Why I mostly wear women's clothing and how to be comfortable with who you are.

I wrote a book and share more about the destruction of my gender (And identity for that matter) you can check out here: amzn.to/3bb8w9q

[@LaciRae]

my son is 7. so for the last 8 years i have definitely noticed that the girls section is several times larger than the boys. the girls have so much variety. beautiful colors, soft/comfortable fabrics, etc. the boys have very slim pickings. to the point that i rarely find anything worth buying after a full day of hitting up different stores. before he was born i learned that i would have to scour the internet & use selective key words in order to find him anything worth buying. his favorite color is light blue which now seems to be exclusively for girls & hard to find for boys. he also loves unicorns, rainbows, baking/cooking, etc. which are more girl marketing exclusives. so from the very start i have crossed "the boundary" many times over when it comes to buying from the girls sections. he has many traditional boy interests also. he is very well rounded, as he should be. by the time he's ready to live on his own, he needs to know how to cook/bake for himself, sew on a button/hem/repair his clothes, nurture his paternal instincts, as well as all the traditional manly stuff that he is also interested in. he identifies as a boy & he's head over heels in love with a little girl. if he happened to be gay or trans it would not make a difference to me or his dad. but the irrational fear that some people have that raising your son to be well rounded will somehow reprogram their minds to turn gay or trans is ludicrous & not worth following along with.

[@hheffley2011]

I know, the boys section is like in mourning, all blacks and blues.

[@zachsheffee8458]

@@hheffley2011 Thankfully it seems to be going back to having more colors!!

[@We_silly]

@@hheffley2011I grew up with more than half of my clothes being black

[@KamisKisses]

Gender is so decisive that many of us hate how we need to dress, act and be just to fit into specific identities. Thank you so much for posting this. Being the true representation of yourself is empowering and freeing. 💞🎊🙂

[@myname-mz3lo]

i started this and now no cisgendered women will date me lol. maybe i just live in the wrong country

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

Yes!

[@feliciaclaye9574]

My Ala (grandma) prefers men's clothing, she likes wearing men's cargo shorts in the summer. She made me feel comfortable enough to do the same. I prefer dresses and skirts now as an adult; but I appreciate the freedom she gave me as a young girl. In a judgmental world to be comfortable enough to do so. btw I never really noticed your clothes were "women's" it seems so natural.

[@tonyadams3160]

It's so refreshing to hear your perspective, because it's perfectly in line with how I feel. I enjoy wearing women's clothing because it's much more comfortable and it's liberating to me. I'm almost 60 years old and I've finally got the courage to start wearing the things I'm comfortable in, but only at home. Your post gives me the courage to embrace who I truly am all the time, rather than hide it like it was something to be ashamed of. Thank you so much for your "real"ness. We all need to be more like that!

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

And thank you for being you!

[@wolfhuynh975]

I personally have worn skinny jeans my entire life not talking about the ones from the male section, but from the woman selection, and for a while I hid it from my exes but I finally got caught wearing them by my future fiancé and she adores them and always let me choose two pairs one for me and one for her, and this videos is just amazing josh, keep up the good work!

[@SuperTruthful]

I sell women's clothing but i design many things to be androgynous so men usually buy my harem pants and some ponchos. I live in Brooklyn new york and ppl usually wear what they want and i love that.

[@zachsheffee8458]

I would like to see your clothing choices. Thank you.

[@Grovesoteric]

That shirt looks legit good on you, and the pony tail becomes you too. It doesn't really look like a "women's" shirt, just looks like "your" shirt. Kinda reminds me of Ronin attire; pants that billowed out, almost resembling a dress or kimono, but like...a shirt component of that. This video validated a lot of things I have thought about gender norms. It's a lot of societal bs that has people all twisted. Wear what you like, I dig it.

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

agreed, and thank you!

[@NighttimeJuneau]

Very wholesome message. Got here after the revelation that the women's section had the sizes I never found otherwise, that has been freeing.

