Urges to Touch yourself DON'T Mean What You Think.

[@unknown-ex5xr]

I'm a physician and it's frustrating for me to have most of my colleagues not in agreement that pornography is a severe addiction, even though it has almost all the same side effects and outcomes as heavy drug users/alcoholics every day. I have had men come in my practice with ED in their 20s and ask them about porn usage which they almost always say they have been doing. Testosterone work ups always normal. None of them realize its effects. I hope you keep growing so that the scientific community can get on the same page. An addiction is an addiction and affects your growth and functioning regardless of what that addiction is. You are truly paving the way in addiction medicine my friend.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

It is incredibly frustrating. That is why I’ve tried to channel my frustration into healing. A much better use of my energy and perhaps yours. Thanks for the comment. 🙏🏻

[@jannemclaughlin8436]

Do you “prescribe” dr. Trish’s videos to your patients?

[@härjaren]

@@larrycarter3765 quack-quack

[@DrWhom]

ED is not a problem. If it stops worthless males from procreating that can only be a good thing.

[@voltinator]

Urges to use porn excessively is due to touch starvation. Men innately crave the touch of women and find their bodies erogenous. Women know their skin is valuable as they often defer to it when they are accused for wrongdoing, they want to touch the accuser to sway them to their side. Same with disappointment, women often hug each other because their skin communicates a lot of sensory soothing. The reason for the massive spike in porn is due to the fact that men want to feel the skin of females but most females won't allow them to. Porn addiction is fundamentally touch starvation by amorous males who seek to connect to females but are discouraged in their efforts. Males retreat to porn when they fail the dating game enough times. When females control the mating process to the degree they do in the modern era many males go without female touch, thus they seek porn in order to fill the gap in their lives. The dopamine fix is supposed to make males pair bond with females but this is not happening because the females are not allowing it. The dopamine trap is a symptom of the problem, not the root cause. The root cause is due to a society that places undue importance on catering to female whims. Correcting dopamine traps does not address the actual cause of all of this dismay: Too much female empowerment which women seem to ultimately use to control the mating process. This can be seen in downward trends in child rearing, higher ages of first marriage and higher ages of first time mothers. Women are delaying everything to their timetable while the men need sex throughout their lives. By infantilizing the mating game between the genders and making women perpetual victims they soon find that they gain total bargaining power over a mating process that used to be more balanced. Soon enough flirtation, which is a biological process at its heart, becomes over-regulated by females who now have the ability to ruin the lives of males that do not flirt appropriately and leaves many males with no experience whatsoever with females. This is what leads to many females abandoning sexual roles such as partnering up and motherhood. What this means for the males is that few males are given the ability to connect to females on a personal level, instead being banished by threats of punishment if they even attempt.

[@joetunon]

Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. What a concept. So easy to forget we have a choice, even if it takes discipline to live out that choice. Thanks for another great and timely video.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

You’re welcome. I know, it can be difficult but rewarding. 💪🏽

[@taiwohassan7113]

I had a relapse last night purposely after a month from masturbation and porn cause I was having sexual arousal

[@istriver.]

This doctor knows everything that I have been going through. Majority doctors say its not bad to masturbate but this doctor is literally telling the Truth.

[@seanodwyer4322]

my nana was a nurse and ahh read one off her books . it printed in 1890 by a Jew Doctor from new york city. He had a chapter off evil off allcohol/ Chapter of evil of Tobbacco/ Chapter off evil off Masturbation. - He claimed he could walk down the footpaths off New York City and knew who Masturbated and those who did not masturbate by just looking at their bodys.

[@iheart.jesus.]

IT IS BAD TO MASTURBATE, ITS WITCHCRAFT

[@hemirsaucedo7867]

@@seanodwyer4322 can you tell the name of the book?

[@Gupatik]

@@hemirsaucedo7867did u found it?

[@szililolabu]

Great message! if you wake up and have nothing to look forward to, it's easy to relapse.

