What Is The Virtue And Vice Of ISTPs? | Joy Vs. Melancholy | CS Joseph

[@sciencelabvideosl7558]

ISTP woman. OMG! I say this all the time! I want my freedom!!! I love to travel alone and shop alone. I hate negotiating . I hate gossip because many times it is a tool of persuasion. I can't stand rigid type men who expect a woman to be a certain way. It bothers me that I don't have a lot of friends, but when I'm with friends I get tired and wish they would leave! lol. When I feel micromanaged at work I will leave. I am not such a tools person, but I do like to teach because I'm always on my toes thinking in the moment! I'm happy when I'm left alone to do my work. I don't meet a lot of women like me. I'm glad I took this test because I used to feel too different as a woman and could never understand why.

[@1Skorpia]

Only other istp women get you or a very caring friend that isnt trying to change you or shove theur beliefs down your throat. We arent clingy, we dont get off on most things society programmed women to care about like marriage and babies, where if you arent making it your life duty to have those 2 things there is something "wrong"we fix our own things as opposed to hiring someone if its simple. We can get along with women but they have to be a certain type. Usually independent and unique. yes i love my freedom,i dont feel like some other women like im at a "loss" or somethings wrong. I actually love gossip if its REAL good lol!

[@loraborealis2551]

sciencelabvideos L , same here! Ive always felt like an outcast. What woman doesn’t like gossip?! Lol I can’t stand it. Yes to everything you said. 😊

[@anyavoon5879]

OMG I'm istp female too! I relate so much with this

[@anyavoon5879]

I seriously seriously hate gossip and I hate when people try to control what I'm doing

[@loraborealis2551]

Anya Voon , same! And I can spot lies and manipulation a mile away. Is that ISTP? Sometimes I hate how suspicious I am about everyone yet at the same time, I tend to believe people too easily! It’s s conundrum.

[@liberatorg410]

Being depressed is part of life for me, its always going to be there, the feeling that you are just a small spec on the earth, it just drives you crazy. not having the freedom of what you want to do, other people making decisions for you, and then the fact that its so disgustingly hard to open up to anyone because you know they won't understand, its too much. I know my fellow istps understand what i am saying. To others we seem like lifeless, hollow people, but its really not like that. One thing i will tell you, we may seem like a dick but we never take advantage of you, really loyal. ALSO I KNOW EVERY ONE OF US IS HERE TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT OURSELVES.

[@CSJoseph]

yessir

[@bluebubble6594]

this comment has a total of 0 failures!! This feeling is so me :')

[@harrydavis5763]

Our love to learn fellow istp. Thruout life we have fallen into whichever prison we feel limits us. Remember craftsman, you fix things. And you think better, and more clearly than most. Use these values to learn yourself, manipulate your prison to me a paridise. Depression is not a part of me, dis allow the negatives. Lead yourself towards your best life. ❤️

[@datguy8460]

naw i take advantage lol

[@Susq15]

ISTP. I feel trapped by conversations involving negative emotions or extended complaining. Something inside me insists "Run far away!" but of course you can't do that and maintain relationships. My guess is ISTPs make terrible counselors.

[@NiamhCreates]

I would make a HORRIBLE counselor, you are very right there. 😑 -ISTP

[@emmanuelgoldstein8233]

I have to disagree. I'm an ISTP and I think I would make a pretty good counselor. How? By giving them rational solutions. You don't solve problems by giving support, you solve them by giving real life solutions.

[@serkev]

Learn to improve your Fe and you'll be a solid counselor

[@andreag4477]

@@emmanuelgoldstein8233 The not everyone is rational lol

[@joemwas5442]

@@emmanuelgoldstein8233 true but for most people to respond positively to your logical solutions you must show them support which is definitely istp's weakness. By the way am an istp too and I also think I would make a very poor counselor

[@HyGlobalHD]

As an ISTP, I almost got bored when you were walking around at the same place.

[@abbyt1617]

The freedom thing is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo true. I've left so many people and things that I loved bc I felt trapped and when ppl noticed they just became more and more overbearing. Also it's really hard to coexist with other ppl because they get so personally offended when you say u need space, when it actually has nothing to do with them.

[@1Skorpia]

They think you are either cheating or they arent enough. Oh well. ..sucks to be them i guess. Im an istp btw😁

[@xxtt224]

Oh my god! I really really get annoyed by ppl who get butthurt bcz u told them u need a little space! Like why are u taking that so personally!??

[@KonvoyChief]

I can relate.

[@johnng3956]

Just curious, but does a little space mean 3months? INFP here. I'd like to think I'm rather well developed. But my girl, ISTP, just shuts down and disappears on a whim and refuses to deal with legitimately glaring issues in our rs. A rs without empathy really is a niche that I can't do. What are fellow istps thoughts? Update* : I was used for good feelings and to heal from her disappointing previous rs. Another girl she let her guard down on came into her life and I was phased out of her heart because I didn't play the competition game by making her feel more special than that new slut. 🙄 Welp. Consistent love ain't for anyone. Couldn't take the disrespect and lies, as much as it tears me apart, I left. Fucking blindsided by a lesbo, haha oof my masculinity 😂

[@CRlifeisgood]

I am an INTJ and I love alone time. Did a 2 year long distance relationship with my ISTP. Married 14 years now. I give him all the freedom he wants. I like being alone

[@waynetang1763]

You should rename the title of this video to "ISTPs: The most likely of all types to escape from Prison" I willing to bet the ISTPs that are in prison spend 100% their time thinking about how they are going to escape.

