THE Single Reason Narcissists Can't Let Go Of Their Anger

While anger is not one of the immediate identifiers of narcissism, it is a natural byproduct of it. What is worse, time proves how narcissists cannot let go of their anger as they return to the same old illogic and worn out tactics. Dr. Les Carter describes one overwhelmingly obvious reason they are unable to let go of their anger.
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[@jeanetteredden24]

Gus with his face against the arm rest on the sofa: too cute 😊

[@caroleminke6116]

💗

[@trishbech9082]

Haha smooshy face for sure

[@samdevallance1527]

Yep so cute💕

[@nmc1859]

Yes, it's cute. My dog does this too 😊

[@Coral_Forever]

Gussie!!!!❤

[@yukio_saito]

The reason they stick to their anger is that they're not resourceful. Anger is a one-size-fits-all solution for them. It can be used for bad coping skills, inflating ego, escaping from reality, blame-shifting, manipulation tactics, etc. 😮

[@rhondanerren4797]

Well said

[@carparthero]

great comment! narcs are psychologically lazy people. they aren't interested in doing the work to repair themselves. they choose to dump their problems onto other people.

[@jwilson6315]

I think narcissists are lazy, have an air of superiority and therefore entitlement over a situation and they lack with this a sense of boundaries over other people's feelings, and in some cases, personal property.

[@rosieE121]

Anger IS a tactic for them. Don't get sucked in to thinking it must be sincere.

[@deborahrichardson3731]

Yes

[@iamjani]

I don't understand how someone can get away destroying other's lives simply because of being angry. There is no repercussion to that behavior for them at all.

[@caroleminke6116]

It never ends well for a narcissist

[@irinaivanovic9792]

@@caroleminke6116How do you know that? The ones I knew all had happy endings..after RUINING my life and mental health. 😡

[@deborahrichardson3731]

Did they really? ​@@irinaivanovic9792they'll eventually get their Karma.

[@markjayw666]

@@irinaivanovic9792Karma always gets them. Eventually

[@dewuknowHIM]

On "JUDGEMENT" DAY.....there WILL be CONSEQUENCES.... Some call it karma.....🤷🤦 I have 2 granddaughters just like this and I'm their target cause they cannot manipulate me.....

[@wakeupordie]

Really appreciate whenever you present these rhetorical type questions, but the reality is, narcs see themselves as perfect. They don't see themselves as angry, selfish, defensive, controlling, contemptuous, forceful, domineering, having inner pain, a need to be right or have the final word, a need to win, etc. They see YOU as having all of those traits and issues.

[@misottovoce]

It is called projection. A very typical narcissistic response.

[@AngelaAKuczek]

accurate 😢

[@skylarmontgomery6181]

And when you call them out, it's DARVO technique over and over

[@ronaldlee3537]

The above describes my ex- to the letter "T."

[@drurgirl]

Yes you are absolutely right that's exactly how you tried to make me feel everything you pointed out all those characteristics he told me I was but I knew I was not I was authentic I'm at a great person amazing I just wish I could get back to that girl

[@fred.k9875]

Loss of control,powerlessness, through anger narcissist asserts control.

[@MarianneCatherine]

BINGO!!! 😭😢😱

[@t_nels]

🎯

[@SandraII-in9sl]

Now I think I know the right answer. Their refusal to do someting about their own shortcomings leads to low selfesteem. That's what makes them in a bad mood.

[@t_nels]

Terry McAvoy just had a collaboration with Dr Peter Salerno. I think you would appreciate hearing it. In comments and chat we see so many excuses for poor behavior, insecurities and shame. Imagine them not feeling it at all or at least, not in the same way we do. This, IMHO, has kept me searching for endless answers. Maybe we need to normalize the idea that we just think differently. Maybe someone should create a dictionary of terms for the narcissist.

[@caroleminke6116]

Shame is their internal kryptonite

[@SandraII-in9sl]

They don't want to change and they are bad company. That's all I need to know.

