Top 5 Ways Fathers Can Get Custody

Is it possible for a father to get custody of children in Michigan? There are many different strategies you can use to get an advantage in a contested custody situation. Thinks like not moving out, or filing first, or other ideas are discussed in this video.
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[@paulgibbons2320]

This system needs to be brought down. It is pure evil. An innocent man/good father should have nothing to fear from a court room.

[@SingleDadSurvival]

It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

[@stevenforrester4659]

I won custody of my 1 yr old daughter who is 5 now. It was brutal. Alot of sleepless nights. Mild heart attacks lol. I put in the footwork, my attorney had to listen to me. I took charge. It is hard. Now im being held in contempt for being a good father. But dont worry pray

[@skyrimwarrior]

Deep down, I wish I was raised by a single parent, “ my Dad all the way”.

[@FatherX2022]

I agree with the comments here that family court is biased against dads. I lived it. But the overall statistics clearly reveal that, too, so there's no hiding from it. I only won primary custody because of enormous effort, to force the court to pay attention to the best interests of our child, instead of the best interests of the mother. I advise dads to do the same. You have to overcome the bias, stereotypes, etc

[@FatherX2022]

@@Matt-je5yr it's kind of sad, isn't it...that you get sole custody as the dad, only because the mom chose to quit parenting. Aside from that, enjoy raising your kid. You are her everything now. Big responsibility. Big reward. Hopefully, your kid won't feel the big blow from mom walking away...that can be hurtful to kids, too, depending on the attachment they had.

[@nathanmciver6496]

Wow, delivery! Huh! What? user's want more of that! Any Dad's that are fed up with the lack of options and honesty?

[@nathanmciver6496]

​​​@@Matt-je5yr Not my dream, same as any other with that! Happy to hear that possibly an honest Dad got to live thier life with thier child within peace! To many power hungry buisness opporations! So amyway, how do you avoid conflict when you have your wife giving you the stinky eye stare down and her partner in crime saposid mother in law taking giberish when you don't want that language in your house and your the home owner , legal gaurdian and have been tired of your personal life being infiltrated by other groups belief systems and want them out! And with experience knowing your child can live a life of honesty without other culture's forcing thier outtdated belief system's on other's home just because they con as a group and pretend they keep the peace while using other people's houses and feeding the needey! Sence the sarcasm

[@nathanmciver6496]

Grow up!

[@ashleybellerose7104]

LOL no.

[@district5198]

Realistically men do not stand a chance at custody, statistically speaking. Why, Child Support is not about the child, it is actually big business for states, judges lawyers even the penal system. Every study and statistic shows children are better off with fathers in their life. Truth is the current child support system needs to be abolished. With 50/50 Parenting Time Legislation and that fathers have the same rights and choices as mothers. No parent should have access to the others wealth. If a mother can adopt out if she feels not responsible for raising a child, so to should a man have the same choice if he feels not responsible. Our current criminal bias towards fathers in the family court system needs to end, sadly children are the losers here.

[@calvinrich7221]

Thanks for the info Adam!

[@isaiahhernandez603]

😂😂 best advice I’ve been watching videos for shits and giggles but honestly this is the best advice I’ve seen

[@PortStreets]

She won’t even let me know his doctor or what school he attends. On top of not letting me pay his healthcare.

[@RASAAH777]

Do you have parental rights?

[@SETHMSW]

Stay strong brother and keep fighting

[@eloymorales1140]

I'm in the same situation in Texas,she moved out of tx with out permition of me and court,I'm fighting for tha now

[@dewdesi]

Man.... I'm going through the same thing dawg.. this shit hurts fr😔

[@senseichad8650]

I can’t even see mine. Missed Christmas and birthdays. Y’all gonna live. I’m taking her to court

[@rummilgaming7479]

the shit men have to do to fight for to have kids in their lives'.

[@mirashcamaj3846]

She (married) never came back with 11 month baby from what was supposed to be an 11 day trip to MI in December of 2022 (originally from) from CA (lived in from April 21- December 2022). She convinced me she needed time away to heal and now she's not giving me a return date. Baby will be a resident of Michigan in a few months. I had a close bond with baby. No official charges or reports but I have a security video of me frighteningly fleeing an apartment from her abuse while she was yelling, two family witnesses from another incident and neighbours that have also heard her while at said apartment. She has been abusive. I can't but help think the court will give her full custody and won't be able to see my child.

[@G.IJoshua]

God help you brother. Fight. Fight until you die for the child!

