5 Reasons A Man Responds To Distance When He's Not Contacting You (Never Chase Him)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

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[@weerteft14ispro95]

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[@zeetasahai203]

Hi Helena and Anthia this sounds very interesting,I need some advice also,I am 50yrs old and my friend is 38 the thing is i knew his family a him a long while ago he also knew my husband, but my husband passed away 2 yrs ago,I had his number as for business so I message him a good morning one day June of last year, he saw my wats up pic,he said not sure who is this, when I told him who it was he was like oh my gosh, how are you all, he said he was telling his family how long he has not seen us , so I told him my husband passed away, since then we started messaging one another whole night for a few months,then he said he wanted to see me in real how I look, my daughter took me to meet him at a location where he pick me up he drives around for about 2 hrs he said he likes his friend he asked me to be his friend ,he had only one girl friend and he only kiss her nothing else,he told me everything about him self, his family knows me and my family as well,he told his family what happened to my husband, they were sad to hear about it, so he told me his mom wants me to come over to spend some time with them, so I did, after some time he wanted to be more than friends, so I decided to go for it knowing for sure he never had anyone he wanted me to teach him since he does not know anything about a woman,I was feeling real different becuz I did not had any one since my husband passed 2 yrs ,so for the first time I was not feeling comfortable ,we have been with each other a few times , but his family don't know,he said one day his mom told him that it looks like I like him but he told her no, he has only one sister she is 33 also not married, these people really threat me like real family they he told me his family is real friends with me so dat is why he don't want to be together we will remain friends,becuz his family really likes me I spend nights with them I sleep with his sister

[@SanctifiedLady]

Do you have any on paranoid personality disorder in a relationship?

[@momof372]

As a woman, two months of no contact, I realized I was falling in love with him, after 6 months of dating, three months in of no contact, I am cutting those feelings off. It was a waste of time. No bad experiences, no arguments or disagreements, really enjoyed each others company, but he was emotionally available due to previous relationships. It seems like men never deal with previous relationships, are scared to get into a new relationship for fear of the same experience. I am not going to be judged for something someone else has done to them. I had my own bad relationships and worked through them and never put a past bad relationship experience on someone else and I expect the same. I am whole, kind and caring and don't hold grudges, but I know when to move on.If they are stuck in the past, there's nothing you can do but move on.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here. Yes, a man who’s truly interested and available for a relationship definitely won’t drop off completely like that. This video might be helpful for anyone who’s experiencing something similar: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXm1ZJeAbbacgqM

[@LoisCandler]

Thanx for your words of wisdom! Helps what i'm going thru now😢

[@temmeanne539]

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[@nhl4264]

I am a man, thank you ladies for doing this powerful video, I wish every woman could understand the basis of this man's emotional need. However, I want to disagree with the time frame of 2 weeks, wanting distance is an instinct on a subconscious level, so you can't put a time frame on it, some will pull away more, some less, men are not the same, are not influenced or driven the same in life, this restricted time frame would not work with some man, certainly not the alpha type that would devote & worship that one woman who can have the strength, resilience, loyalty & patience to hold the distance whilst I'm gone to hunt for her & when I come back, believe me that woman would never go hungry again emotionally, mentally etc., unfortunately that kind of a woman is rare! This is the reason marriages gets to a point of misery where the mistery & excitement is lost, all because a man is not able to ditach, have space (men's emotional need) since the nature of a typical marriage is that both couple in the same space all the time & hence little to no polarization!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! I don’t remember either of us giving a 2-week timeframe in this video, that doesn’t sound like something I’d say but I’ll have to rewatch it.

[@iamyoda1980]

Truth - and an alpha female enjoys some distance and space and ‘excitement’ over codependency, anxiety, and constant predictability. Certainty and variety can exist in a relationship! No one likes a clingy man or woman!

[@chilcade5995]

The alpha type is valued for his ability to protect, beta males hunt and leave because the are not strong enough to protect and if they don't return, no one cares. When you go Rouge you leave your woman vulnerable and fail to protect her.

