Meet Yourself: A User's Guide to Building Self-Esteem: Niko Everett at TEDxYouth@BommerCanyon

[@portaldrewlegendas6352]

things i love about myself: 1- i'm hardworking 2- i'm gentle 3- i'm fun 4- i sing nicely 5- i tought myself how to speak English fluently (Portuguese's my first language) 6- i always wanna help people and make them smile

[@meherk3322]

The last one made me smile. May god always bless you 🤗

[@Fortytwotrillion]

You sound like an awesome person 👍

[@michaelcorleone2794]

Lonnie You too :)

[@priusa8113]

Parabéns:) e muito prazer,Priscila:)

[@fearlesssoul9408]

You're a good person bro keep up

[@oldriver22]

if i meet myself, i will hug her and be friend of her.

[@houssamouassif5012]

you ve said that one year before, have you done it?

[@tinyburger8784]

You've said that 2 years ago, have you done that yet?

[@madmgamer7162]

Well ?

[@jomontanee]

You make me cry.

[@yougotnojams6784]

I would punch me in the face

[@dreamchaser0524]

It's so unbelievable that there are a lot of people out there who's so beautiful,talented,inspirational can still find reason to unlike themselves ,I hope people can all realize how beautiful they actually are .

[@actsrv9]

It's surprisingly common among thinking people.

[@popwisdombrandiva]

You've given us an awesome reminder. Thank you.

[@thebodyimagetherapistyyc]

Connie Lee self talk is really powerful and if it's constantly negative then this affects self esteem. I talk a bit about this on my channel in videos too but it's really sad and I hope we can change this in more positive changes socially to make ads and marketing and conversations less focused on people feeling like they are lacking.

[@versi1098]

Connie Lee kp

[@TalTheBest]

Connie Lee thank you

[@gexgekko39]

A good way is to pretend you are talking to your younger self whenever you say negative things. So if I say "You're such a loser" to myself, Instead I think of my younger self. And I think, ifmy younger self was a different child, would I still say to them, "You're such a loser." Would I treat other people like I treat myself? Why should I treat myself like crap, when I even refrain from treating actually bad people this way?

[@arte7sol]

Gex Gekko awesome statement

[@shani4847]

(Y) thats a really good point

[@ArsonVA]

Dude that reminds me of Rclbeauty101 and that video she made about self love.

[@afhanfi]

When a negative thought arises in my mind, I ask myself that how would that feel if the someone else says the exact same thing to me that I am thinking right now about myself? If I can't allow anyone else to hurt or offend me then why am I doing this to myself? When we get physically injured or wounded, we rush to get the band-aid. We don't try to deepen the wound as that would be illogical. but a why don't we have the same approach for the emotional injury? Why do we let these hurtful thoughts keep damaging us emotionally or psychologically?

[@dlr_rosa254]

Good advice, it's what I'm currently using at the time

[@alexz2702]

The first ted talk in history that actually gets to the fucking point Bravo.

[@ashokwadhwani5301]

dressing up

[@charissedecalongne2553]

Hah!! :)

[@dennysunshinev.6840]

Fully.

[@GetYourGreensOn]

This video should be aired in schools....

[@benshocker7393]

I'm watching it in English class right now.

[@REPSC12]

Ben Shocker I'm thinking about showing it in the classroom, did you think it was an effective use of your time as a student? What grade are you in, if you don't mind sharing? Thanks!

[@pujithasamudrala]

lol i watched this in my english class too.

[@sofiastrickler7646]

GetYourGreensOn we just watched it in school

[@Jasperr2016]

it is

[@mindfulmedizen]

I struggle, I struggle, I STRUGGLE SO HARD with this issue!!

[@saskueify]

Allison Bentler you are a beautiful and strong individual. You have control over your own mind. You can easily release things which do not benefit your well being.

[@patriciacifra6726]

Allison Bentler I have never liked myself.

[@aviniciussouza100]

Diamond Louis XIV Nope

[@mix51691]

Youre not alone

[@shainejams3689]

Every video I try... its just like... The people are completely untreatable. I wanna hear from someone who was completely fucked and addicted to drugs and hating themselves but turned it around. But I don't think that's even a fucking thing

[@jackd9912]

One thing that helps boost my mood when I'm down is complimenting someone else-- By brightening someone else's day it can help make you feel better about yourself too-- Spread the positivity 😌

[@actsrv9]

Also, gratitude (for anything, towards anybody, even in small amounts) is the best, instant-action anti-depressant. It works. Backed by science (2 TED talks by Daniel Amen).

[@thebodyimagetherapistyyc]

Jack Dragonshield totally ... cause and effect :)

[@juliettehansen3194]

Yes!

[@harini8846]

That is the best thing I have ever heard. Thank you!!!!

[@ptyh27]

Love it❤️

[@hiddens2346]

1. Spend time with people who make you feel good. 2. Build on postive thoughts, delete the negative ones. 3. Tell the people around you what you like about them, and help them start their own positive thinking. 4. Upon receiving compliments, gracefully and boldly say “Thank You” 5. Write 10 things you admire about yourself.

[@male6561]

"Let's all be someone's Julie" - beautiful!

[@vampfairy75]

Yaaaas!