[@tinyladyemily]

I am so happy and almost in disbelief that I have finally found a video of a female doctor explaining how to control urges. I immediately subscribed. It is sometimes extremely isolating and the worst feeling, causes extreme depression when after the first relief that the feeling keeps on persisting but after hearing the cause and effect reason in how it is possible to control the brain I am feeling a bit calmer already.

[@Dgalvez54]

This is actually one of the most concise, informative, and important videos that anybody looking to eradicate their compulsive sexual behavior for good needs to watch

[@JordanG-i5k]

Winning in something, accomplishing something whether big or small Always kills the urges for me!

[@beefbelly6923]

60 days free tomorrow . I’ve had several urges , especially the following day after a night of drinking for some reason. I’ve fought all the urges and have not relapsed thanks Dr. Trish Leigh!

[@brianlevesque7822]

At 60 days on a scale of 1 - 10 where you at with having urges?

[@beefbelly6923]

@@brianlevesque7822 1-10 with 19 being intense first 2 weeks urge levels 7-9 1-2 month mark 5 Now I’m at 90 I barely even think about porn anymore however urges are still there . Play the mind game . Turn your thoughts into something else instantly . You can control your mind . Think of a positive time in your life when those tempting images and videos play in your head. Example would be a vacation or a good memory with loved ones . Dr Leigh taught this method in one of her videos and it works

[@riachu81]

your videos magically pop up every time i get tempted

[@DrTrishLeigh]

There is a reason for this. You can do this💪

[@HeavenestStCyr]

Thank you for tkaing the time to help us with this issue and doing it in a wholesome and wholistic way by not just adressing porn itself but adressing the foundations of our problems at the root level

[@pratapsinghrana28]

😭 i am very much emotional right now while typing this comment, i haven't searched that stuff since few days, and not even getting the urge to view it, and know what? i now respect women MORE like never before Thank you Dr trish Leigh and Jamie Watson and yeah pachelbel canon in d music is awesome i just checked

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Isn’t it beautiful. Thanks for the comment. We are here to help you. It’s about self-respect… Respect yourself and you’ll respect everyone else around you more. You deserve that.

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@DrTrishLeigh thank you Dr trish 🙏🙏

[@renan1033zinho]

Canon in D is nice but is soooo overplayed! i'd rather listen to some Bach: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o5CvoYtof7mab7M

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@renan1033zinho Canon in d is good one it's now my new fav

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@renan1033zinho i will check the link

[@Mark-xf9pg]

Thanks Trish , for your words , such a big help. Understanding how to overcome wrong thinking is a very powerful tool.

[@jaylaw.7660]

This is a profound piece of wisdom, Dr. Trish Leigh- thank you! Create a life you love instead of substituting it with cheap, dopamine hits. What a game changer, wow! Love you! J.W. It’s even god like💕

[@HSA-]

One of the best videos I've come across about the subject.

[@Loso2244]

Really needed to hear this today. Allowed me to sit in it and think about why. I was able to find something to occupy that space while acknowledging that I dont need it. Im just used to it. Im okay. Im calm now.

[@kayyvegass]

I’m so thankful I found this , I realized I did it to myself & I will be free !

[@russellnivens215]

@Dr. Trish Leigh , I've been struggling with this type of stuff since I was very young. Been listening to your content. Good stuff. You presented something in another video about "rewiring" (to deal with anxiety) which I think may help me quite a bit regarding self-soothing. You used an analogy about paths (neural pathways), about stopping the use of the old/bad ones and making new ones. I'm an OTR trucker, home on weekends, with too much alone time during the week. Today, it came to me that the self-soothing path is a road that needs repair into a road of intimacy with my lovely, patient wife of over thirty years. Whenever I'm tempted to self-soothe, I now see the road as closed, barricaded by big orange signs. To a trucker, that means there's no way you're using that road. The only flagger with the authority to open the road, as I see it, is my lovely wife, so I might travel the repaired road of intimacy with her and her alone. Thanks so much for the content! Keep up the good work!! Wish me luck in my "travels" 🙂

