ran like new. We also have a switch that we let our kids play.

[@BankruptMonkey]

Poor little Colette. Calling someone a name they hate is normally called bullying. That's a terrible grandma. You should not regularly expose your children to adults who bully them- if it's a one off thing kids can sometimes stand up against a peer bullying, but an adult who wields power over them? Protect your kids from bullying adults.

[@johnschroeder163]

Absolutely. Unwanted nicknames are disrespectful and insulting. I am a grown man and I have been in a workplace situation where some wisenhiemer started calling me by a nickname. In a non confrontational way I told them that is not my name please call me (my name). After the second time I told them say that again and you and I will continue this conversation in the parking lot. Good for OP telling the daughter to stand up for herself. If Grandma is so offended that she wants to go no contact, then I see a win-win here - Granny gets to keep her toxic ego intact, and you get to sever a tie that down the road would only get worse.

[@immortalsofar5314]

I would give kids (and pets) in our group nicknames but nice ones. If they ever asked me to call them something else, no problem. It only happened once and lasted all of 5 minutes before Sushi asked me to go back to calling her Sushi but there was absolutely no problem. As for the language, apologise for saying "fuck" and that she was behaving like a brat, showing less maturity than a 5-year-old and behaving like a total entitled b*tch. Oh, did I manage to keep that last bit in? Well that's alright then, forget I said anything. Yes, IATA, at least when the situation calls for it!

[@mellvee]

Any person who would knowingly enter into an affair with another married person is despicable. I don't care if it's a guy or a girl. Cheating is one of the most cowardly and low things a person can do and those who practice it are filth. I've been married for 21 years, and I'd divorce my husband before sleeping eith someone else, no matter what problem we were having with our marriage. There's no excuse. The cheaters are even worse because they're the ones that were married and chose to be sneaky and cheat. There's never a reason to cheat. Leave your partner if you absolutely must sleep with someone else.

[@emilyfouquettehoffman7886]

Please take this as a compliment when I say you look in no way old enough to have been married for 21 years!

[@hmms5256]

Totally agree with you on that!

[@hmms5256]

@Sir Lynchalot You specifically go for married women or they're just in the mix of your conquests (love you username 😂)

[@hmms5256]

@Sir Lynchalot Not a complete d*hole then 😂 Definitely disappointed in those women for being so easy even if they 'feel lonely/ignored/invisible'. That's what adult toys are for! Or a councillor.

[@hmms5256]

@Sir Lynchalot That's more than I have in my bank account!

[@stevelemur6113]

She had no business putting your private medical history, or for that matter any body's private information on a BLOG. It was nobody else's business. She was gossiping! No better name for it. You are totally in the right and she is horribly ungrateful.

[@bonniegomez5333]

That brother story is so so so sweet. I could tell he wa shut genuinely concerned about his brothers mental state and props to him for knowing a little of the mental torture that goes along with things like that. He could not have handled that better. Love it.

[@KennyTew2]

If she’s justifying cheating I’d be careful, she sounds like she thinks it’s ok. Get out.

[@pollypockets508]

I couldn't agree more.

[@2Blessed]

The one about the kid wanting to buy a Switch just burns me up - I grew up in a family of 8 children. Our parents taught us to share when it's appropriate, but we were always allowed to have our own possessions, as that also taught us about respecting another's property and having to ask for permission to use it and also accept it if they refused. These are all parts of life, and the attitude of "Everything belongs to everybody" is very damaging, in my opinion. People need to know how to say No, and how to handle it when someone says No to them.

[@Ekitchi0]

I don't understand people using blogs as private diaries. If used as diary, it's a *public* diary, not private. It's the same as publishing your diary in a newspaper or magazine and then being surprised or offended that people you know read it...

[@damien678]

It's a generational thing, honestly. I'm amongst the oldest of gen Z (I was a toddler in 2000), and while I grew up having a diary, the internet became the place I felt most comfortable writing on in general, and electronics is my preferred method of communication. So it just... kinda becomes a thing to have blogs and personal social medias be your place to vent. There's a level of disconnect with the internet, and a lot of people everywhere on here can forget how many real people are typing, and reading. And it can just feel good - and even productive - to make posts. So people feel encouraged to do that, especially when you get feedback even JUST in the form of likes, and support from people not in their personal lives. I don't have personal blogs anymore in general (twitter kicked my ass way too much after years of enjoying having blogs and profiles) and it is honestly so much better to not have all the drama involved in a vent blog/profile. But it became such a comfort in my teens I was doing it well into my 20s

[@damien678]

Oh god, I just got to the story and OH BOY that's a step too far. jfc. there's a difference between a vent blog and... and posting family drama and details for attention 😩

[@Ekitchi0]

I understand the appeal of blogging but no matter why you do it, you have to understand that it's public, ot private.

