The Real Debates My Race - My Response

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This video is in response to my race and work being debated by the hosts on The Real daytime show. This video explains my emotional tearful, first response and what I think we can all learn from this going forward.
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[@shanboody]

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[@tywoodson7660]

Interesting....🤔so basically she did the same thing she criticized u for? Looks like it is a "black thing" too... how ironic lol

[@yeseniaquirozmendoza3673]

Wow she was talking bad about you when she did Exactly the same thing only it looked awkward and fake

[@knicole0912]

I love your come back very educated detailed and respectful! I couldn't have said it better ! Good for you:).

[@shanayekh9345]

WOW! That’s amazing...look at that hypocrisy...

[@monicamorrowq123adfvasdfgh5]

This is tht race war of light skin vs dark skin lots of dark skin try to shame light skin smh

[@maritsavasquez8823]

Jeannie is the only person at that table that isn’t afraid to stand up to Loni

[@SierraLyons]

I mean I have to give the other women credit for trying at least. Loni is just super abrasive and talks over them just like she did with Jeannie. Remember the issue is Loni at the end of the day. Not the other ladies

[@AcailahSafar]

Maritsa Vasquez period

[@Chutney1luv]

I'll always be Pro Jeannie Mai! She stands up for situations and the panel! Lonnie, was being a jealous bully!

[@simonsez1787]

Facts!!!!

[@zakiyareignshinellc4299]

They aren't afraid. They just don't want to get involved.

[@lotusproducciones5176]

You can tell everyone was uncomfortable with Loni’s choice of words

[@jazzyj904]

Choice of words were ignorant unnecessary and wrong. I can't even...

[@Lafilledlapluie]

Yes.

[@LuvScorpio]

She looked dumb as hell. I don't understand why she was so bothered.

[@leslies853]

K.Scorpio she’s insecure that’s why

[@yestinymaryanna4]

Makes it seem like being biracial is wrong

[@woahitscat16]

Her “white” aspects? Can’t they just be “her” aspects? Lord.

[@danastraub648]

catherinecollins exactly. 👏👏

[@lexilux22]

Exactly! She’s ignorant as fuck. Loud big and EXTRA!

[@AllieLittleMonster]

I’m white and have never heard of wtf she is doing- no hate at all with what she does I think she’s awesome but I can assure cue cards aren’t a white thing at least that I’ve heard of

[@prahasiniselvakumar7110]

@@lexilux22 hmmmm so racial profiling is not okay but size profiling is. Two wrongs don't make a right.

[@namastewellness]

catherinecollins there are white aspects like letting your dog kiss you in the mouth. There are a lot of things white people do that they think are normal that black people will NEVER do...like enter the house where y ok u think someone might be waiting to kill you #EveyScaryMovieEver (with a majority white cast).

[@MsP711]

Loni Love made a REALLY BAD JOKE that fell flat and she couldn't humble herself and admit it, she decided to play it out and it Blew up in her face

[@ceebee8255]

🎯

[@friedbolognasandwich]

Lol y'all are blowing this so far out of proportion. This discussion has not ages well now that it's 2021 🍵 and tbh Loni is owed an apology back

[@babyyodachelsea7034]

She made a joke that wasn’t unique if the joke is bad the culture is bad attacking Loni speaks to your own biases about her not really her joke because you never attack the millions of people who say the stupid shit

[@damariscasanova5402]

Jeannie felt so bad, her whole mood was off the whole show

[@anoelsilliw5256]

I woulda walked off...idgaf what tf you're saying. You're not about to disrespect my friend on national television that will eventually be made into a clip for people to continue to watch on the internet. Loni took it too far.

[@auctionguy5]

So?! Jeannie annoys people and says problematic BS herself.

[@MS-sx5zm]

That comment jeannie made at the end of the clip was hilarious.. and you could tell she was pissed off about this

[@damariscasanova5402]

I know she was probably contractually obligated to stay and do the rest of the show so I get it but she was really pissed. Everyone was kinda like 🌝🌝 help us!

[@anoelsilliw5256]

@@damariscasanova5402 I get what you mean, I'm not good at hiding my anger like she is. She's good at being passive since she's in the public eye so much but she gave hints she wasn't happy. At least she defended her the best she could in the circumstance.

[@faithfaithe4171]

Y’all look at Jeanie’s face. She was not happy. My face looked exactly like hers

[@noseygirl9907]

Jeanie looks like she can't wait until " The Real" is off the air so she can rip into Lonnie! 🤭

[@Chutney1luv]

Mine too! Lonnie, had always been a bully on that panel! She pretends like she likes them but she don't! When she gets caught up in her mess; she kisses azz! smh

[@Ginanotfromitaly]

Yeah. The same jennie who likes "dark meat" , but ONLY on the side. And the same jennie who was falling on the floor basically, laughing at Nauturi when she was being picked on.

[@GoogleAccount00]

Same

[@melanciaalcius7523]

Cecilie Noble when has she ever Ben a bully? If anything everytime any kind of race conversation happens, she’s usually the devils advocate.

[@jaclynnl6791]

She was so insulting to Tamara as well. That clip was disappointing and hard to watch. We support you 🙌🏼

[@ha8236]

You could tell Tamera was shocked by it but didn't say anything.

[@pattycamacho5858]

Loni: "she's biracial" Me: "so is Obama"

[@B0bbyLawton]

Exactly. Obama has more in common with white people than he does with black people, yet we uplift him as our black savior.

[@TomikaKelly]

...and Obama isnt Black, he's biracial....

[@followerofchrist9800]

Nesha M98 No he’s not.

[@followerofchrist9800]

Nesha M98 You have to have 2 black parents to be black. I don’t understand how every other race can get that concept except black people. The one drop rule is a Jim Crow thing. Stop going bye it. And he’s biracial because he’s not fully black.

[@kc87557]

FollowerofChrist but in Obama's case he IS mixed with BLACK AND WHITE.

[@itsjaybabes]

Jeannie is a real ass friend. Loni, this wasn’t it.

[@sunshineloveyasharal4768]

EXACTLY everything she said was so unnecessarily rude !

[@lifewithtamk3903]

Loni can't say anything and she is saying a white man so I don't get it

[@pinkest]

Agreed.