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Good luck on your travels my friend. I work with many people who drive a truck… It is definitely a more challenging lifestyle… But not impossible. I love this analogy and I can feel the passion in it in your writing. I know you will succeed. Keep putting up those big orange cones. Rock it out and I will be here to support you! 🙅‍♀️❤️‍🩹

[@camey4844]

So these urges are basically "misplaced desires" that are emerging as sexual urges when in fact they are just our brain calling to regulate our mood - it's not about sex at all? Whenever I felt negative emotions such as stress, boredom, loneliness, frustration, I always resorted to porn to soothe myself, so my brain has been "conditioned" and associated these negative emotions with sexual release just like the Pavlovian classical conditioning. So basically I've trained my brain (unknowingly) to "sexualize normal human feelings" which are now coming up as sexual urges?. You have just confirmed something that I've suspected. This is truly insightful and I cannot thank you enough Dr. Trish

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Yes! This is exactly it. 🙏🏻

[@137Enki]

The scientific explanation really helped me to understand what my body is searching for and how to handle those urges. Thank you for you help. We need to be comfortable being uncomfortable. We also need to denormalize the fact that porn is normal. It’s not.

[@cinnam0n_swirls]

I'm a woman who does not have an addiction to porn and masturbation, but to mindless social media scrolling and websurfing. I do it for the same reason you discussed here - to self-soothe.

[@tomprice2186]

Right, do I really need to confirm how many times Mickey Rooney or Liz Taylor were divorced, etc?

[@furioustv5850]

That sounds like the gaming problem Dr Trish talks about. I thought I could use the advice pretending she is talking about porn. At least you are interacting with people who can see you too.

[@ZzzzJesse24]

I believe what you said is the biggest problem, not porn. I was an early bloomer so I remember discovering pictures of women at like 10. Around 12 I started watching porn whenever I had the room to myself, and I do remember the anticipation being the most exciting thing ever 😅 I don’t have any of the issues people claim porn causes. I have a good sex life, but usually cum before bed and nothing is wrong about that. You are one of the few people who aren’t supporting this Nofap movement after reading so many comments I want to say thank you lol!

[@marcusaurelius9631]

I do have problems with porn and mb but I can also relate to the scrolling addiction. I literally feel high from scrolling watching one short after the next. It is highly addictive. And dangerous to people like me who find themselves easily trapped by the dopemine frenzy.

[@feitanthegoat]

I think cutting off my screen time on my phone was a big factor in being able to overcome these urges because I don't allow myself to scroll on my phone as soon as I wake up and my brain used to associate p*rn with my phone and my main source of screen time is my laptop which my brain associates more with work, school and watching movies.

[@TheREDSKAL]

Music truly helps with the urges! Ive also noticed that certain drugs that raise dopamine and serotonin drastically reduce my inhibitions and this can lead to a relapse quite easily. I overuse or abuse even the natural ways to get these feel good chemicals through sex or working out. Meditation keeps me in contact with god and I will never stop this fight because i know that even though i might fail there is nothing that can stop me from trying again till infinity.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

If you learn from every slip, it is not a failure …it is progress. Keep going. 💪🏽

[@TheREDSKAL]

@@DrTrishLeigh you definitely hit the nail on the head with the only thing mattering is just learning. One learns when one is reviring the brain ie being mindfully present, i think porn is a superstimuli that destroys your will to learn new skills for surviving in the world or present moment, truly you decend to a lower vibration where living consciously is traumatic although with perseverance you can grow through that and become wholy an individual. Do you have any tips on celibacy? Dont you think in some cases celibacy is the only option when even real sex is a trigger to grow porn pathways in the brain? Thanks for reading

[@BakariViolin]

Wow, I had those kind of urges and I relapsed few times, now I know what it is, so mind-changing, thanks Doctor Peace

[@DrTrishLeigh]

You’re welcome. I’m glad to help you.