[@lornaelizabeth6290]

wow this is so powerful = yes!!! i love this....

[@taradodd6291]

Can someone please tell me what giving space to a man looks like? I know I should not ignore him but does that mean I should not text or call him even to wish him a good day or say good morning or goodnight?

[@KVG822]

I feel so anxious when he distances himself ! But he always comes back!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Karen, if this is a consistent pattern it might be something to take a look at. That being said, this video should help with the anxiety: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGOxnHiGjruirKM

[@KVG822]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you! Usually he is very consistent and calls everyday! I will watch this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! It should be really helpful for those moments when anxiety arises. 💗

[@manishamaya2692]

Thank you Helena and Antia (also the men who have commented), I really needed to hear this. My partner of over 7 years goes hot and cold on me, but I see where I've been 'wrong' in our relationship as I was clueless to how men are wired, for example; I always wanted to talk things out when something was wrong in our relationship and he seemed distanced, it was only when I learnt almost 3 years ago that men need space to think things over. I once 'Allowed' my man go into his 'Cave' rather than 'Forcing' him to hear me and talk, and after a day of him going into his 'Cave' he came back better and was talking about our future plans. I know what you both lovely women are saying to be true and even the comments I've read from men on this post which I really appreciate coming from their perspective, it all really helps as I still get things 'Wrong', a lot of time because its so hard especially as I'm talkative but I'm learning to get out of my head (Masculine) and into my heart (Feminine), and I actually quiet like it when I've done that, it feels so peaceful because that's when I'm not analysing.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️ These episodes might also be helpful for your situation: kzbin.infosE6Lv9wN0BM?feature=share, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jGTHoomarMlma68, kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJyzgHywh9GgoK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eGrYhpemg7eej6M, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fnS8iqV7jc2GfrM and kzbin.info/www/bejne/pqbahmqNaKZ8ec0.

[@valentinanocross8677]

Antia is an expert for sure. Men growing themself equally. That's a strong new statement. Nice. To see her here.

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Hey love! So fun to see you here on Helena’s channel. Hope all is well in your world 💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you, Valentina! Yes, Antia is awesome! 💞

[@michellesheridan1028]

EXCELLENT video! Confirms I’m doing the right thing in my situation. Proud of myself. 😘❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Michelle! I’m happy to hear that. 💗

[@womenwhodate7643]

You are so precise, informative and direct ❤️🙌 Every woman, no matter race or background, will and can benefit from your advice.

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Awww thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💗

[@Dreamsareareality]

I so agree. ❤️

[@jossyj1]

I question if I’m normal for even needing this video…😩🥺 ~ BUT I’m grateful for it 🙏🏾💛

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad it helped! 💗

[@risingroses]

Helena, you always outdo yourself. Always dropping gems, always giving GOLD. This stuff is stuff you've taught but you alway seem to go deeper!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! I’m glad you enjoyed this. ❤️

[@sophiia5193]

Isn’t giving him space allowing him to pop in and out of your life? I thought it was about a man being consistent

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Great question! Like we explain in the video, this is for a man who IS consistent but needs some time to himself every once in awhile. If a man is inconsistent in general, I’d recommend moving on. Hope that clarifies it! 💕

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

Yes this is about a man who is simply balancing his archetypes but is in general more on the secure attachment style scale.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Absolutely! Since my audience on this channel is almost entirely women (and Antia and I are relationship coaches for women) the language we’re using here reflects that, but this could apply to both men and women.

