What moving abroad has done to our relationship (a chat with my wife).

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Beneath the Surface

Beneath the Surface

Күн бұрын

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It's been over 7 months since we sold our home in Portland, Oregon, and I figured a perfect time to sit down with my wife and have a chat about our experiences on the road together for so long now.
It also happens to be that we just celebrated 33 years married (on 11/22/22!), so really a perfect time to talk about all that's been unfolding on this crazy adventure of ours, how it's impacted our relationship, and our views on the future.
Jump points:
0:00 - Intro
1:30 - Overall impressions about our travels
3:00 - The challenges
4:56 - Navigating the French way and the language
8:25 - My new course "Collaborative Trip Planning"!
11:24 - French food
13:30 - French visuals
14:56 - Do we miss our old home in the US?
17:40 - Is it really France for us?
19:11 - What's our secret sauce being together on the road?
23:27 - 33 years married (and our internal work)
26:04 - Any regrets?
27:39 - Are we excited about the future?
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@josephmillraney1061
@josephmillraney1061 Жыл бұрын
Belive it or not, my sweetheart and I would have been married 44 years on the 16th of this month. I miss her so much. Memory eternal!
@EliCrousey
@EliCrousey Жыл бұрын
💕🙏
@suryakumari2487
@suryakumari2487 Жыл бұрын
Happy wishes to lovely couple 💐🤝
@suryakumari2487
@suryakumari2487 Жыл бұрын
Desire for some simple comforts is super reasonable Your expression to have comforts at age 50 is very genuine 🤝
@suryakumari2487
@suryakumari2487 Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful conversation I have no words 😀😀I envy you couple
@sherrimartin1057
@sherrimartin1057 Жыл бұрын
Praying for comfort and peace for you
@thesoulfultrampjami3892
@thesoulfultrampjami3892 Жыл бұрын
We’re living in France now too. Headed back to the states in 2 weeks. We both just turned 60. We sold our home In California to be able to travel Europe. We are approaching the 4 month mark. It has been an amazing life adventure and we’ve learned so much about ourselves. The bummer for us is that our grown children and grandchildren live in the US. And truly that’s what prevents us from making France our home. When we get back we will continue our unconventional life and live and travel in an RV. We both laughed when your wife said body aches!!!! Yes omg! All the time. Terrible beds pretty much guaranteed. Schlepping our bags on and off trains. And yes small not so great kitchens. We finally broke down and bought a small cutting board and sharp knife. I really enjoyed this video. It’s hard to find videos with (more mature) people living this lifestyle. I love the bohemian life. I am like your wife as in I need to make home wherever I am, whether it’s an Airbnb, hotel or an rv. It’s in my blood, I’m both gypsy and creative homebody….go figure. I applaud your transparency and look forward to more videos of this type. Jami
@REASONFORTRUTH
@REASONFORTRUTH Жыл бұрын
I respect you Soulful…you understand the true riches in life. We have said the same in that family come before our pleasure. The good news is that you can still travel annually and take it one day at a time. Perhaps travel 2-3 months to France annually. Blessings and a wonderful season to you and your family…
@thesoulfultrampjami3892
@thesoulfultrampjami3892 Жыл бұрын
@@REASONFORTRUTH yes thus is our thought possibly moving forward. Blessings to you both as well
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏😊
@REASONFORTRUTH
@REASONFORTRUTH Жыл бұрын
How refreshing to see a couple that understands marriage. Giving 100 and 100 is the secret sauce. You guys understand that you compliment each other and appreciate and mean in on each other’s gifts and abilities. Those same things can annoy you, but you appreciate them…and one another. I enjoy you both. Blessings to you both, your marriage, and the wonderful example you are leaving and loving for your boys…who do what they see more than what you say:)
@alexam1848
@alexam1848 Жыл бұрын
They understand the american marriage, maybe.
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thank you! 😊🙏❤️
@bybrianlee
@bybrianlee Жыл бұрын
I'm not one to usually comment, but I can't help but say thank you for showing a lot of us what it looks like to build a healthy relationship/marriage - I felt like I've learned so much within just 29 minutes. Excited to see what lies ahead for you both!
