5 High-Value Attitudes That Make A Man Go Crazy For You, Even If He's Acting Distant Or Pulling Away

Discover five high-value attitudes that make a man feel crazy about you (even if he's acting distant or pulling away) in this video with Helena Hart.
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[@HelenaHartCoaching]

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[@dellyvlogs1284]

Helena, thank you so much for this. I really need to hear this. Now i feel better. I appreciate you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad it was helpful! 💝

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

@Bushra S I believe it depends on why you walked away in the first place, and if he’s proving to you that things will truly be different this time around. 💙

[@beverlyjones7158]

I want to know more about this please.

[@Indigo_outlaw]

What do you do when a guys is doing everything right on paper, he wants to constantly spend time, introduces you to friends and family, he makes plans for the future, includes you in everything, asks your opinion etc. But he isn't extremely affectionate and he also doesn't verbalize how much he likes me anymore. A few months ago he would but now we have settled into a routine. He still is doing most of the "right things" but the affection and verbal is lacking

[@jtsays429]

1. Trusting the right man will show up. 2. Effort is attractive 3. Self esteem is not tied to 1 man, lots of wonderful men available. 4. Everything is always working out for me! 5. Be willing to walk away. Commit to memory

[@sula1529]

Thank you for this. Xx

[@xiexie89]

I love this summary.. can I ask what was meant by "commit to memory" ?

[@carissafisher7514]

@@xiexie89 Remember them!

[@Deedra_]

Commit to memory ?

[@carlislefernandez4990]

2...i would like to add..consistency

[@milly12347]

When you let go, what you want always comes to you, wishing the right one comes to everyone watching this video❤️

[@athenahancock381]

I don't necessarily believe that, but you are so sweet to say that & I hope everyone does, too! ♡

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💞

[@LisaGemini]

Thank you, Cynthia. I pray we all use our hearts and minds and TRUST them always. Use that gut feeling, girls. It never ever lies or steers you wrong.

[@katharinebechiom6247]

Thank you. Keep reminding me of that. :) I am nearing the end of my "What did I do wrong?" period. About to be ready to trust again.

[@beverleyfrazenburg7739]

Amen

[@smallbusinessmarketerfreel4885]

I was attached to a man that was hot and cold. I finally moved on after feeling the rejection. And found someone that is 100% in pursuit of me. And funny, the other guy, months later, reached out to ask me out for a date and I said, "you had your chance." Sorry Charlie... You had your chance. Now I have a guy that won't keep his attention off of me and it feels so good.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, I’m so happy to hear that! Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💗

[@jayviensam]

It's sooo crazy when you got someone new they wanna come crawl back. SIR you should've had the chance to get me 😂😂

[@ginadiodati1965]

Lol poor Charlie Brown. Good for you 😊

[@sarahs7766]

If he runs - let him. He isn’t mature enough to value you. We shouldn’t have to do these things to capture him. He should know and if he doesn’t, then let him go and respect yourself without allowing a man to dumb you down!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I agree, it’s not about “doing” things to capture a man - it’s about knowing your value and what you deserve, and acting according to that belief. Unfortunately that doesn’t come naturally for many people which is why I recorded this video, to help women empower themselves from the inside out. 💗

[@poweidethompson7256]

Facts

[@lotusphoenix8]

I am letting go of the unavailable to make room for the consistently available.

[@lovetrustandpixiedust]

Preach! 🙌🙌

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that! 💗

[@lathapm7238]

Good thing to do indeed. Well written.

[@blissreframed1681]

I love that term "consistently available"🙂🌻

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

Someone texted me so fast that he was coming home right after I went on a friend date with someone. He flew a 13 hour flight to come see me. To everyone reading this. You got this. Continue living your best life and the right man will find you! ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

@Chloe Poppies True. we're not together anymore, oh well!

[@zubieM]

Was dating a couple of guys at the beginning of the year... they told me they didn’t want what I wanted- I was gutted, felt rejected... 8 months later I meet a lovely man who wants to see me and wine and dine me... he became my boyfriend last week and he keeps showing up- we have similar future goals... I also have an anxious attachment style and I’ve dealt with this too, I think dealing with this helped me to meet a good one... don’t give up ladies xxx

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that! Thanks for sharing your experience here, that’s so inspiring! ❤️

[@nailpolishinhale]

Beautiful. Thank you for your story it gives us hope.

[@carollabelle8653]

Thank you 🙏

[@LisaGemini]

Congrats! I hope it works out for you. Yes, never give up. You never know what guy is right around the corner. You might even meet during a pandemic.