[@brentgreen468]

Thank you Dr Trish. You blend the practical and the psychological in an incredibly understandable way.

[@tomsl7111]

Sooo...that's why you may have those urges, which btw I'm no stranger to either. Thanks for this valuable information. Now finally got the insight I was lacking to move forward definitely. 💪💪

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Awesome! You can do it. Knowledge is power my friend. So guess what… You are powerful. 💪🏽💪🏽

[@tomsl7111]

@@DrTrishLeigh Thank you very much for your kind words, Dr. Leigh. I can do it!

[@Unye5252]

@@tomsl7111 yaparsın

[@amychambers5958]

You’re amazing Dr Trish Leigh, thank you

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Thank you. I really am trying to help. I appreciate your support… It keeps me going.

[@darkowlmusic]

Thank you for making these videos. They really are helping me on my journey.

[@squadkillersa7880]

you are doing a very important work,the world needs it,thank you,

[@sahiltaral2562]

Thank you Trish.

[@Stavrosg76]

you are amazing, i ve learnt so much from you and the way you explain this subject is so good as well...

[@tomprice2186]

As simplistic as it sounds: prayer before bed I have found extremely helpful (not infallible of course). Taking that 10-15 minute time (for me standing) is sometimes the last thing I feel like doing; but it sends me to bed in a much better frame of mind than scrolling does. A free app I use is called Universalis, which gives prayers throughout the day (called the liturgy of the hours). The one I say before bed is called Compline and takes 10-15 minutes to pray through.

[@pasalasaga]

What about Hallow?

[@ZzzzJesse24]

Do you not masturbate at all??? I cannot fathom that it is deviant as long as you procreate one day, and remember who we should honor every night before you sleep. “Wet dreams” are a sign that the human body. The magic of an unlimited supply makes us more likely to continue our existence We need to release semen and the only sin is when you watch the degrading, unrealistic and weird porn/nudity that outright makes a mockery of the act of sex that has created all of us in God’s name.

[@abhisheknandi9566]

Thank you very much doctor. Now, I must work on myself.

[@RetroSoulGirl]

I'm in DBT therapy though and self-soothe is literally a part of distress tolerance. Of course these are methods that aren't sexual but we need to self-soothe it's so important. Taking that warm bath or burning insense for example is nesseary to calm down. I don't understand why someone who is trying to not do sexual things can't turn to other healthy self-soothe methods? Without self-soothing that's just a life punishment.

[@JugCityKid]

The thing that helps me is putting my source of internet as far away as possible and then the rest is just will power and try to think about something else. It's crazy though how you don't realize you have an addiction until you try to quit

[@Bako9408]

You are doing great job of helping a lot of men including me great work much appreciated keep going of spreading help and knowledge 👍💪 very helpful

[@anthonya9583]

THANK GOD I found this video, I feel like no one is talking about how we're a bit victims to integrating to sexual activity just to release emotions while you can do this by yourself in other ways. Especially as someone who has worked a lot on himself and through meditation, it feels great to know that we can choose to not be victims to this mindset. Of course pornography and self masturbating is a bit worse than just integrating to sex for emotional relief as a habituation, but still.

[@neilbeech4093]

None of us are perfect

[@nahuelhernandez2772]

No me esperaba una explicación tan bien desarrollada, con tanta precisión. ¡Muchisimas gracias! La universidad me genera mucho estres últimamente y mi cerebro busca esa dosis de dopamina más seguido, pero ahora se que puedo intentar transmutarla hacia otras actividades menos dañinas para calmarme. Es difícil, pero se que se puede.