[@mikasjewels5772]

Jeannie's response and face the entire time is me AF.

[@TAMANDJON]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@ruu2S]

Shoutout to Jeanie for being a real friend

[@0BlueZephyr0]

Oh Please, Genie has said so many racially derogatory things over the years. She's a hypocrite, therefore full of shit. She deserves no props.

[@mikaally8111]

FKA Blue jeanie speaks about things that she is not educated about, Jeanie DOES NOT use race as an insult.

[@0BlueZephyr0]

@@mikaally8111 I think it's imperative you re-read what I wrote. I still get so confused when people misunderstand something that is clearly written down. Also, Jeanie's ignorance is no excuse when she's been working on a talk show that caters to people of colour, and is part of a panel of women of colour. So let's just drop the weak excuse.

[@thechillgirl3524]

I'm team Jeannie... ALWAYS be

[@maddfinn11]

Pretty Amazing 1902 then you’ll always be wrong I guess

[@BlckMariposa]

Loni said she feels like she has a right to say those are “white aspects”. That’s not ok. People love to tell biracial people who and what their racial identities should fall under and it’s the most backwards logic ever, unless that person is blatantly disregarding their privilege due to appearance/status relating to a part of their race, having a conversation on which side of their race is to blame for an aspect makes no sense and is very ignorant. I’m glad Jeannie jumped in, Loni you were out of line!

[@selenamontoya6528]

Yeah I agree with you 💯Loni has no right to make that comment about her having white aspects. If this was the other way round and I said oh this is definitely her black side showing that would be classed as racist and really bad.

[@neahmarie9750]

This!!!

[@kristytaylor4851]

Exactly, if someone felt that they had the right to point out my black aspects, I'd be offended and they'd be branded as racist.

[@ha8236]

It's like the mentality "Your not black enough". A lot of biracial people experience discrimination due to this. It's not right. Yes they may get more opportunities due to how they look as their skin is lighter but that doesn't make them any less of a person. They may still fully associate with their black side.

[@starfire7322]

I don’t agree with what she said but Shannon is 1/4 black so how does that give her the right to call herself black? That one drop rule is what’s backwards, stems from slavery and promoted the idea that white = purity and everything else is black. And loni does have a right to say she’s not black especially when a lot of biracial are now playing black roles and essentially erasing us from tv screens in order to cater to white people. We get biracial people representing us as if we face the same struggles. It’s disgusting.

[@J21822]

Everyone in the comments saying “white people have said worse”, yeah but those people are wrong. So hold people accountable on both sides not just one side. Loni said it as if it was an insult. Anyone’s “white side” is not an insult. Loni did not need to bring race into something that had nothing to do with race. She is perpetuating stereotypes.

[@gloriaalorwoyie6317]

Stop hiding your freaking face!!

[@sbrooks904]

@@gloriaalorwoyie6317 lmfaoooooooo you are pissed

[@justjuli3t]

Gloria Alorwoyie you need to hide yours 🤢

[@bibaolaitan5189]

👏👏👏

[@chudson4500]

Loni tried to make a race joke and it wasn't funny, but instead of letting it go she kept going 🙄

[@abrialexis3692]

chris h exactly but if it was all black loni would’ve been the FIRST to talk about it.

[@Deo721]

I actually liked the whole moment. The joke was funny but not everyone likes certain type of jokes. The Real had a real moment which it what makes the show good. People don't always get along and agree on everything. I like the way it went and was handled on The Real. These are everyday conversations & topics discuss amongst people of race. That's why it's called The Real

[@1000shoeswoman]

chris h she was mean jennie talks crap sometimes but lonnie was nasty wrong she needs to say sorry invite her on the show

[@RuthMtzFam]

Dee Byrd then she needs to learn how to apologize, just like she demands “white people” to do!

[@JalahMay]

So

[@MultiAsssasin]

A true friend will defend u when you are not around aka JEANNIE

[@thechillgirl3524]

I wish I had a great friend like Jeannie

[@AcailahSafar]

Well said

[@thechillgirl3524]

@ethereal angel I am.. But it is always one way.. so I cut it off with a lot of "fake friends" who don't care about me as much as i cared about them.

[@Ginanotfromitaly]

Loni should NOT be fired. Jeannie has said many offensive things about black people, but Loni can't say what she wants about this multicultural woman? And I say multicultural because she is Indian, white, and a quarter black. Lighten up folks. It was just a joke.

[@genevafrans3752]

Jeanie only defended most probably because it public television and Shan would've seen it either way..

[@ebonysworld3397]

I can’t stand her... “ I’m black so I can say whatever about whoever” attitude

[@keisha382]

Exactly.

[@Iamcheirarose]

I actually really liked her till this comment .. wow

[@TomikaKelly]

She doesnt say whatever she wants because she's Black, she says whatever she wants because she's Loni. If everyone on the show was like Jeannie Mai, it would get canceled. If everyone were like Loni, it would get canceled. She brings balance.

[@TomikaKelly]

@Purple Crimson Well apparently the network doesn't think so and they enjoy her straightforward, tell it like it is comedic demeanor, so...🤷🏿‍♀️🤸🏿‍♀️

[@justme-qd6qb]

@Purple Crimson it's kinda messed up to say that because someone happens to act like a stereotype they need to get fired. That's saying that black women need to act a certain way (non-stereotypicly black) to be acceptable

[@leonabundy6739]

If someone said to loni oh that’s just your black side talking she would have flipped! Double standards! I love this girl!!!!

[@traceytracey3756]

Facts!!

[@WandersNotLost]

GIRLLLLLL SAY THAT

[@babedavis1263]

MyTribe T.V All Out Attack pls send me a clip of anyone ever saying that.

[@cheeseck7205]

@MyTribe T.V All Out Attack wym?

[@TomikaKelly]

No, she would've agreed, because she's a comedian who understands comedy...

[@lauryrodriguez7229]

What I don’t get is how biracial immediately means black + white.

[@xpgx.]

Thank you ! Like soo many different ethnicities yet they think only black and white mixes. Loni just ignorant

[@courtneifranco4960]

@Dina L That makes no sense. An ethnicity isn't a race so you can't technically even be biracial that way and there are more than two races.....