[@damien678]

@@Ekitchi0 Of course. I was just trying to explain why people do this, and can feel like it's more private than it actually is

[@GabrielBadwolf]

I’m a trans man, when I first told my brother that he was ‘yes I figured that out years ago, now what alignment do you want your DND character to be (chaos neutral BTW)’ best bro ever

[@dancingchaos168]

chaotic* ( sorry )

[@damien678]

@@dancingchaos168 honestly I like the sound of CHAOS more lol

[@damien678]

🤝 im also a trans dude, hope your transition (whether medical or just social) is going well

[@hekatsees9449]

I don’t know either one of you, obviously. Your brother sounds awesome and the fact that you appreciate him is cool too…

[@shilokellum7370]

Trans masc nb here, best reaction 10000/10 flawless execution

[@cryschanel32]

The story with the brothers had me crying like a baby! I love it so so so much. Ally is a verb, and OP demonstrated that in the most beautiful way 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🖤🖤

[@camwyn256]

I used to be an escort myself and I’m fairly open about it. It’s not illegal where I live, but sex work is still pretty stigmatized. The only reason it’s not illegal where I live because it’s never been a problem. We don’t stand on street corners or anything like that, so no laws have been passed about it. Fun fact, where I live, it’s illegal to marry a chicken.

[@crow_face_1251]

I figured it was illegal to marry a chicken everywhere but I guess not

[@dancingchaos168]

makes you question why marrying a chicken is illegal but sex work isn't or at least gov't regulated lol

[@damien678]

@@dancingchaos168 because sex work isn't inherently bad, won't just go away if you ban it, and making it illegal actively makes it MORE DIFFICULT to handle human trafficking because the sex workers that find out about it can't go to the police to report it without putting themselves at risk

[@alana.dyer.author]

A friend of mine is a dominatrix and makes good money dominating men...like if I had a body like her I'd probably do it too for the $5K a week pay she makes!! And she runs her own business for it tooo!!!!

[@vanguardangel6912]

Isn’t sex work one of the oldest professions on earth? No judgement from me! Just be safe and make sure you’re happy! 💕 you’re worth it!

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Her overlooking the fact that her best friend is having an affair with a married man, unprotected no less, is a huge red flag. She obviously thinks it's ok. I would definitely have a long talk with her about the boundaries in your relationship and what is and isn't ok to do within it. Sounds like both of you might have different ideas on what that is.

[@Musical_Pigeon]

It's often a tradition to save the top tier of the cake and freeze it for the first anniversary.

[@TheGenericIndianGirl]

A person who knowingly enters in a relationship with a married/committed person is as bad as the cheater. And anyone who enables or help hide such people are as bad as them too.

[@Krashwire]

Agreed, cheating or helping another cheat is one of the worst things you can do to another person.

[@midnightserenity9797]