[@thequieterubcomethemoreuhe1198]

I truly believe that I would not try to escape if I am allowed to serve my sentence in solitary confinement and I have an endless supply of projects, repairs and courses for learning! I never get bored alone or have a 'need' to see people! Most live in their feelings(drama) and love lies or accept them. I am always in the mindset of , problem=solution= next problem, If you're hurt, crying, sad? I'm coming up with a repair to fix it. I'll give them the solution and they are still wanting to cry and feel hurt after the answer to solve it has been presented to them or continue in self defeating statements just to bathe in misery! OMYHEAD! So I go fix something that is not able to cry, complain & purposely want to stay broke! At least Ill have a physical accomplishment & a new challenge to conquer! :) If I had to be with others? I'd try to escape or sleep my life away! OHMYHEAD, I'd go off my rocker!

[@JL0007]

I would spend equal time planning my escape and attempting to get into solitary confinement.

[@marisawood1285]

Wayne Tang watching prison break is handy for gaining ideas...

[@CuddleClaw.]

I would ask to be in solitary confinement as long as I have books, paper, and a pencil. I would just need to shower daily, exercise and have fresh air daily, and have a conversation with someone once per week, I’m sure I could get the guard to talk to me.

[@stevenbury3980]

I was thinking "eff me, this guy is good!". I'm an ISTP. I've thought that depression is actually who I am. But It comes in patches. Spot on, what he said, when you feel trapped in a situation.. like a job... one gets bored, goes blank. It's horrible. When you can't think your way out of it. Thanks for this, mate.

[@stevenbury3980]

Best thing to do when it comes on is walk away from everything and travel. Switch things up, take a challenge, go on a motorcycle journey.

[@CSJoseph]

Steven Bury I got your back bro

[@thorburnjschwegler]

I know right 🤯

[@loraborealis2551]

Happy = fleeting Joy = underlying never leaving ISTPs are happy Joy comes from within Happy comes from circumstances

[@langstonreece7215]

conquering the demon must require some sort of purpose for the istp

[@ivynix6761]

Freedom is so valuable to them!! My ISTP uncle can’t even wear jewelry like watches because he said he feels trapped by it. Years ago he went through divorce because his wife wouldn’t understand he just wanted to take a walk during arguments just to have space and wouldn’t let him have that, she always said he was going to cheat on her even though he never gave her reason to believe so. He also owns his own business repairing machines for customers because he always wanted to work for himself. I’ve worked with him for years and I love the freedom that he gives me and my coworkers because we can still be productive without being stressed out of our minds.

[@CRlifeisgood]

My husband would never wear his wedding ring. I never saw him wear anything.

[@outoforbit00]

So true, my partner is istp. I used to work for him. As long as he trusted his employees to get on with the job, he was never down their back and putting pressure on. Loved working under him. I'm infp and I also like to fly my own kite.

[@RickyCoyote]

Another terrific video. I am an ISTP and your videos are the most informative when it comes to helping me understand my own natural tendencies and personality traits. I appreciate them a lot, thank you.

[@CSJoseph]

Ricky Hambly thanks for your support. I am thankful to not annoy ISTPs like I used to. I really do love and respect them for all their hard work and intelligence.

[@JulioLopez-xz5kx]

The saying "The master of my own destiny" is my embodiment of what I've always believed in as an ISTP.

[@keithstray1267]

ISTP here. Usually you annoy the shit out of me (lol) even if youre right. but this shit hit me hard. ive been stuck for the past 3 years because of the lack of freedom, that hardcore depression consumed my life. Thank you so much for putting this out. This helped me so much.

[@myykkoll]

Haha, I was laughing the whole way though this video, it's so accurate and I haven't heard the info before. I love they way you convey your feelings about us too, where we clearly clash a lot but you still have an apparent respect. The more of your video's I watch, the more I appreciate your knowledge and perspective.

[@janettegodfrey7092]

Hey Chase, I'm a true infj, and oddly enough i have been married to an istp for 35 years. It is so wierd how different we are - almost alien to each other, and yet there are also strange affinities and common values we share which have helped us build up a very deep trust and friendship... your analyses of the two types explain so much that we have been experiencing over decades. We still surprise each other sometimes though and baffle each other.... but trust is deep.

[@sibestfunction4400]

istp here, my infj husband is a martian and im a venusian i truly dont undersrand it but i forsee 35 years for us, nay, a lifetime.

[@pete4527]

Agreed... I'm an ISTP and have been married to an INFJ for 34 years. It has definitely been a long process of learning for both of us. We also share a set of core beliefs that have carried us through some of life's challenges.

[@Jack-vn8jy]

I see this pairing a lot despite how awful it should be. My first gf was an INFJ and it was horrible. How do you do it? You sure your partner isn't ISTJ?

[@abbyt1617]

So true... I actually thought I might be bipolar for a while because of this

[@mimno2750]

Abby T wow! That’s what I used to thought!

[@MJ-qd1ud]

Holy shit me too

[@ly8078]

omg same

[@amycb2014]

Wow just the other day I was asked if I have bipolar!!! Umm no, but I am an ISTP.

[@cyenanglumad]

Same here... 😂

[@ItsFrizzy]

This literally just happened to me the other day in school. It's exactly like you said, I was really bored in class with nothing to do and then all of a sudden I thought to myself "I feel trapped" and then I BECAME FULL ON DEPRESSED FOR NO REASON. It wasn't until I got home that I started feeling better.