[@irinaivanovic9792]

@@SandraII-in9slDefinitely BAD company. They completely SUCK at being romantic partners.

[@craigstarjackson3026]

THANK YOU SO MUCH DOCTOR!!!!! I’M IN THE MIDDLE OF A SH!T STORM, AND I KNOW THAT I’M NOT ALONE!!!!! THANK YOU TEAM HEALTHY!!!!!

[@MarianneCatherine]

No, you're not alone. Unfortunately, we're all in the same boat! 😢🙏😔

[@daxachampaneri9390]

Me to I feel isolated

[@craigstarjackson3026]

@@daxachampaneri9390 we’re all here together!! Go team healthy! ! DIGNITY RESPECT CIVILITY!!!!!

[@djb1164]

@@daxachampaneri9390

[@francesbernard2445]

Some other mental health professionals are saying that clients recovering from severe narcissistic abuse are put at risk when being pressured to forgive and forget. Most of those professionals have experienced it themselves. Unless a person has experienced it themselves they do not understand.

[@lauracoussens6207]

100% true...this is how bad it can get...not all narcissists are murderers, but all murderers are narcissists.

[@patrickglaser1560]

Do not forgive, do not forget, forgive yourself for all the reactive abuse they get. They deserve your scorn

[@jwilson6315]

@@francesbernard2445 I agree with your sentiments. I have found it to be like a very long bereavement because although time makes it easier I have to admit the pain never really goes. But as a Christian we are asked to forgive. As someone abused from a very young age it's more a case of distancing oneself from the memories by filling your time with things to do that make you feel peaceful but occupy your mind e.g. gardening, painting, knitting. It's an extremely slow process and there's no quick-fix x

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

Yes.

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

​@@jwilson6315I agree with you.

[@lauracoussens6207]

Can't wait for you to have over one million subscribers! You deserve it. Thank you so much for all you do!!!

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks!

[@zeynebdevres]

My husband’s anger is yelling and rage. Even if ı say something supportive to ease his negative mood, that has nothing to do with me, he will lash out in a rage yelling and screaming saying my consoling him put him in a worse mood. He curses and uses rude words. He’s like a child having a tantrum. A true rude brat! What a pain in my neck! I have to learn not to be nice. Just silent. As you say my dear doctor best not to engage at all. Thank You! 🙏🏼🥰

[@caroleminke6116]

You’re not his mother but that’s exactly what’s happening here & going gray rock is the best method now

[@zeynebdevres]

@@caroleminke6116 👌🏼🙏🏼💖

[@Duke2363]

Im so thankful that I finally dropped my 59 year old older brother. I feel so much better. 59 years and he never put in the work to become a better man. He can keep his contemptuous, mean-spirited, nasty, superficial, toddler like thinking for himself.

[@sbcabk]

I had been abused by a narcissistic sibling for more than six decades. She was "good" for the last 20 years, but inexplicably relapsed with a vengeance. She tried to provoke me with a serious insult. I ignored it but vowed she had just one more chance. It came two weeks later. She texted me and I could pick up on her ire. I wasn't depressed; I wasn't angry. I just knew I had had "enough" and now was the time to break free. She "un-invited" me to her house for the week-end. I simply responded, "OK, fine" and that was that. I'm still patting myself on the back.

[@djb1164]

[@tomkitchen9457]

I got into an argument with a narcissist last winter, he lost, as he walked away I overheard him tell himself, "I won."

[@carrierutherford5946]

I'm further on my path to healing and understanding the "What the hell just happened?" trauma of my adult child's narcissistic raging and damaging behavior than I ever thought possible - with your kind assistance, Dr. C! Still, it's profoundly helpful to listen to your supportive, confirming insights. Ever so grateful! ☮🤟

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

So pleased fore you...Keep leaning forward!