[@ZzzzJesse24]

What is wrong with jacking off every so often to relieve that stress though? You can even avoid porn and just use your “spank bank” if you feel less of the socially learned shame. Some people have issues, with food, porn, etc. Be honest about how your ljfe was affected by watching it

[@hcheraghi98]

Hi . You know mam I really respect you . I Almost lost my hope and I was stuck in this whole notion that celebrities and journslists and activists and social media are telling us porn is good and empowering but watching your videos gave me lots of hope ....❤🙏🌹

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Perfect. I am glad to help you. 🙏🏻

[@hcheraghi98]

@@DrTrishLeigh Hi again and my question is: what do you think of the hookup culture going on right now that wants to say porn is good and empowering? Especially when they claim in their Headlines "studies show porn benefits and it's empowering" do they have scientific studies or poles?

[@ezio_3602]

I have got a protip for some of you. If you keep awake at night just don't waste that time and energy and go invent it in some hobbies, for example drawing at night to chilling music can be very calming

[@pratapsinghrana28]

i hear music now.... still i don't feel to sleep till 1.30, but still i don't browse that P anymore

[@ezio_3602]

@@pratapsinghrana28 Yeah I can't manage to sleep too but I got this even when I used to watch P so I just gave up trying to fall asleep because I think It is useless and went drawing.

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@ezio_3602 i think brain is trained to watch it for hours as I used to watch it till 1.30 , slowly brain will heal, thank to dr trish i left watching it

[@ezio_3602]

@@pratapsinghrana28 Hopefully I'm on day 45 how about you

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@ezio_3602 i left watching since 17th of September, but was on process to slow the urges and very less screen time weekly and finally now on NO urges and NO P browsing, you're on 45th day 🤘🤘👏 that's great man keep it up

[@billyb4790]

This is so helpful. Thank you 🙏

[@chinonsonnadozie7274]

Mood regulation concept is key in this regard, thanks for this video.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

You’re welcome. I hope it helps.

[@iamchannelll]

i agree with you to some degree however those need to take the edge off in terms of wanting to have regulation it’s due to being in trauma and getting triggered ect .

[@j0o789]

Thank you, lady!

[@alright754]

I have got myself into 4 day streak. but I couldn't control myself I gavein. This is actually very helpful now I might extend myself for a whole week which seems almost impossible for me. Wish me luck.

[@Rocku01]

Good luck. Never give up man. You can do this. 👍

[@jjgaddafiaaaa3072]

You got it bro do push-ups and focus

[@UmDevoto]

God bless you.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Rock it out my friend. You are stronger than you know. You got this. Change some things in your life. Switch up your physical environment, write some positive affirmations about yourself. Change leads to happiness.

[@pallmall7385]

I made it to a 3 month streak once and I can tell you from experience, there is nothing harder than EVERY SINGLE BRUSH AGAINST YOUR PANTS AND EVERY THOUGHT YOU HAVE CONSUMING YOU AND MAKING YOU THINK OF SEX. It's worse than starvation. It's definitely more than just "dealing with mood regulation". Women literally have no idea.

[@jantyszka1036]

This is so odd. I have been reading Buddhist texts about meditation and mastering your thoughts for a long time. Only now, listening to Dr Trish, do I understand what it's really all about: getting comfortable with being unconfortable is classic "being mindful in the mind". Just saying to yourself 'I have an uncomfortable feeling now' - observe it, examine it objectively, see it for what it is, then let it flow away, like a twig floating down a stream.

[@rkip123456]

Another A+ video. I haven't watched a video since December 4, 2020, and after 6 solid months I have started looking at pictures again. I need to follow the brain tips, now more than ever. I won't make a full-on relapse.

[@tomsl7111]

After 6 solid months. Bro, that's amazing!! Now focus on outperforming that streak.

[@sonsofliberty9630]

How did you feel?

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Don’t do it my friend… Watch these videos with me ranting about the harms of porn ;-) They are better for your brain. You can do it.