[@monekilson428]

How did your situation turn out. My son is going through the exact same thing. She left back to MO ( both originally from) after saying she needed time away. Was supposed to return (TX) after 1 month. She met someone new and decided to stay there even though she has no permanent residence and sleeping on couches. She was also abusive to my son

[@graylobo133]

My ex wouldn't file for year separeted. Due to she know she would have to pay spousal support. Last week I asked her for a copy of my kids birth certificate and sscard, two days later she filed. Should I be concerned. Where can I see the papers she filed?

[@paul_devos]

"File First" -- file what exactly first? File for Divorce First? File for Custody?

[@PedroVargas-ix1mm]

I need help my son is going through it mom is willing to give him custody can I write an agreement and run it by a notary please help.

[@user-fc3wi1wr7o]

My wife took a picture of me napping. Told court I was drunk. I was not. They immediately asked me to leave my house, and have no contact with my 9yo daughter. My wife called the school and removed her from school asking them not to tell me as it was my day to pick her up. If I did this the school would think I was attempting kindnap. Men-stay focused, never give up, and always fight for your kids with love and respect. You’ll win the race in the end!

[@user-gr1ii6br8e]

If I could give my lawyer a zero, I would. He's inexperienced, and he did barely the bare minimum for the 3,000 dollars I paid him!, dont believe those reviews and awards on lawyer website, he got his retain fee and left. I hired lawyer in June 2022 to fight my child modification case, and then what he said was an easy win since the other party abandoned the child for almost 4 years and guaranteed me a victory. lawyer through his email, court documents, and writing, sounded like he was a good lawyer that's fighting hard, but sadly, through writing that's were his zeal stopped. Court day came in August, and he was a deer caught in the headlights before the judge. The judge would ask me a question, and I would reply, lawyer, what do you think? Lawyer was quiet and seemed he didn't know what to say, literally being bullied by the judge. As the judge determined, I and the other party needed mediation, which I looked at lawyer like how are you not fighting for my concerns. After the hearing was over I spoke to lawyer on the phone as he charged me money for it, he told me "that wasn't the outcome he didn't think we would happen" but im like you was a deer in a headlights. A month later, in September, during the mediation again! lawyer balantly sat there and again I was like lawyer are you going to say something? he utter well she should do reunification therapy, I sat there and was like I sought full custody and the other party is still getting their rights!.... after the mediation lawyer said and I quote said to me "this is the outcome we wanted right" No you told me and assured me a victory and since it's "not going to plan" as you said you're folding. In my last verbal conversation, lawyer told Im glad we settled since if we go back to court, it's going to be more expensive, and I quote he spoke, "Good luck." Good luck, lawyer? leading me to believe after he saw the retaining fee has been used up, he's out now. lawyer thought this was a walk in the park type of money child case. Fast forward to November of 2022, I fired lawyer and the response was he was satisfied with our results. Im like, really, what did you accomplish other than reunification therapy? So lawyer worked for me about 5 to 6 months before I fired him, so afterwards, I filed in December 2022 to change counties and venue's since I mentioned to lawyer that Ramsey county shows favoritism and let's move to Hennepin so I could have a fair outcome he said let's see how Ramsey judge will go. December 2022 court date came I won on my own change of venue which Lawyer couldn't do when he worked for me.... In January 2023, I sought child support since lawyer refused to put the individual on child support, so I won that as well without lawyer....fast forward I reapplied for full custody in Hennepin county on February 2023 and court date was set for May and guess what I won sole legal and physical custody on my own without the lawyer the same amount of time I hired him it took me as well the 5 to 6 months on my own and won!!! ....Im a single father, and I beat the odds with very little legal help to all you fathers and some mothers trust in God and his son Jesus for these battles! I won with the Lord's help! I would never recommend that Law firm period!!! now me and my house are moving the hell out of state 🫡✌️after 5 years of fighting.... At least refund my 3000 grand retainer fee for the bare minimum ass job 😑

[@ADAMDivorceAttorneysforMen]

Wow sorry to hear that

[@bolivianprince7326]

If the father works full time and mother never worked , doesn't the father gets preference over custody? I thought that how it worked in the US

[@FatherX2022]

No, dude, it's much more complicated than that. Step 1 is the gender bias against dads by court. Step 2 is that the states make more money from Federal Title 4D funding if the states can get higher child support orders issued. So States, Courts make more money if they make the working dad a non-custodial parent who has to pay 17% of his income in child support. This has been exposed for years now. The corruption goes deep.

[@WaTuR]

Definitely not. They would give the mother full custody and put the father on child support.