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thank you right back!! 🙏
@nartarlyiatremaynne1239
@nartarlyiatremaynne1239 Жыл бұрын
I concur with your sentiment 100%♡
@janicegreen534
@janicegreen534 Жыл бұрын
It's a good day when Nathaniel Drew's dad posts. 🙏 Your content is so good!
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Janice!
@charlottethomas3877
@charlottethomas3877 Жыл бұрын
I am French and I live in Rouen, Normandy. You should come and visit, I think you might like the place. If you need help, I work for the Tourist Office of Rouen, I could show you around. 😊
@maggie8586
@maggie8586 Жыл бұрын
Y'all are so cute. Relationship goals. Dialogue, respect, self-awareness, listening, introspection, collaboration, appreciation, and LOVE. And personally, I so resonate with recognizing the importance of surroundings, architecture, ambience, fodd. "I don't like clutter or ugly things." I feel ya sister.
@charleane00
@charleane00 Жыл бұрын
Agreed. I heard someone say recently that marriage is about peace - and that’s what this couple have 😊
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thanks!! 😁
@eilinodea209
@eilinodea209 Жыл бұрын
So true when you say that the French people respect the effort made by non native french speakers to learn and speak their language just as they do when they travel. I moved to Paris from Irlande when I was 27 with a little 3 year old daughter so i remember the "bureaucracy" associated with setting up bank accounts, registering my daughter for school etc...but I also remember the joy of integration and acceptance as well as the numerous times I was complimented for my grasp of French as time went on and yes, it is a beautiful language and they are a beautiful people who embrace those who embrace their great culture.
@loricronwell89
@loricronwell89 Жыл бұрын
I'm glad you have discovered the joys of the French countryside. I am also from Portland, Oregon and purchased a second home in the NW part of Loires Atlantique and moved in a month ago. Yes, many frustrations with moving to a new country, but I love it here! I too have found the French to be patient and kind to an older American struggling with the language. This type A city girl is learning to enjoy the relaxed lifestyle, the long lunches and the quiet Sundays when everything is closed except for mother nature. I'm finding it easier to meet people here than in Portland. If you need any advice on house hunting or this area of France, feel free to contact me.
@Olivier-GM
@Olivier-GM Жыл бұрын
Welcome to your new home in Loire-Atlantique. A great place to live ! Are you near the ocean ?
@WanderingAimfully
@WanderingAimfully Жыл бұрын
Related to this video SO much! My husband and I (from California) have been traveling this year full-time through Europe to see if we wanted to move abroad, staying in destinations roughly 2.5 weeks at a time. What you said about the ever-changing beds, the Airbnb surprises, the humbling interactions, and the equal balance of challenges and life-affirming moments so perfectly encapsulates what we’ve been experiencing! 

 I completely echo what you shared about keeping your relationship strong with an intention of giving, prioritizing inner work, etc. Loved listening to this part of the convo! 
Funny enough, we ultimately decided to settle in the Silver Coast of Portugal (Lourinhã) and just moved into our rental home for the next year. We feel so in love with our tiny area, but so thrilled for you that you feel the same way about where you are in France now. Kudos to you for pressing forward until you found the magic that was calling to you. 

 Thanks for so thoughtfully sharing your experiences in these videos. It really is so comforting to hear from a couple who is embarking on a similar, yet unique adventure to ours! Caroline, Wandering Aimfully Side note: We used the same approach in France of leading with their language and really making an effort, and we too found the French people to be so lovely, accommodating and patient with us!
@brynanderson375
@brynanderson375 Жыл бұрын
would love to hear more about your pasts- how you met, careers, etc.!
@sandralynnsparks3468
@sandralynnsparks3468 Жыл бұрын
I am glad you are finding your place. I lost mine a few years ago, and would love to find my new home now. But I am elderly and may not be in that position again. I am feeling all that disconnection and disappointment, even though I am working hard to keep a balance in joys, purpose and peace every day. You are not just lucky, you are attentive and aware in a way I wish I had been years ago. Enjoy your life in France.
@amyspeers8012
@amyspeers8012 Жыл бұрын
I am so happy you are enjoying France. My husband and I moved to France in July 2017. We first lived in Rennes and moved to SW France in February 2020. We celebrated our 30th anniversary this past June. And….we love our life in France! Let me know if you’d like to see my part of France. It’s lovely!