[@karo8612]

I hate it to no end when my time is being wasted on something I don't want to spend it on. Can be someone talking, a situation I can't bring to an end and am stuck in or otherwise. I'm probably making the most grotesque depressed face when that happens when I can't hold it back and no wonder people get uncomfortable around me then. But I can't help it. Wasting time on stuff I don't want is my nemesis. Another thing is diving into experience fully. Recently I've been to a festival. Created a dress, sewn hundreds of flowers onto it. Did not expect that much attention, it was first time in forever since I've felt such social anxiety. I just wanted to deliver my creation and forgot to forethink that the human interaction aspect would be involved in such quantity. But yeah, delivering an experience, having the ultimate costume was the drive. 😁

[@abbyt1617]

The hardware store is so true too... I still love just going to any stores with lil knick knacks I can explore

[@waynetang1763]

I will go to the hardware store to pick-up one thing, but always get distracted by other things as I walk through the store. Something random will catch my eye and I will try figure out what else it could be used for other than its primary function. Hardware stores are basically filled with endless array of possibilities. If my kids are with me it drives them nuts.

[@christiw7155]

Thank you so much for this video. My son is most definitely an istp and has been struggling in school. My husband struggles with giving him freedom when he is not performing well in school, but I have been trying to encourage giving him more freedom because he becomes depressed and inactive when restricted and begs for us to trust him. Thank you for your insight.

[@vixen.goddess01]

Istp female and loving it. But I always feel misunderstood in the things I can do. Some people will sometime's think of me as tomboyish but I just take my projects seriously and like to think of every possible situation before it arises and like to fix it before they happen. My mom would always ask me to fix something and I would have it fixed before she finished her sentence. #istp

[@1Skorpia]

I grew up a tomboy. I always hung around the boys. To this day i understand them because they are logical and i relate more to them than my other associates that get butthurt or worked up over stupid,random things. I LOOOVE being an istp badass female.

[@britshell]

You do have a good point. I feel my most depressed when I feel trapped and bored.

[@loraborealis2551]

This was extremely accurate for me. The only thing I disagreed with was when he said the ISTP gets depressed because they run out of things to think about. My mind never stops. But the trapped thing is too real. I’m a SAHM with an ENT(or F)P husband. He triggers me like this guy did. Lol

[@88yellowjacket]

As soon as you said the virtue and the vice. "Joy v. Melancholy" I said out loud "yes".

[@CSJoseph]

lol dope

[@traditionalgirl3943]

A+ from ISTP ! As an ISTP homemaker, I am so very grateful that my ISTJ husband gives me almost total freedom because he knows I’ll take care of what needs to be done to keep the household in working order. 👍

[@traditionalgirl3943]

(ISTP) Once I went to to a nice hotel in Ohio. It had a golf course but what I I noticed was the trees alongside it. They had vines hanging, like in a Tarzan movie! I was so excited. My ISTJ boyfriend was hesitant because it was a long way down to where there was some water and there were trees on the sides. But I was gung ho. The thought of danger crossed my mind but I was not going to live my life knowing I said “no” to that! So he went first. We had a blast, swinging! - One of the BEST memories of my life - and it’s been almost thirty years. (We got married.) I have MS now so just walking around my house is tough. I have to believe I can be healthy again so I try to do a few exercises daily. Thank God I took chances when I could. 👍😁

[@MusicCrackhead]

My boyfriend is ISTP. I’m INTJ. I’m certainly interested in listening to my bf talk about motorcycles engine and how guns work but he knows I’m not really interested in it as much as I’m simply curious about how it all works. I can envision what’s he’s saying about the engine and I ask loads of questions and It might seem to him that I’m learning about motorcycles but I honestly am curious about why he’s so in to it. I like when people know shit and can talk about it with ease. I certainly give my ISTP the freedom to hop on his bike any time he likes and ride off into the sunset and I’m honestly happy to let him go at it, cause it means I get our apt to myself (hehe). I don’t really see his depressed side often and I don’t want to see it. Can’t wait until you do INTJ.

[@WoWplayer527]

Your mentioning about melancholy really struck home with me. Whenever im in a situation that i have no control over and cant get out of i get extremely bored. And if that feeling of boredom persists for long (weeks-months) enough i start feeling really sad.

[@debhadden205]

You have accurately described my ISTP son. He was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder as a preteen, probably because he felt trapped due to his lack of freedom. He couldn't sit in school or church for more than 15 minutes without getting bored and angry. We eventually let him stop going to church, unschooled him, and signed him up in cross country. His favorite thing to do is explore alone in wilderness areas where there are no people. He's been places where no people have been, has nearly died several times, and is inpeccable in recalling every detail to us about his experiences. Many times, I have thought I'd be sending a search and rescue after him. He is definitely Mr. YOLO! Our relationship has been great since we gave him his freedom. As an INFJ myself, we are really cool EMOs together. Thanks for the great video!!! Very validating as a mom raising one.

[@CSJoseph]

have him watch Joe Robinet on KZbin.

[@debhadden205]

@@CSJoseph Thank you! I'm binge watching your videos. :)

[@RaffertyMBTI]

I cannot tell you how much it has helped me to hear about the joy vs melancholy I experience framed through the lens of MBTI. It takes the edge off of the melancholy and allows me to intellectualise and even appreciate it. I see this so much in other ISTP’s and it is such a curious thing.