[@carrierutherford5946]

@@SurvivingNarcissism I shall!😎

[@kellypolfleit3942]

They can’t stand the fact that they are inadequate

[@msliberated3899]

Exactly and lazy

[@lauracoussens6207]

In the middle of a 30 year relationship / marriage with an expert and stealthy CMN, one day he was crying / sobbing and I asked him why? He said...I lied to you...the person I told you was my old roommate was really my (ex) wife. He was crying for himself...not because he deceived me. I never received any apologies or and remorse for all of the horrible things he said and did. To his credit, he did also do good things...but there was always a boomerang effect...emphasis on BOOM!!!

[@FreyaFleurNoire]

I wish they could not be given to such anger and rage. This realization with a close family member of mine ultimately led me to cut off contact with them as it was getting so verbally abusive to the point where I thought I would have a heart attack. Though I blocked their phone number, they went out of their way to leave hateful comments made directly on my youtube that have since been deleted and their profile hidden, but it's extremely unsettling and scary for how fast they go down this lane and how they do not relent, looking for every which way to punish you if you stopped giving them what they want.

[@nmc1859]

My narcissistic mother - she keeps raging, 'throwing me away', then coming back like nothing happened several months later. This time i told her 'no.' I need relationships with dignity, honesty, integrity, and respect.

[@theresekristinaangelteg2550]

@@nmc1859 enjoy your freedom & peace🦋🙏🏼My mom is a narc too. No contact.

[@nonnazolli]

Greetings Dr. Carter, been listening now for several months and am finally writing to say thank you! for sharing your invaluable knowledge and insights and for all the good work you do in helping others. You have a wonderful way of presenting the information. My brother and I were raised by a narcissistic mother and he went on to marry someone just like her. After more than 30 years of being married to Cruella De Vil, I think he's finally on his way out. I've taken this opportunity to send him one of your videos to start him off and I'm hoping for the best. I have a feeling he'll connect with you. Thanks again and hugs and kisses to Gus, his presence is ever so comforting, bless him. Cheers

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks, I hope your brother will get through this well.

[@nonnazolli]

@@SurvivingNarcissism Many thanks Dr. Carter, you are kind.

[@marlineemmal6458]

Anger dominates the fear that is at the core of their being.

[@carrierutherford5946]

And FEAR is the source of the never-ending trauma that is inflicted by that person on us. ☮❤‍🩹

[@caroleminke6116]

Yup! It’s the stuffed shame that’s getting defended every time they erupt. It’s their kryptonite

[@caroleminke6116]

Fear of exposing the fake persona

[@yukio_saito]

So true.

[@amandaliverpool3374]

🎯 and it's not pretty!

[@t_nels]

🎯

[@carefulcarpenter]

Mind games go both ways. It is pointing that finger of false accusation. Discussions and empirical evidence tell a story--- but in this reality, the short attention span as been normalized.

[@BaraSchmidt]

We are unique. THEY are "YOU-nique!" When THEIR cup overflows with all the "You's" THEY spew, consider this: How great would it be to find someone with whom you could say: "I see you, and you see me! Together we'll enjoy a cup of Healthy!" Time to put YOU first! Stay Healthy! (I think Dr C would agree!) 🧡

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You have such a good way of framing things, Bara!!

[@AlwaysStampinVideos]

Great video, DrC! I can’t tell you how many times he would say, “YOU said…” and then he would twist whatever I had said so that it justified what he had done that was inappropriate or disrespectful. The way he presented it would seem like he simply interpreted my words differently and that I should have maybe either been clearer or said what I said differently so that he would have understood it the way I meant it. But I know I was clear and understandable. I try my best not to confuse people because I myself don’t like being confused. His twisting my words and adding “YOU said…” always confused me. I still can’t believe I fell for it as long as I did. I’m so glad I now know better and I respect myself more. Thanks to you, DrC!

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Hey KellyJean! The more clearly you see it, the more your objective reasoning overrides his subjective games. I enjoyed one of your teas just this morning!!!