@agl5132
@agl5132 Жыл бұрын
May I ask what part of SW France are you? I am planning on exploring that area after the holidays. I am traveling with my wee Chihuahua. We've been in Scotland for the past four yrs and are ready to move on.
@amyspeers8012
@amyspeers8012 Жыл бұрын
@@agl5132 I live about an hour from Bordeaux.
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thank you. Just might! 😁
@dionline88
@dionline88 Жыл бұрын
I love the dynamic between you two - very loving and respectful. The fact that you went through this experience together will bring you even closer together. I follow your son, Nathan, here on YT and you can tell he was raised well. He seems like a genuinely nice person - the world needs more of nice, respectful people! Bravo to each & every one of you!!
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thanks, Diane! ❤️
@islandbreeze2102
@islandbreeze2102 Жыл бұрын
Your journey is a sort of a footprint for my husband and I. We are embarking on the same quest: selling our house in the US and moving to France. We are watching your joys, trials and erros closely so we can understand the process. You’re like a guide/teacher to us. We have heard about the horrendous bureaucracy to get through in order to obtain residency in France. We ask you to please show us step by step the process as much as you can, so we can understand it. We thank you for such good videos and content. Congratulations on your anniversary. You have created a beautiful family with loving and caring boys.
@walideg5304
@walideg5304 8 ай бұрын
It’s not that complicated for the visa and the residency card. French people loves to complain you will see. They don’t know how lucky they are. It’s when they travel that they understand the reality.
@olindamagalhaes3991
@olindamagalhaes3991 Жыл бұрын
Hello, my friends. I'm so happy for you. I'm portuguese, I love my country of course, but I could feel how unconfortable you were in here. I think France is definitetly the place for you. It's big, full of history and beauty, delicious food and, in the country, there's still a respect for the joy of traditional living ( in Portugal, sometimes we are too modern for my taste). I love France (I used to be a French teacher) and so many portuguese live there too. Good luck for you!
@Stopit77
@Stopit77 Жыл бұрын
Where are you in France?
@olindamagalhaes3991
@olindamagalhaes3991 Жыл бұрын
@@Stopit77 Just as a tourist.
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
@wendylbranchfield7959
@wendylbranchfield7959 Жыл бұрын
I said on another of your videos that in October I spent 10 days in France, my first trip. With 100% certainty, I promise you, I felt at home. In my bones, I know I could live in France! I’m so happy for you all. I have watched your sons videos and I adore that kid!
@milancollin1819
@milancollin1819 Жыл бұрын
Lovely video again and beautiful to see your honesty in your emotional rollercoaster. You are a true inspiration on many levels for many people. We bought a house in the South of France, above Montpelier some 14years ago and I recognise all the beauty you are talking about. We as documentary filmmakers think in colours, landscape lines, retro feel, passion for craft etc. We do not in our house in France but choose to live in Portugal. For us it is the sun and the warmth we can't find in France even not in our house in the South. I am wondering how Europe feels for you as Americans as there is a huge difference. Less competitive, less bigger biggest. But as you lived in Portland it is much closer to Europe then other parts of the US. I also love to see the love between the two of you. We had of 25years together and feel so inspired and blessed everyday to be together and do the life adventure together with my wife and sons. Looking forward to your next steps and maybe I can give you some tips where to go to if you like.
@annewilson834
@annewilson834 Жыл бұрын
My husband and I were married on 9/2/89. 2 kids and 5 grandkids later. Life is good.
@maureencoyle666
@maureencoyle666 Жыл бұрын
Its so funny that you said “its not 50/50, its 100/100”! Many years ago two friends of mine got married. The priest told them, “If you really want your marriage to work you have to forget the 50/50 thing people talk about. You need to get up every morning both being willing to give 100%, and that will get you through the tough times when your partner only has 30% to give. Its the ONLY advice I ever heard off the altar in my 69 years…I’ll never forget it! You two are lovely and I look forward to following your adventure! Enjoy!!
@MishaElRusito
@MishaElRusito Жыл бұрын
Salute to you two for trying new things and finding the courage to change your lives so drastically at your age. Just proves that age is just a number. I am proud of you!