[@bettyb1313]

One winter years ago my son was around 12 we went sled riding at a friend's house. We came back in he was soaking wet i had an extra pair of leggings on. I gave them to him to wear. He actually said why didn't you tell me how comfortable these are! He wore leggings or yoga pants ever since ;-) He's 24 now and still steals my clothes and has no shame wearing them...

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

love that.

[@footrythems5930]

I really appreciate what you’re saying I went grocery shopping and see through women’s knit sweater with my hair tied in pigtails and bangs and I couldn’t see myself going out any other way I felt like doing anything different than what I did would be denying myself. You tell men were looking at me very uncomfortably and maybe I did go to deep maybe I need to go easy next time but thank you for sharing with everybody

[@wynnew.h5245]

It's expansiveness, and it suits you. I'm feeling that as I begin to intentionally break out of a (self imposed) box and wear what I really want. Thanks for sharing!

[@flashyfernando3819]

I'm a straight Italian American man and it's so hard to find good traditional outfits that suit my outgoing personality. I love to wear a man romper and pointed toe loafers. My girlfriend hates when I take it off lol. At the end you do you.

[@LaoSoftware]

Life is about being happy. Be authentic to who you are.

[@neilanu1702]

Mad respect to u bro haters gonna hate but your doing what u feel its awesome man

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

be well! thank you.

[@kimeny_slice]

Yes yes yes!! Everything you say is so calming and real. You do you! ✨💖

[@barbaracarbone4658]

Glad you're comfortable in your clothes and your own skin. Ty for sharing. 👍✌️

[@asherl863]

Your videos always brighten my day!

[@gguinness333]

I wanna feel comfortable with who I am in front of my family, it's the hardest for me.

[@taniarodrz3660]

"Live in your truth" goes beyond of what you wear. Be authentic and honest always. I wish you the best.

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

yes indeed, the clothing and physical manifestation is just a piece of the whole internal part.

[@user-lg5ij1cu2n]

I like your awareness, I think men (and women) have mostly been programmed to like certain things.

[@myname-mz3lo]

he said womens energy is flowey and mens is stable .. isnt that just more gender roles??

[@user-lg5ij1cu2n]

@@myname-mz3lo I don't know, I think it also has to do with biology, the more I listen to on the topic. I'm less inclined to believe it's programming despite my previous comment.

[@jdnanderson3477]

Go Josh!! You're an inspiration, I've been wearing a lot of harems which are really comfortable and easy to wear I also have light cotton pullover hoodies made from thin fabric, It makes me feel very free!

[@marrickville8509]

I admire your insights and love watching your journey

[@annemadison7258]

I'm currently on a journey to discover who I am, one of the things I have recently discovered is that I feel trapped in a man's body. Your video has helped me start the process of finding the confidence to go into a shop and ask for advice on women's clothes.

[@bennylaines4414]

Really agree with your messages, most of my trousers are womens and i normally wear wide leg. Looks better and more comfortable i feel, it can look odd to others but it doesn't bother me. It's pricey, but a lot of Gucci's mens is very feminine and seems like stuff you'd like. It tends to hold value especially if you buy used so in the long term it won't cost a lot and the quality difference and feel will be great (at least from my experience). Wishing you all the best

[@dannybaloi]

i honestly would now wear a skirt or high heels cause i think they are uncomfortable ( any my huge feet wont let me anyway... ) but other then that I don't give a flying shit if something is made for female or male. If it fits and I like it, I dont give a fuuuuack! This thing about male and female clothes anyway... it varies greatly from place to place, even with relatively close countries... A lot of the things men wear in Italy and Spain would be considered gay or women clothing in Poland or Russia, meanwhile the latins will say that the slavs dress like shit! It's just clothing, wear what you want, as long as you decent and not disrespecting someone intentionally! ( Like coming dress in bright pink to a christian funeral )

[@Xocjen]

I love that you’re your true self. Why does anyone need to wear clothes based on "gender"? Do YOU baby.

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

truth!

[@whatshisname2497]

I got mad ❤ for you bro! Thanks for keeping it real.

