Social Anxiety: How to Speak Up in Meetings | Q&A with Shadé

✓Social Anxiety - Overcome the Fear & Speak up in Meetings | Q&A with Shadé
Do you dread meetings at work? Do you have a fear of speaking up and sharing your perspective? Don’t worry - you’re not alone!
Whether you’re an introvert, naturally shy, or just have a serious case of social anxiety, not speaking up at work can have serious consequences for your career development.
So, learning how to overcome the fear of speaking up is vital not only for your happiness, but also to elevate your visibility so you feel fulfilled in your career.
As part of my new Q&A with Shadé series, I speak to ordinary professionals to help them with their challenges at work or in life. First off is the lovely Daniella to help her overcome her fear of speaking up.
Watch our conversation as I share what drives this anxiety and ‘speaking-fear’, and very simple yet effective strategies to help you overcome it once and for all!
1️⃣ Pay attention to your Thoughts
2️⃣ Question your Thoughts
3️⃣ Be present and focus on what’s being said
4️⃣ Use the power of Breath
BONUS: Take Action
In the comments, let me know your thoughts! 👇
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[@fatumahnamuwaya2940]

When it's my turn to speak I get lost for words, stammers pop in, I feel awkward and heart pumps faster. These clues are really helpful. Thanks a bunch Shade

[@himal_pillay]

Best way to get your foot in the conversation is to ask a question 🤘🏽

[@ShadeZahrai]

Agreed! A great way to have your voice heard 👌

[@grahamt19781]

Yeah but then I feel guilty because what if the person you asked the question to has speaking anxiety 😅

[@muhammadaliirfan947]

"I am competent, I am capable, I have a strong track record of being able to add value. I believe in myself"..... it's really working for me. Thanks Shade 🙏

[@PiyushPragyan]

Watching every video of Shade makes my life and personality more lovely.Thanks Shade ❤

[@ShadeZahrai]

That's so lovely - thank you for this very sweet comment! I'm so happy that you enjoy the videos. 🙂

[@NeuroPulse]

I don't often get anxiety in meetings but I do keep my mouth shut because some members of the team give me that jealous "damn he's so perfect" vibe, which genuinely and seriously distresses me, because I'm unfortunately an agreeable person. I may come across as perfect partly because I used to have anxiety and so I would think very carefully before I spoke and have refind my ability to formulate thoughts over the years due to that.

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Hey shade, your videos are so amazing that since I started watching you recently, can not stop watching your insightful videos, they are very helpful for personal and internal growth .

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Thank you Shade many of us tend to face this issue thank you addressed it. Your videos are really helpful.

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The way you explain things is really adorable and impeccable

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Great video! Exactly relatable. Thanks so much for your insightful advice!

[@Iwona_Katarzyna]

Thank you Shadé, these are very helpful and clear solutions

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I needed to watch this video, I needed to hear this. The information you shared is very helpful. Thanks! 👍🏾👏🏾

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Soo informative just what I needed to hear..Thankyou ladies that was great

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Thank you for this video. That is precisely the situation I am in.

[@marygrace5054]

This is absolutely me ! Thank you for sharing shadé , watching over find out myself how exactly me 🤔🤔🤔 . Wowww💖 this is perfect tips 🤩 Very interesting to learn from you , adopting this absolutely will help me on my next journey 💖 Thank you once again and I love everything shadé 🥰😘

[@devi_ljl]

Wonderful video! Thank you very much Shade ❤

[@aimeeseattle]

Hi Shade' i just discovered your channel video! I like your friendly calm energy! I love your intro montage! I just like clicked and subscribed! I live with social anxiety, and i have learned to disguise it when im out in the world sometimes. But when in a group setting like a class , i get sick feeling in my stomache and panic. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Introvert mom of 4 sons (2 autistic) enjoying connecting with the youtube community, learning from others, while trying to grow my small channel (dog therapy music to save pups/humans lives) God Bless!