[@katharinebechiom6247]

So important that you know your attachment style!

[@arianavolpe230]

Effort from A MAN is attractive.

[@athenahancock381]

It goes both ways!

[@LisaGemini]

It's an aphrodisiac, yes. But remember to compliment and appreciate him. We all wanna be appreciated for what we do.

[@arianavolpe230]

Absolutely!

[@poweidethompson7256]

Told someone I didn’t have the energy for inconsistencies, damn it felt so good

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that, thanks for sharing! 💕

[@vbarberful]

An unavailable man broke up with me in June. I then met my dream partner in August. We had been friends for 5 years, and then started dating and we've been together for over a year! Helena's points are exactly right. Wait for your weirdo, he's out there!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that Valerie, thanks for sharing your experience here! ❤️

[@rsamuels6969]

Love that!

[@sh6460]

LOL!😂

[@onlytrue3554]

Confident woman attracts good quality types of man and repels immature man and insecure man out because they know they can't handle this type of woman. be confident so the right man will come to us.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, I agree! 💖

[@irisfababeir9309]

It's true😊

[@brandonaldaymachuse6669]

This is true 👍

[@fy9526]

Effort is attractive! I'm losing interest in this guy who just isn't stepping up

[@jenniferschroeder7781]

I’m in the exact same position!! Effort is soooo attractive. 🙂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that! 💖

[@Muchesia-Sylvia]

Sailing in this same boat.

[@preciouswells5264]

Same here

[@Metaphysicalmindspace777]

Lighten your load!! The right man will step up!

[@jamishepard98]

I like the Louise Hay affirmation: “Things are always working out for me.”🥰

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’ll actually be posting a new video in a couple days on three magnetic feminine attitudes that calm anxiety and urgency - I think you’ll like it! 💗

[@rhegh2619]

All I do is to love without attachments.. love yourself and learn to accept that people come and go.. everything is temporary everything ✨🙏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💕

[@dinag9179]

I'm going to watch this video every day until it becomes part of myself

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that, Dina! 💗

[@lilbitqueenbee4life]

🌎♾🦋

[@soystef]

excellent idea- i save similar videos to reaffirm myself and listen as needed. good luck on your journey!

[@Diana-kh9wf]

Yes! I detached from Mr. Unavailable emotionally and found someone who is actually interested in a relationship and is stepping up. Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for sharing your experience here! ❤️

[@katemate1034]

When you detached from Mr Unavailable, did you find he was drawn to you? It's something I've noticed happen in my own life with ex boyfriends, so I'm just curious.

[@Diana-kh9wf]

@@katemate1034 Yes, absolutely. Strange as it seems.

[@jeevanjyoti3999]

Hopefully me too will..

[@trishmalone6892]

EFFORT is indeed Attractive. UNAVAILABILITY is soo Ugly

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Trish! 💕

[@zenayvonne4820]

Effort is attractive :) letting the current man have all the space he wants while I make room for someone who will show up ♡ L'oreal baby, because I'm worth it ;)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes! I’m happy to hear that! 💖

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

I agree. It’s so much easier to Let Go when we accept the fact that he is just not the one. This also helps when healing from a breakup.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely! 💕

[@Bodhisattva7137]

Effort is attractive.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, it is! 💞

[@khatruuu]

Effort from us or from them?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

@@khatruuu In the video I was referring to embodying the mindset of a MAN’S effort towards you as being attractive. 💙

[@jimtorres1523]

Indeed it is!

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

My worth can not be tied to any man, only my Creator. Took back my power years ago.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that! 💞

[@brittanychristine1811]

Amen sister !!!!!!!

[@lindagithaiga1974]

Thank you Ramona.

[@lucreziaborgia5798]

Yes!!! And don´t let those BORING "unavailable" guys get you hooked, before they decide they´re unavailable. Listen to your feeling about it, you´re worth more and so is the right guy for you out there (or the many of them!!)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💖

[@joyt6609]

My fiancee now is thankful for the man who let me go because he said I am the perfect match he is waiting for . He is so into showing me what I have been dreaming my man would be for real❤️❤️❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@vitabuonavita2565]

I was crazy for this guy, we dated , actually I dated, no effort on his part...it was so hard for me to walk away.. i should have walked away sooner.....i finally did...it took me 3 months to break clean, because i have loved this guy my entire life....i feel so much less stress without him and his games, back & forth you Love me you don't..whatever i'm gone.