[@-a7132]

Dina L no it isn’t...biracial is defined as two races and interracial is defined as two or more races...no where does it say biracial is just black and white...it’s just a lot of people consist of being half black half white especially in America and so people have automatically started associating biracial with just those two races because it’s such a common mix...Hapa is a Hawaiian term used to describe people who are mixed race and is not just exclusive to but most commonly referred to as half white half Asian....

[@xpgx.]

@Dina L Biracial in no way shape or form means Euro/African mix. You're talking about generalizing. "Bi" means 2 hence Biracial, a mix of 2 races. Hapa comes from Hawaii and it naturally means anyone of mixed ethnicity. Once again people started to generalize it for Asian mix.

[@xpgx.]

@Dina L Sounds like you're talking about where you live. But the rest of the world understands the meaning. Just cause people picture that mixture doesn't magically change the meaning. It's just the most common mix.

[@ekky6324]

Jeanie is a true friend, she spoke up immediately for you and that's wonderful

[@emanrehan4180]

Ijeoma Njeze shes a Capricorn

[@victoriatacuba2487]

We all need a Jeannie in our lives

[@TheNinjapancake14]

@@victoriatacuba2487 I don't ever see support for Jeanie, this is rare

[@alinamichelle2531]

Ava Rehan no she’s a trump supporter

[@alinamichelle2531]

Bd from the 213 right, people vote against their own interests everyday. wym and? i said what i said

[@jennasweightlossjourney7921]

Tam looked so embarrassed. I hate that this happened.

[@arielmonae]

tamara is annoying when it comes to not standing up for herself with loni.

[@deborahmccray9841]

Not everyone can clap back that quickly and that is okay. In this case they (Jeanie and Tamera) were good together. Hopefully Tamera will have a one on one conversation with Loni and explain why the comments were offensive. Thankfully Jeannie spoke up quickly.

[@arielmonae]

Deborah McCray every episode though? it didn’t have to be a clap back just a simple “let it go” or next subject would have worked. i love jeannie though.

[@dedegang2005]

To me tamera stays quiet so her name does not go out the as something its not. Also tamera said on multiple videos that she had children that may watch her video in the future and i believe that she stayed quiet to show that some things just has to be ignored or just doesn’t deserve an answer. Especially if it is idiotic.

[@missamyiahh3357]

Ehh I’ve seen Tamera shut down that table multiple times for things she truly believes in... maybe this comment didn’t actually offend her, maybe she low key agreed.

[@fedexlady22]

Tamera won’t say anything because she’s very close to Loni. I feel like she’s the one who should’ve said something to loni right along with Jeannie. Loni act like she run the place.

[@k.alvarado6237]

Loni was trying to make a “white people are lame” joke... and then she felt the energy shift after she told the joke she got defensive.

[@kimbronson3520]

As many white women that are dating black men, I know ain't nobody tripping on Loni.

[@littlerush99]

No she wasn't, Loni was telling the Truth! Now this woman wants to take this and play the Victim! The truth isn't Hating, she wasn't trying to make a White person joke ! You just took that way!

[@angelacanedit]

agreed

[@maltsoymarai2243]

littlerush99 so what the hell was she trying to say then? That black people genuinely wouldn’t do something outside the box to help a client??

[@derrickp2628]

Exactly

[@bianca5452]

Tamara looked offended in the clip. I mean she literally is biracial like that wasn't the move for Loni

[@wahtong]

Bianca she's just jealous. Loni has been madder and madder with each season.

[@marianadesilva9174]

Tamara looked horrified.

[@whatstheniche8716]

Loni Love has progressively become more and more hateful by the day. She’s incredibly racist. It’s heartbreaking.

[@heiress2dathrone28]

Sadly she been disrespecting Tamera but she sweet an avoid conflict so never checks Loni as she should

[@buffytheinternetbullyslayer]

Wah Tong she’s not jealous 🙄 she’s very ignorant and tried to make an insensitive joke that wasn’t even funny

[@ItzLouis]

“i have a right to say” yeah doesn’t mean you should say it

[@keisha382]

And she didnt even have that.

[@riansearcy6652]

And are we forgetting that Will Smith, a black man, starred in a movie with the similar concept to what she’s doing? Loni’s comment was ignorant 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@green_airheadsgreen_airehe5347]

That movie is awesome

[@AMCW90]

Which movie?

[@green_airheadsgreen_airehe5347]

@@AMCW90 Hitch

[@ginipeyton7821]

Yeah hitch was a comedy not a great example. However I agree with you

[@sarahgates6947]

Hitch is my movie

[@NR-bw6kh]

The fact that your race was brought up AT ALL is mad crazy..

[@mikasjewels5772]

Crazzzzzy

[@alondrahart6038]

Race is always brought up now in days , if you sneeze , cough , talk a “certain way” you will be put in a race section even if that race is not your race

[@BooDotBoo]

I mean, racism and colorism is a thing, so it's understandable if it's brought up, but this wasn't a time it was necessary. She just brought it out for literally no reason.

[@Notinuse6685]

She Indian not white that’s makes it even more crazy not that it’s relevant

[@noneotherthannigel2823]

Why? What's Mad Crazy is you finding the Discussion of Race MAD CRAZY! Especially on a TV SHOW entitled THE REAL!

[@erikagarcia2428]

I just think it’s funny because loni refers to Megan markel as her “black queen” but isn’t holding that same voice for you and that’s problematic.

[@dalyanjames4925]

Her mother is black.. Which makes her a black woman When your mother is white .. You are white because you came from a white women... When your mother is spanish you are spanish you came from a spanish woman

[@EVELYNxO]

Dalyan James what does that have to do with what she said

[@tiffanyann9301]

Dalyan James WRONG!!!

[@DRay4eveZ]

Dalyan James 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@aranielleb7718]

@@dalyanjames4925 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 what fuckery were you taught???

[@inkarkdyralieva4180]

Audacity of Loni to say she’s “checking” anyone 🙃

[@Tre_stories]

Right like she wasn’t in the wrong

[@barbciari3365]

Well she checked her!! Lol

[@jasminesittol4772]

Loni was trying to make a joke and it didn't land. The situation looked awkward for everyone. They must not have meetings before the show about their topics because obviously she didn't think that one through

[@Elmina202]

Everyone on the panel was looking at loni like .. girl wtf

[@coppercoloredcutiexoxo2315]

Loni and James must be arguing right now and she's on the chopping block

[@taay_thegreat2057]

Tamara was like uhh??!!! Imma be quiet 🤐 when loni said she uses her white side like what...