[@macancela]

INFJ here! Wow super great video! One of the best regarding ISTP. I've been with my ISTP for almost 4 years and have witnessed this in person. Exactly as described. We were living together for a year and a half and I had to move out because his melancholy was getting worse and I just felt like I wasn't helping despite trying my best. Now that I've been watching these ISTP videos I understand that he probably needed more space and to work on himself on his own. Also i tried to help him work on himself so much that maybe it was feeling like I was taking some freedom away. Moving in was probably too soon for him and we're both kind of young. So we've decided to live a year apart and do LDR. It had been great so far. Anyways I could keep going but to make it shorter, thanks for these videos! I really enjoy how you deliver your knowledge to us! 😄

[@stephanier9345]

infj here too dating an istp. still together?

[@timothymorrison7728]

I have an ISTP father and am an Intuitive dominant. We don't get along because he wants me to do things his way and I just naturally see what's better in the long run. He's tried to teach me his way but it just doesn't work. This video was spot on!

[@beingsomeone201]

I have istp father too, (entp me) takes me a while how he thinks, how to give him positive manipulations or inception but yes even now he wants to do things in his way! But he literally likes my ti thing too much though❤ (entp me) has many intellectual idea and skills, (starts from mma to learning different language , law, business thinking easily like entp thing) he saw that and thought of me like some golden child sometimes lol

[@sarahharless5044]

Wow! im a ISTP, and i learned something about myself watching your vid. thank you! i mean i was getting down on myself, for how i responded in situations, not knowing why i was losing respect for people Etc or why I was so elated and happy for absolutely no reason that I can detect or why I would have a bad case of melancholy from being in a relationship where I felt trapped because it felt stagnant to me I'm just amazed that your ability to capture and verbalize the things that are 100% true in my life. And some of those puzzle pieces that I haven't been able to place all these years are now starting to make sense finally I really appreciate your video thank you

[@CSJoseph]

You are most welcome.

[@Ravakeksis]

I've had a job where i had to train people and when i've had to explain something twice to someone they're immediately in my sin bin. Explains a lot :)

[@asherkolars1283]

I have to say, as an ISTP, I have never really been the all out life kind of person. But I think that is due to me being raised by SJ parents (ISFJ mom, ISTJ dad), and me shadowing their behavior. Recently, although, I've been making plans to be a musician, and selling myself to music basic (not in a ritualistic way). Being fully free in a way to create music In anything I want is awesome, and I'm pretty much the happiest I've ever been.

[@sparki101]

Also an ISTP raised by your same type of parents. I don't think I could choose to live closely with SJs again

[@fernandoalvarado6084]

ISTP guitar player (not a good one), when I come up with some of my noise, I play certain notes then figure out what key I am in and what notes I can use and their parallel keys and their relative minor key and when I get stuck in all that I lose all interest in playing but then I go back and do the same lol

[@beingsomeone201]

You are an se hero even being introvert btw, always working and ti is too sharp❤

[@1Skorpia]

Lets get to the point. Istp females are the badasses that are often misunderstood by other women. Think military, lara croft, scarlett o hara,mrs Smith, femme fatale type ,samantha from sex and the city and my personal fav lisbeth salander.

[@polmak1507]

ohh I love Lara Croft

[@lightningleehamilton]

ENtp This is you at your best I feel. Your energy is so good here. I think it’s cause you’re out doors getting the blood flowing taking risks. Even when you talk about the dark side it’s still positive where in another video I’ve seen you get scary and doomy. I’ve always looked at ENTPs like my little bro... sure, that on time to time we let down, but they’re spirit that you’re displaying right here keeps us going! Cheers my guy

[@1jade4bunnyluv]

Wow. This is actually very relieving for me. For a while now I've been very depressed, and I've been trying to fix it. When I noticed little improvement I started feeling a bit hopeless and didn't know what I could do. But actually learning a bit of why I'm so easily depressed and how I can change that is very helpful. So thank you! 💕

[@CSJoseph]

I am glad I could be of help.

[@jishingaaru]

ISTP Army! 🙂

[@ifonlyunu994]

I went out with an ISTP he was all smiles. I got the vibe that he had ADHD and depression. Nice guy though he was a research scientist:( thank you for this video. Keep up the great work.

[@rebecam.8397]

Dawn Bernice thats hilarious

[@ifonlyunu994]

Rebeca Cervantes there is actually nothing funny about a depressed person that smiles through their pain. If you know anything about MBTI you would know what Extroverting Sensing (Se) is. This is what is driving his ADHD and subsequent depression.

[@rebecam.8397]

@@ifonlyunu994 it's hilarious because the istp I talk to is like this. It makes me laugh, at how mbti gets these things so spot on

[@rebecam.8397]

@@ifonlyunu994 my laughing has nothing to do with laughing at his depression

[@AnaB012]

@@ifonlyunu994 You think he was depressed because he is a research scientist, he felt trapped because of that?

[@RonFlux]

Take an ISTP to an amusement park when he is young and not YET bored of them...true true.

[@HodsBroo]

Your videos on istps are amazing, thank you so MUCH -ENFJ

[@rachelruhls5327]

Thank you very, very much for this one!! One of my managers at work is an ISTP and when she first started, I noticed right away this tendency she had to occasionally walk by the front of the store with a look of TOTAL despair on her face. In the beginning of our relationship, I think I even would genuinely call out to her and ask if she was okay because she just looked so darn SAD!!! Of course, I didn't know it then but she will hardly ever speak whenever she slips into one of these moods. However, a full year later I actually do know better than to ask questions. But your description of a child having their lollipop taken away, literally made me laugh until I cried!! Lol, I had always wanted to truly understand her infamous "look", you know? And now, I am perfectly clear on the subject:) Thanks, again.