[@aaronkwolfe]

Anger can be a great mask to hide behind. It keeps people at a distance.

[@caroleminke6116]

It’s certainly a very primitive defense against exposure of that toxic keg of shame they sit on

[@metteroansyvertsen3728]

But it seems like their heads goes up in flames😂

[@SewDiva5691]

Hi Aaron. I missed your question about my mom during the chat. My mom’s bruising around her eyes showed up later after her bad fall last Friday. She was still inside the dialysis clinic when an employee told me she fell😢🤦‍♀️

[@aaronkwolfe]

@@SewDiva5691 Thx, Sew. Don't mean to pry, but concerned. Grace to you. And to her.

[@SherryWilson-dk7bo]

So sorry Sew 🙏 ❤️ love and blessings 🙌

[@Private_Pookie]

They walk around angry all day long. U say one thing to them and all of a sudden its all out war. The craziest thing is that i dont necessarily hold this person to a certain standard but they hold themselves to this grandiose standard that they cant never live up too and when you give em a taste of reality, they cant take it. Totally terrifying

[@rebellaire55]

You just talked about my narc dad. You just helped me decode his toxicity. Thank you for helping us heal and rebuild our lives ❤

[@rwdchannel2901]

It amazes me how many narcissistic people are running around at my local park in Southern California. I got to know a few and saw a lot of red flag then cut contact with them. They're running around out there all angry and hate filled. I could say to these narcissists the sun is hot and their first response would be either be an invalidating response or a passive aggressive response or a combination of invalidation, gaslighting, and passive aggression.

[@rickmaria9546]

Dr. C. you ask so many logical, excellent questions. However, the narc never thinks that deeply or long enough to answer them.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Unfortunately illogic becomes logical to them. Go figure.

[@Count-w6n]

Anger. A burst of excess energy. From doing nothing. ( Lazy laziness).

[@Hatbox948]

Why is the anger always directed at a spouse or child? Why don't narcissists take it out on other people?

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

I'm a self aware narcissist, I have a channel here too called Narcissist Hex. I think I'm able to answer this and the answer is they will take it out on anyone that they can get away with taking it out on. Most likely this displays cowardly personality traits from what you're saying, so this is what I gather. And yes it is true a lot of covert narcissist are cowardly, because deep inside they lack confidence and self-esteem and integrity of course.

[@caroleminke6116]

They do but you’re in the home & under control whereas the boss would fire them ASAP so go gray rock

[@amandaliverpool3374]

Or the child to a parent 😢

[@Hatbox948]

@@amandaliverpool3374 Right!

[@trishbech9082]

♥️🐾♥️🐾♥️ Gus 🥰 Narcissists - discouraging and so exhausting! But thank you Dr Carter for this excellent counsel to help us all ❤

[@wissn2112]

Their negativity throwing anger also rubs off onto you. Being aware helps find ways to respond. Sometimes i dont say anything. Then they will say... I can hear you. Why wont you answer me? Trying to engage poking at you with mumbling insults at you.

[@oxigenarian9763]

Doc - thanks to your tutelage, I keep in mind my three "I's": an origin of INSECURITY, INABILITY to take responsibility for their actions (aka lack of INTROSPECTION) and poor INTERNAL emotional controls (which leads to today's topic). Recently, it occurred to me that impatience is anger's little sister and a signal that the volcano is ready to blow... Kudos to you! Today's content is a DEAD-RINGER for the narcissist in my life! :)

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

So pleased for you!

[@lenka7776]

This is a very good advise , flip these tables !!! And don't be afraid you are becoming something bad yourself

[@kathleenberg9555]

I think narcissists are terrified of becoming irrelevant and their anger gives them relevance, if that makes sense.