[@carleymccarthy8895]

male6561 7uu8 ooo

[@debdras]

Ok, let's try ten things... Oof. Here goes... 1. I love my ability to create stories (fantasy specially is a passion of mine) 2. I admire my courage to speak up, in public, as I am doing now 3. I am resilient, stubbornly so, and I keep trying to be authentic and to be better every single day 4. I admire the bravery I have to delve deep into my soul and make peace with my "demons", because I truly believe myself and others to deserve the best of me 5. I love my taste and passion for food and cooking. Thanks to my mom's insistence I can nowadays enjoy most ingredients and cuisines, and that's just so much yummy! 6. I love my love for the outdoors, heat and exercise, and I may not practice it as much, but I have not yet given up on learning martial arts, even though I'm nearly 30 and have been dreaming of it since I was 5! 7. Although imperfect, I admire my commitment to be empathic and kind to others, so they may never suffer; and I admire my capacity to feel guilty over the damage I've done, and to try to rectify it. 8. I admire my good judgement and capacity for forethought; it has saved me and guided me in making some sane financial and interpersonal decisions. 9. I am friendly af. Gods, I could befriend a lamp post lol 10. I admire my curiosity, capacity and desire for learning and travel and adventure, and the gifts and many talents I've been given. ... Bonus, 11. I admire how I'm always trying my best, even when depression keeps telling me I'm better off dead. I really need to read these to myself more often :)

[@RichardHowin]

Great job!! Keep going, mate!

[@stellaxcadentex]

this make my eyes tears, i'm so sure you're all of that and how hard it must be to admit that everyday, but wow you're truly amazing. Keep on the path to love even more yourself, you got my love and support.

[@bygigiladyg.7467]

You are awesome!!!

[@toyaj1668]

Your stronger thank you know. God Bless ❤

[@byhi-xe4bn]

You are great!❤️

[@kelseyneapetung126]

did this make anyone else cry

[@serpentes9818]

Yup. Maybe i let some negative thoughts all go at once.

[@einohrring3862]

Kelsey Whitehead Yup, I cried this time. Ive seen the video before. Came back to it bcuz Im not feeling so good at the moment and I remembered I liked this woman. Now I love her. I think shes amazing

[@toxic-freearmy8949]

Yeah

[@lydianihad4817]

Why am i crying though

[@alexis.ateamer1668]

Yes.

[@martinschneider6800]

Tedx please send this woman a letter with a cookie in it.

[@Amba_Aradam]

Damn, a truck full of cookies

[@corban9988]

And also 100,000 dollars

[@Saffins]

And a puppy

[@Rachel-pk9iq]

And a tv

[@monikabarman4283]

Also red roses🌹🌹🌹

[@hannahmay722]

Thank you so much for this piece of beauty.

[@stargirl1777]

Hannah May your very pretty

[@arini8750]

Hannah May omg I love your videos 💕💕💕

[@hardekpanickar9553]

Your welcome

[@crazygamer-mr6nr]

Hannah May tt

[@VasileSurdu]

her face radiates so much positivity and joy.. great video the 10 list is very helpful if you do them everyday before bed

[@Sophie-un3lt]

This video made me cry somehow, my ex had kept telling me how terrible person I am. I lost all my self esteem and the tough feeling led me to search and watch this video. Many thanks for Niko, I am writing down some good things that I used to like myself and I am crying so much. everyone who is wathcing this, you are amazing because you are trying so hard to be a better person and actually you already are.

[@isabellafilby3931]

Sophie Kim I went through the same thing. Essentially, that is psychological abuse. I used to be bubbly and outgoing and then my ex happened and his words and abuse happened. I have been going to therapy for a while now but it seems that it is 1 step forward and then 2 steps back. It takes time. Just remember not to be too harsh on yourself and try to stay around people that make you feel good about yourself. 💛 Good luck!!

[@SpiritLeash]

@@isabellafilby3931 I'm experiencing it now. My wife is extremely critical. As in huge dramas 1-2 a day. After about a year I had a mental break down which was 4 months ago. Since then been so tough. We just been to a therapist 2 days ago and she is really trying to stop the criticism. So tough for me to decide to stop or continue. I love her and want to get through these tough times together. She had a tough childhood and really loves me. We married so I can't just walk away. At the same time she needs to change. If I allow the abuse to continue I wont be able to build anything and contribute to this world.

[@xiumins8057]

@@isabellafilby3931 Hi how is things going? I would like to talk with you about your therapy experience.

[@dlr_rosa254]

Me too, I remember thinking I was beautiful, strong and confident but my ex would always tell me I was the opposite, It's tough and I'm currently at my worst but I know it'll get better. We can do it guys I know that we're all so much better

[@ruchikasharma6456]

We are all here because of our exes 😐

[@bluma666]

i see this video now, again, and i see my list. the first thig that i put on that list is "im prode that i have not yet killed myself". i see this and im crying

[@Raul-se1kf]

Hang in there Tom. You are valuable as you are.

[@oppsendless3814]

How are you doing, Tom?

[@daraghsweeney616]

Wishing you all the best, Tom. Keep the faith

[@kayaeki]

That is so amazing of yourself dude, I'm also so proud that I didn't kill myself

[@psychopathinthemaking]

That's huge dude, that you have the strength, everyday to say I want to live in the face of all those negative feelings. Wishing all the best for you.