[@klaramolitva]

Super description of the ISTP!

[@Kelvin-ed6ce]

I have 17 personalities.

[@Blacklotus-d7v]

Patricia did it.

[@hardlybreathe93]

Its surrreal hearing all these and how spot on they are. Esp the part of feeling "trapped", "stuck" cause I feel that alot all the time. I do really dont know what to do during those times and just wanna run back to things that makes me happy. I feel either intense euphoria or dysphoria. Theres no inbetween. I become impatient and less focused to things I hate doing and feel excited/full of life that are personally rewarding. Speaking of emo, my peers call me that alot when I was a teenager and I really get triggered about it. Its either emotionless or emo. Im fine with emotionless but emo or calling me depressed makes me mad. I hate being called out like that LMAO Damn, great video.

[@CSJoseph]

Dope :)

[@argent-wolfman90]

Very well done video Chase. I'm an ISTP 8w9 or counterphobic 6w5 and when I was working in Architectural drafting I found myself super-bored and melancholic. I hated the theoretical side of the job and I enjoyed working on the structural side of the design rather than the looks of it which is a major focal point. I had a manager that made me work for free sometimes as he would do free work for some people. I left the industry and am looking for a new career as the covid lockdowns in Melbourne just destroyed the industry. However I hate doing theory based work in the school or university side of the education. When listening to a lecturer droning on I tend to draw and sketch on the paper just like how you described the engineer which made me laugh as I do the same thing.

[@AdityaSharma-me6je]

1. I think for me to be elated, it has to be good delicious food. It gets me out of my 'depressed' state and makes me realize this is life. It happens and we only live once. 2. I like teaching others especially papers or fields that interest me like maths, french, history, geopolitics, etc. This is the reason that sometimes I have a moderate desire to become a professor. There are some other points I would like to make like doodling when bored or having a liking for adventure sports. But I am too lazy to write them :)

[@liberatorg410]

As an istp my biggest dream would be to have or build or be iron man, sounds like a joke but tech shit is cool af, especially iron man

[@CSJoseph]

hell yes

[@IndyLaLune]

Any progress?

[@hecklerthecrunker]

This is way more useful than psychiatry's "manic depression".

[@laszlo_kovacs]

Ohh man, that YOLO. YOLO is life. The best fucking description for the way of our life, we just YOLO it.

[@adificut3299]

Useful, educational, insightful Chase, CS Josephite

[@desrinaqiu9688]

Thanks for your video. ISTP female ere. I’ve been trapped too long with my parenting job, my NPD mom who thinks her words/wishes are Heaven’s will that I need to obey absolutely. I’ve surrendered all of my joy & life to live in this ‘harmonious life I should live they said’. I almost forgot that yolo feeling and all the things you said. You’re just like that old friend who understand us. Cant thank you enough. Thanks.

[@britshell]

is very true this kind of feeling most down the most for the lack of better word, not wanting to exist, is when I'm bored or feel trapped or both

[@daniellependock2554]

♀️ISTP 😅 I was wondering why it's like I usially only have 3 emotions (Joy, rage and depression) That makes a lot of sense now. Thank you. What also makes a heap of sense is my weird relationships with my INXX family members. We seem to always accidentally rub eachother the wrong way.

[@jonathanchappell9503]

"Be tought or you will be forgot!"

[@Jess0529]

This helps me (INFJ) understand how for years I saw my ISTP husband as extroverted.

[@malgorzatasieradzka-krusin5792]

Hello there, I'm also INFJ with ISTP husband. It's quite a good match I would say, but also challenging sometimes. But i love how down to earth he is.

[@rebecam.8397]

Hey guys I'm enfj and I'm really crushing on an istp guy myself. But CSJ has said many times that this pairing is not recommended at all. What do you guys think about your compatibility with the istp?

[@karenhanson359]

@@rebecam.8397 I hope you didn’t learn the hard way. I would not recommend it. As an ENFJ who dated an ISTP for years I was always left feeling like my emotional needs were not being met. My sister and boss are also ISTPs and I feel that way with all of them. I understand why you’re attracted to him though. We were best friends and had good chemistry. The emotional support was really lacking though

[@saravanorden8847]

I prepare for feeling 'stuck' places and always bring some handwork with me, no matter if there is little chance I will get time to do it. It is my safety net for boredom and feeling SUPER trapped. It really soothes me just having it with me.

[@Alarycia]

I've always thought the melancholy and boredom was just my mental issues. If I'm not occupied, or even having a great day, if I'm not doing anything I can go from 100 to 0. I spent so much time alone locked up as a child and young teen. I thought I would go insane because I was trapped and everything enjoyable was taken from me, even books. Nothing to do but think. That was hell if my personality already has a bad reaction to that. I'm someone who hates taking risks that could hurt me. I won't be motivated to try anything too risky. I just debate all of the things that can go wrong, and use that as my excuse to not try _______, lol

[@perpetuallymisunderstood5736]

Because ISTP'S are hyper aware of their physical environment and risk - regardless of what people around them are saying - they will do something that they think is doable and will absolutely NOT do what they think is too high risk. We just tend to see things differently than most people in this way (actually most ways ;)) I evaluate risk with the factor that I call Potential Negative Impact (PNI). Well developed or even developing ISTP'S have a natural knack for this and it's something that is very difficult to explain. For example: my ESTJ mother would tell me to be careful with something I'm holding and let's say I'm just tossing it carelessly in the air and catching it while walking and after a few times it falls on the floor, but I don't care because I knew instinctively (or even experientially) that it wouldn't break. Sorry, ENFJ subconscious rant! Lol!