[@JamesJoeeight-o4f]

The three things I’ve learned from my narcissistic mother are rage hate and endless anger, Ten years no contact and from what I hear she’s rounding third and heading for the nursing home, No one in the famil Is willing to care for her as she’s so absolutely miserable no one can tolerate her absolute endless INSANITY……

[@duromusabc]

Anger is a weapon they use to control others

[@msliberated3899]

Screw their anger

[@SlobArt]

Yes! They provoke of all is well.

[@duromusabc]

Their anger is full of projection and displacement because they dread self reflection

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Spot on.

[@snowbear1877]

In my family they DO all gang up on me. They all deeply flawed themselves but they gang up on me. Even the only nephew I still have contact with is critical of me. He has admitted to me he has no empathy. I am scared he too could lose his temper with me one day which would sour the relationship, the only relationship with family I have left. They all support one another. I am on the outer because I have a different world view. 6:00

[@michellepurcell8703]

Refusal to accept their flaws

[@jeankipper6954]

My wasband and mom, who you have described with astonishing detail and precision, could remember slights from childhood with acrimony. They just would never, ever, let go. Their attention in the present was structured to obtain more grievances. Very difficult.

[@Rachel-mz8ko]

Thank you for everything you have done in putting together this channel. It has completely changed the trajectory of my life. I have thanked you many times before as I have noticed various improvements in my well-being, but I can now appreciate how it has also changed the direction of my life. As per your recent videos-- they're turning into college level training on how to handle a narcissist. Thank you. (I'm not sure I can keep up. I'm going to have to go into college mode, I guess. 🙂)

[@Infernapeclosecombat]

When I realized it’s a narc I started to behave accordingly what’s reasonable and natural. The narc could not take that with grace since I was not giving in to his wishes , he got in flames angry called me zero”, perhaps that was his conclusion on the fact that he is not getting anything . Insults followed called me a narc brought up my past. I blocked him .

[@SandraII-in9sl]

Good job!

[@msliberated3899]

The Bible says make no friendship (relationship) with an angry person.

[@Emmitt_Summers_3]

On point as always. I especially aligned with "what about love?" and "what about logic?". Thank you. A potential sidebar or future episode might be childhood trauma and other bonds. While these experiences do not make an excuse for the narcissist, it humanizes them. And, in some cases, at least in my experience ... opens the door to healing, grace, and mercy.

[@caroleminke6116]

Enmeshed with mother & never separated so no object constancy or whole object relations. That train left the station by 3 & it’s not coming back again

[@patrickglaser1560]

Ok calm down haddaway;)

[@darinsmith2458]

I guessed that anger was their supply.. They are addicted to it.. Misery loves company.. Misery demands company.. I will see what you have to say in the rest of the video..

[@roxymovie3938]

The primary reason why Narcs do not let go of their anger is the fact that they do not want to examine themselves. The focus of their anger is always "out there" - it's inevitably someone else's fault, so that the focus lies on the wrong person. Their problem is a lack of coping skills. What does the anger of the Narc say? Some questions to ask the Narc: What does the anger say about... 1. ...your raw selfishness? 2. ...your constant feeling of victimization? 3. ...your obsessive need to be right? 4. ...your need for controlling? 5. Why are you threatened by others' freedom to choose? 6. How did you become so easily defensive? 7. Why do you always have to win? 8. Why do you have to destroy? 9. What do you hope to accomplish with meanness? 10. Why are you holding grudges/contempt? 11. Why are you being so forceful? 12. Why are you domineering over others? 13. Why does complexity trip you up so easily? 14. Do you have no compacity for analytical thinking? 15. Do you see the link between your anger and your inner pain? 16. What is inside you that makes you so susceptible? Be aware/ Basically the Narc is saying, 》 "I have no peace and no internal competence to draw upon." 》"Acceptance and tolerance feels like betrayal." 》"Coping depends on my perfect ideal fantasy." 》"My thinking is not grounded in reality." 》 "I have to have a domineering image." 》"I am a hurt child on the inside." 》》What does your anger tell you about you? 》》 Healthy anger can be resolved by reflecting on yourself and addressing things calmly and politely. 》》Do not be on the receiving end of unhealthy anger. Dr Carter 👨‍🦳 and Gus 🐶 thank you for another lesson full of insight 🌞🌟🌝🌈

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Great notes, Roxie!! Good to hear from you!!