Okay, so on the first one, I'm settled on NTA. I've recently turned 18, and, I admit, if I found out that my parents had been tracking my internet activity, I would have been mortified and probably would have found it hard to trust them again. But, he was looking out for his son's safety. I let my parents know what my passwords were, and my mother scolded me for using foul language (I have horrible language when I'm not around my parents, but I'm not ashamed of it), but they never just went through my things. Almost all of my electronics had passwords, and if my parents needed to be on them, they faced the screen away from themselves and let me type the password in. I used to have this shitty little purple HP laptop, and one day it just shut off and refused to turn back on. I begged my dad to fix it for me, and he agreed. He accidentally cracked the bottom to get to the motherboard, but he fixed my laptop, and he had me type my password in when he wanted to test to see that the computer was working properly. He even handed me a wireless mouse when he gave my computer back to me, and told me "Take this, you're going to need it." When I asked him why, he just shrugged and said nonchalantly "Mousepad grip tape caught on fire." And walked back into his room with no explanation. When it came up in later conversation, he explained that it just randomly started sparking when he was working on it, but it was nothing that he did, and I know that. My parents stopped asking to monitor my phone when I got my first touchpad phone, which was an old one of my mother's. They did take my electronics as punishments, but they never went through them. But as I get older, I realize how much my parents did to take care of me. I was always much better behaved than my older sister, but I did get all of the "bad teenager shit" out of my system early. I pierced my cartilage at 14 years old, I drank alcohol, I smoked cigarettes from the time I was 14 up until I was 16, I smoked weed once or twice, and I ran around with a bad crowd. My parents scolded me, and I did get grounded for a day because I blatantly lied about smoking to my mom's face, but I never got in much trouble. My mom just asked me not to betray her trust again, and to tell her the truth if she asks. No, I never slept around with anybody, and most people are surprised that I haven't slept with anyone yet. My parents did worry and kind of hound me for a couple years because I struggled with pretty severe self-harm, and I grew addicted to it, and our relationship was strained because of the mental state I was in. I managed to drag myself out of that headspace without any help or therapy, and I've been clean for over a year and don't feel like a danger to myself anymore. I did move out before I turned 18, but it was just next door with my great-grandmother to help her take care of her dog, then my niece and nephew when she fostered them (whole other situation), and then she had a brain-swelling incident over Christmas 2019 that led to me staying, and I'm still with her. My relationship with my parents is great, now, and I love going over and visiting with them. I got a kind of matching tattoo with my mom that involves roses and a ruby crystal heart, but mine is in full color, and my dad threatened to get in a vape war with me when my sister lent me her vape for the night. I've had cousins tell me to stop arguing with my dad, saying it was disrespectful of me, but my dad just laughed and said "Arguing? What the hell do you mean? This is how we bond, kid!" I appreciate my parents giving me the privacy and space I needed when I was younger. They trusted me not to sleep around when my at-the-time boyfriend came over while I was home alone after my great-grandmother went to the hospital via ambulance, and I appreciate them not going through my electronics. I can talk to them about pretty much anything, and our relationship has gotten to be the strongest its ever been since I moved out of their house. When I was still a minor, my mom would scold me for going places without her consent, but now she just looks at me and says "You're a legal adult now and I can't stop you, but please don't make stupid decisions, and for the love of God, just be safe," and I couldn't love her more for that.

[@Myknight723]

Who the hell has a baby but doesn’t want to live in the same home as the child. Not only that but drops it on their family! That’s insane in itself!

[@melissaisloud7404]

Keyboard Keylogger: NTA. You were a single dad who had a kid who’s mom passed away. You needed to monitor your child’s mental and physical health. That includes the internet life. That’s very good parenting.

[@northernexe880]

Honestly I'm all for it you hear all the time of children being groomed online. I plan to do with my daughter when she old enough to be left alone on a computer and possible phone until she reaches 16. Can't be too careful

[@carterpitbull7366]

No because clearly none of these redditors have kids. When I was little SOOOO many pedophiles on Omegle, Skype, AOL, and many other websites used to message me/send dick pics/etc

[@klcampy]

Happy to hear OP forgave his brother. We all make mistakes, some much bigger than others, but forgiveness helps both parties in the long run.

[@violetreichert6470]

people comparing internet use to a diary are stupid. i was groomed online and i WISH my mom wouldve supervised me online. Children are not mature enough to handle a piece of equipment with the ability to access any person or information, hell, most adults arent. it is completely fine to monitor a 12 year olds internet usage. its for their safety entirely.

[@TR-hy9pn]

I'm sorry you were groomed on the internet. That really sucks, and I hope you were able to move past it safely. Best wishes!

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Agreed. Its hard because things have changed so fast. I still think it’s probably better to have frequent safety talks with your children and when my son got an iPad for school at around 10 he knew we could check it at any time and he used it in public spaces. I would ask/tell him I wanted to check it not sneak around. Now he is getting older, nearly 15 we respect his privacy but would request a check if I was concerned. We have always been honest and open with him and he still likes to chat to his mum. At some point you have to trust them.

[@michellemorgan3667]

Omg if you are *that* entitled so early in your pregnancy I feel really sorry for everyone around you. You are 19 weeks pregnant sheesh!

[@bookapillar]

Right? She's gonna become a monster!

[@demyagant8938]

So OP's gf, friend is a home wrecker. and yet is so naive that they are trying to look for the wife out of revenge. And she ask for your opinion which made no sense when she flip out on u. if ur gf can cover up for her cheating friend knowing what she is. who for say her friend want do the same if she cheats on you total major red flags you should leave her.

[@pollypockets508]

She kept asking him what he thought. She shouldn't be mad. He should break up with her not for being friends with a homewrecker but because she got upset when OP told her the truth. If a couple can't communicate openly and honestly, then maybe they shouldn't be together.