[@awakeningtarot4803]

Well done x not easy

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here Vita, I’m glad you were able to walk away! 💗

[@jimtorres1523]

Okay see you when you are ready to give our love a chance.

[@LisaGemini]

The second one about your attitude and mindset is so important. If you put negativity out into the universe, that's what you'll get in return. Being willing to walk away is a great way to wrap it up, Helena. I never put my eggs in one basket. I stay hopeful there's a match out there...but the important thing to remember is we have to not ASSUME someone's right for us but OBSERVE to see if our values agree with each other. Actions always speak louder than words. Thank you, as usual, for the wise advice! God bless you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Lisa! I love what you said here, thanks for sharing your insights! 💗

[@nellynel3027]

I needed to hear this. My boyfriend and I broke up last Wednesday because he wasn’t willing to honor boundaries I very much saw as healthy. I’m super heartbroken but that was me willing to walk away regardless of the pain I knew I’d feel afterwards. Thank you for this video Helena ❤️ on to healing now :)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Nelly! Lots of love to you. 💕

[@melmel5867]

Gonna watch this every time I feel missing him, Iam really attached to him and still hurt from him pulling out, this really help me, Thanks a lot!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Melisa! These videos should also be helpful for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/n3LCZH1of7ydoZY, kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJ27nmeHrtOjfK8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4a7eouMprSnY6c.

[@jimtorres1523]

Np at all, what's mine is all ready mine. I love her and trust her to be reaching out when DEM is ready to give love a chance to grow into something big, abundant and best days of our lives together.

[@ChristieRain]

I was really starting to doubt myself because the man that I have started to truly value in my life, consistently has other women on his social media flirting with him and occasionally, he flirts in return. Your video has urged me to consider my own value and whether or not that is behavior from him that I appreciate. You’re 💯 that eventually, it just becomes unattractive to you. Thanks for providing another point of view💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Christianna! These videos might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2K1qYNuba-nq5o, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y.

[@Beatriz-oo3ws]

Omg I was dealing with a booty call now i found my knight and shinning Armor this feels to good to be true thank for your leadership God bless🙏🥰

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your experience here, I’m happy to hear that! 💗

[@Beatriz-oo3ws]

Thank you!

[@amyross3475]

Helena, you are spot on with this video! Great job! One of your best! Love how you recap these important tips at the end! Ladies, replay this video over and over again. I'm living proof. I let go of a 3yr relationship in June. Within 24 hrs of me letting go of the wrong man for me, I met an amazing man who is consistent, reliable and very loving. I learned to trust myself and not settle for anything less than I deserve. Note- I'm 54 yrs old. Widowed at 43. I love who I am and definitely trust myself more than ever. Also you can't say the wrong thing to the right man.

[@awakeningtarot4803]

That is amazing story xxx

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that Amy, thanks for sharing your experience here! That’s so beautiful and inspiring! 💖

[@carly8056]

“You can’t say the wrong thing to the right man.” Wow. 🔥🔥🔥 Thank you for this!

[@cohcohjam]

I am overcoming a breakup from a one year relationship. I got so tired that I’m putting so much effort in the relationship to the point i became obsessed with the guy always checking his whereabouts. I also found myself forcing him to do things for me . But you are right Helena. The right man for you will want to pursue you and keep the relationship keep moving forward. The right man will not risk loosing you. Im glad I came across your video. I took down notes and meditate on this. Thanks so much for this!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Jinger! 💗 Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. These videos should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y.

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Yes, I let go of my ex-husband, to meet a awesome man that is into me. Trusting the process and not trying to make something happen out of season.🦋

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💛

[@legdaytacos62]

The best tip I got from one of your guests was to focus on our dream relationship. Not on a dream man. We are all flawed humans so getting a dream man is impossible. But it’s possible to have your dream relationship by establishing the right rituals + positive reinforcement You should talk more about it. It shifted everything in me. Having a vision is everything. You can double check with yourself at all stage. I dumped the last man who loved me deeply but would not reach out often when my dream relationship consists of a man who calls me for no reason just to check if I’m having a great day. I thought “he will never call me if we date. I need to cut him off “ Having a “why” is equally important. Ask yourself “why do I want to be in a relationship?”. I personally want to date just to be cherished. By reconnecting to my “why”, I’m able to see if a specific guy aligns with my purpose .