[@JChappee]

Ten things I love about myself (today especially): 1. I have a way with people that can greatly influence them in beautiful ways, helping them open up, helping them feel included. 2. I love that I have a very strong, sturdy body that lets me get places easily, dance, and work out. 3. I have a unique look, sense of style, a weirdness that's always evolving and changing. 4. I am proud of the way I work on myself, taking steps towards personal growth, even though it's difficult. 5. I love the way I've made amazing relationships and friendships. 6. I have done lots of cool things, all because I'd never done it before. I am daring, brave, and adventurous. 7. I admire the way I am practicing radical honesty better each day. 8. I appreciate the good head I have on my shoulders. I think I've done what I've needed to do to survive, and have lived an incredible story. 9. I love how my teeth are naturally straight. 10. I am one of the best teammates anyone could have because I am always looking for ways to participate.

[@michellelairet5784]

I need a friend like you 😄

[@tokiejones4420]

OMG I sent to my friend and I did the list also and I cried thanks to you my self esteem is better

[@IML06]

Idk if u r brave or just very cocky

[@Adriana-vs6bc]

J.M.C. G. I need you😂

[@confidencecoaching9978]

Yes girl! It is so important to embrace all that is unique AND beautiful about you. If you ever need any help or more tips, please do not hesitate to reach out. 💕

[@maryscaria2638]

She exhibits a lot of confidence and ease ... Good

[@dervhanratty3310]

Supportive Kind Ambitious Pretty Hardworking Motivated Confident Giving

[@atifayaz3495]

1. I am literally a good friend. Especially when someone's having a tough time. I literally listen to him/her. 2. I feel connection with music. Music is like meditation for me. So, I sing beautifully too 3. I went away from my home at the age of 16 for studies and stayed alone. I survived that period, learned many life lessons and currently I'm studying at good place due to that. I'm glad I did that at a young age. 4. I am artistic and creative. I understand things deeply and from different angles. Which make things clearer.

[@JustNay91]

Im still trying to find myself I'm almost 24

[@ecuencar]

+mizzofolife1 Go ahead. Age is just a number.

[@WSEize]

+mizzofolife1 maybe you should start creating yourself

[@thinkforyourself7889]

+mizzofolife1 One word: TruthContest. google it

[@bssikes]

+mizzofolife1 you'll get there man, it takes how long it takes but you will make it

[@brij4675]

+mizzofolife1 31 over here

[@tekakey_5528]

this was my worst day in my entire life until thanks to you, it turned to be the most helpful day! All thanks to you! THANK YOU... :) i will always remember this day .. as a very good day

[@bennyton2560]

I'm considerate I'm very intelligent I have nice taste in music I can write I dare to make the first move on people I like I dare to keep toxic people away from my life I'm thoughtful I'm entrepreneurial I have a sense of humor I'm resilient and I don't give up "I'm 21, and I think I'm as successful as my friends." Thank you!

[@JacksonWestfall]

I went to a job interview. After the first few minutes of discussion, I remember one of the interviewers smiling. He said "I like you, son. I like your energy." Even though I had just met this man, it warmed me up more than I can vividly describe. It's not very often I feel that kind of positivity rushing through my mind, but for that brief moment, I caught a glimpse of myself. And I must say, he's pretty freaking cool!

[@CRISTAWProductions]

I actually cried. Even the comments are making me cry with joy and realization. I'm depressed and I believe that I'm fat and worthless but this video just told me that I'm defined by what I do and not how I look. I love this video and I love all of you!

[@tensaisoul2107]

I've always believed and still believe that self-esteem builds up self-confidence.And self-esteem can be built not only by ourselves, but also by the people around us. I've seen many people that tend to give compliments to their friends, they just start sending positive thoughts to them by the idea of acknowledging them and believing in them. That's usually what makes people think positively about themselves ignoring the negative thoughts that are usually brought up by their enemies or friends.

[@AdaAda_]

I am brave and courageous I am intelligent I am beautiful I am unique I persevere I am strong I am optimistic I compassionate I am attentive to details I am caring I’m the best.

[@danieldeath-j7u]

you are none of these .

[@yolobro983]

period

[@muhammadeisa1459]

I am brave I'm persistent I'm smart I'm compassionate I'm unique I have good hair I'm determined I'm a good listener I have good taste in art and music I'm confident

[@cindyserna2721]

Healing is hard. But it is essential :) 10 things I love about myself: 1. How kind hearted I am 2. I’m fun to be around 3. I’m a deep thinker 4. I am good at singing, dancing & acting 5. I am creative 6. My laugh 7. My skin color 8. My boldness 9. My strength to fight battles alone 10. My smile

[@eja9539]

You go Cindy!!!

[@ImSinisterR]

Things I love about myself: - I’m friendly - Hardworking - have a great sense of humour

[@starlight-cz7lc]

I really needed this. Thank you so much. This is AMAZING! Your awesome!!