[@KishenPatel25]

i think this is what i needed to hear right about now

[@twist3d537]

dont apologize for who you are

[@cassandraknight8804]

Very cool. as a 46 yr old woman I agree with so much of what you have said..... sometimes I enjoy the simplicity, practically and comfort of some men’s clothing...... yay to you, I also want to see clothing as more gender neutral. My grandmother would be frowned apon by her family for guessing her girls in pants. All Rubbish. WHERE what you want, life is short.

[@roxieinmaine5987]

Love your vids! And thank you for making this vid. I am a women but feel more comfortable in mens clothes.

[@ek6648]

I mostly wear women's jeans because they fit much better on me. And they also look much better on style. And I wear leather(look) pants and patent leather boots too in a combination with a metal outfit. I dont feel "different" for wearing it, but people still see (patent) leather as a "gay" clothing style. I'm confident of myself but it still feels kinda weird to go outside like that. The jeans I can pull off but the metal outfit.....

[@rullyartsADV]

Be ourselves .

[@jenniferri7735]

This is really interesting to me, because I am anatomically a female and have always been comfortable as a female, but for the last few years I have taken to wearing men’s jeans (because they have ACTUAL POCKETS INSTEAD OF THE STUPID HALF THINGS IN WOMEN’S) and also using men’s deodorant. My tops are mostly graphic tees from the men’s section at Target. Almost exclusively black, shades of blue and gray, a couple white pieces. Chucks on my feet. I do have a few skirts and dresses in my closet, but I very rarely wear them. Thanks, Josh :)

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

whatever makes you feel comfortable seems to make sense!

[@juliangeorge1722]

You do you! 💙

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

I'll do me, you do you!

[@rsinclair689]

Thank you, who really cares (or why should they) what you wear? Screw societal mores, what makes them an authority as to what you should or should not wear, ? Just be yourself and let others sort it out for themselves. Don't give credence in what others think. What gives them the power to decide who "you" should be? Been there, "why are you wearing a skirt?" Because I like it!! BTW, go to a thrift store and buy what you like! Funny story, I was cruising the dress aisle. Encountered a guy looking at dresses (very self-conscious) walked up and said I see your looking at dresses, I think this might work for you. Best experience in life! He initially mortified that someone saw what he was up to. Just played it of and offered suggestions. Told him it was perfectly ok and feel free to find the right item for you :-)

[@jaderein4657]

He says this as I'm sitting in my uncomfortable tight leggings and shirt- I'm beside myself. Lol I guess I need more flowy things but winter is approaching definitely no flowy clothes then

[@HeyAstor]

When I went to Istanbul I noticed traditional men wore really comfy pants and flowy shirts. I think that’s would also be up your alley.

[@hheffley2011]

Yes! Wear the clothes that you want. I dress for comfort. I have female friends that wear clothes that are only for fashion and they force their bodies into tight pants and shirts and bras or super uncomfortable shoes, all for what, to look "sexy". That's insane. I love the flowy clothes and leggings or crisp jeans that hug your body just right. I'm glad men are enjoying more color now and looser clothes. Rock it out and be comfortable! Come on over to the ladies side just know not all clothes are comfy for us...throw on an underwire pushup bra or corsette or spanx and you'll see. ach! Hopefully with these gender awareness changes that shit will be done away with and changed. Cheers to a cozy beautiful future friends! and YES EVERYONE CAN BE COLORFUL!!! Let's be the flowers we were meant to be!

[@hippydippy]

Just look at pictures of Jimi Hendrix. He was way ahead of the curve & looked awesome doing so!

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

Heck yes!

[@karynb7781]

I think the look is retro and ethnic. There are many cultures especially in history where men wore flowing robes and in court rooms. IDK what there is to debate? Color and pattern. People are tattooing it on their bodies all the time! You can change the look anytime you want to how you feel, but you can't change that ink! Lol.