[@drjmapple5510]

Why aren’t you telling these people that the courts are biased? Every attorney across the country knows that the family courts are bias in favor of mothers. You can collect data from the state title for the agency and the county that it serves. You can request to see the numbers that describe the relationship between the child in the person who is named custodial parent or non-custodial parent. And back in the days non-custodial parent used to mean the absent parent. The data shows the courts have a bias that is 90% or greater in favor of the female. and there is a roundabout way to show that the judge is receiving a benefit. Every time they put a father on child support. I think you should be honest and tell these people that the judge is probably gonna put the dad on child support and give mom all the power. And no matter what you do and no matter how much money they spend, that’s all they’re going to get.

[@justindair1701]

Is sad that you have to do this, technically while you’re in a relationship….. women work like that men really don’t…. men like to hope that you can fix the situation while the whole time women are planning things like this while they’re still in a relationship with you. It’s pretty sad that’s how the system wants you to work but if you’re in a relationship and living with a person, then you wouldn’t really think you would have to fight for 50-50 custody. Normally that would be done when you’re not living with the person. Smh

[@dominicthomas2739]

What if my wife leaves and gives me my son? And never checks in on him? And went back to her other baby daddy? And she agrees to give me my son fully ? And got proof and agreement signed

[@SingleDadSurvival]

It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

[@PedroVargas-ix1mm]

I’m in same boat the mother is willing to give custody she has another man we not married please help

[@jackhodges1030]

Men the kid is as much yours as they are the mother if you want to leave you have to leave - take your kids and leave they are your kids as much as they are hers then she's on the lower-end and she's trying to get visitation rights from You. You can do all this on your own just educate yourself - lawyers first priority is to defend the Court's - not you. And to be Honest with you I don't think courts should have any say-so about it I never give the Court's consent to rule over me and tell me who gets my kids and when I get to see them or not. Did any of you give any consent? I didn't and I don't.

[@newsfromabove6538]

What if the wife leaves with the children and changes doctors and removes all medical records identifications and refuses medical info to father. Also enrolling them in a different school but same school district as her college ball dominating access to the children

[@Neverlanding]

Get a lawyer. That's complicated and you'll likely need a court order to enforce proper custody. Good luck..

[@lovemilfierealm3145]

​@Neverlanding 😅

[@lovemilfierealm3145]

watccha😅

[@Jokester73]

Going through a nightmare divorce right now. I filed first, she started begging me to stay, I made it clear that wasn’t happening, so she started threatening me. (RECORD EVERYTHING) I then was advised by my lawyer to install cameras in every room of my house, he even told me my bedroom was fair game, he was wrong. She came two weeks later with police and had me arrested(unlawful surveillance, cameras in bedroom) in front of my daughter, holding my daughter so she had to watch me get arrested. Luckily I was audio recording for over a year all of our conversations. She really does have mental issues. I moved out immediately, we shared 50/50 until she snapped again bc I wouldn’t come home. On recording she threatened her life and my daughters. I immediately brought the tapes to court and received temp full custody + OOP for my daughter. She’s gotten arrested twice since for violating, one of which she refused to bring her home. She just got arrested again yesterday. The system is so flawed bc with all of this going on, the judge and law guardian are still talking about 50/50. My ex consistently fights with me with everything I say. I never argue once, I’m polite and direct. This system is so biased against men it’s disgusting. My ex was never a real mother. She barely spent any time with my daughter. Yet they keep giving her chance after chance. She’s going to kill my daughter one day. She’s been suicidal since she was a teenager. Like I said, if I can give any advise… LOG EVERYTHING, every last tiny detail. RECORD EVERYTHING, no matter what, even long before any action is taken place.

[@marvelcomiks8078]

I went through a similar situation. What I did was I explained to my daughter what was going on and asked her to 'watch for herself' to see if what I said was true. And to let me know if she disagrees with my decisions/actions. It takes a bit of time. Slowly, after over a year, my daughter started to realize what my ex was doing and wanted her out. She realized I have done everything I could to save the marriage, but my ex was never cooperative and always verbally abusive. I didn't have to do anything else really, I just continued to provide for my daughter and be there for her. It was my daughter to helped me cope with the psychological stress my ex gave me. My ex dug her own hole and jumped in, all by herself. Always be the one to provide and care and leave the rest to Gd. Today, I am free and very happy with my kids. Always do what is right and good and let whatever is to come, come. Do good and pray. Blessed are the meek.

[@justindair1701]

Dang man that’s sad that’s what men have to deal with. All a women has to do is call and ask. Smh….