[@adis.g6569]

Dr is mankind's savior. I wish the vid was posted sooner

[@chatifyyy]

I have been trying to get off this habit for almost a year now. Have had multiple 30-40 day streaks but I give up eventually. Currently on a +20 day streak. You have given me an insight that it's not about sex-drive, its about the dopamine that my brain wants. I will not give up this time. Thanks doc ♥️

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Excellent! Keep going. Think about what happens to you mentally and emotionally before the 30 to 40 day mark. Then put something new in place. It will help you get over the threshold.

[@Martialxhaki]

At night soothing, & Morning mood regulation 🤝🏼 Is there another strategy to deal with stress or anger in a streak? The more days I’m on a streak the easier I get triggered. Even though I do a good job of controlling it , it’s internal.

[@feitanthegoat]

Quit for about 1week and those days i didn't even think of it. Like it was as if I never wasted 8 years being addicted to this thing then I relapsed 4 days and went back to 4 days as of today and I do feel a little bit of an urge but it is more of wanting to look at things that I can sexualize and fantasies but no urge of touching myself. Thanks to this video I learned a bit more about this journey and hopefully keep going strong. My future wife and kids need a real man in their life and being a p*rn addcit isn't the way!

[@robbiegibson4112]

Day 8 and going strong Dr. Trish Leigh. Last night was difficult. I'm going to watch the video now on my tv.I am working on inflammation to after realizing that it is the leading cause for a Cardiovascular Event like heart attack or stroke. I'm trying to reverse any plaque and heal my arteries. With supplements and I am doing a few things to reduce and to stop the damage already done. Luckily I do not have as much as many people. True. It is like a relief valve for stress and pain. The ya know.

[@brianlevesque7822]

What about cardiovascular events?

[@seanyshepfit]

Glad I found this channel. It's such a bad addiction that people don't want to talk about but it needs to be addressed

[@azhar3423]

I am humbled , I really appreciate and thank you so much for what you are doing so worthy.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

You’re welcome. I am very glad to help you.

[@tonybinder9392]

Fascinating to consider this. Thank you!

[@handansen777]

Excellent explanation/ presentation; this is a much needed perspective, and breath of fresh air, in our hyper-sexualized culture.

[@jasonhayden5077]

I've recently turned to Christ and I've prayed for help. Not long after your videos appeared on KZbin in my algorithm. This is something that has destroyed most of my life. Thank you for your videos it has been helping me. I'm struggling but I'm working through it. Again thank you 🙏

[@AadityaSPatil]

Makes a lot more sense to me now, thanks for uploading this!

[@DrTrishLeigh]

You’re welcome. I hope it helps.

[@lifeafterkings6315]

Made it to a month today felt the strong urges this morning, I want go at least a year without nofap.

[@roycannon6724]

Most men I work with push lust like it's their God. Making it more challenging to ignore their mind set and create my own mind set. I hate being so shallow. I pray to create dopamine and enjoy life again with Jesus words in my heart.

[@mudrekabohra9900]

Got a better understanding.. seeing this video thank you

[@georgerodriguez2987]

I wish I knew of this lady 14 years ago or maybe 20 years ago when I started my addiction to porn and sex but to be honest in my heart I was searching for help back in those days but I just didn’t have the resources to help myself now I have this incredible channel here on KZbin

[@bigwavesun]

I have felt like an addict fiending for hard drugs. I have not done it though. *scratches inside of arms* 😣😖

[@DrTrishLeigh]

When you resist the urges it can really show you where you’re at in the journey. The pull is unbelievable sometimes Stay the course. You are stronger than you know.💪🏽

[@bigwavesun]

@@DrTrishLeigh Thank you Dr. Trish!

[@kevinperera18]

thank you for the info! makes a lot of sense. having the knowledge and awareness about the body makes it that much easier to face reality - thank you YOur channel has been a source of strength.