[@joyloy9411]

Thank you for your advice. I really needed that reinforcement to feel better about dumping him because of his actions.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing! This is actually something I talk about all the time - putting your desire for a great relationship “ahead” or above your desire to just be with this one specific man who isn’t showing you that he wants the same things. 💜

[@jimtorres1523]

Makes a world of sense, for others I've found my dream lover though. Every thing else resonates with me.

[@legdaytacos62]

@@jimtorres1523 I’m excited for you ❤️

[@felicitygrace5113]

I too want to be in a relationship with a man that calls me often because he wants to hear my voice, he wants to know how my doctor appointment went, he wants to know about me regardless!

[@robertae9303]

He ignored me a 5-day stretch last month, then another 8-day stretch recently. I haven't been needy or pushy. I am so hurt and confused because I didn't do anything wrong. I am trying to accept that he is not the right man for me...even though I love him 💔

[@lovetrustandpixiedust]

He's taking you for granted and you don't need someone who treats you like an option. Focus on rebuilding yourself and one day you'll look back and wonder why you ever wasted your time mourning this insignificant loss. Stay strong! Sending hugs. 💕

[@robertae9303]

@@lovetrustandpixiedust Thank you! 🙏💕

[@dawnastebbins7526]

😭been there, keep taking very good care of yourself!!

[@robertae9303]

@@dawnastebbins7526 Doing my best...thank you! 🙏💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, the right man isn’t going to risk letting you slip away. I’m glad you’re taking a stand for what you truly want and deserve! ❤️

[@lauriemiddleton6883]

Thanks for this video! I appreciate the advice. I had the very experience you mentioned with a man I dated last year that was not showing up for me. I thought we had an amazing connection and was always prompting him and moving towards him as soon as I felt him backing away. The rollercoaster ride was excruciating. My ego was ruling my behavior...a very dangerous thing. I even put up with him ignoring texts or calls on occasion and other disrespectful behaviors. I have to mention that the intense sexual experience played a huge roll in my desire to keep him in my life. That’s food for thought. Today, I am dating a wonderful, kind, loving man who is always moving toward me in a powerful masculine way. It’s an unbelievable contrast. The calmness, the mutual respect, the loving feelings, his consideration and kindness...wow! I had forgotten what it feels like. I look back and shake my head about what I put up with. It’s really difficult to extract yourself energetically from a relationship like that. I struggled for a long time.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here Laurie, that’s so inspiring! 💚

[@smallbusinessmarketerfreel4885]

I can see, especially after you said it, that my guy does want to meet my needs and is moving the relationship forward despite my reluctance. He makes an effort often. I can see now the difference of such a man and men in my past. A big difference with a man that is not hot or cold. It is very attractive even if I move slower.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@carollabelle8653]

Thank you Helena. This is the perfect video for me. I’ve always put so much focus on one man and it’s great at the beginning, but in the it ends up pushing them away because I think I put them on a pedestal. They were always attracted to me at the beginning because of my independence & love for life. But once I get in a relationship with a man I put too much focus on them, and become codependent & overstep my boundaries.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Carol! Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many women can relate. 💞

[@mcrisantasj8242]

Effort is attractive...a mindset I am going to embody and focus this year. Thank you Helena. You're awesome!💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Yes, love it! 💖

[@kirstybrown3687]

Thank you Helen this is just what I need to hear. Been obsessed on a 'Hot and Cold' guy and blaming myself when his interest disappears again.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Kristy! This one should also be helpful for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/n3LCZH1of7ydoZY

[@adeniauful]

Be willing to walk away, he will come back sooner as you think

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 🧡

[@sleepyhead3109]

This is super legit! 😂😂😂 but there is no turning back for me. 😜 once you leave a scar in my heart, don't you dare to come back hahahaha

[@jimtorres1523]

Walking away.

[@jimtorres1523]

@@sleepyhead3109 okai take care always and godspeed.

[@sleepyhead3109]

@@jimtorres1523 thank you. Take care and God speed too.

[@ask4mesha]

Things are always working out for me❣

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, love it! 💖

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Accepting reality and being honest with ourselves helps to choose self love over pulling towards him.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, Ramona! 💜

[@crystalspence612]

EFFORT IS ATTRACTIVE ❤🙏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely! 💕

[@unicorndolcedogproductions768]

Trust in partners love for you if he withdraw than he clearly not for you he’s not for you ! He should Persue you ! Effort is attractive ! Effort is attractive ! Hook up chemistry to mans masculinity! Man isn’t put into effort then simply effort is attractive then you will loose interest ! The fact self esteem is not tied to so closely to what he’s doing or what he’s not doing ! Feel so secure I self trust the right man will want to be with you on your end no matter what a man is doin or not doing everything is always working out for you ! That means there another better match for you around the corner or several ! Don’t get attached to someone who’s emotionally unavailable ! There’s a better match for you around the corner ! This is so true ! There an amazing match for you around the corner ! Be willing to walk away ! If you truly are willing to walk away if he doesn’t put on effort he will feel that in your vibe !