[@nikoeverett2557]

star light WOW! Thanks, that made my day. I am so honored that you took the time to watch this. You know, as much as anyone, i have my doubts still every day. Today I was sitting down to write about something new and all I could think was, "I am not good at this!" and I am so clear that that is not going to help so I took a break and got to read this and now I am powered up to get back to writing about things I think will help other people find a little more joy. Keep telling people what you love about them, that is changing the world, one joyful moment at a time. it changed my world today. YOU are the kind of person who celebrates others and makes their day!

[@starlight-cz7lc]

Your welcome!! 😀Thank you so very much for responding it means so much to me. I try to be positive in my life and weed out the negative. It's very hard to do sometimes. I try and surround myself with positive people. I showed my daughter this video as well. She's 14 years old and as you know it's hard to have a high self esteem at that age. She's always comparing herself to others and she cares a lot about what people think. I know being a teenager isn't easy. Thank you again!!😀hope your having a good day.

[@feleciacunningham4859]

I really did too.

[@everytatti]

I'm 17 and suffer from extreme body dysmorphia. uhmm thank you sooo much for this! I was crying throughout the video.

[@SelmaaC]

This was so beautiful and powerful. Taugjt me so much in a fes minutes, i will definitely start working on these - lastly, you are a beautiful, powerful, helpfull and inspiring woman -

[@ParthibanTR]

[07:48] “Let’s create a new culture. A culture where we all get to grow up feeling good about ourselves; a culture where we can rewrite our histories; we can create new stories about ourselves.” Great TED Talking, Niko Everett. Thank You. Actually we should thank the creators of social network and the internet that we are able to feel so close. It feels so beautiful that I am able to praise Niko for her work straight.

[@JorisWeima]

I think the 'delete thoughts' thing she said might be misinterpreted to include suppressing emotions/feelings, which I think is not healthy at all... I think it's important to know the difference here!

[@elsandstorm8997]

It actually is nothing wrong with being completely done and disinterested in that bad voice. It has nothing constructive to tell, I use the delete button and raise the volume button with self supportive thoughts. Best advice a therapist ever gave me. Try it.

[@bigdec1]

i'm going to do my list of 10 things now ,i really need that change ,i'm 41 years old and got to the stage that i take diazipam just to feel good about my self even though i have done nothing wrong.

[@ajmalali5317]

declan mather I recently started reading the Quran & find it pretty tranquil and serene...

[@MaryJane-wp8ru]

So many videos about self esteem on youtube.This is the best one everyone with these issues can relate.I think she is so good at it because she has gone through all that struggle herself and can relate easily to other people's pain despite their different stories and therefor she can really make an impact.Great woman indeed!Respect

[@nikoeverett2557]

Maryjane, thanks for these kind words. They made my day. Right when I was getting in my own negative thinking trap, you helped remind me of the things I am proud of. Be well!

[@MaryJane-wp8ru]

Ohhh what a surprise you've answered :-))) Yay! Oh you're welcome, happy to hear that!! Btw I'm German (living in Germany) and I've discovered and shared this. So imagine how far your message made it! You're making a huge impact and that's what I'm planning on too :-) Be well! Hugs

[@nikoeverett2557]

Mary Jane Thank you thanks you again! And let us lift each other up around the world to make huge positive impacts. we are lucky to be connected to others who will lift us when we are not so sure. Rock on sister!!!

[@MaryJane-wp8ru]

Yessss :-)))

[@randomassaccount2546]

I loved my self up until I was about 12 or 13. I could list what I was good at and what I was proud of. I never thought I was ugly or worthless until I downloaded social media. Social media and our society makes beauty standards so high and makes kids so self conscious and makes them feel so unworthy of love and confidence. I am 17 and I've just started my journey on self love and spreading kindness.

[@TaliShlafer]

Found this comment a year later. I hope you're still on your journey of self love

[@JubileeDancers]

I also hope you are still on your journey of self-love and spreading kindness❣️ I can feel your beautiful heart. I am 63 and just starting to dig deeper to see if I have a self-esteem issue. I think I do too!! Now I’m going to work on it!! Let us know how you are doing!! Sending you love and hugs 🤗 💝

[@ismailnoor9554]

Today I accept myself for who I am, I am proud of myself for the accomplishments I have done.. I came to this country a few years ago, and I hated the fact that I spoke wierd.. I'd hate to speak in public .. i was so hard on myself and i pushed myself so hard that I overachieved. Now when I speak, people actually think I'm from here.. and when I tell them I am not from here they compliment me on how well I speak that kinda helped my self esteem.. but im still struggling with self esteem.. and I am finally thankful for accepting me for who I am. Thanks to Niko I enjoyed your talk.

[@darkmatter9487]

nino jordan Hope your lifes filled with beauty and love ❤

[@kaylamartinez1779]

im so happy for u hope ur life is filled with lots of love and positivity

[@JasmineStorm100]

This made me CRY :'( Thank you. This is so powerful and inspiring :)

[@ParthibanTR]

By crying, I hope, your negative feelings drained out Jenyta Bachwa.