[@paden1865able]

Why go for revenge on the innocent wife for sadly being married to the sleazy man who knocked the little harridan up? Hope the wife finds out and dumps him hard.

[@Krashwire]

Yup red flags galore. Run for the hills, the GF is just as bad a person as the homewrecking scumbag friend. There is no excuse for knowingly being a homewrecker, ever.

[@nyb3672]

In that kind of situation a person should tell their sibling they knows - but, he should do it in a way that says I saw this message, be more careful about signing out b/c of the parents, and I’m here for you

[@florian8599]

50:20 "Contact them after every client" sounds like someone who wants to know they're okay to me...

[@pollypockets508]

I work at a school. Each school should have a list of people that are allowed to pick up their child. It's called an "Authorized Pick Up" list.

[@MadameMushroom]

The keylogger dad NTA, listen when I was 16 I almost ran away with someone who I considered as a friend the only reason why I didn't was because they backed out. It's very important to educate kids on internet safety and keeping an eye on them. Stranger danger applies to the internet too. Thank you for trying to keep that kiddo safe.

[@DanJoymonger]

Thank you, it seems to me that the people against this action would be teenagers, much like the niece. I respect the man for installing but never having to use it.

[@MadameMushroom]

@@DanJoymonger Exactly, it's only their if the worst case scenario ever happens. It's not he's snooping every day.

[@DanJoymonger]

My wife agrees with both of us. I figured that the people who called him the ahole are probably teenagers themselves or people who don't have kids of their own. Edit: I missed one, parents whom try to be cool to their kids, by letting them do whatever they want.

[@dontlookbehind1385]

@@DanJoymonger and then they wander why their kids started doing drugs and got pregnant at 16 🙄🙄🙄

[@ajarfullofjoy]

I had a paper route as a kid and saved up to buy my own laptop at 14. I am the first to admit i should not have had so much freedom at that age. Luckily for me, not long after my mom became a rape crisis couselor (she was amazing and pretty badass) and put the fear of god in me about internet saftey and i shaped up pretty quick without her checking up on me. I've also, however had my mom read emails and texts not for her. She never felt bad about it (once when i was 18 and another when i was 24). Invasion of privacy is a pretty deep betrayal. Id say ESH. He is trying to protect his son, but he should tell the son so he has the keylogger.

[@sandyr-w6906]

42:05 IMHO she should tell him. If ot comes out that she worked at the oldest profession AFTER they were married, he might feel betrayed at not being able to make an informed decision at the beginning,

[@hmms5256]

NTA for dad, it's a good safety move for parents to use. NTA for dude with girlfriend because her friend KNEW the guy was married.

[@barbarastorball2117]

Exactly I have no sympathy for the pregnant friend, did she expecting man who was cheating on his wife to step up and be a man. If she had not been told he was married prior to seeing him that I'd have sympathy but she knew from the beginning. That alone should have been a red flag that if you get pregnant he's gone. And the fact that op's girlfriend gets upset when he says what did you expect, it's almost like being told I told you so. But in this case the girlfriend needed to hear it, her friend was playing with fire. Also the fact that he offered to pay for an abortion tells you what he really wanted to do with that child, what's that friend said I wanted to keep it he was going to go regardless.

[@nunyabisnass1141]

It may be good saftey wise, but in most caeses completely unnecessary. They already had a standing agreement on transparency, so the keylogger was just an extension of that agreement within the same field. The neice doesn't see how the diary analogy is a bad one, because she believes privacy is absolute, yet i doubt she practices that and probably makes excuses for when she violates someone elses privacy or trust.

[@hmms5256]

​@@nunyabisnass1141 The niece was eavesdropping on a conversation as well however he was getting a new computer so I don't think it's necessary.

[@nunyabisnass1141]

HMMS I'll admit i was confused by that part because where someone is in the room, placing, setting, tone, and expression are all cues i use to gauge whether I'm privy to the conversation or not, while others feel that anything they passively experience is their business to interject upon. Some just know when something is or is not open information, while others just have no concept of privacy at all. So I'm i wasmt wrong lol.

[@Ladywizard]

@@barbarastorball2117 Got worse in the comments... seems his gf was trying to hunt down the cheater's wife to ruin HER life

[@angeliqueSeidlitz2388]

Love the "im the man in the floral shirt to haunt your nightmares." lol

[@fatevandamne5202]

I got my mom hooked on you. XD We watch these long episodes together.