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights and takeaways here! 💕

[@joannamario7759]

Effort is attractive! I absolutely agree with you Helena. I think this goes back to your constant message on leaning back more often than not.. Allowing his energy come towards the lady, while she receives... Very important to keep this mindset! Thanks so much for sharing Helena!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Joanna, I’m glad this resonated with you! ❤️

[@kimlachman8241]

Effort is attractive. I was head over heels in love. After the constant heart wrenching mind games, I got bored of boosting his ego when he was not for me. I went and got a part time job and met my husband to be the first night. Still in love mutually

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks so much for sharing your experience here, Kim! 💕

[@rsamuels6969]

I really love that all your tips to get a man is focused on staying true to ourselves and loving ourselves. This is Soooo different from any advice I’ve EVER heard before . You are really incredible and THIS is the message women should be getting !

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! ❤️ This video should also be helpful (I share a couple more attitudes in it): kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y

[@laurenkil]

Here is a problem I’m sure is common... When I’m consuming this kind of content or taking courses from you or whoever, I feel this way. I’m able to emit the vibe that I am independently happy etc. However the opposite behavior (being in wounded masculine/feminine energy) has been so habitual for me that the minute I put the content away it’s easy to automatically go back to that behavior. How can we retain this stuff and consistently show up for ourselves?!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Great question, Lauren! How long have you been working on creating these new habits?

[@awakeningtarot4803]

Don’t neglect yourself! There is an inner child in you which you are neglecting by allowing this xxx

[@ashleyleahy5859]

Keep watching these videos and keep practicing it will get easier and easier!

[@jimtorres1523]

Practice and kind reminders work well voided of any sort of sarcasm.

[@valimleeo9329]

There this guy liked,in fact he pursued me at first and then when I felt like his the one and showed him, he changed, he was never giving me time like before ,I text him and he delays o even doesn't reply ,,, omg I used to feel bad about my self, I cried, I was gloomy all the time.but during the depression his best friend , boss came in. He tried a lot to earn me but I didn't give him my attention at first but guess what, he didn't give up on him me guys ,,up to when I decided to try him out but I can't believe that despite how I treated him he still stayed and now its me and him ...that takes me to the fourth attitude, that, things will always work out for me..am so happy now

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that, thanks so much for sharing your experience here! 🧡

[@onm9128]

I just walked away from a friend who I considered disrespected me. Twas tough @ 1st, now feels empowering

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you were able to walk away if the situation didn’t feel good to you. 🧡

[@janetbederman3924]

Yes, each meeting that went nowhere was, for me, each a bit better than the last and I found myself saying thank you, that’s getting closer!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that Janet, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💚

[@jessicairwin4589]

My man and I ended things after two years together. He is a wonderful person but a complete workaholic and wouldn’t compromise on taking one day off a week to quality time spend together. He also couldn’t commit to any future plans with me or tell me he loved me, leaving me feeling like I was living in a limbo about our relationship. I’m hoping now I’ve finally let go, things will get better for me 😪

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Jessica. I’m glad you were able to take a stand for what you truly want and deserve! My latest video might help give you some confirmation that you made the right decision: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c

[@jessicairwin4589]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you 💜

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@radlyn7234]

I wanna share my experience after learning so much from you, I started seeing a man, we met two days ago and everything went super well, but he didn’t text the last couple days after we met. The old me would have texted him hundred times and acting needy, but I didn’t do anything and waited that he initiates the contact. Today he texted me saying he had so much work and that he finished work at 11 pm. I showed him that I understand it and we can talk or meet whenever he can. It took me so much courage to avoid unnecessary texts and I felt he was so appreciative of my behavior. (Hope it makes sense, English isn’t my first language)

[@amyross3475]

Yes, wait for the guy to initate. And actually I would let him know when YOU have the time. Not whenever he can make it. Sure, you understand but remember you are living your best life. And don't be so available. You can simply say, that would feel great to be with you, I'll have some time next week.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💗

[@RL.H]