[@kevinperera18]

Love the canon in d

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Great. I am so glad to be able to help you. Yes Canon in D really is lovely, I’m glad you like it.

[@HustlerHarshit]

3:13 3:40 3:58

[@sameralas6906]

Speaking from my experience, I think replacing porn with other activities is key. Porn occupies a huge amount of our behavioral programming. In fact unless we replace porn behavior with another behavior(s) that are equally exciting and meaningful to us, we will always regress back to porn.

[@RickMartinYouTube]

what are some of your alternate activities? good comment

[@sameralas6906]

@@RickMartinKZbin Thank you, For me it's playing music , reading + watching documentaries. Also I am working on meditation which should help with stress because stress is the biggest trigger for me.

[@TheREDSKAL]

Porn can be bigger hit of dopamine than real sex! What kind of activity can get you more dopamine than sex?

[@mi8345]

@@TheREDSKAL you need to rewire your brain so sex doesn't play that role for you anymore...

[@lavarball7538]

@@TheREDSKAL reaching your goals. Exercise and building a beautifully sculpted body

[@Leandre22_02]

This information is very effective thanks for the input you literally just told me the reason why I have urges besides being bored and lonely wow I appreciate you helping thousands of people everyday

[@RickMartinYouTube]

good comment

[@jeffhucle6436]

"Training the puppy" brain is possibly your best advice

[@HeavenestStCyr]

2:02- 2:10 Does it help if you find something about work or your family that you do look forward to? That way your brain starts to associate these things with the need to produce dopamine.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Yes. That’s exactly it. When you quit porn ❌ and rewire your brain, you get excited by your life again. 🙌

[@markshard]

like Elaine said "I don't know how you walk around with those things". yeah it's a little incovenient at times.

[@ronholfly]

So that's what makes people miserable, no dopamine in the system. I will take a look at your other video "5 Easy ways to Replenish Dopamine in your System." ❤❤

[@MichaelSkinner-e9j]

Everybody needs to self soothe. You can’t be by yourself for an extended period of time away from your partner and just Not. -You could time and plan your needs. It’s a matter of substitution.

[@michaelsterling8065]

Instant subscriber.

[@nervousguy1503]

Thanks a lot for your help and advice

[@johnchikoti2552]

Thank you Dr Trish , this video is so helpful. I started my journey the day I first bumped into one of your videos I am on day 8 , though it’s a tough journey but the results are astounding . I am more energetic and positive in mind than ever before. That was when I realised that porn is a secret mind destroyer. When I feel an urge to watch these filthy videos, I play one of your videos and when you begin digging the dangers of porn, those urge go away. Porn free life is a healthy one Thanks Dr Trish

[@Jacks_Songwriting_Shack]

This is a great video, is there a list of known things that the brain can get dopamine from?

[@michaelmoss6590]

I appreciate that you give a goal to move towards and paint a picture of what that would look like, my authentic self. I've also made secure attachment style a goal to move towards.

[@jannemclaughlin8436]

My husband and I have focused on true intimacy and vulnerability and, even though he still struggles with underlying issues of depression and anxiety… his better self is returning!

[@eyohelterefe2345]

😥 you are an awesome gift for men who are in the dark looking for how to end the struggles

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Thank you. I really appreciate this comment. 🙏🏻

[@nihilisticpunk24]

Okay, so when does one realize that they actually want to have sex? And if so, how is a person able to differentiate between wanting to genuinely have sex vs mood regulation?

[@gideonokobru9369]

Perhaps, sex is also a means for mood regulation. I believe what Dr T.Leigh is saying is you can replace sex or PMO with another less harmful source of dopamine

[@DrTrishLeigh]

When you compulsively go towards sex and are hyper sexual you are using it mostly for mood regulation. When you learn your triggers and stop depending upon sex to regulate your mood then you can feel genuinely sexual. It takes time and self-awareness to discern.