[@williamdawson6351]

In the first story the internet spies enough the key logger does make that much difference your cell phone knows every thing you do on it and online shopping stores also keep track.

[@rosesinamber]

Markee slowly submerging himself in creepy camera eye contact bit

[@Chel-est]

When it comes to your past, it's always a great thing to share with a partner. Doesn't have to be detailed but it's good to gauge not just their ideals but how they really feel about you as a person. If it changes their opinion on you, then they weren't the right person. It will hurt but better in the long run to have someone who loves you despite your past. I still remember an ex both coming out as pan, and that he loved working in the physical arts. It didn't make him any less of a person and I still loved him for him, while he found it incredibly easy to tell the people who genuinely cared for him and those that didn't.

[@stephadoodledoo]

Holy crap, I really wanna know what else followed the wedding cake story

[@googleincognito962]

Day two of asking Markie to make a podcast: Please make a podcast!! More platforms = more people and more views!!

[@asherael]

He didn't just eat 80% of a cake, he ate ALL the remaining cake

[@dancingchaos168]

which was 80%

[@ChasehaWing]

Nah man. It's 100% of the remaining cake.

[@Dragonmaster0118]

I would be ending therelationship if I were the guy in the first story. Cheaters are one of my biggest ptpeeves and the fact she is defending a cheate would be a major red flag to me.

[@wyvern723]

I worked in a warehouse until I was 37 weeks pregnant. By 34 weeks, I was having issues with getting out of breath (that's normal, baby puts pressure on the lungs) and I had to pee every hour. Hell, I drove myself to the hospital when it was time. Do not send a 17 year old for pizza at 3 freaking am.

[@rodrigosoto5035]

The People: I would be mortified if someone saw my online search. The Government: Hahahahahaha, if you knew what we have seen.

[@janoahlee7499]

As someone who wanted to graduate early and was denied because of “social” development. I resent my parents and did worse my senior year because I hated being there more. My grades junior were much better than senior year. I still resent my parents for it because it was more about them than it was about me. I am in my mid 30s, now with my own kids and vowed not to make my kid’s futures about me because I have already lived my life. *my parents were social butterflies and I was a wallflower. They thought I would just grow into a super social popular girl like they were. My parents died unexpectedly less than 3yrs later and that was one of the reasons I wasn’t talking to them at the time. I felt like I was being controlled. I enjoyed college and I still had my friends. I just could’ve started a year earlier. Something to consider.

[@azurastar3223]

The dad was NTA for 'invading' his son's privacy. At the end of the day it is the parent's responsibility to care for their children, and that includes being able to know what they are doing. The internet is not child friendly or for kids, and their are kids that disappear all the time for trusting online 'friends.' As a mother with a very immature kid, my son's internet access is highly monitored. Even mature children, and 15 is still a child, slip and make mistakes.

[@toffiet3347]

Ik saying it's like reading a diary is stupid. The only way I could think that it is acceptable is if you found out your child was in danger and knew details of this danger were in the diary. A young person could be in danger on the internet and the dad knowing what's going on can help protect him is good. I would only think it was bad if he was older or it was used as control

[@summergbl8611]

Bingo. Teacher just arrested in Florida for giving 15 year old oral sex and SHE bragged about it .. not him.. even teachers aren't necessarily safe.

[@mariantopham6907]

“Man in a floral shirt, here to haunt your nightmares.” 😂😂😂😂

[@kristy6703]

I am pretty sure if anyone ever told me in real life that my boundaries should not exist for "family" I would throat punch them it irritates me so much reading it on these posts.

[@younghopeproductions485]

The brother coming out story was so sweet.

[@DaniS398]

When I was a younger teen I talked to a lot of creeps online and did not realize until I was an adult what they were doing. It makes sense to put these things on the a child's computer. At 16, the recommended age for kids to get on social anyway, I'd take it off.

[@Ally.81]

The story with dad who reported the daycare work made me remember of when my kids were in day care... i was just divorced so i informed the school and seems they had a bad encounter with another divorced couple so they made me make a list of people who could pick up my kids. I didn't include my ex MIL because she live like 500km away and i didnt think she will ever come without telling me, but of course she came and wanted to surprise the kids, only to be surprised herself as they didn't even let her see them until they got a hold of me to ask. So at first i thought OP overreacted, but her comment at the end changed my mind. She didn't know why she never came to pick up the kid and everyone else were telling her she is his mom, plus she never asked for id or to check who is allowed to pickup the kid, it could have been an aunt, but be allowed in case of emergency, i had my sister and cousin on the list. So yeah he is NTA.