[@bodhigurley1170]

Yea definitely a colorful ronin vibe. Prefer most females clothes as well. Do you, be you and enjoy yourself!! We’re all humans.❤️

[@user-tg7fq8nz4v]

I began crushing on my current bf in highschool. He was the cute hippie boy who would wear long flowy skirts, womens shirts with nice materials and pretty patterns. No hate here! Keep on doing your thang! 💙

[@ChrisRampersad]

Find the joy in what you wear. I always noticed and would buy men's T shirts, same reason mentioned, the color. The mens tees were bright blue, green, red, bright , happy colors, while in the womens clothes those were pastel. No my cup of tea.

[@jimhaile3696]

I just don't let it bother me that then everybody else will judge me and I got the point I don't care no more makes me happy

[@wonderwoman5528]

Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. Life’s too short to make yourself unhappy to please others. Toxic masculinity means there’s more stigma attached to males wearing ‘traditional’ female clothing, which is sad. Women can wear gym clothes, vests, trousers, suits, and it’s empowering, but for a man to wear women’s clothing is shameful? Why? It shouldn’t be. Scottish men wear kilts but because that’s tradition, that’s acceptable.

[@LaciRae]

Wonder Woman, very well said.

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

so true!

[@user-lg5ij1cu2n]

Also thing that clothing has made us more detached from our bodies. Our wholeness segmented into sleeves, tops and bottoms, etc.

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

Sometimes I just want to be naked all the time lol

[@mikenelson1624]

👍

[@garrydealey1968]

I do wear makeup and women Jean's and tops

[@aquafilth5518]

Gender is overrated, you be you!

[@roaring_angels]

I’m reading “Hard Times Create Strong Men”, by Stefan Aarnio, because of a string of coincidences.

[@LaciRae]

it takes a strong man to fully be himself.

[@Puzzle_Dust]

Halloween is the only day of the year we aren’t wearing a costume

[@thoyo]

Thank you for sharing your truth with us

A eso iba ¿que son esas bocinas?

[@tcoco3797]

I think being able to do a high kick and have full range of motion, is why 'womens' running shorts are so great, would recommend. Except sports bras are beyond constricting, so i guess stay away from those.

[@Slayzleee]

I'm a man and I wear women's skinny jeans all the time I refuse to wear anything else.

[@dylanblanton7755]

Hey you are right people are stupid and people needs to wake up and see what’s out there guys or men can we’re what ever they want to to women’s panties or women’s shirts or any thing it’s about being comfortable

[@tcan4959]

I have never been comfortable in clothes and shoes

[@AR-kf8dr]

You have a beautiful place

[@love_respect_sacrifice2989]

All y’all in this comment section need help 😂😂😂

[@vikramkalikot7571]

Wear a sarong...😊

[@navajoauckland6003]

You've always been a funky dresser

[@jakespur6094]

I am a gay male. When I was a kid my parents forgot my birthday. It was close to Christmas. After dinner I asked,”where’s my birthday cake”? Riddled with guilt my parents loaded me into the car and we headed off to the local store much like the Walmart of today. I was told I could get two of any pieces of clothing I wanted. I choose two pairs of bell bottoms; one pair neon orange and the other neon pink. Today I have a pair of knee high doc martens that when I wear them they draw attention. Where did they come from. The women’s section yet no one clues in to them being women’s boots. Be who you are and be comfortable doing it. It’s your life not theirs.

[@JosieEllaFaith]

Jake Spur ❤️

[@HomemakerDaze]

I think guys get 2 wear comfy baggy clothes more then women are expected too..

[@Antikia]

Masculine and feminine are such interesting concepts, you have a pretty masculine energy even though you wear 'womens clothing'. Hope you are doing well it's great to follow your journey

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

I like to float in whatever feels right in the moment, but I feel ya, and appreciate it :)

[@purple0hairstreak]

They’re not women’s clothes, they’re your clothes!

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

Yes indeed

[@8gbusby]

ok - you reap the benefits of being a white dude but yearn for the complexity of the female. go for it, but you're taking a surface trip of what it means to be female. being female feels good....but if you have the male aspect too....yea, best of both worlds.

[@cassandraknight8804]

Dressing her girls.