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thanks man! 🙏❤️
@QueenBee-xd1xk
@QueenBee-xd1xk Жыл бұрын
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT It's funny to get "at your age" comments. I'm the same age as you and I don't feel like I'm old enough to get those type of comments yet lol
@scottw.7626
@scottw.7626 Жыл бұрын
Totally relate to your comment, "we actually like our children." Me too (with a couple of thirty-year-olds.) If they lived in France, I would be right there with them. Thanks for sharing the dream and I enjoyed your spontaneity and normal, unscripted conversation. Bon Courage!
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Merci ! 😁
@ivyarul5012
@ivyarul5012 Жыл бұрын
Enjoy watching your journey as an older couple. So much understanding, respect n love for each other which makes everything extra, extra special.
@hadi_177re
@hadi_177re Жыл бұрын
No wonder that Nathaniel is a very wise and smart person regarding his young age . Cuz he's the son of a healthy relationship that rarely exists. You guys are friends before being life partners and that's what most partners forget about as their relationship contniues to exist. I'm 26 and I decided that for now I'm gonna focus on my career and I'm not gonna get into any romance relationship for now cuz I think that is hard to find someone who respects your personal life and your boundaries as a friend before being a life pertner. I know relationships need sacrifices but sacrifice and respect other's space and boundaries is also some kind of a sacrifice. But now seeing you two makes me feel that it could happen and it's not impossible to find and be with some one who's a friend, a partner and a family.
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Wishing you all the best. 😊❤️
@ancapascu3732
@ancapascu3732 Жыл бұрын
So happy to hear from you guys again! We are a another couple with a similar story, 54-55y old - 33y of marriage who left NY after 25y living there and moved to FL. Keep us posted! You are an inspiration to us! Best wishes, Anca & Tim
@susanharkema2888
@susanharkema2888 Жыл бұрын
Although this is a wonderful travel discussion, it's also a model for healthy adult relationships no matter where you are. Really appreciate you both and your sharing. I really appreciate what you said about playing to strengths. We have a saying in our marriage..."We make a good team. I know what you mean, jelly bean."
@susanelizabeth1724
@susanelizabeth1724 Жыл бұрын
Always thought France when I saw you two. Congrats on 33 - my husband and I have 34 and he getting ready to retire from education after 35 years! We are getting ready to travel more as well.
@foreverlearningfrench
@foreverlearningfrench Жыл бұрын
Happy 33rd Anniversary! I could have listened to you two for hours.
@K_B_H_
@K_B_H_ Жыл бұрын
I know that you probably have a lot going on outside of making a video here and there, however... I would love to see more of this experience as it's sort of happening, or more frequently. I've come to this channel so often since your last video because I've honestly been waiting with excitement to hear of your adventures. Please consider sharing more of it. Like what you've learned navigating stores, transportation, bureaucracy, culture, and other information about just daily living that might differ to non french. I'd love to see you explore food via meals, recipes, stores etc, as well as culture. Please learn to also drive a stick, I love it. Best thing ever, you'll hate an automatic after. I'm basically living vicariously, cause if I could make it work financially, I'd be there too. Already working hard on my French to prepare for the day I might be able to do it. Plus you have the unique perspective of being at your age (also my age), and not the ages of those usually vlogging their adventures (Gen Z-Millenials), in addition you have those familial ties with children you need to maintain etc.
@lizajane1007
@lizajane1007 Жыл бұрын
You have to be in a good place with your partner even to THINK about moving abroad (or to another state) as moving is so stressful. Plus you've added to it the opportunity to find the right place for where you will land, so living in small places can cause so much more stress on top of it. SO you both were in a good place to start this journey, making it enjoyable for us to watch and learn from.
@wendylbranchfield7959
@wendylbranchfield7959 Жыл бұрын
I love that you used the word anxious several times. Chemically in our bodies, elation and anxious, the same thing happens. It is simply our perception of the experience that deems it pleasurable or not pleasurable. I love that you choose to view it as pleasurable, most of the time lol. Love your videos!