[@JasmineStorm100]

Parthiban T R Yeaaah! Crying helps eh? :v

[@kananiy5175]

Beautifully articulated! Niko has done an amazing job helping to boost the self esteem of hundreds, if not thousands of people by her exercise and sharing it here on Ted Youth! It isn't the "cure all" but it is a darn good start! I did this exercise with my 7th grade health class that I teach and they absolutely loved it! Thank you Niko for this great idea! And thank you for being someone's Julia! :)

[@REPSC12]

I would love to hear more about how you have used this video in the classroom! I am thinking about using it as well and am on the fence. How does it go with your 7th graders?

[@jennifertaylor2893]

Thanks Niko: Kindness goes a long way in changing the World! It is Time for PEACE. It begins within. Happy New Year!

[@witchplease9695]

I met myself and it turns out I'm a really shitty person. Oh well.

[@MrNdukwe]

Hey, I don't who you are, your background, or whatever you have done to make you feel this way about yourself, but I just want to say that you are capable of becoming a better person. I felt (and at times still kind of feel) the same way myself, and I realized that it stems from comparing myself to others whose personalities, accomplishments, situations, etc. appear better than mine. I am convinced that you have accomplished something great in your life, but you are constantly undermining it by looking at others' accomplishments. If anything, I commend you for whatever it is you have done in your life, whether it is an everyday accomplishment or a milestone such as completing school, getting a promotion at work, or simply being smart with your money for the month. I urge and encourage you to not focus too heavily on others so that you can continue using your strengths and improving your areas for growth (not "weaknesses"). You are definitely not a s****y person; you are a great person.

[@alexivanovs]

It sounds like you're trying to see yourself in the eyes of others, which means that you haven't really looked at yourself.

[@witchplease9695]

I don't care what others think of me. I'm an introverted person, majority of my time is spent within myself. Nobody knows me better than me. And I am a shitty person. I've accepted it. Not everyone on this planet has good qualities. 

[@biancatoledo3292]

Destinee I am really insecure as well. I used to see myself the same way you describe. Though I'm still somewhat in that mindset, I have improved. I imagined a person I want to be, someone inexistent. It's not someone I know. I imagined myself, as this kind, caring, talented person. I thought, if that's who I want to be, I have to work toward it. Everybody is a piece of work. But nothing happens if we don't make an effort to change. It's hard, and I've fallen back many times. But it's just something we have to keep persevering through. I know you can do it.

[@paddlegodsun]

Happiness and self esteem r so elusive they come and go. I remember from about 16 to 20 i was very confident. Now its been a couple years of losing my mojo. Life happened and it took my self image with it. Trying to build it back up again but it seems easier to wallow in self pity. Its easier when u have a busy social life and get out of ur comfort zone. High school helped cuz there r so many people to talk to. It takes lots of effort. 12 step groups helped alot too cuz i could use many mentors. Sad thing is u have to find ur own way cuz 90 percent of our daily conversations have nothing to do with how we truly feel about lifuuue and urself but these r conversations we need to have. Be willing to listen to others who seem to have self esteem if u don't have it.

[@MrKadir98]

Your points about comfort zones and conversations are so true. Hope you’re doing better now g

[@shrimpfarmer]

377 people missed the message and chose to continue spreading negativity. Their loss. 🙂

[@jjsiegal1]

What i love about this Tedtalk----she actually shows you How. Good talk...!

[@lottistar4912]

Thing I like bout myself: 1- I have great ideas 2- I can be alone and go to places by myself 3- I’m brave 4- Im a great liar 5- I fought depression by my own 6- I keep myself alive even to I want to die so badly 7- Im creative 8- I have a great music taste 9- I am able to understand others emotions

[@ZenfulSoul]

Great talk! It touched me deeply. Thank you Niko

[@petrosianii]

5 Things I like about myself: 1. I'm smart 2. I am musical and have good taste in music 3. I'm proud I got sober 13 yrs ago 4. I'm proud i got a certificate from an ivy league school 5. Ugh this is hard Think im gonna start a self-esteem journal and write a few things I like about myself each day

[@jonnycpardoe]

That’s a great start man

[@gingermo]

If the media could objectify women less, we'd all be better off

[@hithere3143]

This times a million.

[@etumnumatthew2286]

Some things i love about myself: i am calm and gentle i can easily motivate and inspire people for positive change in their lives i smile from the depth of my heart i am so caring and kind i empathize with people going through difficulties and offer help where i can. i love that i am very expressive and eloquent with words i admire my sense of humour i love learning i love putting smiles on people's face i can bring out the best in someone i love Niko Everrett for sharing her story and helping others build their self esteem. Thank you.

[@Name-d2t]

I can't believe it made me cry. This happens rarely

[@jonnycpardoe]

It is emotional, not a bad thing :)

[@ewanapex5185]

Who else is here from Online Class

[@MissGnoria]

Thank you for this video and the energy ✨ Here is my list: - I’m smart and always curious about the world which help me with my work and made me move to another country - I am a good friend, I always try to do my best to support them - I am funny and always making joke - I am creative in my own way, I like to experiment with my hair and clothes - I am resilient, I always try to do my best and don’t give up - I am good dancer, invite me to a party and I will dance all night long - I am ambitious, I want to accomplish my dreams and objectives - I am thinker, I try to understand the world around me and questions everything, which make me learn all the time - I am beautiful just the way I am - I am me ♥️

[@aladynamedSusan]

Struggling right now with my self esteem. I feel really low. I actually don't know what im supposed to take from this video but i do appreciate it being posted and the strong woman who shared the information. Maybe one day I will be as empowered as she is. To everyone else struggling today i pray you find all of the high self esteem you need to be successful.