[@kotlaraju2999]

Simple and powerful points! Very useful!

[@AsifIqbal-xh2pd]

Insightful video, esp liked to know about the worry-book concept.

[@Lanarradoradelibros]

I love all her advices, it help me a lot. Is really hard to feel fear to speack up, it is something that costing me a lot to overcome but I know that with this advices I will achieve. Sorry for my gramatical errors it is because it is is my thirdth lenguage that I'm learning.

[@lifeisbeautiful903]

This is so helpful. I live in Germany as a foreigner and having to speak up in meetings in German has really affected my self esteem!

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Like always Shadé nails the issue thoroughly. Perrrrfect... 👌👌👌 One for the video. Two for you. 😊

[@Laxmi-km6rc]

Yes I really loved the way you put out the tips to overcome fear. Would you do a video on how we must react to people who are really aggressive at times, infront of other people??

[@ashokannaragoli2107]

Thanks for your valuable advice and this advice ues full of many people wich who safer un confidence

[@FishOn-um5nx]

You're doing such a wonderful job speaking right now

[@joo1130]

I love this conversation.

[@bhimpokhrel4059]

These are very awesome strategies that we need to capitalize in our workplace. I have also experienced the same thing while in branch meeting. Slowly, I have been able to manage and overcome by conducting more meetings like twice a week i/o only one meeting in a week. So, more you chamber the meeting then you will definitely get more confidence. This is just my experience and shall not be applied in everyone's career but it will help to some extent.

[@AmitSharma-lk9ki]

Learning a lot from you Shade. You are an Alpha woman educating people by your energy.

[@FishOn-um5nx]

You make me feel so positive with great understanding that is a beautiful thing to feel I mean just like that❤ amen

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U grab us into ur world in the first world itself, like hypnotism, ur great

[@ShadeZahrai]

Too kind! 🙏🙏

[@pratibhashete3308]

Third point I really like and very important . the Way your talking is so attractive and faccinative to learn English and other skills . Thanks and keep it up

[@kalyantpv]

Thank you! I wish I came across your videos when my career started! Never too late, I guess

[@talhaofficial3457]

facing this kind of issue is very common with every person who tries to develop him. but it's not a very difficult job to do it. with passion and determination after some time, we can become better at it.

[@jessicadelucia6301]

Loved this!

[@girishramteke8789]

Its always helpful and great to see you Shade! Keep creating such videos

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thank you! Will do!

[@jacksparrowxxx]

Woww most informative video i have seen this week. So helpful. ✨✨

[@AnilKumar-ie6oz]

Thank you so much it's really helpful..

[@nursohalt6887]

You’re ideas are great 🥰

[@hinasheth2545]

Jai jinendra.. superbly explained..shall definitely do these 5exercises my 6th one shall be doing a breathing exercise to calm my anxiety before the meeting.. thanks.❤

[@lisasingh1222]

Wow...great advice

[@Rainmakers84]

Sense of self. An important concept...similar to Define yourself -- limit yourself.

[@jagrutshah7518]

Fascinated with amazing tips to speak up confidently with courage and patience.

[@ShadeZahrai]

I hope some of them might be helpful for you Jagrut!

[@jagrutshah7518]

@@ShadeZahrai Tip No 5: Take Action; as sometimes i feel hesitate to take initiative.

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This video and all of yours useful for me

[@hellobeautifulworld3493]

Edifying✨ Thanks, Shade!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Welcome!

[@vijayshankarshrivastava3280]

U explain everything so beautifilly. Sending my good wishes from India.

[@tofluencywithturjo7016]

I love the way you talk❤️🌹

[@vipinvalsan191]

Thanks to talking about this topic... very helpful.. 🙂

[@ShadeZahrai]

You're very welcome - it's something I know many are affected by so I genuinely hope it's helpful 🙂

[@MsMochakiss123]

Great help for my kids who are afraid to speak up! Thank you so much.❤️

[@ShadeZahrai]

You are so welcome!