@LisaMoo54
@LisaMoo54 Жыл бұрын
Your experience in both Portugal and Franch are very similar to mine. My daughter and I spent a week in Portugal and a week in France last April. Everyone extolls the virtues of Portugal and the Portuguese people but I didn't feel it. I tried to speak what little Portuguese I knew but still found the people to be stand-offish and even down right rude and unhelpful. Once we landed in France, it was a whole different vibe. No graffiti, helpful smiley people, beautiful countryside, well-maintained infrastructure, and, amazingly, less expensive homes. I immediately felt at home. Perhaps our paths will cross if you move there. I plan to spend a month in southwestern France in June to see what daily life will be like, and if all goes well, then I'll begin the process of moving.
@gayemcduff4732
@gayemcduff4732 Жыл бұрын
Your honesty and willingness to share your experience is such a gift, particularly for those of us considering a move overseas with our spouses.Thank you for showing us how to be authentic and yet still curious, intuitive, and trusting travel partners.
@sandihunter1260
@sandihunter1260 Жыл бұрын
My husband and I felt like that in France. It was so comfortable, the people were amazing, the food was to die for. We always said we would love to live there.
@carolyn2249
@carolyn2249 Жыл бұрын
I'm leaving for France from California to spend 3 months learning French, and watching this made me even more excited to go! This trip will be a trial run to see if I might want to live there permanently. Can't wait! By the way, I love the "nerding out" on your anniversary date...I was born on 11/22/66!
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Nice!! Haha. 😁
@mynamename5172
@mynamename5172 Жыл бұрын
You are not alone! I am exactly the same in AirBnBs when I stay long term! I reorganize, (respectfully) redecorate problematic furniture placement like coffee tables of knee and ankle death, and clean as if it were my home. If something is bad (like crappy pillows or not enough hangers, both are so common!) I get new ones and gift them on departure. Life is just too short not to be comfortable at home, especially when you are a homebody. So far hosts have been absolutely fantastic about it.
@HaloReachMaster11
@HaloReachMaster11 Жыл бұрын
I have viewed your son’s videos for years, and have enjoyed watching him take chances, learn, and grow. My family recently sold our home, that I loved so much, and moved, on request of my husband. It has been so difficult, but you two sold your home and took a leap at the same time, I have followed your journey and want to let you know how much you talking about your experiences have helped me SO much accept the beauty in other places, you make trade offs. Ultimately, everything will be okay, and maybe better.
@suzanneantonia
@suzanneantonia Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful candid conversation. Thank you for sharing.
@amberlyda43
@amberlyda43 Жыл бұрын
I loved, loved, loved hearing from your wife. MORE!
@gingerscalone5358
@gingerscalone5358 Жыл бұрын
We also left the US six months ago, have two boys and have been married 31 years. We left Seattle! (a lot in common). I am a nester as well, struggling with not having my own space! The beds! OMG the beds! And our relationship! Totally changing with being together 24/7.we have realized how much we need time apart! Boundaries!
@AndreaAvila78
@AndreaAvila78 Жыл бұрын
Where did you move to? Why did you leave the US? You need to have a KZbin channel too!
@gingerscalone5358
@gingerscalone5358 Жыл бұрын
@@AndreaAvila78 we are currently in Mexico and have had the very same experience you had (Tulum yuck!). After visiting family in the US we head to France! I would love to connect if you desire.
@stevenkeller3047
@stevenkeller3047 Жыл бұрын
You two are doing good. It's so refreshing to see people that realize that success in life comes from being mentally and emotionally awake and aware of who you are. With that, you'll do fine and soon find a new home, in France.
@mallory_t6513
@mallory_t6513 Жыл бұрын
It’s so great to hear your take and commentary on life/ relocations / relationships. There’s a depth of knowledge and wisdom and honesty there that isn’t super common on KZbin!
@Lisette777
@Lisette777 Жыл бұрын
Happy anniversary, and you are the nicest couple I know!
@cands7321
@cands7321 Жыл бұрын
Thank you SO much for making your video downloadable!! I've been looking forward to this latest video from you for ages! My treat for today!! 😁🙏
@norcal0076
@norcal0076 Жыл бұрын
Looking forward to watch your journey🥰
@raynoladominguez4730
@raynoladominguez4730 Жыл бұрын
Extremely cool anniversary. I am such a nerd when it comes to repetitive numbers like that. Cheers to you both. Great video, I love the strength of your commitment to one another.
