Small Talk - How to Start a Conversation - Tips and Tricks (animated)

Do you know someone who can strike up a conversation with everybody they meet? Their conversations look effortless, they often get free drinks at the bar, and they make best friends any time they go out.
How do these people do it? Are they some type of social mutants? Or are they just “naturals” when it comes to talking to people?
They may be gifted, but they don’t have some coveted secret. Instead, they’ve just mastered the art of small talk.
Small talk is the base of a conversation.
Never forget conversation is a ladder and you can't just leap-frog up the conversation. You need small talk to climb the ladder and warm people up with it.
A few examples how to transform closed-ended questions to open-ended:
Would you like vanilla ice cream?
What is your favorite flavor of ice cream and why?
When is your birthday?
When is your birthday and how do you like to celebrate?
Where did you go to college?
What do you feel was most beneficial about your college experience?

[@thatsEforEveryone]

I'm legit watching this for highschool because I don't want to be that anti social dude in school Edit: I graduated highschool and am now in college haha, thank you all for the support! I updated in this comment thread my overall highschool experience

[@BetterThanYesterday]

Good luck!

[@avoxd6848]

How was it? It’s been a year.... ? How is the progress?

[@eofficial414]

That shit suck don’t it?😂

[@millyamani382]

How are u doing in highschool rn?

[@mrsir9337]

@@avoxd6848 He still hasn’t responded...

[@aWERFRGT6545BGFG]

for people,with social anxiety

[@tanyamagura7213]

`me trying to compliment my crush: i like your hair where'd u get it 🤦‍♀️

[@tanyamagura7213]

@@Kulafue 😂😂 good one

[@jameskegley4006]

I like your hair, do you wear hair often?

[@TheMarcinM]

Not funny only in oncology clinic.

[@smolse6854]

OOF

[@holdshiftt2run308]

If a girl told me that, I would assume it s just her sense of humor.

[@TheFedericohiguain2]

Thanks man. I actually kind of like someone at work and don't know how to start a good conversation. You know we say hi to each other but we really don't know what to talk about. I'll try your tips.

[@robertbarlow6359]

What brngs you here today? Me: "Er ..my car...!" (Long drawn out sound of crickets in the background...)

[@rosannanadeau236]

Excellent video! Very helpful, easy to listen to. Great job!

[@MacDaddy060]

I can make friends with almost any guy. Its the women I struggle with... Story of my life tbh

[@rofrofam]

Jack McCoy man I’m the opposite..

[@angelstarfire]

I struggle with both (~_~ )

[@dhenderson319]

Y do u struggle with women?

[@avrylmallen273]

👍 I feel you! I find women dont make it easy though

[@azula8589]

I realize that you aren’t the only boy . Dm me if you still need help at Insta @advice.fy

[@deathmetalwoman]

Oh my God, I need this so much at work! Thank you so much!

[@BetterThanYesterday]

I added a few better examples of open-ended questions in the description. Make sure to check them out!

[@nunkool091]

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[@ladyl4880]

Thank you! This is very useful.

[@sofianeb.7553]

Talking is skill Ask More Dont care about result at the beginner Learn Using Book & Leader Book (The Art of Talking ) Leader (Movie & Tedx ) from zero to expert

[@ferenczinati]

Thanks for the useful things !

[@Viper279]

I enjoy this channel. Thank you for providing your content! Your videos are educational, easy to follow and enjoyable. Thank you!

[@pcg1276]

You forgot one crucial,make sure you look OK. Most people whether they like to admit it or not judge a book by its cover. If they don't like the cover, then there'll be no reply or any conversion will be cut short. You could try wearing something that can be a conversation starter or by carrying something that's in vogue ,like the latest popular mobile phone.

[@nyc4life448]

Right, and make sure not to make small talk with strangers when you know you're not gonna see each other again. It doesn't make sense. Small talk should only be happening when meeting people for the first time like family and co workers, or if you're trying to get to know people. Outside of that, small talk has no significant purpose. Customer: we're here from San Diego. That's my mother and my sister. Cashier: oh Their not gonna see each other again. So what's the point in making that irrelevant small talk. The cashier don't care anyway. What exactly is he suppose to do with that information. What is he getting out of it now that he knows their from San Diego Second scenario: Customer: we're from Houston. We stay at the Marriott hotel around the corner. We're leaving next Friday morning. Cashier: oh, okay Again, more irrelevant babble. Just pay for the food and drinks and then get the stepping. It's that simple. I don't know what I hate more, listening to small talk or engaging in small talk. 3rd scenario: Cashier: what school do you go to Customer: city college. I been going for 2 years. Cashier: oh Customer: your son is in college, right? Cashier: yeah, he's in his 3rd year. My daughter is in her first year. Customer: when I graduate I'm gonna visit Bora Bora Cashier: oh, very good Customer: yeah Cashier: ok, bye bye, good night Customer: good night, bye. Once again, more useless babble. Small talk is stupid. At times it's necessary but for the most part, it's stupid.

[@adamouchna4347]

I became better than yesterday. ❤️

[@samiralavvaf3676]

Tnx dear friend. Ur videos make us more interesting and better than yesterday😊😊

[@user-uz9bd1tg4m]

It's a good article for me to learn.

[@vaisakhvm1726]

Thank you :)❤

[@danielabendan2935]

I hope one day your channel gets a lot of subscriber, you deserve more.

[@BetterThanYesterday]

Daniel A. Thank you for your support! :)

[@amoshnagarkoti4430]

Your words have turned into life

[@linettelow]

Thank you :)

[@rakeshkumar2407]

Awesome..