[@lotusmccary9365]

Good for her since you recording her in bedroom

[@warlockmagic3416]

Yeah, what if you've raised your child by yourself for 5 years as the dad and mother. While she's a complete narcissistic psychopath. She blows up on me and I say nothing. She placed a false Domestic Abuse claim on me. Now that I'm out of that 2 year's later.. Now she's saying I'm not mentally capable. That I refused Dr. treatment when she lied about mine and my child's history having her prescribed something that can hurt her lungs development. Then said I signed her up for school behind he back when I waited on her for 3 hrs to show up. Agreed with me on the school. Then last minute changed it to a school 30 mins away from me that I can't get her to.. also she was responsible for watching our almost 3 year daughter for 20 mins when I said don't have her on a trampoline. Especially with no big kids. Only babies if you do and you need to be on it with her. Ignored me and my daughters leg cartilage above the knee was broken. She could have been killed or crippled. Yet she gets mad at me. Breaks up with me and tells the other kids that since I'm an overprotective dad. That we have to leave. Made me drive her home 30 mins away instead of going to the closest hospital and much better one.. While I went alone to the hospital and watched my daughter suffer in pain for 8 hrs... I pray she gets what is coming to her.... If l lose custody of my daughter, I'd rather die.

[@Amitch592]

Don't say that and believe in karma and believe what's best for the child will come through

[@toonchi3357]

What if the mother is willingly giving custody of my kids ?

[@spurgeondailydevotional]

Be thankful and take it!

[@toonchi3357]

@wannatrike thank you i am very thankful my question is do i have to go to court for it ? Or how should i start the process ?

[@disgruntledvet28]

The secret men is to work for the school system when they’re out your off your available to them!

[@fffrfrw]

How about destroying the disgusting legal system which make money out of this known problem.

[@nicholasdupont2468]

I recommend the movie, "The Red Pill." Part of it focuses on a flow chart that shows that men have the freedom to make ONE decision (to have relations with a woman). ALL other decisions about the resultant child belong to the woman - lasting for up to 22 years. Teach boys this before they become sexually active.

[@ADAMDivorceAttorneysforMen]

Good one Nicholas. I haven’t seen that

[@d-dcay1783]

It sounds like another generic answer from a law firm that already knows it's usually to late if the father has to hire a lawyer. Almost any advice from a lawyer or a law firm that states how to get custody of your child is going to actually work by watching a 6 minute video is just them boosting and promoting there firm so you hire them so that lawyer or law firm can drag you through the mud along with the opposing lawyer and bleed you dry of money to get you absolutely no where. You're better just going in alone.

[@lesliepryor5141]

This is true it’s almost impossible for a father to get custody. You are sooo right we men just have absolutely no rights whatsoever it comes to the child.

[@d-dcay1783]

@@lesliepryor5141 I'm not saying men don't have rights. I'm saying mens rights are rudely and purposely ignored by the family court system. If you ask me the judge and the legislature are the true criminals here. The way judges should rule is if you have a home food warmth and water the essentials for a child to live plus the other essential which is the love and dedication to care for your child then the family court should have no other choice then to grant a joint shared custody. The family court judges need to have the leashes pulled in tighter and most their discretion stripped. I also think that an appointed person that knows the law and how judges act and rule should be present at every single family hearing. The judge may not talk or communicate at all with this person so the judge cannot bribe or influence this court watcher in any way. Punishment should be immediate to a judge that does not follow the law and only rules because it's whatever the judges bias opinion is and does not rule by actual law depending on each person's priors if any at all. If one of the parents have priors then depending on those priors that's when a judge can rule in one person's favor.

[@lawofliberty3517]

When my eldest son lived with his mother, she got the kids taken away. They where put into foster home before I was even considered. I had to pay the child support to the state.

[@RASAAH777]

@@lawofliberty3517 wow did you file for full custody???

[@lawofliberty3517]

@@RASAAH777 yes, the state gave me the run around and his aunt stepped in and got custody. We then scheduled to transfer to me. This was 16ish yrs ago in a small southern town.

[@wysefavor]

Thanks for posting this!! But I had a very bad attorney who made me sign a bad court order...the law firm is Crawford in MD

[@lkpeay]

Happens a lot

[@Hidden-comment164]

No one can make you sign something. At the end of the day YOU signed it!

[@mysticalstylings2456]

@@Hidden-comment164 yes you can it's called duress

[@invest2115]

My wife is a flight Attendant. I have been staying home with the kids since the 3 of them were born. I am the one who took them to the doctor, school meetings, dentist, bday parties etc. As a stay home dad for years , the relationship breakdown over money issues and then lack of respect for me. I shut down and wasn't connecting with her. She wants a divorce now. Will she gets to keep the kids and I have to leave. If we are thinking about the best interest of the children, a stranger will now have to watching the kids, when she leaves for work. - Thank you for all you do.