@anamaria2053
@anamaria2053 Жыл бұрын
Josh, Estupendo! I so look forward hearing about you and Cecilia and your progress. Lo comprendo además. My mother is originally from Spain and left as a child following the Civil War and immigrated to the US as an adult. I’ve lived and traveled in Spain and France and love both countries. I’m now preparing to get my Spanish citizenship. I so look forward to returning. I have lived in the PNW for 25 years and is the most at home I have felt anywhere in the US. But as each of you have mentioned, I don’t fully feel at home here nor have I ever fully identified with American culture. I felt so much at home in Spain and I felt so good in France too, although I’ve spent less time there. I look forward to seeing more about your adventures, both external and internal. ❤
@lisaleblanc1450
@lisaleblanc1450 Жыл бұрын
I could listen to you guys chat for forever! Always so interesting to hear you discuss different things about life!
@VitorLeite0303
@VitorLeite0303 Жыл бұрын
You both are gold. This channel is gold. Thank you for allowing us to be in this conversation.
@user-bg1eo7lo9u
@user-bg1eo7lo9u Жыл бұрын
You two are adorable! 💓💓Blessings and Happy Anniversary! Your honesty and transparency is endearing. I've learned so much watching your videos. Thank you for that gift!
@mamabearv81
@mamabearv81 Жыл бұрын
You two are adorable. And congrats on your anniversary and launching your course!
@ingridmorales9217
@ingridmorales9217 Жыл бұрын
I LOVED this video! Thank you for sharing such an intimate and beautiful conversation with us. ❤
@shosmyth1454
@shosmyth1454 Жыл бұрын
The Beautiful Cohesiveness of your Family nurtured the development in your Sons as well! Thank you both for this video.
@loub1733
@loub1733 Жыл бұрын
Having just celebrated my 37th wedding anniversary totally relate to your story. Whilst I know you are on camera I love the vibe that you show. I am a psychologist and so is my husband and this has so enriched our understanding of ourselves and each other. Marriage takes lots of things but generosity is a key and the giving of 100% and not counting is an important key which I think has been lost or at least misplaced in the modern narrative of relationships. It is a privilege to grow old with someone you love and it is a pleasure to see you live and share this adventure together.
@karlageyer8779
@karlageyer8779 Жыл бұрын
Guys I love hearing you talk, you’re both such wise and inspiring people, please keep sharing your adventures and thoughts. I appreciate it!
@eugenioolazabal1867
@eugenioolazabal1867 Жыл бұрын
Your videos are so eye opening. Thank you. Your journey is amazing.
@suebroadbent8608
@suebroadbent8608 Жыл бұрын
Oh you two! I love the way you look at each other! Welcome to France. I'm English and have lived here for almost 30yrs. You're gonna love it xx
@HB-lo8dj
@HB-lo8dj Жыл бұрын
So enjoyed this discussion! We emigrated to the Netherlands from Cape Town over three years ago and I feel the same. I am very visual and I love living in Europe. France is my favorite amongst all the countries, but it is close enough to where we live. You are always welcome to visit us if you feel like experiencing the Dutch country side!
@miauna78
@miauna78 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Such a great perspective and insight. Beautiful interview. All the very best! 🌺❤️
@fionalewis3121
@fionalewis3121 Жыл бұрын
You guys are so emotionally intelligent and humble and equal. AMAZING
@victoriaoliver9958
@victoriaoliver9958 Жыл бұрын
Great video! Such amazing relationship advice. I also loved hearing about the literal and visual feast that France presents.
@MariaAyub-ma-sentient24
@MariaAyub-ma-sentient24 Жыл бұрын
This was honest and real, it was coming from the heart. May you find your discoveries meaningful and be grateful for them.
@lesliehahn4056
@lesliehahn4056 Жыл бұрын
Continue to appreciate you. Good to see you much happier than a couple months ago. You’re on the right path.
@alanaward1918
@alanaward1918 Жыл бұрын
Best video so far!! Love the conversation and the images of France! You two are amazing!
@PersonaEstudioActoral
@PersonaEstudioActoral Жыл бұрын
I didn't know this was going to be so inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
@nikkiscott4341
@nikkiscott4341 Жыл бұрын
How pleasant it is to have someone emphasise the importance of attempting to use the native language. Trying is frustrating but is a sign of respect. People are much more likely to be patient. It's a door-opener.