[@ElmTreigh]

I was so shocked by her reaction & what she said. I think they all were. Both Jeannie & Adrienne tried to make it about the topic & Loni tried to defend her stance that she clearly noticed was wrong. Poor Tamera looked uncomfortable. And it's just as someone else said, about lifting women up instead if tearing them down, that's what they advocate all the time, & this time, Loni majorly disappointed & kind of disrespected what the platform she is on, is all about. Shame on her for what she said.

[@fikirteOmond]

Nicole Venn i hear ya. She getting too irritating. She ain’t biracial so why act like she knows all about it.

[@thebtripledexperience]

Loni is a hater and is starting to annoy me

[@archertees2185]

What saddens me is that Tamera is a mixed female and had to sit through that.

[@CreativelyPhoenix]

Archer Tees I wanted her to stand up for mixed people especially when Loni dragged her in to it.

[@americancreole6299]

@@CreativelyPhoenix Yes, Tamera is silent at the WRONG times! She needs to stop being so timid!

[@angelnewball5615]

I think she was thrown off.

[@joba3234]

She started laughing...

[@musicqueen6617]

@,Archer Tees. To piggyback on your statement, not only did Tamera had to sit through that, Loni is supposed to be her friend. She's around her family all the time so it's crazy that Loni feels this way!!!!

[@kondwanimbulo9260]

Tamara looking at Loni like, "what makes you feel entitled to say that about me?" ... If only she could give sound to her thoughts

[@shavareicemccants2961]

This young woman is owed an apology directly from Loni

[@chocolatecuban]

Loni consistently makes ignorant racial comments, especially towards Tamera.

[@JaieElizabeth]

Ariel H ‼️ for no reason

[@tonimoore7188]

They’re friends that’s their relationship

[@51629jbgemu]

Ariel H especially when Tamera gets a lot of heat for being in a interracial relationship. So loni needs to stop. Yes there’s a race issue in the US but anyone that’s black or mix will have their struggles.

[@missmelissaa]

@@tonimoore7188 Well then that's a toxic relationship..

[@alikandi]

It IRKS me that Tamera never stands up for herself, it’s very telling of the nature of their relationship.

[@KairoK]

Loni gets a man after 40 years and suddenly she's the expert?

[@JustBeYouTy]

Kairo that part! She is so toxic!

[@weddingboutique5371]

A white man too

[@Appleboo222]

s exactly a white man & then she goes on national TV being stereotypical about white & black people smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@SamoanObsidian]

No. She always thought she was. It's hysterical.

[@KairoK]

@@JustBeYouTy The way she told Jeanie "let me check you, let me check you" 🧐She was in her feelings all the way. She could have just said "Oh, she isn't white? My mistake. Her race shouldn't actually be an issue. My bad."

[@evelyneeliana8254]

Homegirl loni will lose that job if she keeps that attitude up.

[@neaithaker416]

i’ve lost so much respect for Loni.

[@jjgems5909]

Tamara looked like she wanted no part of this convo. She looked cringed lol

[@tinabahena1254]

Jessica Ramirez Poor Tam looked embarrassed at what Loni was saying lol

[@MsMoNala]

Tamera

[@ilovemusic88ful]

Her name is TAMERA , not what you wrote !!!

[@tinabahena1254]

Afro-French-Girl I KNOW HER NAME IS TAMERA. Y’all clearly don’t watch the show if y’all don’t know that they call her Tam

[@Klovely7]

Tina Bahena 🤣😂😂

[@DeeBrownLTD]

I’m surprised Loni’s interracial relationship works out with her ignorance.

[@kraichellecurren7892]

Dee Brown For now... I’d be curious of her boyfriend’s reaction. He seems so considerate of her feelings maybe he will use this as a teaching moment to her, if he’s not so offended he leaves her or goes off on her.

[@sandrinekows]

same way people who date interracial can still be racist...?

[@TheStylinstar]

Lol if her and that man had kids, it would look more like Shannon than her.

[@carbon.the.christ5626]

she has money

[@melissaetienne6274]

Dee Brown everyone loves bashing black women it seems cuz I’ve seen Loni makes stereotypical jokes about dark skin black people and not one person bats an eye!! Fascinating! She made a joke that ALL comedians make!! That there are things that you just don’t see other groups of people do!! Everyone knows that biracial people who look white are treated as white and black biracial people are seen as black and live as black!! They go through everything that black people go through!! Funny how everyone laughs including Tamera when Loni makes stereotypical jokes about dark skin black people!!

[@2009TalkingHead]

Note to self: Looking forward to the day when Shan is on her own platform beyond The Real. Sending love from Toronto.

[@mariahawkins8876]

I have never liked Loni because she’s a passive aggressive hater. Her “ telling it like it is” is usually her saying things that she should have kept to herself. She’s just rude.

[@LoquaciousPint]

And she only feels that stereotypical traits are what validates ones blackness which is trash

[@kwhite71376]

Yes, I’ve never liked Loni! She’s not even funny!

[@TemptressMoon]

So agree

[@lipstiqIsShe]

Agreed

[@nicelydone4846]

A "passive aggressive hater" this is so accurate. Lmao 😆 Edit: I know someone that is passive aggressive all the time. It's so exhausting. I'm going to use this lol. Might even say it to their face bc I've had it w their bs. Thank you, god bless. Have a great day!

[@AlheriDB]

Loni is giving me Bully vibes. I don’t understand why she is being like this.

[@DeeDiamond2981]

Unfulfilled mindset

[@loveafrica97]

Donya Baker her pride just wouldn’t let her be reasonable

[@antiyannahall5260]

She’s always been like this

[@lotuslane213aw]

But Lonis out here promoting interracial dating I don’t get it lol

[@SizzlerGoat]

@Rick and Morty lmfao chill b she didn't deserve that 😂

[@jonellenicholson5286]

Bro they have an entire Will Smith movie “Hitch” where he basically does what she does but for men. (It may not be the exact same thing but the same premise non the less).