Ive been in a similar situation... I think you also need to not worry about whether or not he appreciates you not initiating contact because what really matters is what you want... Is this going to be a continuous behaviour on his part? Are you always going to be waiting for him to contact first? If so how long for? It's not about him being busy or who initiates contact... Its about the consistency of his EFFORTS! And most importantly what is it you want in YOU'RE love life from the RIGHT man! Just good for thought so you don't waste your time like I did. All the best!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

@@RL.H Yes, I love what you said here! 💜

[@aliciabegins9435]

I think u did well for not initiating contact first. As women we tend to want things to move so quickly but we have to learn to wait.. Also I've come to learn that the less interest u show a man the more interest u will receive (sad but true).When u start to hunt them they will fall back & take u for granted or ghost u.. Be careful be strong..

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

Listen to Nothing he says. Watch his ACTIONS. What is he doing to make you happy??

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, watching a man’s actions is very important. 💙

[@rachelwanjohi4340]

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[@axelaayres]

@@rachelwanjohi4340 same dude

[@JessicaM1111]

Hello Helena, I am so thankful for you, this video helped me last night because I was filled with anxiety, as soon as I heard your video, I am now in a different state of mind. Thank you Helena, there’s no more anxiety, I am back to feeling secure and confident in myself because you start to connect his behavior to your self esteem!!! Things are always working it self out and EFFORT IS ATTRACTIVE!! 😊😊 You’re so amazing Helena!!! Thank you because you are truly a Blessing!!! ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Jessica! 💗 These videos should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/gHvbnHiYnadogKs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/b524amp5qM97aLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y, kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGOxnHiGjruirKM, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/mqDFd51_gdmFo5I.

[@JessicaM1111]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you so much for replying !! It means a lot!! ❤️❤️❤️😊😊😊🙏🏼😇

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome! 💕

[@sasdon8]

I was following a pattern of dating emotionally unavailable men until my current one showed up. I was following a pattern and I broke it. Your videos helped. Thank you Helena.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Stacey! Thanks for sharing your experience here, I’m happy to hear that! 💗

[@tatina3]

I've been saying to my friends in the past few months that nothing is less attractive than a man who is not trying, because this guy that I used to like has shown zero effort in me lately. Well, he'll soon have to realize (or not, lol) that my interest in him has completely evaporated. So much so that I'm not even sure I'd want him again even if he tried to make an effort.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, it sounds like you’re on the right track! 💕

[@karinae.schofield5605]

1. Trust in his love for you if he's the right man. 2. Effort is attractive 3. Your self esteem, your mood is NOT tied to what this one man is doing or not. There ARE amazing men out there.. 4. Things are working out for me always! 5. Be willing to walk away.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your takeaways here, Karina! 💜

[@felicitygrace5113]

Trust everything is working out for you! effort from a man is attractive for sure! This has to show, if it doesnt I can already feel it and I am withdrawing my energy from him too! Love unedited videos 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, I’m happy to hear that! 💜

[@glad2bbiba]

Great, Helena! Thank you for the useful tips. Suggestion topic: How high-value women handle heartbreak and depression

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I LOVE this topic idea, thank you so much! I can definitely create a video on that. 💜

[@atashakgem]

Helena Hart please do, for me I never valued myself much, that is what I need to do

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos should be helpful in the meantime: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b4bMdI2pg6-tpNE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/hnuQXpmnrbaZeZI.

[@Juicybeachgirls]

Omg great advice. I love your “the world reflects back what you emit” ideology. It’s very positive and center-locus-of-Control

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@trueleo4103]

I walked away in February. He is contacting me now. Not sure I have interest anymore :)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! I know many women can relate. 💗

[@andreacruz108]

You do such a good job presenting your content, that I really can't tell the difference between edited and non-edited videos

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! A couple of my recent videos are edited but most of them aren’t. 💛

[@CG-wr4no]

I cant tell the difference either. I like the vids

[@acmb6763]

I cannot believe this is unedited. This information truly comes from your soul. I love hearing you speak!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@Lindosa4Christ]

Excellent U've Said it all no One Should be Waisting any Precious time On any Emotional Stealing Man or Spiritual thief else they Will Keep U down & Destroy yr Happiness, Joy & Distract U From Reaching yr Goals in Life.... Love but Use yr Wisdom

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, Linda! 💜

[@colemik2931]

I listen this specific video almost everyday before I go to work.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome! This video should also be helpful (I share two more attitudes in it): kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

I let go of someone and someone else stepped in and scooped me up. Called me a succubus 😂

[@julieb8445]

Lol that made me laugh

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

Glad I can make you both laugh 😂

[@jimtorres1523]

Not the right time probably.