[@sandeepbhowmick8149]

Awesome Suggestion

[@ramakrishnamanti5413]

Oh my goodness,worderful tips you said to us

[@VIRENDRAFITNESS]

Love this video as always 🥰

[@ShadeZahrai]

🙏🙏🙂🙂

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Gostei muito parabéns por tudo ❤❤❤❤❤

[@user-zg9hn8gn5v]

wonderful session. But I would like to add one thing. Instead of questioning the correctness of the thought I find it much helpful to ask whether it is helpful? Whether it is helping me to move in the direction I want to go in life?

[@basim313]

Amazing tips. tricks, hacks... you are amazing person

[@ShadeZahrai]

I’m happy you found them helpful 🙏🙂

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Great tips!

[@krishnananda59]

Shade Zahrai, absolutely correct, all the queries are answered. but still request you for more videos on the same topic

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Sharing value is life , not just take but dont give

[@akhileshjames3800]

3.16 to 3.39_story of my life.. Thank you sooo much for the video! I'll try this next time onwards... 🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@ShadeZahrai]

You're so welcome! I'm happy to hear it resonated! 🙂🙂

[@SokhangSouth]

Great teacher

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Waiting for this eagerly ❤❤😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@ShadeZahrai]

We finally got there! 🙂🙂

[@Shakeuptech]

Learnt a lot. 😊 Thank you.

[@ShadeZahrai]

🙏🙏 happy to hear it!

[@aradhanayadav3006]

Hi... I learn a lot from your videos.. it's very systematic and logical.

[@ShadeZahrai]

Glad you like them!

[@RajeshAttada007]

Thanks for helping me to analyze myself 🙏🤗 Good motivation to improve myself in social gathering or office meetings. Thanks again *Shade*

[@ShadeZahrai]

Hi Rajesh, happy to hear it resonated! It's definitely something many are challenged by, which is such a shame because it does impact how you're perceived at work and can hold you back from progression (and also does impact in social environment too!). I hope it's helpful for you! 🙂

[@RajeshAttada007]

@@ShadeZahrai yes *Shade* , helpful. Good part here is... You explaining all this, because I hate Watching and listening to motivational speeches. My perspective was, learning something from my mistakes by analyzing. But after I came across your videos... I can't take my eyes and ears off.... because, it's pleasure for me to watch and listen to YOU. These days realising that, learning from your videos helping me to find best way in improving my soft skills. I already started using complication, modify, fantastic/brilliant, eloborate in my speech and emails.👍 Thanks *Shade* for being here...😍 Lot's of love and best wishes from me to YOU 💝

[@thecharacters4291]

Motivating

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Why its so importent to find a right female mentor ❤

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Superb

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Lovely

[@mairajhabib9754]

Shade' such episodes could be very helpful in nature, where interview is taking place

[@cakesinthecity]

Good video!

[@Radhayshaam]

She has psychology degree too wonders never cease.. The precise insights woohoo!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thanks for the kind words! 🙏🙂

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[@ShadeZahrai]

It was something we wanted to do for a while! I had so many amazing questions come through Instagram and Facebook - I only wish I could record responses to all of them! It’s great being able to connect directly with some of those who follow me though - I really enjoyed that. 🙏🙂

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@@ShadeZahrai keep your great work going on... May God Bless You and Give More Power To You💪💪💪

[@SatishKumar-qb3gm]

Very beneficial

[@SatishKumar-qb3gm]

I don't see any new videos

[@dm9193]

Great advice, I can sing in front of anyone and played in bands for years but if I do a presentation I can barely speak I’m so nervous! What’s that all about?😱

[@Stephanieonyekelu]

It's just like you are talking to me alone because all you said is really me. I enjoyed watching this video and have started my practice . Thanks Shade

[@alejandroramirez7128]

Nice tips

[@GUAYABAFELIZ]

I so appreciate this video! My biggest fear when speaking is my accent. I have worked so hard on English pronunciation and do my best to speak slow and clear. Yet, after 23 years of living in the States, I still have an accent. I start to panic when I see people's faces and they seem not to understand.