[@Naisy77]

Not really he sets up events for the men to stand out etc

[@justrandom1494]

I'm tired of people claiming you're not black if you're nice, loud or rude. I'm a pure black girl and people literally say that I'm not black because I'm "nice" and apparently speak in a quite tone. 😔😩

[@26Emmie]

I relate to this.

[@CommentKid3000]

Loni tripping, they’re we’re all looking like wtf? 😭

[@MillyJazz]

Yep!!! Jealousy is a disease...

[@pacificocean7361]

@@MillyJazz say it again

[@LuvScorpio]

It was so unnecessary for Loni to say that and she just kept the same energy throughout that segment. She made herself look like a complete fool. Just dumb.

[@CommentKid3000]

K.Scorpio Right, I was hoping she would realize no one else was agreeing with that bs and just shut up but she kept going 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@CommentKid3000]

Taylor’s PlayHouse Me too, I had to skip ahead a little every time she started talking 🥴

[@shamelessmaya]

Clearly this host is projecting her own issues. All I can say is seeing your growth is powerful. And all of this is momentum propelling you forward. Keep slaying girl

[@islandrose1224]

Projecting? Who, Loni?

[@alexisjnea]

Island Rose122 definitely loni

[@emanualcarr7408]

BLK people get insulted and disrespected on a regular. Where is all the outrage for them?

[@deejay803]

stfu🤣🤣😭😭 wth mehn stfu

[@sincity8650]

Emanual Carr People get fired now and days for the disrespect 🤷🏼‍♀️ I am not sure where you have been but people LOSE their careers for the same stuff that Loni said.

[@armadasinterceptor2955]

First impressions are important. My impression, is that Loni is a loud mouth bully, with no self awareness. I am not impressed with people that tear down random people for cheap laughs.

[@Rose-gy1cc]

I’m just glad there is someone who is part Guyanese that can represent us West Indian people. I’m Guyanese and my race has always been question my entire life. I’m thankful for you Shan. You do yuh own ting. 🇬🇾

[@makeitwithmay160]

Loni’s response to Tamar: “Women need to stick together, women of color need to uplift one another, etc. etc. blah blah blah” ... proceeds to put down Shannon, a woman of color ... bye boo!

[@davidanthony1992]

Magan Shepard dame thing with Porsha. Geez I love Loni but what’s going on with her.

[@davidanthony1992]

Magan Shepard same*

[@captaineveryman6589]

Loni is an agent of White Supremacy.

[@makeitwithmay160]

David CoStAnTiNo Yea, I’m not sure what’s going on with her. Maybe she’s looking for laughs but .... it’s really just not funny.

[@lichi1244eva]

Loni is going through some things...hurt people, hurt people and Loni has been particularly snarky and vindictive lately.

[@evegabriella7479]

Jeannie SHON in this. It’s not always easy to speak up when you’re being constantly told your opinion is wrong and being laughed at. She really stood up for you and deserves recognition.

[@Tan87ful]

Agreed

[@TyroneBlackman7]

Shan no need to defend yourself against ignorance.

[@sunpi]

What is this show we don’t have it in the uk

[@foreverPriscilla]

*jeannie trying to check loni by telling her the woman is not white* loni: *interupts jeannie* “let me check you right there” lmao but she was the one who needed to be checked

[@didibjones]

Right...very disrespectful. Smh

[@brie4623]

Right. How you gonna check someone when you wrong. Moreover she was LOUD and WRONG!! and unapologetically so. I felt how embarrassed the other ladies were.

[@NR-bw6kh]

LMAOOOO RIGHT

[@invadingminds]

She was just trying to clean it up real quick like we all didn't hear her nonsense.

[@carbon.the.christ5626]

Right then tried to use Tamera to clean it up lol.

[@B.Champagne]

I'm happy Jeannie checked her and she didn't laugh once!!

[@misheru2701]

B.Champagne yup she really looked disappointed and hurt by lonis comment smh

[@mariamagdaleno149]

Too bad no one checked Jeannie and her dark meat comments...

[@B.Champagne]

@@mariamagdaleno149 Loni and Tamar both questioned her. She just didn't argue back with them. On another note, that's a different situation. Just because she did something wrong before, doesn't mean she cant get kudos when she does something right.

[@saeon4427]

Jennirai herself is a phony birch who don't like black women

[@apru4065]

@@saeon4427 mhm sure not like she works with multiple of them 😑

[@sammmuela6759]

Loni should have been like... “I feeel like this confident girl is exploiting girls who aren’t confident by taking their money to offer them advise that will only be affective for a short time if you don’t truly work on yourself, alone. I’m a confident women who believes women should be honest with each other and uplift one another, to make a business out of that seems really opportunistic and I happen to associate those traits with white women, but I admit it was a bad joke and I’m sorry.” Boom. And people would have been like “damn... I see you.” 👀

[@whatdidido9145]

The thing is , associating particular traits with an entire race of people is just backward and a way of thinking that creates prejudice and stereotypes. As for exploiting , there are many things people can't do themselves and need help for and I think every service should have a price to create value for it. So charging for a service isn't exploitative in the least. People can be good , bad , confident , insecure and many other qualties similar or different and race is one of the least common denominators for them. So bottom line , what Loni said was plain ignorant and no matter how she would've phrased it , it still wouldn't come off any better.

[@sammmuela6759]

What did I do? I’m Mexican American, there are some things that people will associate with me because of that. Is it racist? Sometimes. Most times, they’re right. Have white people been aggressively exploitive and opportunistic at the most inappropriate times?? Some of them, sometimes. But no, your right, not all the time. And not EVERY white person. But she’s an American black women who’s well into her 40’s. She was born in ‘71, do you really think she cares what YOU think is appropriate. She’s been threw and seen some shit. I’ve seen TONS of black male comedians talking about, “WHITE SHIT” and no one bats an eye. Come on now.

[@whatdidido9145]

@@sammmuela6759 I never once mentioned racism madam. My statement clearly implies that I am well aware of the terms I use . As I said, stereotypes may be true or false , but the assocuation of particular traits to a race sure does create them . People can be many things and it doesn't need to be a result of their race. My argument mainly focused on the use of the word "exploitation" and the unnecessary negative connotations attached to it. Every job deserves to have a price and rightly so. Helping someone do something they tgemeselves can't doesn't mean taking advantage of them.