[@Lugialuvr]

Oh boy the kid being pressured to share his room with a baby. That just threw me back to when my brother was like 2ish. We'd just moved to a new house and the arrangement changed from me and my little sister (I was 8, she was 6) sharing a room to her sharing with my brother. Immediately problems arose because my parents put my baby brother by the light switch, he'd turn on the lights and keep my sister up all night to the point where she would choose to go into my room and sleep in my bed to avoid it. Or not get much sleep. And this is a 2 year old and a 6 year old. Ages where they're okay with smaller spaces and don't NEED much and it still didn't work out. The sister clearly just doesn't want to deal with the baby, and is making excuses to avoid having to deal with it. Especially the sleepless nights where the baby refuses to sleep for one reason or another.

[@cerb1221]

i love the brother story, super wholesome

[@KR-fm1wn]

Reading someone’s diary where no one can target the person is different then the computer. Kids get targeted by creeps. Dad is nta

[@beccacapshaw8556]

If the day care employee simply tried to make sure she wasn’t sending a child home with a stranger making a complaint wouldn’t have been necessary. The daycare worker who then ignored multiple people telling her there was no danger, and her nasty comment when it was al over was definitely reason to make a complaint

[@demonrose7963]

My brother and I used to not be close. We used to argue and fight. It was about 7 years ago (parent death) we started getting closer. About 4 years ago, we lost out final parent. We didn’t talk for 9 months. After that time, we started talking and we are now closer than ever.

[@burntblonde2925]

Ahhh I love the brothers story! Love and acceptance 💜

[@lillithherondale1972]

oh hey i just pulled a red flag outta my ass, wanna see? my god markee i choked on my drink. i listen to these long videos even after already watching the normal ones for while i'm coloring or drawing. thanks for making my night

[@smiley4995]

I think the brother is an a-hole for the way he handled it, not due to him not forgiving his brother.

[@FormCreator]

"five dollar foot job says--" you can't just say that and keep going!! 😂

[@flowerjpotter1629]

The invasion of privacy thing... Isn't that what the niece was doing herself when she over heard the conversation ?

[@Meli22352009]

I was raised by a single Dad and had to do all of the cleaning including cleaning my Dads room and his bathroom and doing the cooking since I was 13. My Dad worked 12 hours a day to pay for the bills so it was the least I could do. I just cleaned one room a day. The kitchen on Monday (full cleaning not just dishes and wiping counters which was every meal after cooking), My bathroom and my Dads bathroom as well (took trashes out everyday and put it into the kitchen trash which my Dad took out nightly), my room on Wednesday, Dads room on Thursday, living room on Friday and I got the weekends off except for the cooking mess. So that little chores is reasonable for a 16 year old. Plus I also had a job on weekends and weekdays after school. I worked at a pizza place for 24-28 hours a week. I went to a private school so did not have to get permission from my school because they did not care lol.

[@angelablaluk410]

Forgiveness is the best thing you did for your. brother, and Ihope he learns not to be judgemental and accepts you just as you are.

[@Me-wk3ix]

The teen that bought the Switch actually seemed like a really sweet person, nicer and less entitled than I was at that age.

[@ayokahbossYT]

My dad would make my brother play my Xbox in front of me while I was grounded he would let him play on my saves and everything

[@EdsGurlMitsuki]

I'd much rather have you haunt my nightmares than some of the crazy dreams I've been having lately...

[@OneEyeShadow]

That the son isn't aware makes the keylogger WORSE.

[@sketchbook8725]

Who is cruel and crazy enough to eat someone else's cake, a wedding cake no less

[@asherael]

That older generation acts like babies because they were raised thinking an adult is just a child wrapped in scar tissue (emotional and literal). Spare the rod, spoil the child? Maybe, but I'd rather my kids be a little spoilt but actually developed, emotionally healthy adults.

[@emilyfouquettehoffman7886]

Lol but we didn’t have seatbelts back in my day and I turned out fine!

[@gawainethefirst]

How does failing to discipline your child make them developed, and emotionally healthy?

[@asherael]

@@gawainethefirst you discipline them without beating them. It's not hard even a little bit. Has that.... not even occurred to you? don't have children if you can't figure out discipline without violence.