[@danyellg3079]

Wow! He can fall in love from being apart??? I definitely didn't think about that

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this gave you a new perspective! 💕

[@bros4654]

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder," as they say. :)

[@teenafrench7236]

Oh, crap, this is GREEEAT!!! A bit of science mixed with the mystique archetypes. Love this piece with Antia Boyd. Cheers Helena

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Teena, I’m glad you enjoyed it! ❤️

[@karolinah12]

He just wanted me to accept that he cannot plan or schedule his time,but this became toxic after a while. No talking worked, so i had no choice but to step back.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💜 This video that my husband and I recorded together might be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrssi=mscD1d95U-D-ms0v

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Hey Helena, good job. Tom’s video that he did alone was excellent and to the point. He’s a natural.🎤💙

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Ramona! I’m glad you enjoyed that video, too. I’ll definitely have him record some more when he has time! 💕

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Very insightful and intelligent women! Great information and very interesting!💥

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed this! ❤️

[@anntv4654]

Thanks Helena. It would help a lot to understand men.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Ann! 💗

[@mellead8727]

So it would only be a red flag if you just started dating and suddenly he says he needs to “work on himself and take a break from dating”, correct?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, if he said something like that I would move on. 💕

[@kewissma]

My only question is while giving your man space so he can get back in his masculinity, is this going to have the same effect if he’s also talk to other women? We live in a time where everyone is “talking”’to everyone. Especially if you met on a dating app.

[@avril.227]

It takes a lot of time to build trust.

[@yoongisugaagustd7418]

This is what i'm always wondering. I hope Helena answer this

[@robert4you]

_"My only question is while giving your man space so he can get back in his masculinity, is this going to have the same effect if he’s also talk to other women?"_ As a man I can honestly say: NO. It's not going to have the same effect. That "space" thing will not mean much if/when other beautiful women start to show interest in him. If you want to attract and keep a man (on a deeper level), you have to do it in the right way from the start. Women have to show vulnerability, they must be open and not afraid to be feminine. This is absolutely crucial. You have to show your man that you "need him" on a deeper level. A man has to feel that his masculinity is needed in the relationship, that he has a purpose and that the woman is not able to do everything herself. The woman has to lower her emotional "shield" or "wall" completely and open up. One of the most sexy things a woman can do to a man is to hug him hard, rest her head on his chest and tell him that she needs him to comfort her because she is stressed/sad/tired etc, etc, this will melt his heart in an instant. His entire masculinity will feel "needed" and he will feel deep love towards you. Trust me, I am a man, I know.

[@dianemaree3313]

​@@robert4you ,,, thank you for your 'male' reply on this matter. Really appreciate it. When another woman is involved at this point, the 'female' side can end up feeling crushed from betrayal. That's where I am now. I've shut down. Trust is out the window and the experience tells me that if he runs off with other women when times are tough, that he is showing a lack of wanting to grow with me through the tough times. Does not give me confidence in the relationship which creates more distance.

[@robert4you]

@@dianemaree3313 Trust is one of those key factors in a great, loving relationship. It is also the hardest thing to restore when broken. I would go so far and say that it's almost impossible in cases which you described. If I were you, I would confront him in a very calm way: ask ALL the tough questions. Every Single One!!! Demand that he answers them according to the truth. Everything must be put on the table. If he refuses or you see that he tries to "wiggle" his way out of the questions, tell him to stop. Then you look him straight in the eyes and tell him firmly that this relationship is over. Tell him that he has caused permanent emotional damage in your entire being and that it is impossible to repair the mess he has created. Leave him without any remorse and do it with confidence, upright and with pride. Your man must feel that he is done and that he lost you! Eventually, as times goes by, you will find a real man who knows what boundaries and respect are. Good luck, Diane!

[@kristenmoonrise]

I love Antia and Brody! I'm so happy to hear they are expecting! 👶🏼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes! I’ve known for awhile, SO happy for them! 💞

[@_edijane_]

In my experience they don’t come back - but that’s fine too. I only want a man who does.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing! Yes - if a man doesn’t come back he can’t possibly be the right one for you, in my opinion. I talk more about that in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXm1ZJeAbbacgqM

[@taylorpinkney7253]

This video made me feel a lot better

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that! 💗 This episode might also be helpful: kzbin.infoKSth4iAZtiY?feature=share

[@CancerLove555]

I love your videos! Learning a lot! ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m glad you’ve been enjoying them! 💗