[@sammmuela6759]

What did I do? Okayy

[@veramaxey7899]

Sammmuela + Loni, and ANYONE else has absolutely NO ROOM to judge Shan and the work that she has vested. She has a degree which gives her the right and position she is in her career!!!!! Shan has EARNED her place to be a positive mentor to people who are trying to meet someone genuine!!!! I’m SO SICK OF THIS PETTY SHIT. People are making FEEBLE attempts at trying to demean her character, when she is trying to TRULY utilize what she’s achieved educationally to assist!!!! This is a sign of INSECURITY in it’s FINEST form!!! GROW UP AND FIND A WAY TO MAKE YOUR CONTRIBUTION TO OTHERS, INSTEAD OF TRYING TO UNJUSTLY DEMEAN THOSE OF US THAT ARE!!!!!!

[@vimbayikajese2336]

I cringed when she said 'white side' arrgh, really?? Girl I am so sorry you had to go through that. I also just finished watching that clip of the womxn who called you 'cute' ...what!?? Shan, you are so awesomely gifted and worthy of all the followership you have and more because you work hard, you care and you bothered to figure out unique creative ways to curate ALL that you've sweated to learn and package it for our generation to understand. I appreciate you, I appreciate your brains and creativity, I appreciate how you pioneer yourself through such complicated subjects. Sending you love - you may probably be over it but I was meant to stumble across the example of you navigating this with such firmness, vulnerability, transparency and sure sense of self. Cheering you on. Love your book btw :-)

[@feidhaniabdallah]

Loni never likes it when she’s wrong I hate the way she speaks at times, honestly you could see Jeanie getting angry

[@isabellea.a1386]

She was in complete embarrassment. I feel like the Real has changed so much and it has become more of a negative and hurtful show, so sad.

[@silvia_music]

Yes, Jeannie looks pissed! I’ve worked with her and Jeannie is super profesh and kind and you have to do a lot to get at her. I was embarrassed for Loni.

[@emanualcarr7408]

@@SetsoAmantle "Bold opinions" are needed. BLK people tired of being the Yes Sir/Mam stereotype when it comes to the Professional world. White people only like BLK people that keep their mouth shut and are not woke. They need ZaZa Ali on this show..

[@isabellea.a1386]

@Kuda Kwashe oof, you big mad arent you?😂

[@isabellea.a1386]

@@SetsoAmantle I guess so, that's probably why tamar left. I'm starting to see what she kept trying to let people know about.

[@luckyarchery]

This is why I can’t stand Loni sometimes. She can be really ignorant.

[@mercedezvaldez8248]

Adia Sinead i don’t like her period 🤷🏽‍♀️ she embarrassing

[@meriah10]

Loni is slow asf

[@Thefinerthings74]

Oh please shut up!

[@americancreole6299]

She is starting to turn me off as well. She can offend others yet she starts crying those fake crocodile tears when SHE gets offended over something! I'm starting to think that SHE was the cause behind Tamar getting fired in the first place. She is coming off as super FAKE.

[@MsChantae]

@@americancreole6299 yessssssssssssss....with her fat fkn ass. lol

[@poethomegirl]

You always hit the nail on the head with such DETAIL, ELOQUENCE & GRACE. Love you, Shannon!

[@armaandode3282]

proud of you for speaking out. you speak so eloquently and beautifully. thank you for sticking up for yourself in the most respectful way possible. you’re so inspiring, thank you.

[@kinndah2519]

It isn't the "white part" of Shannon, it's THE THERAPIST side of her. Thanks for your educated, nurturing, and creative soul Shan 💖💋

[@invadingminds]

👏🏼 You can say that again!

[@amandafox6220]

Also, remember she genuinely doesn’t have a “white side”. Neither of her parents are white!

[@mariaakram2359]

It’s actually stupid how certain people equate being educated with being white. Especially when poc agree with these labels, it just keeps negative stereotypes alive.

[@yafavbrujita762]

Kindah I love this comment. Because it’s REAL!

[@kinndah2519]

@@amandafox6220 Her mother is half white if I'm not mistaken.

[@TobyTV]

If she was white and said" that's her black side coming out" it would be a whole uproar! She doesn't get a pass idc

[@jessicaquirsola6233]

TobyTV absolutely

[@richierich1]

TobyTV yeah, that’s called history. And history out-lives hypocrisy.

[@sitas9827]

Exactly!! And saying you can't be racist against white people is total BS

[@auctionguy5]

It's not the same thing.

[@richierich1]

Sita S actually Black people can be bigoted and prejudice but not racist.

[@coachlana8119]

Shannon I’m so proud of you! I used to work front door events with you in Toronto back in the dayyyyyyyy and the core of you is still that beautiful smart strong woman! Every time I see you on TV or your videos I’m sooooo proud of you! You’re a shining star! ⭐️

[@kelceynicole]

so happy to see you on the real today! i love seeing women come together after a misunderstanding❤️

[@itsalexistruedat]

And this is why biracial people often have issues with identity and feel rejected by certain communities.

[@natalieperalta9113]

itsalexistruedat the black community *

[@itsbritt9155]

Nacho Bees Wax the black communities excepts and praises biracial ppl the most .

[@dorkydandridge386]

@@natalieperalta9113 I dont really think thats true most biracial ppl i know(that are black & white) tend to identify as black because that side for them was more accepting.

[@kaitlynkenley5261]

Dorky Dandridge I’m black and white and I don’t fit in with the black community or the white community..

[@Bubbles3579]

@@kaitlynkenley5261 You shouldn't fit in those groups anyway. You are in the biracial community

[@AmiKamara]

Lani loves bringing down other Black women but gets mad when someone brings up her dating that white man.

[@kikib.4519]

So true.

[@themilfmemoirs841]

Ami Kamara THANK. YOU.

[@akenatemra]

👀 👀 oh she with a white dude??!!! maybe she projecting her guilt or summ

[@wam1549]

Ironic, right?

[@sydsaywhaa]

😂😂😂 it’s really sick

[@MarinaSoliman]

Ik it’s been a year since this post, but you’re so eloquent and handled this with such grace

[@mayaw7148]

This is such a humbling video. Thank you Shan

[@kayekaye08]

Jeannie handled that like a true Friend & Queen

[@ha8236]

Jeannie is a loyal person, you can see she really does support her friends.