[@Alarycia]

I've been called boring, a coward or a party pooper for not being 'risky' and daring enough... Sorry that I calculate things far too logically before doing something stupid lol. But on the other hand, I'm extremely spontaneous to the point it worries and distresses people with less serious matters lol. People always worry about my hair- yes it can be risky but I know what I'm doing and I've never made regrettable decisions like that before. I've also randomly decided to get piercings a couple times just because I was walking past the shop. I did briefly think of the costs ect and decided it's worth the price and it is not even visible on a daily basis, so why not, you know? lol You are right- it's hard to explain the way we make decisions and calculate risks lol. Generally, I either go for all or nothing. If it is not an all or nothing situation, it's probably a situation where any outcome would be beneficial or wouldn't change much at all. I hate the mindset of 'at least I tried' or 'you tried your best' because if there's chance for failure, I won't strike at all. I'm also a big asshole and am a huge textbook example of 'negative learning' and I hate the whole 'practice and study makes perfect' garbage. If you want to learn something, you don't keep trying and failing, you study it out until your success rate is 100%. That also drives people up the wall especially with gaming lol. But it's extremely efficient and I'm pretty sure that leading esports players also have that approach more or less.

[@perpetuallymisunderstood5736]

@@Alarycia I've been asked repeatedly by an INTJ if I'm 'risk averse'! He was trying to evaluate my driving after renting a car together and at first I was maneuvering very carefully. An hour later I was driving 100mph in said car. To him that would seem like a paradox.

[@Alarycia]

I've had my fair share of head-butting with INTJs. I personally tend to have a problem with NT and NFs. Trouble is almost guaranteed with anyone who is sensitive or requires validation, neurotic and anxious people also bug the crap out of me. People who can't deal with spontaneous decisions hate me. God I also hate people that can't be serious for once. I am extremely sarcastic and have crude humor, but I know when to shut my trap and be serious, or when to initiate a serious conversation. Some people will just keep joking, or make sarcastic remarks and will not register that you're trying to be serious with them. Drives me up the wall haha

[@perpetuallymisunderstood5736]

From your first comment I think that you need to develop your Se more.

[@encryptedwolf7623]

This is spot on. Especially the melancholy reasons.

[@MrsAna-yz2kn]

Oh man! I laughed through the whole video. Seriously, I've been testing as an INFJ for the past two years and I got so sad because I felt like an INFJ but at the same time I felt like I didn't fit; sometimes being emotional and hating them, other times joyful and insensitive always a bit insensitive not intentionally when teaching others. I feel bad when I am too hard on someone.

[@argent-wolfman90]

Another thing to add to my last comment is as I've gotten older I found myself bored of nearly everything from my old thrills, dating, socializing, my old career, church and faith. Its really hard.

[@mandyfeldgreber4337]

Well this explains my midlife crisis/corona virus depression. I’m so trapped and bored!! I’ve run out of interesting projects and can’t think of anything to do!!!

[@whong09]

Yeah dude covid is so hard

[@alias1527]

Whoa, that parenting information when it comes to an ISTP woman is spot on. Children are beautiful/innocent little things, but they definitely take away your freedom, which can be depressing. Parenting is a sacrifice, but a break is definitely appreciated

[@angela8351]

You just freed me in a lot of ways. When I was 23 I was free and living life, adventuring. I had an unplanned pregnancy, got married. I died painfully a little each day in my own way and I couldn't save myself. I started doing crazy shit and acting out hysterically sometimes. The marriage lasted for 3 years but then life became hell (literally for me!!!). I'm 40 now, my dtr is 16 and I will honestly tell you I feel like in a couple years I'll be out of prison. But wait! Let me tell you I have been and awesome mom and I have bettered myself, I went to school and I've been a nurse for 5. Believe it or not it's my nursing residency that taught us about MBTI. I'm ready to feel alive again!!! I'm getting so close!

[@jkderick753]

Made a muffler for my lawn mower made out of PVC and cans, my mom said I couldn't out it on, bored and now watching this. WOKE

[@hyeriong1206]

When he said that his ISTP worker got depressed because his presentation was wasting his time HIT ME HARD.

[@xandirkuro4790]

Actually I got a friend whose probably an ISTP (though I see it more as in he's got Ne trickster as well as takes ppl as idiots(he saw that way his whole class before he went to high school), concrete pragmatic ). It's kind of funny that actually the reason we know each other is that both of us were in the national maths olympiad in my country( also I was acquainted with his elder brother, a funny coincidence). After that we ended up talking about random stuff (our interests kind of matched i.e. we both were way too much into anime(especially him) ), whenever he talks about how he always wants to become a better person/ about his goals/ mathematics he seems so full of energy and excited, it just makes me inspired xd. I guess his giant playground is maths atm.

[@danicca91]

So true! 😅 Istp woman here...