[@ShadeZahrai]

Hi Diana, America is a melting pot of diverse cultures and the variety of accents is beautiful. If you objectively believe that your accent is difficult to be understood then you might want to get the help of a speech therapist (if you haven't already done so). They can identify and help you remedy exactly where you're struggling so that you can be better understood.

[@GUAYABAFELIZ]

@@ShadeZahrai Dr. Zahrai - Thank you very much for your kind response. I am grateful that you took the time to read and reply to my comment. Indeed, this is a melting pot, and where I live now, most people tend to take the time to listen to people with an accent. It is such a relief when people are welcoming! I took a class on accent reduction. My instructor explained that our accent would never go away since the muscles around our mouths are used to execute phonetic sounds differently. She also said that we will always find people who naturally do not have an ear for accents. I appreciate the breathing technique you recommended while counting to three. I will apply this when I come across these people. :)

[@ddvantandar-kw7kl]

Once you start to figure out issue I believe things can be changed

[@kazuhakaedehara2881]

Eyyyy first!!!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Woohoo! 🙂

[@anushkapandey1366]

OVERCOMMING THE FEAR OF SPEAKING UP - 1. Pay attention to your thoughts 2.Question your thoughts 3. Be present and focus what being said 4.Use power of Breath 5.Take actions

[@metabolism4738]

Hi Shade. Your guest is even better than me. I am almost losing my mind because of fear, anxiety and worry. I have a condition that makes my head tremble...it makes me over-worry. I leave our meetings embarrassed and sad each time. Pls somebody should kindly advice me.

[@surajagasti2309]

It's exactly me struggling like this..

[@ShadeZahrai]

I hope these tips help!

[@neharani7153]

I became a big fan of yours mam

[@ShadeZahrai]

I’m so happy you’re finding value in what I post Neha! Thanks for your support 🙏🙂

[@nishanthikandegama698]

Thanks shade . It's really helpful to me❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@gabrielwolf8051]

What do you charge for your modifation talk in a community. My community sure would love some positive input

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

If lots of people cant well speak English no accent and mostly are drunk , how I can set up normal meetings , thx I left there for awhile

[@larrybird3729]

@Shadé Zahrai do you have a patreon account? I ask because this is a great channel to support (I love the positive vibes)

[@SafiullahWasiullah]

Open ended questions are helpful in this situation. NICE ONE Shade....Regards #SafiullahWasiullah

[@ShadeZahrai]

They definitely are! Thanks for the comment and hope you're keeping well!

[@khan-fm5ju]

👍👍

[@ShadeZahrai]

🙂🙂

[@ilyassfouad5190]

In my case I turn after been frozen in an angry seeking mode and ending up with people watching me like I am the hulk.

[@FishOn-um5nx]

💯❤️💯🙏

[@lindsayhi]

My issue with affirmations is that I'm wired to be like "I'm lying to myself but okay I'll tell myself these things"

[@moonfahim]

Make Shade's photo as your phone's background, and see the change

[@golamkibria3966]

Ha Shadé i have a small trick that helps me to be charming and any other thing.it is like a muscle training type of thing i want to discuss with you.

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Shanti

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Appreciating... 👏👏👏 May I have a video session with you ma'am like that ☝️?

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I have to go get what I want in a foreign country by my expertise

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0:11 There is a magic pill that makes you feel confident but has a side-affects like Dry mouth, Loss of appetite, nausea Fatigue, moodiness, hair loss and stupidity!🤪 But I like your way better😆

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Hahaha! 🤪🤪

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[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

As a professional , I prefer to stay away from drunk people , cant set up real meetups .... there are no careers