[@mscmullins1]

She really did! 🥰

[@harlequin2280]

@@ha8236 Jeannie wasn't about to let anyone call one of her friends white...🙄

[@jillianetuk5189]

@@harlequin2280 no what Loni said was racists

[@melaninmagic5240]

“Let me check you right here!” 😒 Jeanie didn’t deserve to be cut off like that.

[@AvonnaVentura]

Jeannie is annoying asf

[@Myaccount923]

MelaninMagic because they’re trying to make it seem like she said anything bad about Shannon. Loni told no lies but I digress 😂

[@oceejay5148]

Queen SM uhm NO. Loni is the annoying one bye

[@AvonnaVentura]

@@oceejay5148 I said wtf I said bitch 🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽

[@ariela_]

Right, Jeannie wasn’t even coming for her she was going to talk about shans work, loni was being so rude for no reason

[@silliesstone9379]

Amen! I’m late in the game, but this is beautiful, I continue to thank you for sharing light

[@twinningintokyo5487]

This just came up on my timeline and it’s so beautiful seeing this as your past and your journey now with your husband and baby 🥰

[@vanusaneto]

I'm absolutely disappointed at Loni. That was disgusting and embarrassing.

[@blessedbeauty5411]

Agreed

[@bryansim9191]

lol i never liked her to begin with and since the very start she has been super narrow minded and aggressive with her opinion cant take criticism and likes to play the victim just cause shes insecure

[@eclecticwierdo]

Everything about her speaks insecurity. Honestly it’s embarrassing to have her speak as though she’s a representative for black women.

[@bryansim9191]

Nadya Nickels ive always said that but i get swamped by those dumb bitches in the comments

[@smmilam1991]

You can see everybody else at that table was uncomfortable when loni made those comments

[@Iamblessed12345]

Sean Mendoza I did notice that as well!! Loni is not mean. She just landed a bad joke that nobody wanted to laugh at. I feel bad for the girl, cause now she has to defend herself. The only good thing is now more people know who she is.

[@8luvbug]

The audience did too

[@c.a.7289]

Over dramatic ass loni was being real yall do to much!!!!!!! Shes half white and half black and loni mentioned her white aspects its a fucking joke damnnn!!!!! Yall sensitive asses kill me!😭😭😭

[@helloimok7001]

@@c.a.7289 it's youtube when the KZbinr says be mad her fan base gets mad they are robots

[@sdc1961]

C.C.W I can only speak for myself but I ain’t mad that was just a bad joke and Shan isn’t half White if you want to get technical she’s 1/3 white. But even if she was the joke didn’t make sense to what they were talking about, it literally came out of no where

[@KyoTo7]

Shan, you're so eloquenttt. Everything you said was so well delivered and mature. I'm reading your book now- and I don't think it's hard to start at all. I actually love how easy it is to read. Much love~

[@lx9414]

Your graciousness,class,eloquence,strength and overall beauty INSPIRES ME. I’m tired of ppl trying to tear her down. You have so much to offer to this world!!! You are amazing and don’t let ANYONE tell you ANY different. I could honestly cry right now

[@pockahantiss]

I think Loni's comment pissed Jeanie off! She ignored her for the rest of the show. I wish the entire show was uploaded.😒😏😉

[@SwissMissss]

Me too! They knew not to upload that episode because it was horrifically awkward and disrespectful smh. I was so shocked that I had to find out about this thru other ways because they definitely didnt put up a clip or anything like usual lol

[@mikasjewels5772]

That would have been my exact response.

[@emanualcarr7408]

This was the best show they ever had.

[@terrismith6503]

Loni could’ve just said “if you need to have cue cards written for you during a date maybe you should reevaluate yourself before dating” she could’ve left it at that. The race thing was so irrelevant and not funny

[@longlivetheintifada]

also, it was her choice to let Shan guide her on the date. Loni has to understand that not every approach is similar and that this is not an absurd approach either. If you require help, seek it. If you're capable on your own, don't.

[@alainahouser8715]

Yeah, it seemed as if Loni made a race joke that didn’t hit with everyone and went into defensive mood afterwards.

[@alainahouser8715]

Yeah, it seemed as if Loni made a race joke that didn’t hit with everyone and went into defensive mood afterwards.

[@alainahouser8715]

Yeah, it seemed as if Loni made a race joke that didn’t hit with everyone and went into defensive mood afterwards.

[@PhillyEm]

You present yourself SO well and this was very tastefully presented

[@Mattelstown]

I love your confidence and learn so much from you. i hope you never let anyone's ignorance break you or bring you down. your strong love you

[@destaweave5205]

What is up with Loni this season? She's been so rude for no reason Edit: woah this is the most likes I've ever gotten thanks

[@sparkswolverine]

Just Loni being a d__kface.

[@shervonri]

#miserable

[@GoneColoring]

Destaweave .

[@TikaRoxanne]

You woulda thought since she found a man she would be as sweet as pie lol

[@cutiepie101888]

yeah! she’s been a little hostile with adrienne this season too 🥴

[@brandonwade2395]

Jeannie just gained so much respect in my eyes.

[@ronnieclark8948]

I am very impressed by your commentary. You are brilliant, I’m so happy that I watched. Articulate and you know how to reach your audience. The best video I’ve ever watched.

[@godkingathleticsllc4218]

You handled this well! Keep inspiring, My Queen!

[@jarnicebenson1323]

I am really disappointed in Loni that was very offensive and ignorant.

[@Ann23lolaa]

Jarnice Benson I been seeing that a lot in her

[@MrOneWay5000]

She’s big and violent

[@deijahmcknight9936]

Jarnice Benson very very ignorant indeed. She didn’t even take the time to even fully understand the point of Shan’s work and kept cutting Jeanie off. Low key made me mad

[@tracyspacedout3633]

It was just her opinion. Plus she's a comedian. Not ignorant.

[@diaviahnp2433]

Tracy Spacedout so u can be racist only if it’s a jokes....is what your saying

[@Elizabeth-fc7wy]

Loni stays projecting her issues and insecurities onto others it’s irritating

[@eon001]

Yep I caught that. She seemed incredibly upset for no reason when she saw a pretty bi racial lady. Pure jealously.