[@ethanhassinger291]

Right there with you

[@ikannunaplays]

Same situation, let me tell you that everyone even my own attorney is telling me she will get them, the give ZERO fucks about fathers being the one who actually cared for the child.

[@invest2115]

@@ikannunaplays damn really crazy

[@kristykeimig3498]

Can you get a good attorney?

[@ikannunaplays]

@@invest2115 Yeah about today my attourney did not even show in court today and had someone else fill in for him and this was to let the mothers attorney have his way since no one legally bound to represent me was preset. After much though I realized he did this so he can not be sued for failure to perform since I was present and he wasn't and the person who did represent me had no contract with me. To make things worse I learned my attorney didn't file papers I gave him in May until this past Saturday and this was in order to allow my daughter to make it age for VPK. I'm presuming in the next hearing they will use an excuse that my daughter needs to be in VPK and mom enrolled her and this is why mom should have majority time. So, you cannot trust attorneys to handle this for you, they are all crooks. After much reading on the Florida bars website the attorney's are legally bound to fuck over the fathers and it's like a gang, even attorney's that don't practice law cannot interfere with it or they will be sued by practicing attorney's.

[@julie1630]

Think twice moms are nurturers . If not a caring mature father the girlfriend could take over and be mean to your child.

[@tom249664]

Can’t say this enough, get a damn lawyer!!! Got me one that specializes in fathers rights

[@ADAMDivorceAttorneysforMen]

Thanks! Great to hear

[@ldo1308]

The wrong one will screw you over. I learned that

[@Roboccobo]

Who was your lawyer

[@ItsMeAnn628]

Thanks for letting us ladies know these tips! I didn’t know about the last one.

[@nightmareoutdoors9019]

Most of this is common sense for men.

[@Leondediosable]

What if she doesn’t allow me to see them

[@Bone89]

If u have custody agreement u need to file a contempt order

[@robiieray]

File asap before she files. If she's keeping the kids away from you and she has no calls too. Is best the file ASAP. Because if he files 1st it looks on you. Trust me bro I'm going through thus right now

[@veloniward388]

By law you have visitation right to see your kids but if she won't let y she can go to court

[@d-dcay1783]

What's your parenting time say on your court order? If she's not allowing you that time then file a contempt charge. If you don't have visitation time ordered by the court then you're shit outta luck.

[@thecultleadersthoughts2519]

New York sucks. Now I can't even leave ny cuz of my son I wish I could just have custody and leave

[@jontester8920]

Ya, I been stuck in az for 12 yrs. Same reason I can't leave

[@tonycamaj4560]

Why can't you leave?

[@Nyc99]

@@tonycamaj4560 for passport father need to give signature, court could help get full custody and than no need for sig

[@Asmindiana]

This is the worst advice i've ever seen. No wonder men dont want to get married anymore.

[@jontester8920]

My kids mom does drugs and lives in a drug house with my tweaker mother. Court papers say to do drug tests bc I asked for it. She failed the first 3 drug test and never took one again. The judge doesn't care. What do I do now. I have 50 50 parenting time and I hate knowing the environment my kids are in when there with her

[@ADAMDivorceAttorneysforMen]

Hi Jon! thanks for the question. Sounds like you need to start a change of custody case. You should meet with a custody and family law expert and review what you have and see if you can successfully change custody

[@kristykeimig3498]

Call cps or ask the judge to retain a guardian ad lietm

[@im1907]

I feel you my guy.

[@jontester8920]

@@im1907 hang in there. Keep doin good for the kids

[@aloop3026]

You can file for emergency custody. The grandmother of my children filed one on me and they took my kids and gave them to her in like 2 days.. I even went to court to prove she was lying on the affidavit ( because she was) and now it’s been a YEAR and I still can only see my kids 1 hour per week at a supervised visitation center. All because i tested positive for WEED 1 time. Shit is ruthless.

[@luisitoputirecors1499]

Simple u guys didn't appreciate good girls and instead give to your kid a evil mom hahaha now suffer 🤣🤣🤣

[@defsheppard6073]

This is a mens issue, you can leave.

[@Eddie-In-Las-Vegas]

Very ignorant and childish comment that clearly shows your foolish and dark mental humor over a subject that involves children, paremts and family state law.

[@Nyc99]

Usually she is evil when she say NO