[@roxymovie3938]

@@SurvivingNarcissism Thank you, Dr Carter. Hope you and your family are in good health.

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@@roxymovie3938 I agree with the doc 👍

[@gazoo7411]

Nice shirt. Who makes it - I want one................Thanks. Your videos are always insightful and thought provoking..

[@ednasprung971]

What makes me "crazy" as I'm learning about narcissistic abuse is that all the traits that my ex possessed, he projected onto me. He told me for years that I had anger issues, even though he raged and terrorized me and our son. He gaslit me, saying that I couldn't see my own anger and issues because I "had to win" and couldn't self-examine. I know intellectually that that's what he did, but emotionally, I still doubt myself and my experiences. It's been impossible to overcome the gaslighting. My son helps, because he's much clearer about it, but I still have my dark times.

[@amandaliverpool3374]

Looking forward to this one!

[@amandaliverpool3374]

There was quite a lot to take in and will need multiple listenings. Much of this will help me cope with my youngest son together with the support of Team Healthy ❤❤❤

[@roxymovie3938]

​@@amandaliverpool3374 Dear Amanda, wishing you good luck with your youngest...I just published the notes and I will leave the multiple questions already here: What does the anger say about... 1. ...your raw selfishness? 2. ...your constant feeling of victimization? 3. ...your obsessive need to be right? 4. ...your need for controlling? 5. Why are you threatened by others' freedom to choose? 6. How did you become so easily defensive? 7. Why do you always have to win? 8. Why do you have to destroy? 9. What do you hope to accomplish with meanness? 10. Why are you holding grudges/contempt? 11. Why are you being so forceful? 12. Why are you domineering over others? 13. Why does complexity trip you up so easily? 14. Do you have no compacity for analytical thinking? 15. Do you see the link between your anger and your inner pain? 16. What is inside you that makes you so susceptible? Sending you lots of internal peace 🕊🕊🕊💖🤗

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@roxymovie3938 Thank-you Roxy. I wish I could get him to look at this list. Every interaction with him, he sees as an attack. Life's difficult. After last week's arrest, at least he's sticking to some boundaries. He's not allowed over the doorstep if he's had alcohol. Thank you for your support 🙏 Look after yourself, too 💖🙏🌻

[@Victoria-c4n]

I would never bother asking ANY of these questions of a narcissist. They are too shallow and lacking in intellect to contemplate an adequate answer. I have no need to frustrate my EARS by listening to their BS.

[@GaryKlein-l6w]

I once sent my narcissist nephew a Happy Birthday e-mail. I got a page of abuse and accusations in response.

[@carolnahigian9518]

WoW; Dr C describes PERFECTLY

[@richardlandis793]

WHEN A NARC'S ANGER STARTS COMING TO THE SURFACE, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY WHEN POSSIBLE. 😊

[@dewuknowHIM]

My 2 grandaughters ashleigh and katy EXACTLY !!! 🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮😰💔😥 NO CONTACT !!!! AVOID...AVOID...AVOID !!!

[@andrewrees8749]

My ex Narsisist G.F had the worst temper and tantrums ive ever seen on anyone, she would just flip ...im free of her now

[@Lovethebirds2024]

I’ve learned so much from these videos. This channel is a life saver😊

[@brucefriedman1]

Narcissists are angry they are stuck on the same planet with those they find to be less gifted than themselves.

[@elcee7800]

In my case it's Why Can't The Narcissist Stop Inciting Anger and/or Resentment in Others? (Hint: Their calm and calculating manipulation have something to do with it.)