@NadaAli
@NadaAli Жыл бұрын
I love watching how your journey unfolds , all the best of luck 🤞
@sxerosie
@sxerosie Жыл бұрын
Love this, thank you for sharing such transparency about your journey and relationship ❤
@snappyshotsnelson2566
@snappyshotsnelson2566 Жыл бұрын
Very enjoyable seeing your interchange! I’m learning a lot 🥰
@RZRSN75
@RZRSN75 Жыл бұрын
Great video, great couple and great adventure. I’ve been living in France for 17 years and I totally see your point of view about it. One comment from experience, the bureaucracy for a foreigner arriving in France can be really daunting. Some basic necessities that in America or even Portugal (I lived there would for 2 years as well) would be so simple - such as getting a phone line installed, opening a bank account, renting an apartment, etc - are indeed super hard when you first arrive in France. For me it seemed that they over complicate things so much for no reason. Later I understood there were always reasons that as a foreigner I just could not be expected to know. And it is not entirely to do with language, although speaking French helps, I know French Canadians who went thru similar pains as me. But I don’t want to scare you so let me add that once these initial processes are done and you are “in the system”, everything will work super well. So the really hard part is those first 6-12 months, but once that is done and you’ve understood why the rules are as they are and how they work, you will be able to navigate them and the bureaucracy will become at worst a minor inconvenience. So stick with France because it’s really worth it 🇫🇷☺️
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Great post, thanks so much!! ❤️
@anniebee6568
@anniebee6568 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been following your adventure since the beginning of this channel and you guys are such genuine and transparent people. It’s refreshing to finally see people sharing real life in this era of so much ‘pretending to be perfect all the time’ world. You are an inspiring couple. I’m french Canadian and yes french is not an easy language to learn (but your latin roots will help for sure !). (French) Continuez votre travail remarquable à partager avec nous vos aventures de voyage inspirantes avec autant d’authenticité. C’est toujours un plaisir de regarder vos vidéos. 😊
@carolined4546
@carolined4546 Жыл бұрын
Je suis completement d'accord avec ton message! 👏
@walideg5304
@walideg5304 8 ай бұрын
French for people who speaks Spanish and English will be easy. In 6 months they will be fluent if they make enough effort and I am sure it will be ok.
@ananeto81
@ananeto81 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your 33rd anniversary. Lots of love from Portugal
@roxcchica1977
@roxcchica1977 Жыл бұрын
I love these videos! Thank you for sharing this with us!
@nenasneedle
@nenasneedle 9 ай бұрын
Cecilia, I love seeing you on the videos. Thanks for sharing.
@MariaJMcMahon
@MariaJMcMahon 6 ай бұрын
Beautiful conversation! Full of wisdom, insights and emotional maturity.
@Bluesky1ification
@Bluesky1ification Жыл бұрын
Keep up the good work! Love you`re NEW! online Travel platform!. Glad you and your wife found home
@josefinacoloma8922
@josefinacoloma8922 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your anniversary and on having found your next place. France is awesome! And today they did great in the World Cup!
@evepatchett8481
@evepatchett8481 Жыл бұрын
So beautiful to hear you both talk realistically and lovingly about your marriage and adventures. I wish you both well as you continue in your journey through life.
@sarakelleher3590
@sarakelleher3590 Жыл бұрын
Well hello. Really loving your channel. I started watching your son long ago. It brings insight as to getting out of your comfort zone. My husband is 60 me 55. Fear drives him alot, not taking chances. I give you credit for selling your home and being brave enough to take this journey 🥰✈🇫🇷
@sherrywarren-biers3327
@sherrywarren-biers3327 Жыл бұрын
Hello from rural Nova Scotia, Canada! Only recently started to watch your videos.....love you both and what you are willing to share about your exciting new life adventures. Especially appreciate the more personal communications around your relationship with each other. 😊😊😊
@yabette
@yabette Жыл бұрын
love watching your journey- so inspiring!