[@oliverkent7158]

I do wish Dr Trish would make s video about how people with no partner are able to live a celibate life ie no fap/porn/sexual stimulation by whatever means.

[@DrWhom]

have it whenever you want to with yourself with someone else with a hole in the ground get your rocks off

[@lavarball7538]

@@DrTrishLeigh dr trish I love you for the sake of god. You are healing a lot of sick people who don’t even know it. KEEP PUSHING

[@arunalexdavid6281]

Pachelbel canon in D ❤ Thank you very much Dr Trish.

[@BlazblueFan]

I'm almost 3 weeks into nofap and I still get quite intense sexual fantasies in the morning or even in the night when I wake up. I try to not to get immersed in them but sadly it doesn't always wok out, but at least I don't touch myself. I hope I can overcome this sooner than later. At least now I understand why I get these fantasies in the morning (during the day that's almost never the problem). Thanks for the video!

[@brandonpelembe4253]

try the easypeasy method

[@Shaman_E]

You got it bro! You’ll find what works for you

[@ShadowWarrior1909876]

Thank you teacher

[@ems8397]

Love your videos. Very helpful. Can you please let your viewers know the where you get your artwork from. They are beautiful.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Thanks. That’s an old painting. But I love it.

[@jaostrongeditz]

Im college student and need help my urges and end my day trying keep up with progressing through the obstacles and interactions towards that matter

[@pasalasaga]

If I have to leave lust, I can't do it on my own.

[@David-sq6ep]

This is a great video Doc. You are the best!

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Thank you. I appreciate it.

[@yousefhussain9184]

I growl and scream.. sometimes I tense my body

[@zainuddinbrahim4625]

Getting comfortable is not about masturbation, good to have sports and make time with doing other things, fight it with normal activities

[@MichaelSkinner-e9j]

I’ve been single my entire life. I understand mood regulation Perfectly

[@emmanuelbeck-rivest3851]

I’m so tired of feeling like I’m denying myself and feeling like I’m wasting my sexuality away in my prime … not to mention the catholic shame and guilt surrounding the whole ordeal

[@AngelGNC]

Thanks!

[@Darren-su2gm]

What about if you are single and you lost your toxic exgirlfreind and you are disabled

[@MichaelSkinner-e9j]

People need to self soothe. You can’t just take that away. When people are away, things are going to get hairy, and they may have fear, anxiety, sadness, or loneliness, and you can’t just say “you can’t self soothe” There’s always a substitution. If I were married, I would literally just focus on my wife. I am ULTRA SIMPLE (a woman’s needs would literally meet mine ) If she needed something, there’s nothing wrong with her watching porn.

[@johnvalerian8440]

Interesting, first time I’ve heard this mood regulation concept.

[@DrTrishLeigh]

It is proven by science. 🧠

[@ericdrake904]

At night... video of rain and thunder storm sounds

[@waynescaller8833]

That's what I do or listen to binormal music

[@DrTrishLeigh]

I love that. I went to the mountains for the last few days and it rained all night. Absolutely beautiful thanks for the suggestion.

[@andrewtrottier9951]

Awesome video, thank you! Exactly the reminder I needed to pay attention to the mood regulation tendencies 👍

[@DrTrishLeigh]

Yep. I’m glad it helps.

[@mrbeexxx8488]

Thx this vid help me lot

[@ericdrake904]

In the morning i get out of bed and start excercise. Pushups. Squats. Tires me out.Hurts. But feel great.

[@pratapsinghrana28]

Don't forget protein after workouts

[@ericdrake904]

@@larrycarter3765 push ups. Pull ups. Squats.

[@ericdrake904]

@@pratapsinghrana28 yes. Also take creatine.

[@pratapsinghrana28]

@@ericdrake904 creatine 🤔 i am not aware about it let me google

[@josephpriester8435]

Hi Dr. Trish

[@SH_BAR]

Hi Dr Trish how long does it take to complete the journey