[@karolinah12]

Ladies, for now, kind of forget what the man who did you wrong is doing, focus on your own self growth ❤ he will make it clear if he is the right person for you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💞

[@maryroberts1447]

THANKS YOU GAVE ME MUCH INSIGHT

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Mary! 💜

[@realtalktina]

So this is my concern for a while, knowing that men fall in love in the absence of a woman, what happens when you're married and you're always there. Do you have to plan ways to keep yourself at a distance so that he will still stay in love with you?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Great question! I wouldn’t worry about that when you’re with the right person - having things going on in your life outside of the relationship (friends, career, interests and hobbies, etc.) will naturally create all the space you need. The next video I’m going to publish should be helpful for anyone who’s in that situation. 💕

[@realtalktina]

@@HelenaHartCoaching can't wait (to be in that situation and to see your video) 😜💓

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome! 💞 In the meantime, these videos should be helpful for anyone who’s looking to reignite the passion in their long-term relationship or marriage: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hYrTnJiwfbpqpZo and kzbin.info/www/bejne/enKohmZ7aLStf80.

[@kaursingh8095]

Good question? Once in a while dissepair come back feel the love 😂😂

[@robert4you]

_"Do you have to plan ways to keep yourself at a distance so that he will still stay in love with you?"_ No! That's not how it works. If you are in a good relationship a man does not crave any absence whatsoever - but you have to give him space and freedom to do what he likes to do without "nagging" or constant checking up on him. Let me repeat what I wrote in another comment above: If you want to attract and keep a man (on a deeper level), you have to do it in the right way from the start. Women have to show vulnerability, they must be open and not afraid to be feminine. This is absolutely crucial. You have to show your man that you really "need him" on a deeper level. A man has to feel that his masculinity is needed in the relationship, that his contribution is needed and received well by his woman, that he has a purpose and that the woman is not able to do everything herself. The woman has to lower her emotional "shield" or "wall" completely and open up. One of the most sexy things a woman can do to a man is to hug him hard, rest her head on his chest and tell him that she needs him to comfort her because she is stressed/sad/tired etc, etc, this will melt his heart in an instant. His entire masculinity will feel "needed" and he will feel deep love towards you. When a woman is not afraid to show/reveal her honest, deepest emotions and feelings + signals that she needs him and his masculinity because she craves it, no absence is ever needed. He will stay with you for the rest of his life. Trust me, I am a man, I know.

[@jc4171]

Love you two ladies and both your channels are so helpful and powerful ❤️😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much, I’m happy to hear that! 💗

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Awesome Video. I do agree. I needed a little more clarity on the cliff hanger.

[@MagnetizeYourMan]

That’s a tricky one and highly effective. In reality life is a cliff hanger but we constantly create certainty where there is none.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it, Ramona! 💜

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

@@HelenaHartCoaching I always do.🤗

[@artistrybyartisia5318]

THANK YOU HELENA!!!!! 💕💕💕💕💕 this was a good recommendation. I will be listening again.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad it was helpful. ❤️

[@kezthefam8263]

Hi Helena Thankyou for your advice x

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Helena, your hair!💥

[@ginaalesha2]

This was an amazing informative video! Loved it!!!! Thanks Helena❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Gina! I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💝

[@nahgwamarie2532]

Hi Helena. Been seeing this guy for a month now. He doesn't text or call as before for example I always get a good morning text and a text through out the day to know how I am doing, but now I get none. He just text or call at the end of his day at work to know how my day went. Kind of going crazy trying to figure out what's happening.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos might be helpful (and I’d watch his ACTIONS in terms of setting up dates and times to see you - that will usually tell you everything you need to know about his intentions and interest level): kzbin.info/www/bejne/kF6ag4x3g7WsbZI and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qJ-7oH6JgqaHpaM.

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

Excellent talk.. Thank you ..

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💕

[@annnjuguna2569]

Beautiful and wise ladies ❤👏👏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Ann! 💗

[@annnjuguna2569]

@@HelenaHartCoaching You are welcome, keep up the good work ❤👏👏👏

[@taurus-queen7232]

Why am I learning this at 50?