[@1Skorpia]

Represent sis!💪✊

[@Layniacsofficial]

As an ENTP who is married to an ISTP for ten years, I can say that you are on point. Maybe I understood your point well because we are both ENTP lol. I experience my husband's melancholy behavior a lot! I can get him things, ask him to find a hobby and even give him space to find his passion and it always goes right back to that "depressive behavior". Then he clings on to just me and won't find a hobby or a friend to do things with. As an ENTP, I require room to come up with new ideas and distract myself with thoughts but he won't let me. LOL It's a love/hate relationship. The only time he would leave me alone is when he ask me what am I thinking of and my response is "How long will it take to suffocate someone in their sleep with a pillow?" Of course I'm joking. I think lol

[@CSJoseph]

nice chaotic neutral

[@Layniacsofficial]

So what do you suggest I should do before I body slam him in a non-sexual way? Continue to buy him crap that he might never use after three days? Pfft ISTP gets bored way too easily. I am contemplating on pawning him for candies. :D

[@rebecam.8397]

Enfj here. The istp's virtue and vice is so endearing 😊❤

[@lauranceboyd6365]

It is not. I wish I was interested in school or a white collar job. It sucks that everything you like is considered stupid by everyone else.

[@CuddleClaw.]

@Rebecca M- Why endearing?

[@rebecam.8397]

Low fe users have a really genuine expression of their emotions. Joy and melancholy are both emotions that I've seen istp's express in a very child like and innocent way.

[@CuddleClaw.]

@@rebecam.8397 that’s true. I often feel like a child when I experience emotions especially relating with people. Thanks for your feedback!

[@rebecam.8397]

@@CuddleClaw. Yeah, no problem!

[@thequieterubcomethemoreuhe1198]

Thank you so much! Your lecture was very insightful , interesting & helpful. Thank you for sharing your walk and your knowledge about my personality type. Knowledge is power & although, I have received my understanding about my personality type, late in my life, I am happy and grateful for the quality and quantity of joy, perception & and overall awareness of "what makes me tick" and helps me to succeed, which have been abundantly, added to my life, I do love teaching but I love learning more. Again, many thanks and much appreciation for an interesting, informative, easily understood lecture that was articulated well and presented with genuine servitude to help others.

[@mojyoqueen350]

My ISTP partner told me many times that he is a simple man - when it's good he is happy, if it's not he is sad and he kind of is like this. Altough I have to give him more freedom probably...

[@ShalomSimplified]

This is actually hilarious to me. I am an ISTP and I've never heard anyone talk about it this way, but my profile picture on one particular app is a pic I found that says "choose joy". :D Also, yes, I hate boredom and feeling trapped. These often go hand-in-hand I think. Interestingly, ISTP sounds kind of ADHD, save for a few details. I have ADHD and am ISTP.

[@datguy8460]

"istp's are superjoyful" i heard someone knocking on my window couple nights ago and confirmed it wasnt someone from in my house and acted as nonchalant as ever, although vigilant. On Christmas, we got an oculus vr headset which i was really excited about yet had the same exact reaction i did a few nights ago. trust me, youd probably see me aging backwards before seeing myself express my actual emotions

[@FeatherleszBiped]

That explains a lot of things for me, but still, my melancholy comes in way too strong.

[@paulinha5165]

I have a depraved ISTP boyfriend, haha. it’s hard to deal, specially I’m an extremely controller INTP. But your video is on point. He gets so depressed when he feels he is being controlled, and I usually don’t know how to give him the emotional support he needs. It is hard to find a balance because he needs so much help and guidance on his day by day life (struggling with responsibility and planning), but at the same time has such a free and dominant spirit.

[@benaoao6753]

Just surrender in the bedroom. My best GF in that department was an ESFJ... don’t control that at least. Good luck!

[@IndyLaLune]

Y'all broke up yet

[@IndyLaLune]

wow sorry that was rude... but did you break up though?

[@paulinha5165]

@@IndyLaLune yes. I’m free! 😅

[@IndyLaLune]

@@paulinha5165 LMAO

[@thorburnjschwegler]

Damn bro you're so accurate about how I feel I am an istp and this is so true I either am extremely happy or extremely depressed but man it can go sideways real quick like

[@CRlifeisgood]

Describing my husband. It's exhausting sometimes 😪. He gets depressed and frustrated fast by what I consider a normal life routine. I tell him he has all the freedom to do whatever he wants, even if he wants to go wandering for 2 months. Then he chooses to not do anything because his son (in his words) needs a present dad..and then goes back to being depressed. Then he chooses to do all these random experiences and trips every time he has 3+ days off. But he won't go without me. Lol I end up going with him.

[@Mikumo-lovethunderglow]

Sigh~ I just can't help but give the ISTP what he likes because of how innocently joyful, amazed and enthusiastic he gets.

[@tyarraybarrola1295]

My grandmother had the unfortunate luck of marrying an older, psychologically unhealthy ISTP. When he tries to teach something, he gets inpatient really quickly and has only one specific way of doing things. To deviate from anything automatically makes him grumpy and he'll snap at you for thinking differently. If he sees anything wrong with you or something is out of place, he will be in a bad mood all day if you refuse to change it. He is definitely a fine craftsman and a hard worker, but his criticism has gotten out of hand. My grandmother cant even communicate with him because he won't take anyone else's ideas into consideration. And she's a counselor, so she has plenty of experience communicating in healthy ways.