[@medaklikezzar5050]

good work thanks

[@VentureAHighway]

How do you elevate small talk, to medium talk? (Thumbs up if you know what I'm referencing lol)

[@linecey1984]

clearly when i'm at work i can say that i played basketball in the morning... XD

[@rickandmortyfullepisodes2421]

Nice video!

[@BetterThanYesterday]

Thank you very much! :)

[@cooky123]

very nice video bro! I'm looking forward the next one. By the way, I'd like to know more about you... what motivates you to do these videos? Bests!

[@BetterThanYesterday]

Thank you! Without a doubt my motivation for making videos is spreading a positive message to people all around the world, possibly improving lives. They also help me imprint all the lessons I learned in my memory. :)

[@keyadas1206]

Great

[@yvonne3745]

I am good at ending conversation and small talks I guess

[@smolse6854]

Let's test it, so! How was your day?

[@payne2988]

@@smolse6854 It was over before it even started

[@zookeethehunter7790]

I can make excellent small talk with strangers, girls and guys alike, thats not the issue. The real issue is with friends whom i see everyday. Bcz we already know everything about each other, whats left to talk about???

[@donnyh4506]

Deeper shit that you wouldnt talk to a random person about

[@adina2414]

You get the chance to get closer to them, now you can experience new things with them instead of talking to them about your past experiences Also talk about ongoing common interests such as a new series of a tv show for example

[@Shutouts]

Sad that I don't get to practise this because of my social anxiety

[@andrefierens7594]

Where do you live ?

[@aarathysureshs6359]

❤🤘

[@jamesgrey13]

To me, every question is a close-ended question!

[@User23-L-23]

With friends I already have I’m the funny out going person out of the group but then other times I’m the awkward doesn’t wanna talk dude of the group ;_;

[@jbnjugj3560]

Same hahhaha

[@yvonne3745]

I give up on my social

[@howmathematicianscreatemat9226]

why this? There have even been autists who became badass with women... something which is in stark contradiction to many genetic theories... we are more than we think we are... keep going, MAN!

[@Chris-nn3vu]

@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 no there hasn't that's NOT what autism is, yank

[@howmathematicianscreatemat9226]

@@Chris-nn3vu are u sure Chris? As far as I understood it’s just a processing disorder. But if a processing disorder affects learning more or socializing, depends on the individual. Some of my autistic students are much more impaired in learning (Asperger guy in my class has an IQ between 74 and 79) than in socializing (he is able to even speak diplomatically about things that bother him).

[@lullasings3466]

My pastor: "how's it going?" Me: "great, I spent all day studying every day this week. It felt great!" That'll start a conversation all right. I think he would just be weirded out though. Most teens hate studying and avoid it when they can.

[@jcronin3155]

Just be yourself.

[@kavundora5639]

Myself can't talk. I can see people getting bored by me. We just look around without saying nothing. I know i will die alone :')

[@Strawberryfreak]

kavundora same here

[@BeOutstanding]

Great Content Thank You . go up the ladder rung one by one share something abt urself compli ask, sho int open en

[@harisyuniar4576]

oke

[@augustinomashallo8943]

Dressing code Good language

[@SuperPagt]

Bizzarely enough you can pull this out 1:24

[@Starkova]

From 2:16 to 2:17 could anyone pick up what he's trying to say? I couldn't make it out

[@BetterThanYesterday]

Me neither 😅

[@BetterThanYesterday]

If they reciprocate your excitement you have an "in". 😉

[@wsnols]

Wjat if i don't have interesting life

[@andrefierens7594]

What do you do for a living ?

[@yvonne3745]

André Fierens I am a hollow empty husk. Nothing else.

[@KapilSharma-om3bv]

Bro it's your perspective, you have interesting life don't worry about it... Try to change your routine, and make yourself Happy. Your life will automatically will be interesting...

[@kavundora5639]

@@KapilSharma-om3bv how? I am on internet all day. I have no conversation they can join and have interest.

[@KapilSharma-om3bv]

@@kavundora5639 dude hi , firstly stop being on internet all day life is way more than that, go try something stupid and talk about it, try finding happiness everywhere (even in smallest things) Enjoy your moments like it's your last one Peace☮️

[@jolafasola5212]

masz bardzo polski akcent

[@Chris-nn3vu]

Gross 🤮 Go back there

[@timtaylor6623]

Нашел что искал?!

[@yvonne3745]

Why do I find small talks annoying sometimes????

[@xandror]

Well I didn't play basketball this morning. Do I have to do stupid shit just to talk about it with people?

[@BetterThanYesterday]

Of course not. I'd suggest to be open and honest. If you did nothing that day, just give them an honest answer and say you didn't do anything, because maybe you felt tired or felt like being lazy. Most people can relate to that. No need to make up stuff or do pointless things just to get the conversation rolling.

[@flipn7049]

1:16 i dont know..maybe goin to hell?

[@sabenaanies8942]

its dosnt too muvh help sorry

[@Umair-fo5op]

You should work on your accent. Your accent makes u unnatural and pretending. Infact, you should first prepare your accent, than worry about small & Long talks. Thanks

[@themclord6443]

I politely advice you that you should ask him more nicely to imrpove, but I appreciate your conceen for him and I agree well that his voice should be improved base from your observations.

[@Chris-nn3vu]

Ignorant yank. Not everyone is from 'merica.. try leaving your small minded bubble for once. Low IQ NPC