[@mattlowe9239]

Lay off the dope my friend

[@quackman]

Gay man here, and I looove the way "shirts" like the one you're wearing look on men! (aka, you look extra cute in this vid)

[@autumnbranscome1741]

Seriously f*ck the haters, you do you boo!

[@baranobama5375]

You need serious help, bro. Since the split with your brother it seems that you've lost it

[@christianhansen3292]

still think u should get a professional haircut and it is okay if it is by a woman!

[@benisturning30]

When are you going to start dating men? I want to be the first.

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

lol

[@benisturning30]

YOU ENJOY LIFE that wasn’t a joke.

[@SuperTruthful]

@@YOUENJOYLIFE lol

[@myname-mz3lo]

ok womens clothes are more flowey etc but saying that feminine energy is more flowey and mens energy is not is the actual problem you are fighting . gender roles. mens energy is wavey too and women can be strict and stable .

[@July4.1776]

Dude, you’re a broken man! Who did this to you?

[@LaciRae]

maybe he is just evolving. most of us are. the time is def now. 2020 has been predicted to go this route. it's even written in the cosmos/astrology. people will still try to hold us back. but that is their own issue to work out. not ours.

[@dannybaloi]

What do you mean ?

[@July4.1776]

Laci Rae - you have to read between the lines... listen when he talks about being alone.

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

being broken was a beautiful thing, a great way to create something new. In order to exist in truth we must burn the false house down "I'm an ordinary guy--burning down the house!"

[@LaciRae]

7.4.1776, i didn't need to "read between the lines" because i wholeheartedly identify with that feeling. you obviously cant relate but there are certain personality types that feel "all alone in this world". i'm an INFP & that feeling comes along with the description. he might be an INFP too. You're prob an ESTX or some other type that doesn't share that mindset. it's not about being broken, although it can break you. it's about noticing/being aware of the many blatant fundamental differences between us & the vast majority.

[@RestingBitchface7]

Yeah....You’re definitely not Jewish. And before anyone has a freak fit, Judaism is a faith, not a nationality. Violating Torah is nothing to be proud of if one claims to be Jewish.

[@awesomeguy3211]

Sure you can be ethnically Jewish without practicing the faith?

[@LaciRae]

SidTheSloth, yes. my husband is ethnically jewish but he does not believe in or follow any religion.

[@scholland883]

Do you still speak to or have a relationship with your brother? Your online persona has changed so much. Am curious as to how your relationship with your brother has weathered your shift in you living you.

[@quackman]

Whoa, turn that legit-"bitchface" back into "resting bitchface"! Judaism isn't just a faith; it's a culture and an ethnicity as well. Don't let words trap you by thinking they have just one meaning. Not to mention, Judaism as a faith isn't just one set of beliefs. Otherwise, if you want to be consistent, be ready for for even-moreso-Orthodox Jewish people or anyone familiar with the Torah to call you out on your own Torah-disobeyal.

[@edwardkantowicz4707]

@ Resting Bitchface Wow, your name here isn't a misnomer. I don't think you, or another poster gets to decide who is a Jew. Being Jewish is certainly an ethnicity, a culture, and a heritage. You see the world through a very narrow lens, and your energy isn't being used for good here either... dan L'kaf zechus. Work on that punim! Shalom

[@tblogs7461]

I think you are lost. You are a man

[@YOUENJOYLIFE]

what better way to get found?

[@tblogs7461]

@@YOUENJOYLIFE umm ... I suggest to visit a psychiatrist because I think he can give you a better ideas than mine to find yourself Human begins are social by nature that's why male and female are born on this life so they can complete each other and enjoy life. Isolation is not bad, but living your whole life isolated 24/7/365 is not healthy in my opinion. Your choices are your decisions not what the community decide such as pink for girls or blue for boys! We are born on earth for purpose. This life is temporary, we will leave one day and what will exist is our deeds in this plant. To find the real you, the best way is to read about GOD and especially the real peaceful Islam! Just read about ISLAM I think this will help a lot! Believe me you will find all your answers Much love and respect for you..

[@Julie-bq6iz]

T Blogs-I think you are lost. You are a troll.