[@xlinduhhx]

10 things I love about myself 1. I love that I am a very caring person 2. I love that I always make people laugh 3. I love that I am open minded and understanding 4. I love that I always go above and beyond for people 5. I love that I am introverted 6. I love that I can sketch very well 7. I love that I am quick at learning new skills 8. I love that I am straight forward and blunt 9. I love that I know when to say no and not get taken advantage of 10. I love that I am honest

[@EnglishwithLucas]

Important Clippings: - Self-esteem is based on our own thoughts, and we can control our own thoughts, so we should be able to control our self-esteem. 1. The first thing we can do to feel good about ourselves, is to hang out with people who make us feel good about ourselves. 2. The second thing is we can turn up the volume on that positive thinking. We can build up those thoughts about ourselves that are good and delete the negative thoughts. 3. The third thing is starting to tell the people around you what you like about them. Jump start their own positive thinking. 4. And the last thing is that when we receive a compliment, stand our ground, and just say: “Thank You.” - To Do: 1. Be somebodies support and help them find themselves 2. Get out a piece of paper and write down 10 things that you admire about yourself. Even things that somebody else might even be jealous of.

[@Itsundertheblood]

I’m proud of myself for still being alive.

[@selinaali9367]

Ten things that I like about myself I’m calm- I remained calm throughout my labour even though I had to have an emergency Caesarean at the end I’m proud to have continued breastfeeding even though I was in pain. I like that I strive to be healthy by making myself a green smoothie at least 5 days in a row. I like that I’m supportive of my sister who’s been ostracised from my family I like that I spend quality time daily with my daughter by singing and reading books with her I like that I’m creative and resourceful when I’m skint I like that I’m financially independent. I like when I try and stick up for someone who’s been gossiped about I like that I can be friendly with strangers I like that I’m non judgemental about someone and try and see good in everyone

[@dajivi]

At the end of the day you have nothing but yourself. No matter what life throws at you if you are at peace with yourself

[@yassminekhalfallah2027]

i feel like i dont wanna watch any other video after this , i dont wanna spoil this moment of awesomeness created by this inspirational fantastic Niko Everett !

[@wwaisoong]

Dis might juz be the first step to save Earth

[@thinkingclearly1244]

Read about the mechanics of how external validation clouds our own self-esteem and how to regain a normal relationship with yourself: thinkingclearly.co/2017/01/07/validation-and-self-esteem/

[@Cozy24698]

10 things i admire about yourself 1. I am kind and good hearted 2. I am hard working 3. I am unique 4. Many things motivates me 5. I am smart 6. I am forgiving 7. I am a decent song writer 8. I have a good sense in fashion 9. I am good at makeup 10. I like to learn

[@kevincika]

1.A good friend 2.Intelligent 3.Good-hearted person 4.Not living in poverty 5.Artistic soul and creative 6.Being skillful 7.Being openminded

[@meekaboo279]

“I like that in different” 🥺 BAWLING

[@shrutidoshi9109]

Gratitude or self care list - 1)Im cute. 2)I have a good nose. 3)I am good at speaking English. 4)Hardworking. 5)Respect my parents. 6)I have two best friends shivani and Poonam. 7)I can't see any one crying. 8)I will always help needy. 9)I have a comic side. 10)Im an introvert.

[@Aurorabluedesigns]

1: I love myself for becoming so brave 2: I love myself for always trying to better my life 3: I'm proud of myself for never losing hope in my potential 4: I'm proud of myself for fighting against my depression 5: I'm proud of myself for finding help to truly heal my heart and soul 6: I'm proud of myself for making others laugh and feel happy 7: I'm proud of myself for being genuine 8: I'm proud of myself for being such a strong fighter 9: I love myself for all of the flaws I couldn't embrace 10: I love myself for always trying to discover more of who I really am and and to be, truly just for myself. I love myself very much. I love that I don't let other people's opinions guide me anymore. I am proud of practicing forgiveness and inner peace instead of hatred and anger. That when I'm starting to hurt, I acknowledge it, I accept it, and I face it. I will not run away from it. I'm strong enough and I can overcome anything. :,) I love you, Nancy.

[@ashilarn]

love you too, gorgeous!!

[@HenrynotEmily]

1. Honors classes 2. My taste in music 3. Grades (Nearly straight A’s) 4. My nonexistent hopelessness in my career 5. My drive for my career 6. My love for food 7. Financial status 8. Social status 9. The empathy I occasionally feel 10. Well known 11. I’m the best 12. I’m the best 13. I’m the best 14.

[@stevenhillshow]

If you're a kid or a teenager reading this, I hope you learn to love yourself. Your self-worth should not be in the grades you make on a test but it should be within yourself. I thought I was dumb and stupid as a kid/teen because I always failed tests, didn't know how to study effectively and barely made it out of high school. Looking back I now know that the reason why I did so horrible in school was because I didn't believe in myself. I actually really believed deep down that I was stupid and worthless. The most important thing you can learn is how to love yourself, respect yourself and honor yourself. How to believe in yourself even when no one else does. How to be kind to yourself as well. I hope you will take the time every day to develop your self-esteem. I'm 27 now and I WISH that all of this was taught to me as a kid.