[@susannakotoff7095]

yep the covert narc loves to incite anger in others. That s why no contact is the only way to deal with her.

[@kylaren6337]

Dr. C can you do a video on how to stay out of a narcissists triangulation? A covert narcissist, ex husband, is doing everything he can to triangulate me with his new supply. I’ve managed to escape their grasp but this last thing they’ve done is over the line.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

If you put a topic in the search bar inside my channel, you'll find quite a lot. Here is a link for a triangulation video. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZfaoZV5l76Hq6c

[@anitaaustralia]

Dr Carter, I would love a discussion between yourself and Dr Peter Salerno. Maybe you could get him on? ❤

[@pedrohoracioaguilardiaz3288]

Very good approach. Thank you, Dr. Carter.

[@jeanetteredden24]

Excellent teaching! ❤

[@lorraineclark7455]

Wise information

[@Isildurrrrp]

It's like WarGames from the 80s. The only way to win is to not play the game.

[@louisemcelhill5748]

100% You're in a bad mood. You are so negative. You're so bossy. You have to have your own way. He lost his temper one day, when we had company. I talked to the friend ( his friend actually) later and she couldn't believe how quickly he escalated.

[@ThisgirlJj]

I am stuck he is brutal. He has no soul. Loser at everything, lies about everything and he's a thief. This runs deep in in his bloodline... One of his parents was put in Bellevue for the criminally insane. A mother i've scene, such a despicable narcissist with no soul inhuman... He has been diagnosed by several, thrown out of the service. He will hurt only what's weaker than him. Never stood up to a man and the disgusting part. He acts like a weak little girl around men.. Loves to gaslight, children., one doctor said he should be put in a cage out of society and the key thrown away.. Getting worse with age

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

You might think you're stuck but you're not, seriously if you want to live you have to get out! The ultimate goal is to end you. If you want to know more about narcissist I have a channel here too, Narcissist Hex. I wish you well, God bless

[@metteroansyvertsen3728]

It seems like their heads goes up in flames

[@helenwashington6212]

Would you call that missed directed anger ?

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Definitely.

[@BL-sd2qw]

Emotion =/= action. Remember, guys: You can't control other people. Even if you angered them, that's not the same as the other person harming you with no remorse.

[@brightpage1020]

We can't keep giving them power or responsibility over our feelings. Blaming and shaming them for ruining our lives isn't going to hekp us respurce a better one. We have to get resourceful for ourselves, right? Learn to regulate our own emotions rather than depend on the narc to regulate them for us - otherwise aren't we just like them in a way? Like a mirror? My folks used to say, "we recognize in others what we don't like about ourselves." I have to wonder about my own behavior if this quip applies to me sometimes.

[@rde4017]

They can't let go of their anger because they literally have nothing else.

[@richellepeace4457]

Your focus on anger also implicates their victims who are angry and rightfully so. I've said those things to people but it was a statement based on fact. You just focus on the being passive which gives the narc a loop hole out of responsibility. Justice must mean nothing to you....

[@brightpage1020]

Off the title I'd guess it's because holding onto it is an effective way to control and manipulate the world around them?

[@susanbennetttellstales7998]

Gus looks like he's trying to keep his nose nice and warm.

[@irinaivanovic9792]

10:17 that defines my very TOXIC ex boyfriend. 😡🤬

[@dmix2263]

I’m certain I’ve listened to this before. I believe I am at least an eight year follower. 1:19

[@markjayw666]

Yup, the magic 3 letter word…… YOU Inability to self-reflect. Rigid & inflexible.

[@fairygurl9269]

Gus 4 US❤

[@Private_Pookie]

U make me feel x y z!!!!

[@Drbob369]

Ebay sells anti narcissist NATO drones with grenades 😅😅😅

[@joanndeck4315]

NATO = narcissists BIG TIME….even psychopaths

[@dmix2263]

Is there a specific type of N that hangs on to anger? Shame stuff.