[@summergbl8611]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ghoststudios3008]

@@asherael Little late but id like to mention this here; they specifically said "spare the rod", not discipline completely. A lot of the older generation believes that if you don't give physical punishment the kids are spoiled, so they focused on the physical punishment. Non-physical punishment isn't out of the question, so yes they could grow into a healthy adult

[@kaioken227]

Lol that key logger was already found and spoofed it. Kids are smart

[@WatchTheWorldBurn63]

Story 1: NTA. Internet has plenty of bad people, and what you dont know can hurt you. Imagine if somehow this kid was convinced to meet up with someone, and the kid set the time and place, the keylogger could possibly save the kid. Also I am sure that everyone has programs on their computers that they just forget about.

[@Buff_Helpy]

WHERE IS MY BUFF MARKEE LOVE PILLOW?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*angry flex*

[@tinydancer7426]

Regarding the daycare pick up debacle ....... when my grandchildren were in elementary/middle school/high school, the County board of education rule for child pick-up was that any and all adults (parents, grandparent, after school childcare provider) must be registered at the child's school, photograph on file, and issued a photo ID identifying their relationship to the child and approved to pickup/remove the child from the school premises ....... AND they must have the ID with them any and all times they are on the school premises picking up a child ...... and that meant if mom or dad forgot to bring their ID, the kid(s) would not be allowed to go with them ...... a technicality for high school kids (they knew who they could leave school with), but very definitely through middle school, ID's were checked and kids did not go without ID's were shown. So, the daycare worker was just trying to do her job as she understood it ...... up until the snide remark and then, all bets were off the table as far as the dad making a complaint, he was right to do so as it was not the employees job to be making any assumptions as to why one or the other of the parents does or does not pick up the children ......

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

How do people continuously and conveniently forget that when you are working from home, you are also making a mess at home. If your partner works out of the house, how is it fair for them to be gone all day working and not making a mess only to have to come home and clean YOUR mess. What?!

[@poochoes1]

My grandmother called me by my abbreviated for years as she didn't really like my first name. It never bothered me, but she started calling me by my first name, don't know why but I was fine either way. Letters seems disrespectful.

[@kristys7172]

Freezing a cake for 25 years? How would it survive. Idk if I would want to eat 25 year old frozen cake.

[@crazyt1483]

With me I wanted to be open but couldn’t break that first layer of ice so with my Permission by best friend outed me ,with a true rumour that if I needed to I could use my current story to debunk or say it was just seeing, to the rest of my friend group who we knew wouldn’t tell. after that part I was happy to open up further and slowly group by group I opened up. The key point is it was with my permission, in contained groups, and could be squashed.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Yeah so while your mother in law is busy banning a 5 year old from her house where is her son that you married? Why isn't he defending his daughter at this point?

[@Ms777Lena]

Not only am I going to monitor my daughter's online activities but I won't let her having any social media until she is 18.

[@claraborisov01]

Just because your sorry about it doesn't excuse the pain and hurt op had to go through. Apologies do not equal forgiveness.

[@robindyermarler5611]

Lmao on the comment about the dudes girlfriend calling him her tramp.. found another flag in my ass lmao I'm dead

[@hel117]

In what world are guests allowed to take whatever they want from their hosts without asking and without consideration? Wild.

[@DemonicGoddess]

the "guests" can eat and drink anything when they stay over story gave me flashbacks to high school when i hung at a friends place (rough times) and drank like 2 24 packs of soda in 3 days... due to simi anti sugar family..

[@SweetLilyofPeace]

Markee I have been binge watching your videos and I am amazed at how many aholes exist lol. Some much more serious than others. So many people with ahole families and/or partners/friends. omg.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 - YTA It’s an invasion of privacy and a breach of trust.

[@rosepuppy1984]

The nickname story reminded me of this girl who I went to middle school with. She would always refer to me by my full name which I HATE instead of my nickname! My own parents don’t even call me by my full name unless I am in trouble! That’s why I hate it so much! She’s said things like “I call you what your name is!” and “I don’t call people by their nicknames unless you’re my friend” (I should mention that I am only ok with older people (like teachers or whatever and family and people who just generally don’t know that I prefer my nickname or forget (happens sometimes) close friends to call me by my full name) and this one I somehow didn’t hear but my friend who was standing right there with me when she said it said “she said “it’s respectful to call someone by their full name!” It’s not! It’s respectful to call people by what they want to be!” I completely agree with my friend! I really didn’t like this girl and my parents suggested calling her a nickname! For example: let’s say my name was Kathryn, but I preferred to be called “Kath.” And let’s say that this girl’s name was Addison, my parents suggested that I call her “Addy.” These are obviously fake names and I honestly prefer the nickname my parents actually suggested that I call her for her actual name is perfect because of how frustrated it made me when she did that! But I will not say what it was out of respect for privacy.