[@Xscape128]

I can relate 100% I always was an underachiever in school my whole life, that I struggle with confidence even now in my 30s

[@II_II555]

Things i like about myself 1: i care about people, i dont want them to feel bad because of me or someone else 2: im intelligent 3: im not over-confident and i dont like to show-off 4: i respect my elders and love my youngers 5: i can fully understand english even when i was younger i was the only sibling who could watch and understand english cartoons (btw im Pakistani) 6: i can bear hardships and i have alot of patience 7: im hardworking and i get the highest grades in my class 8: i respect others opinion

[@ramshafarooqui8463]

It's sad how I can think of 10 things I don't like about myself much easier than 10 things I like about myself. This is a great video and I'll try the list again. Thanks, Nico!!

[@hanselfinn8946]

I have a low self esteem but low self esteem is only a problem when it's a problem duhh because i have a low self esteem and a pessimist most of the time i think the worst case scenario first and it's not a bad thing because most of the time it makes you more observant, carefull, and thoughtful. Or am i wrong?

[@hollythomason9013]

I have had a real problem with getting the thoughts out of my head verbally in times when it seems the most important, and in an effort to learn how to be more confident in myself, I have started a personal experiment. I am recording myself speak. I absolutely hate to see myself speak, it is extremely hard, but since exposure to what scares me seems to work, I believe that by forcing myself to practice speaking to myself instead of in my head or through writing.. I may be able to speak my mind more clearly. My body language screams lack of confidence, and maybe by being aware and changing what I see I will be able to better communicate with others. This is a good video, thank you for the tips.

[@StrategicStripping]

I've been watching a lot of video's lately about self confidence, to share with other girls..... I had no idea how serious of an issue this is..... especially that suicide is the number 3 killer of teens...... thanks for speaking up about this and being vulnerable about your past. I hope you've worked out your self esteem issues completely, because it's quite obvious that you're an incredible human being. Thank you ❤

[@DrHowbeit]

This might work for some but to a great extent it seems she's drawing a line from "achievement" to "self-esteem". For instance "I'm a good artist". If my self-esteem is depending on the quality of my art it will also crumble when I struggle in my artistic endeavours. I can't help to think that self-esteem is something that ought to exist on a deeper level, not being linked to how good or bad I am at something.

[@lovelymoon6044]

I love myself: I am hardworking I try to be kind I am wonderful I am calm/quiet I am unique I am beautiful I am fun

[@anthonyaird]

Awesome. Using the turn it up and delete effectively. Thank you.

[@armani-fh1zi]

1, I love my simle 2. I love my kindness and wonder. 3. I love my gratitude, and positivity. 4. I love my voice. 5. I love me. 6. I love me.

[@wendylovejoy218]

I am inspired and this is well presented. I think we are all BORN perfect for our experience here we should not let others talk us out of our HIGH ESTEEM

[@TheJoulification]

10 things I love about myself: 1) I am a cool and relaxed person 2) I have my own unique fashion sense 3) I strive to be better everyday 4) I notice the small things...Flowers, birds, little animals chirping 5) I love fiercely 6) I try to help people whenever possible 7) I am chill about many things and let people be themselves 8) I am good with kids and animals like a sixth sense 9) I love animals 10) I can sing quite nicely

[@fawadmehmood9272]

Great Just amazing I wish I was among that crowd and Clap for you. Thanks for sharing beautiful and inspiring word into peoples lives

[@nikoeverett2557]

fawad Mehmood Thank you! And I love the idea of clapping for one another in life! Your comment made my day. Thanks for taking the time.

[@PankajSingh-ew4by]

I am i) late doing work with high precision & ii) mutual understanding iii) respect every one iv) more logical v) Emotionally Sensitive vi) Best among colleagues vii) fast learner new things viii) Perfect Decision makers xi) Kind hearted 💕

[@staysupersweet]

When I watched this, I cried. Thank you so much. For this. Thank you so much for what you are doing for young women. I never realized how I dis guard myself because I compare myself to the "idea of the Ideal girl" But even to my friends, who are more successful than I am, there's this quote I have on my wall, that I regard it to my relationship status and friends even to family, because by my age, all 3 of them have one of the two things what I dream of my life to be like at this age and that wasn't business success, but really I should just apply it to my whole life. When I get together with my friends next week, I want them to watch this and I want to make an everyday effort to make sure they know they are beautiful inside and out.

[@alejandraanguiano1125]

Things I love about myself. I am nice Uplift people The thing is I don't have any friends.. I am becoming more antisocial....

[@nunziocugno7537]

started this video thinking "yeah, I can totally came up with a ton of positive aspects about myself" and ended it thinking that no one of them would be envied by anyone

[@Melissa-rl5lo]

1- Im hella good artist 2- i can learn whatever I'm into 3- I do care a lot about my friends and family, and do my very best to show it 4- Im strong 5- Im good looking 6- I do my best to have good grades 7- I do my best to change for the better 8- im smart 9- im hardworking 10- I have a beautiful body

[@nikoeverett2557]

Hey there folks! I am working on helping re-imagine a better high school experience here in the US. Do any of you know (or are you) students who are in high school outside the US? I would like to do short interviews with kids going to high school outside their native country and have had a global high school experience (they can be US kids or otherwise, but for now need to speak English). Thanks for your help!!