[@lisesansuan]

You and me both😂never give up on love girl❤

[@barbarawitthaus6528]

What if my ex is with another woman? How does that work?

[@paintpartyplace4758]

Loved the video but it made me laugh when you said juicy life lol I have a whole day of juicy housework to do today 🤣

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Haha 😂 I’m glad you enjoyed the video!

[@sj468]

🤣🤣me too!!

[@iyabodebie8239]

Just watched this vid today .. Its therapeutic Helena💝 My boyfriend has been all consistent for a year... But travelled to another city 5 month ago... And he always lets me know about the progress on the plans he is carrying on.. setting up 'our' home in his home city.. But he has Been so absent in the past 5 days.... This video has helped calm my anxiety 🥺

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💗 This video might also be helpful for calming that anxiety: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGOxnHiGjruirKM

[@frankmusic7145]

Thanks hellen

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome!

[@jinxjinx77]

Hi Helena! I am brand new on a dating site and have gotten into long text conversations with two men who have now stopped writing … I wonder if you could do a video about pointers for someone like me who is doing the initial conversation/flirt …. For example, I am trying to write the same amount as the guy does … I know that’s what I did wrong with guy #1

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, thanks for the suggestion! For now, I wouldn’t get into long text conversations. The sooner it can move to a phone call or meeting up in person, the better! This podcast episode might be helpful - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/0DQh8sWqNo5IWLn3VJ3B3c?si=3McWH9sSTdm1DWVlazeF3A …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000538402988

[@zanecliffo3685]

Yes, give slightly less energy than them. But if you write too much then either of you get bored or what's the point in meeting up more mysterious to keep it short or flirty and meet and convo in person

[@evadale1500]

I wish I could have talked to her before I was twenty years with a man

[@donnajones5382]

If 8 message to much he shuts down n we are not 8n a relationship it's been going on n of for over 2 years im so scared I will not be good enough help I need advice

[@Feel_My_Ubiquity]

Your a level 10 stalker, grab a clue🕵️‍♀️

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

I’m assuming this pertains to people in exclusive unions because if a guy doesn’t get back to me in a day or half a day.. but we’re not exclusive.. no big deal. If he got back to me that soon I’d think he was needy 😆🤢

[@donnajones5382]

I've been contacting him and he is ignoring me

[@danicaharley6273]

He's so rude.... Dump him. He's not good enough lovely. X

[@donnajones5382]

@@danicaharley6273 thank you hun xx

[@donnajones5382]

He won't even take me put or be see with me in public 😒 he is younger then me n age shouldn't matter

[@jackiebaucom9513]

Pull back your energy from him and focus on yourself.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Donna, it sounds like he’s not interested. These videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/p33Elaybnq12kMk and kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqfNmKqimM-Caac.

[@donnajones5382]

I've done the opposite n he is not contacting me

[@Feel_My_Ubiquity]

Well then maybe what they are saying works lol

[@psiinc]

💜🙏🏽♥️

[@planetwalker798]

I heard from a “new man” a week ago. He shared a lot of things on the phone but I had to jump off to a scheduled call which I gave him a heads up. I followed up two days later and he hasn’t responded. I find that rude. From Helena’s comment, it sounds like I should forget him. Please enlighten me (I haven’t seen him in more time then I would want to lag)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If he isn’t responding to you and you’re not in an established relationship, there’s not much else to do here. Personally, I would move on. 💕

[@zippyblessed839]

I liked a guy so much that I bought his art work But kinda got bread crumbed He started a conversation via text but really I fet like i liked him way more So I took a break Its been 4 months Haven't heard from him Was hoping he would reach out 😒

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! Personally, I would move on. These videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fdm4OPqNKShs0, kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eaa6mZtjedN_gLs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/sGeqpJ6kbKqCfc0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qJ-7oH6JgqaHpaM.