[@carolgibson-wilson4354]

Forgiveness is more for for the person who forgives. Carrying around resentment just causes ugly feelings to fester and hurt you. In changing and asking for forgiveness your bro has dumped his resentments. He'll be sad but forgive both of you and get on with his life while you will stagnate.

[@toxicradiant9858]

The way you said "5dollar_footjob" without missing a beat had me cackling

[@roxannduran1561]

You are absolutely NTA, I installed “spyware” on my daughter’s computer the day she got it, it is my job to make sure my daughter is safe, she was made aware of this, and the fact that if I had any inkling of anything, I would search her room like a drug sniffing dog, I make no apologies for doing my job as her mom...I will note that I’ve never had to search her room, and I was only pinged once from her computer..some older woman in a *NSYNC chat room (???) cursing at the little girls. So, to sum up, you did your job, you are NTA 🦋

[@roxannduran1561]

I forgot to mention that spyware was removed from her, by then laptop when she turned 18 🦋

[@kristinwiebold2433]

OP NTA. The gal was knowingly having an affair with a married man. She was stupid for just going by secret names and not knowing his real information. When he said have an abortion, she shouldn't have been all shocked he bounced once she said no.

[@14thivy89]

It’s clear from some of the responses in the video people don’t listen to comprehend. They listen to/read enough of the scenario to have something to say 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@cynicalminion]

if somebody dresses the way they do for themself, they don't need you (or anyone) to "back them up", especially when you've said that YOU dress the way YOU do for different reasons. "look at me, i'm different from everybody else!" is as much attention/approval-seeking as "trying to fit in" and "conforming to expectations" NTA.

[@Musical_Pigeon]

When I got a Switch Lite, and gave my sister my old DS and Mario Kart and she was happy. She likes to try to play video games with me.

[@lucyann1573]

The stepmom one just killed me. My stepdaughter found this post and showed it to her dad so Y'ALL are tearing my family apart!!! Uh... what? Also, weekly chores are perfectly fine and asking her to do sometjinf daily like the dishes is fine but that was too much AND she was doing it out of spite. No thank you, stepmonster.

[@dawnelayos3785]

This video seems familiar

[@TheFlamingoBird]

Send the wolves 🐺

[@lindsey683]

Its the floral shirt

[@PrettiMissJae]

I'm confused with the girl in the last one. If she's confident that she only dresses for herself, why does she need validation from the boy to confirm this & gets mad at him when he doesn't [or doesn't outright agree/believe her]? She knows why she dresses the way she does and that should be all that matters regardless of what the boy says

[@debrasedgwick4697]

I work at a high school, the students are NOT adults. Even the smartest of them, can say stupid things. It happens. They do not have all the social skills that most adults have. This is normal. They are learning and growing. I think that OP did the best he could, esp. since she kept pushing him to agree with her. NOT the AH

[@arleneroberts8886]

It’s your choice don’t let anyone make you feel bad

[@shannonwolff2599]

For the guy that ate 80% of his sister's wedding cake... You ARE TA!!!! Good grief!! I can't believe you think it was ok to just help yourself to all of that cake!! Yes I would expect a guest in my house to help themselves if they're hungry, such as left overs, a sandwich, snack... but 80%of a WEDDING cake??? That was extremely rude first of all and secondly I'm sure she wouldn't have minded if you had 1-2 pieces but the plain GREED of this is amazing. Talk about entitled!!!

[@iwantsifegold]

Of course, the guy will come back. I’ve seen it in days of our lives

[@DenMotherArkala]

Having been 12 myself once, I believe the dad to be NTA. The internet is even more dangerous now than it was back then. However, I do think he should tell his son and uninstall it. 😰

[@skyelindsey687]

“Wouldn’t the new member of staff defer to the older members?” Lol oh sweet summer child. Those commenters have clearly never had to deal with THAT new hire. The one that’s been there maybe a week but acts like they’re the manager and knows everything. Yeah

[@doodlebugsanddustbunnies9325]

For The nickname lady, they should just give her a REALLY awful nickname in return

[@littlegreycat]

4 years ago!?!? It's going to be young Markee.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

That one invasive dad.. should watch Arkangel (Black Mirror episode)