@lifewithlovie
@lifewithlovie Жыл бұрын
This was lovely to watch. I truly enjoyed your commentary on marriage & travel. Love your family 💜
@jamescurtis6217
@jamescurtis6217 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your top quality videos that work on so many levels. I`m an 80 year old Englishman living in Czechia but dreaming of France. Love how you work at your marriage and how you are able to articulate your feelings and ideas; wish that I had had access to your relationship philosophy from 40 or 50 years ago. C`est la vie.😘
@mirnaaldrete2909
@mirnaaldrete2909 Жыл бұрын
Love love the way things are going for you guys 👌
@marinakesselman9842
@marinakesselman9842 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, such a sincere dialog, very helpful! Happy 33rd anniversary, you look wonderful, such an amazing couple. Great that you like France, please keep us posted about your further journey. Good luck with finding your new real home!
@Bangle9
@Bangle9 Жыл бұрын
Delighted with your video-how well you work together and grow together.
@lettydelossantos6298
@lettydelossantos6298 Жыл бұрын
You both are such an inspiring couple. My husband and I have also been married 33 years. Please continue these insightful and reflective conversations. Awesome content.
@JoseOchoa-dw9vk
@JoseOchoa-dw9vk Жыл бұрын
Love your videos. I get excited when I see a new one and watch them with my wife. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@judywilson7059
@judywilson7059 Жыл бұрын
Love watching you two and your adventures! God Bless and may he keep you safe in your travels and new life you love.
@e5013
@e5013 Жыл бұрын
What a great conversation! And what a beautiful and mature couple you are!! Congratulations!
@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger
@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger Жыл бұрын
It’s a blessing watching couples work together, who love each other. You’re amazing & inspirational! ❤Congratulations!
@vsejejasno7836
@vsejejasno7836 Жыл бұрын
You guys are amazing, such a rolemodels also for you people, couples, thank you!
@followyourbliss973
@followyourbliss973 Жыл бұрын
All the discomfort/stress is part of the learning process. Congrats for getting out of your comfort zone...especially for Cecilia! Enjoy the adventure!
@joandelise145
@joandelise145 Жыл бұрын
I love your honesty! I hope you find your forever home in France!💕💕💕
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT
@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@vervideosgiros1156
@vervideosgiros1156 Жыл бұрын
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Hi! I didn't understand why it didn't work in Portugal. You made a video where you shown a bunch of places and the reasons why it didn't work out for you. You made another one where you seem to be happy with the move but in the end you said that it didn't work out. Sure, you are entitled to your opinion, of course, but I didn't understand why and I would like to understand...
@hassavocadoaddictsanonymous
@hassavocadoaddictsanonymous Жыл бұрын
They said overall it just didn’t feel like ‘home’
@vervideosgiros1156
@vervideosgiros1156 Жыл бұрын
@@hassavocadoaddictsanonymous Thank you. Yes, I know that but he was more specific about other places than with my country.
@LifeinGlow
@LifeinGlow Жыл бұрын
So happy for you guys 🌻 and have been waiting for an update! 😊 You are inspiring to many people and love this deep dive into sharing your feelings and thoghts on the journey. Much love ❤ and can't wait to see what's next ;).
@gsmith3759
@gsmith3759 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing - I look forward to hearing about the journey to French residency.
@PattyAubin
@PattyAubin Жыл бұрын
Catching up on your story.. I have to say it was most enjoyable to witness how much love and respect you have for each other. And coming from a french canadian province, I can already see how well you will blend into France and the culture. Very happy for you both! :)
@baehrfam
@baehrfam Жыл бұрын
Really happy to see your newest video, thank you for sharing so much of you both with all of us, and giving us a glimpse of what a healthy, balanced, honest and loving marriage should be. You have clearly grown together as opposed to growing apart. Also, it seems there is a lot to love about France! And it seems like a place I could call home as well. Looking forward to what is next for you both! Xx
@doodleacademy
@doodleacademy Жыл бұрын
I just signed up for your new course...excited to learn more about collaborative trip planning from someone who has been there! Watching this video, it seems that the two of you have a solid friendship. Being good friends with your spouse will help get you through life struggles. My hubs and I (married 33 years too!) are good friends and we genuinely like being together. We would like to (someday) do what you two are doing, travel and have adventures in Europe. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Really appreciate your honesty. Best⭐
@HapaHome
@HapaHome Жыл бұрын
I truly admire your bravery to make this huge life change and adventurous spirit exploring other countries. I enjoy your beautiful cinematic videos but also love these simple conversations to reflect on your experiences together as a couple.
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