[@rossanalopes3114]

Elizabeth ikr

[@emanualcarr7408]

Insecure about what?

[@DuckGod00]

eon001 right where’s her man

[@jazzyj904]

I don't think it had anything to do with being insecure. You don't know what her insecurities are. She just told a bad joke and didn't like that no one thought it was funny, then became super defensive about it.

[@fortuneeeeeeeeeee5220]

Wow this video is great! Moving toward the end especially, Love how you speak with such passion. Said some real s*%*. That’s what’s up . Love your work. I know you will any way, but in case no ones says it...Keep doing what your doing .. your helping so many people

[@BriAntRich]

I feel this on so many levels. I got called WHITE GIRL by my cousin all of my childhood just because of the way I carried myself and I'm Black not biracial but Black. It was very hurtful and I felt like I didn't fit in.....

[@Tan87ful]

Agreed 💯💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I’ve experienced the same too smh :((

[@princesschanel469]

@@Tan87ful me too, always been the Oreo black girl. Especially when I started dating and all my bf were white

[@KhanyaNolz]

But what does race have to do with helping people l feel like it was so unnecessary to bring race into this.

[@shabaraliberal1804]

Khanya. Nolz i swear!!!!!

[@sandrallewellyn2632]

Yeah, I think Loni is colorstruck and needs to work through her own internalized anti-blackness.

[@Lafilledlapluie]

It was ignorant

[@tpj376]

insert cardi b meme ‘what was the reason!?’

[@kaidiver3089]

LONI, IS IGNORANT!!

[@Over18Mayn]

this is the same woman who was crying on the show because she was happy she’s dating a white man 😴 she just talks for the sake of talking

[@jmichelle979]

Right because let someone try to come for James and she would have a whole lot to say.

[@BriaBarrows]

Iman A right??? She must have been been drunk. No excuse

[@GeordiLaForge1974]

Iman A That’s because she is a dumb@$$!

[@AyyRalphy]

They say people change when they in a relationship....im thinking thats it

Lmfaoooooo facts she’s a delusional bedwench

[@Tomasilienne]

This is amazing! I love and agree with every single thing you said. So well put!

[@mjawolfe1]

Well thought out, presented and explained. Continue living your truth and never let others pull you down or stop your progress.

[@melhavemercy_]

Notice how they didn’t put this clip up on The Real’s KZbin channel. They knew it was wrong

[@hannahdegree]

M Taveras they knew everyone was gonna be going after loni and her flawed, immature thinking.

[@sunshineloveyasharal4768]

Rightttttt they knew it was shady !

[@Nallisn]

Well there’s usually a 24 hr delay. It’ll be up by Monday

[@jazzyj904]

@@Nallisn no. They uploaded literally every part of the show already, except that one. So every topic before and after that part, is already up.

[@Ndeka]

We would come for her😖

[@dessmarie09]

Loni reminds me of the kid in school that “tries” so hard to “fit in” by saying ignorant things to make people laugh, but it fails 97.3% of the time

[@danielmeijer4782]

Deim she reminds of the person that tries to fit in and makes people laugh by tearing others down and making fun of them

[@sheenaantoinette1864]

Defense mechanism

[@kaylabey]

she tries so hard to be the comedian on the panel, why can’t she just have a serious conversation?

[@zaadrobinson182]

Most comedians are comedians 24/7. It’s not a joke

[@Nimzxoxo]

YES smh

[@Lestancia]

I met Shan at playlist and she was the sweetest person ever so willing to offer her help and advice ❤️ love you girl

[@aschna123]

I can’t lie I’ve been thinking about this moment and it still makes me mad! But I’m so happy you handled this in a mature way

[@si.4492]

Loni looked like a clown throughout the whole segment

[@xavierjamal8755]

Celine ْ Fr

[@raquel7202]

She really did 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@symonroe8095]

Tamara should have said something more than she did, you can tell she was put off by the comment

[@ilekabychinski8507]

I thought that to but I honestly think she was so taken a back by what Loni said she had no words

[@meusikfreak]

tamara seems like the peace maker in the friend group. if i was her i would've been the same, not because i didn't care but because i know the ignorance of her thought goes beyond them having that one conversation on live t.v. some people are just hard-headed and loni (as she let us know here) is DEF this type of person and tamara has to know this so she probably decided to not push too hard.

[@strawberrykisses1990]

Tamera needs to stand up for herself

[@JalahMay]

It was a joke hush

[@christinaallene123]

@@JalahMayit was meant to be a harmless joke that went very wrong and instead of backing up and apologizing as soon as someone corrected her and said she isn't white, Loni dug herself in deeper and got hella defensive. I think the ladies of the real are meant to contrast shows like The View with how confrontational they are on there by being a lot more patient and careful not to get too heated and diffuse conversations as they begin. I believe this is why Tamera didn't say anything is because Loni was clearly getting very defensive and digging herself into a hole so she decided to defend her initial comment which was "white people are weird and she does this because she's white and therefore weird" so Tamera chose to oppose that statement rather than the obvious issue of assuming something about someone based on their race because you always run the risk of being incorrect and then very offensive. You could tell Jeannie was offended by Loni's statements about her being "not all the way black" but because of the intention of the show, she wasn't able to confront the ignorance. Loni has had many chances to apologize but has just acted in defensiveness unfortunately. it was inappropriate of her entirely. she alluded in an earlier episode when discussing why black women are statistically less likely to date outside their race that in being in an interracial relationship currently, she's had a lot of backlash for dating a white man of people accusing her of betrayal to her blackness or calling her 'less black' for being open to dating someone white. I wonder if her comments on this episode were a reflection of her current identity dilemma of not knowing where she fits in now that being are rejecting her in her own race. so maybe she tried to criticize white people to fit it more with the black community? something to think about. she really should just quit making race jokes altogether no matter how light or harmless.

[@angelamorgan8863]

I just found you and I love what you stand for. Thank you opening up all the conversations you do, I have already learned so much about myself from you. Thank you for your vulnerability. People always going to have things to say both negative and positive. Keep on with what your doing cuz the truth is already within.

[@CurlyGemela]

This was so uplifting and empowering! Thank you! Btw where did you get the cap from?