[@dondradonaldson1335]

+Niko Everett I graduated high school two years ago, but I had a global high school experience.

[@Jagriti03]

Self esteem is based on our own thoughts. Say 10 things you are proud of yourself. 1. Spend time with people who makes you feel good. 2. Turn up volume of positive thoughts. 3. When you recieve a compliment say thank you. 4. Meet yourself. 5. 10 things about myself i love.

[@peterstiles1]

Excellent talk. I've got something out of Niko's '10 things' tool and the 'turning up the volume on the positives' tool already, just by running through them, and I'll definitely try to use them regularly. Thanks Niko, that tweeked my paradigm, just a little bit but in a very good way.

[@Findyourtrueselfinnature]

Ten things i am appreciate. Play piano Play guitar Thoughtful Kind Piety Positive in improving self 有主见 self decision Know English ( a Chinese speaker) Know some Tagalog Love listen and calm Patience and self reflection

[@Nikki-qi4ki]

This hit me hard even as an adult I have struggled to find value in myself and have allowed others to cast me aside and use that as reinforcement when I would think about myself and my worth. I mean if I had value I wouldn't be cast aside right? Or so I thought. Its been a long battle to get better, but it is possible. If you've just starting that journey please don't give up you deserve to know what is like on the other side of your fear and doubt. YOU define your worth not others. YOU are capable of changing your thoughts and YOU have so much to give to yourself. We have no need to compare because we are all different in our own beautiful ways and we should take that and lift ourselves up. And if you know someone who is struggling themselves send them here, help them find the tools to challenge their thoughts and just be there for them. Please be an ally to your friends and loved ones struggling to see their worth, it could really make all the difference.

[@Sam-de3sr]

I'm smart I'm hardworking I like helping people and give them the best advice. I'm good listener I'm kind I have a beautiful body. I give many compliments. I'm independent. I'm open minded I'm respectful

[@aramlee4006]

All i can come out with is thank you pretty much, if you find yourself insecure, so do I. Everybody is probably like that. Just don't think about what others would think of you just lets give it a try to believe that nothing is more beautiful than the way you actually are. You have your special features, personality and speciality. Hello beauty!

[@psgfilms5514]

things I love about myself 1.i am hardworking 2.i make an effort to make people happy 3.i am empathetic 4.im funny 5.im fun to hang out with 6. im talkative

[@halderarmando]

Thanks for lifting me up. I have always been pulling myself down and now started to realize only thing wrong is that I dont love myself enough. This video reaffirmed that for me. Thanks a lot. Keep spreading the message and helping people.

[@LifestyleofBeauty]

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”-

[@shysunbhu]

Great video. I really liked the "10 things you like about yourself" part. I found it hard to go past 2 initially. At the end of the exercise, I was left a lot de-stressed and ended feeling a lot better about myself. Its tough to find the Julie you talk about. That's probably the easiest and best way to sustain the thought. Are there any alternative ways you can suggest to keep this mindset going.

[@nikoeverett2557]

Shyam Sundar Hey there! I totally hear you about it being hard to find your Julie, she is one of a kind! BUT they are out there and if you are clear you are looking for a solid friend who can be positive with you, you will find them. In the meantime, here are a few steps to helping create and sustain the positive mindset for yourself: 1) notice our nagging negative thoughts.They are tricky little critters and are sometimes so habitual that we almost don't realize we are having them. So we actually have to listen carefully for them.2) take a deep breathWe need to pause for a second here and power up to change our thinking3) turn our attention away from these thoughts and towards pleasureFind a thought or something nearby that pleasures us.This can be anything! Today it was my sneakers, I pulled them out of the depths of my closet and love them. Yesterday it was the perfect temperature of the air which felt nice on my cheek.4) stay with this positive feeling, just let it roll around like a marble in your palm. If a smile or giggle is bubbling up, let it surface, maybe even exaggerate it. Feel the good feeling all the way.I have been doing these 4 steps many times each day because I have been noticing my habitual subtle nagging thoughts and the great news is that I have been getting to bubble up small pots of pleasure, smiles and giggles in all sorts of places! I am giggling writing this with the thought that it might be useful for you too.Give it a try. Write me back and tell me what you think. What was hard, what was awesome, what would you do differently. Let's figure this out because imagine if the millions of people who, like us, feel consumed by these negative thoughts, could step back into the positive, fiery people they are! Let's start this revolution OK? I am game if you are!

[@ParthibanTR]

Niko Everett That's so kind of You to give it a thought and spend time and energy doing what you are doing. I know it's not easy. Great Efforts. Thank You.

[@notui7637]

Well done Niko, love it....I found this talk to be inspiring. Note to self to be a Julie to others....

[@hninoowai1431]

instead of deleting negative thoughts, understanding where the negative thoughts come from makes you more meaningful and it can volume positive thoughts more

[@spearmint4093]

She looks younger than 37 :) like 27?