[@justines1919]

Thank you Helena 💖 yes, we need to hook up our feelings to effort towards us! 💖 our feeling should be tied to our own worth and people who value it!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Justine! Yes, absolutely! 💞

[@alondrac498]

This video sums up perfectly all of the practices and ideas we should all have. I found Helena last year during fall after a really devastating breakup for me. I was so so sad for a couple months but then started to apply practices like this and shifting my mindset. It wasn’t easy but it took effort and patience within myself. Now it is fall again and I am with a new man who is right for me. I have never been more happier in a relationship and with myself! So please trust and apply what you can from these amazing videos , and it will work! Thank you so much Helena you are an amazing human being ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Alondra! Thanks for sharing your experience here, that’s so inspiring! ❤️

[@selfhealingessentialswithc664]

Unedited is more genuine and you always present yourself perfectly ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! Here’s my latest one if you want to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c

[@fameshyne7932]

Effort Is Attractive; very powerful phrase. I've just typed this on my story 🙂 need to let them know

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💜

[@correanne5366]

I met a man from our support group, he helped me do a few important things. So after lunch he warmed up his vehicle b4 I got in...wow...it was effortless bcuz he made it, (effort).

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕

[@ladymarebear]

Perfect timing for me to see this! Broke up with my boyfriend today because he’s been breadcrumbing and so distant. I’m really sad but this video had so many good points. Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These videos should also be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has, kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJ27nmeHrtOjfK8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/onPCfWqwhaedqrc.

[@duchessofpotatoland]

Better to show all that love to ourselves. I'm learning it's better to shift my focus, thoughts and love to people who genuinely care for me instead of focusing on one man who was a stranger and becoming stranger again in no time. Geez, now I feel silly for being that dumb over and over again. 😂 Big hugs and love for my ladies in comment section. 🤗🌼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, thanks for sharing your experience here! I know many women can relate. ❤️

[@pennydefrank9289]

I’m going to put this on repeat and really let it sink in. Thank you and I love the unedited videos. I really like how you do a recap. Thank you 💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Penny! 💖

[@crystallam7335]

Your message and your soothing tone in this video just really really hit the nail on the spot!! All this is so incredibly true and I can see all of this happening right now 🥰🥰🥰💗💗💗. I cannot thank you enough dearest Helena, for opening my heart and my eyes to the beauty and possibilities of true love, a truly beautiful message for each of us 💖💖💖🌹🌹🌹

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome, Crystal! ❤️ This video should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y

[@bethshaferman6712]

I love this and the unedited version!! Thank you Helena, I needed this🙏🏼💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Beth! ❤️

[@mcrisantasj8242]

I do like this unedited video. Keep it that way. I feel more connected to you. Thank you so much for all your helpful tips.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These videos should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2K1qYNuba-nq5o and kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE.

[@scarylouish]

Great and timely video!! Effort is attractive, a man has to continually step up! Trust that there is someone better out there who is better for me! i just got "dumped" by an emotionally unavailable man that was the king of mixed messages. I needed to hear this. I felt his energy pull away about 2 weeks ago and turns out he found someone else, but "i am the best buddy he has ever had and he values my friendship and wants to remain in contact". Ugh! I have been working off of the scarcity principle, I know. I need to really trust that everything is working out for me, he was not my guy, and a new and better option is around the corner! Thanks Helena!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many women can relate. Yes, there is absolutely a better match for you out there! 💗

[@jimtorres1523]

He was just waiting for more from you and knew you would be here with better.

[@marylaureen2859]

So helpful. Yes love the unedited ❤️ I’ve been dating a guy long distance. We were super close but he pulled away and has kept leaving me “breadcrumbs” that he loves me etc for the past month.I’ve visited him twice he hasn’t made the effort back. I told him I’ve lost interest. I’m definitely hurting but I’m A HIGH A VALUE WOMAN ❤️❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Mary. These videos should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2K1qYNuba-nq5o, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/onPCfWqwhaedqrc.