[@tyarraybarrola1295]

I'm around him enough to know he's definitely not Si dominant. I know he's Ti dominate because we both wrestle for the truth, but he's more technical truth (Se) and I'm more abstract truth (Ne).

[@Tarektioban]

[@britshell]

it's also very true but I really enjoy training but if people aren't getting it I lose interest in teaching them, and just want to do it myself.

[@coldchillin8382]

So true. Especially the teaching part

[@polmak1507]

Why do I relate to so much of this.... Is there such thing as an infj with istp tendencies lol, I really relate to a lot that was said in this video and the playlist in general

[@serenadawson5037]

As an INFJ I identify with every type, and I can mimic them in different circumstances, but we are kind of the chameleon type eh?

[@benaoao6753]

serena dawson same Quadra NFJ STP. So you’d relate to this a lot since it’s the same top 4 functions

[@ОльгаЯшина-ь4и]

I always thought that something was wrong with me because on the one hand I can communicate with people, it is easy for me to find a common language with them, but on the other hand, my energy quickly ends and if I spend the whole day with people, then in the evening I will simply be silent, I will have no mood. And then I found the 16 person. test and discovered a lot of new things.

[@lauranceboyd6365]

Spent all of my first year of college absolutely miserable except for the gym, parties girls and the rare opportunities I got to fix things. Dropped out but my parents convinced me to go back to school so I could get cheaper med insurance. Spent one day in school, quit and went to the marine recruiter.

[@BodyByDrew1]

Laurance Boyd similar situation here too🤧istp probs

[@SnoozeTheRecluse]

ISTPs sound so cool

[@kristingale9838]

So I believe my ISTP husband has lost respect for our son 🤦‍♀️ he never let's him teach him stuff.

[@easypeasycomposting]

That about skydiving is spot on on my istp man.. Haha

[@mikesilva8556]

amazing video, this made me reflect a lot

[@oskymoron]

Ha! I literally left my home and safe space to go live halfway across the world in the middle of a pandemic because I was just super bored. YOLO indeed. I had to come up with a bunch of convincing bullshit reasons to give to my family and friends who would get super concerned and intervene if they knew my real reasons. My journal knows otherwise 😂 Of course I calculated if I can afford it and sustain a living in the new place before moving. I'm impulsive but also very logical. No regrets!

[@resurrectupalmu3412]

This is the only vid of yours I agree with so far, but you were accurate for this one. I have chronic illnesses so I constantly feel trapped by my body. When I'm in public people get really, really concerned about me because I look like I'm about to kill myself. For me it's normal. Anyway, thanks for expressing that. I want to say, when I want to explain what it feels like for someone to take my freedom of choice away I compare it to an emotionally sensitive person having a guy yelling in their face that they're worthless or whatever. You feel absolutely gutted. By the way, you remind me of my brother, also ENTP. He moved back to the US and I haven't had a real conversation with him for years. Now after watching you I miss him. Thanks a lot!

[@CSJoseph]

i dont even have a brother

[@resurrectupalmu3412]

Sorry

[@mreshadow]

I feel like I don't want to get married because I see in it a fair bit of control that I don't want. Was perfectly happy to stay with the last girl forever, but didn't want to feel the lockdown of paperwork and legality. So many things in my life make more sense as I journey through this topic. True to form, I am going down the rabbit hole learning about this.

[@ttt-de6sm]

I’m an ISTP new nurse in the OR and it is not clicking with my personality at all. Lack of independence and creation in nursing is making me depressed most days. Having to follow orders from doctors and working with others who constantly have their hand in my daily tasks is quite disruptive to my flow. Highly scheduled days don’t work either. Any tips in other jobs in or out of medical field?

[@CSJoseph]

become a PA or NP asap. Or do an alternative health clinic.

[@TechReviewTom]

I don’t feel trapped In relationships when it’s with someone attractive. If I’m not into them I don’t even want to talk to them.

[@blackkitty9098]

Hello cs joseph , may I ask. Since im istp with estj focused , I am aware that I am become more outcome focused that lead ppl think that I am estj. Well, I am just in my shadow 😂. And yeah , ppl expectations of me constrain my freedom .No wonder I am not happy .It does lead me to maturity, but all I want is to be free. Freedom is my key to happiness.

[@Emily.J.]

Super helpful, thank you!

[@fatemehp5502]

Still confused about my type (ISXP) but I can relate to this video! I was like exactly that was the reason I quit my job or yeah the other day I was bored and depressed because I didn't know what should I do, I ran out of ideas and guess what I hated my friends for not being there for me while I was always there for them... It's always hard for me to ask help, I try to fix my problems by my own but I complained about it in a tweet.. Other example whenever I'm doing crafts I'm living the life! And I do care about having my freedom

[@MyRUTH98]

Somehow when everything else is going wrong in my life.,... I just shut out everything and be on my phone and I don't even feel guilty....which I have now learned in the hard way is bad .

[@dianneschool13]

I agree with you, my way of shutting off is to cut off all social media and just do my own things, it’s my way to heal after a very mentally exhausting social event

[@sibestfunction4400]

zero respect for my esfp nephew with his Ti trickster i literally cant. hes 5 but i want to cannon him into next week every time i see him 😂

[@nataliewantscookies]

Hahahaha

[@Dzkhadouj]

Looool

[@yeetyeetyeet1967]

i am an estp and i really am extroverted as fuck, but a lot of these descriptions just match with me wtf

[@CSJoseph]

Every type has the secondary Virtue and Vice of their sister type so that makes sense, actually.