[@joujaism]

This is the best video ever on this topic. Thank you Helena ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💗

[@StormyS-eu4kt]

I thank you so much, I am watching this in tears bc my "best friend/whatever he was" pulled away, he did so when I reacted to his bs, but I know at one time he cared, and I cant help but feel I messed up. I need my head and heart straight, as its so painful and now I can tell he is pursuing someone else, doing the adventures with someone else and it hurts like heck

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, sorry to hear you’re going through this right now. ❤️ This episode might be helpful: kzbin.infovUfa6RMLMFg?si=qqkMG50tCJwfiqnK

[@reikicowgirl9817]

I need to listen to this every morning.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad it was helpful! 💜

[@gemini0794]

thank you so much Helena, I come back to your videos often to remember myself all these lessons. And it works so well.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️ This video should also be helpful (I shared two more attitudes in it): kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Ysi=8RU-AyEf1xinjQOh

[@nathalie5238]

Your video is a sign 🤩 I have the guy pulling away... and boom on my KZbin feed: this video 😍 Thank you so much 🙏🏻

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Nathalie! 🧡

[@terrib.540]

Raw and unedited works. It's like using a conversation with a girlfriend

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for the feedback, Terri! 💞

[@jenniferschroeder7781]

The unedited versions are just fine!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for the feedback, I’ll be recording some more videos in this format next week! 💛

[@jezojezo4450]

After letting go of him- i found someone who was willing to give me more love than I could ever imagine.... And guess who.... Myself.. so all those massive energy i used to pour out on relationships, i began putting it out on myself, and i could'nt be more content. It might be difficult at first, but we will get there. Time is our companion.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, that’s so inspiring! 💗

[@zabellarouge5090]

I have given too much in the last 4 months. I have not allowed him to court me properly. How do I stop this without him feeling like I've changed. He's a really sensitive guy and hes been hurt but he's just not trying anymore. It hurts and I'm confused. Effort is attractive 🙌🏼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

It’s often simply about NOT doing the things that are pushing him away. These videos would be a good place to start: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pJXPe3iMibSgasU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvHXquYh7ibrLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/aoKQqWedgNebf6s, kzbin.info/www/bejne/sImVq4CapZKdrJY and kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYSrhWh4iNF9Ztk.

[@amandak2763]

It's ok for him to feel you have changed. He needs to know you have standards and won't settle for less.

[@zabellarouge5090]

@@amandak2763you are absolutely right! thank you!

[@AJLove779]

Oh, he messed around on me because he thought we were over after 10yrs. Now, he needs to find himself/ work on his self, wow with tears flowing down his face....but on the weekends, calls are Forwarded!!! I'm done, you won't take my power away because I know my worth....

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you’re in touch with your worth and value, Angela! 💙

[@brokenpiecesmovement6449]

Helena, thanks sooooo much for ur videos. I can’t really explain how ur two videos from yesterday and today has touched my life... thanks for giving me hope

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear that! This recent one I posted might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Yes...we must BE PATIENT!!

[@hirschiegirl]

Thank you, Helena! 🤗 I LOVE every one of these points! And I am finding that it feels more and more natural to me to respond in these ways and to trust myself when I do 🥰

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m so happy to hear that! These videos might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc.

[@hirschiegirl]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you so much! I will check them out 🤗

[@marlapennington146]

Helena, you are wise beyond your years! Thanks you for giving great advise to us oldsters! Love knows no season, and your advice is timeless! ..."Trust that the right man is not going to risk losing you..." What a great thing to think about and absorb! "Your self-esteem or mood or the way you feel about the world should NOT be tied to any man or to what he is doing or NOT doing..." How many women (including myself) have I met who let this happen! They defined their own worth by HIS actions! Even as I write it, it sounds absurd! But it happens... Keep it up, Helena! you're the best!! Love you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome Marla, I’m glad this resonated with you! Thanks for sharing your takeaways here, too. My latest video should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc

[@TephaRhi]

Always have loved your unedited vids! It feels more relaxing and natural like I’m there with you 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, thanks for the feedback! Here are a couple of my recent unedited videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c and kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE.

[@weekendnomad5038]

Thank you for this . I felt like I couldn’t be without him but this gave. A little more confidence to tell him I’m done

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These videos should also be really helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/p33Elaybnq12kMk, kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y.

[@Sound7heWarCry]

I prefer the unedited videos. It’s a lot more of a personable experience

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for the feedback! I’ll be recording more videos in this format next week. 💛

[@amansilla28]

Unedited videos are perfect! Thank You.. This is very helpful.... will definitely check out your training..

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 This video should also be helpful (I share a couple more attitudes in it): kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y

[@dghometeam]

Great advice! How about a video on how to meet guys these days instead of apps.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for the suggestion! 💕