Women DO NOT Have to ENDURE SH** for the Sake of a Relationship

[@BurbNBougie]

The Black Church Got Black Women in Relationship HE-Double Hockey Sticks| kzbin.info/www/bejne/pKaWhZSvmtqqptU

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Church is heavy on the Propaganda and Programming. Our sista spoke from her whole heart.💯. This should be a series

[@Nikki-ks6wi]

The Bible says alot about men who do honor marriage and don’t take care of their wives are an abomination to Gods kingdom. Most churches just mention being submissive and don’t teach these men to be real Godly men instead just prideful fools who want us to idolize them

[@soppres7406]

@burbnbougie, you hit the nail on the head when you said slave owners taught slaves that they have to suffer and endure slavery to get to heaven. BP still carry this mentality that you have to suffer and endure to get to rest, relaxation, and luxury. May the day come swiftly when BP learn to work to eat instead of work to stay alive.

[@thegreylady7797]

According to men: Men being faithful = perfect + unattainable, a fantasy Women being faithful = expected + will come with pain, embarrassment, suffering

[@carlahaiduk1878]

Best description of the situation

[@ChrisTEAna43]

Facts!!!!

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

They have had US under this Demonic Propaganda for way to long👹🤛🏾😒😑

[@vanaphill2454]

💯

[@meowy4720]

And the guy at 4:00 had the gall to say that his marriage put him through hell, like we're really supposed to believe that. No, mthrfckr, your wife goes through hell... you just ride free.

[@cuteyalexia]

A man who truly loves you won't allow you to endure anything. I hate that women are conditioned to bear so many burdens.

[@ladybug3380]

A lot of women don’t know what true love is sadly.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

It's demonic 👹🤛🏾💯

[@cuteyalexia]

@@ladybug3380 This! Listening to how women talk all my life, I came to the realization that we need to find true love within ourselves first. It's cliché, but it's the truth. When we take care of our own selves, treat ourselves with kindness, work on improving ourselves just for ourselves, we don't are less likely to tolerate any man that wants us to struggle. This is why so many women are choosing to be single. Only good-for-nothing dusty men complain about women not wanting to go through struggle love and sadly, it seems that they're in the majority.

[@Bobisworld]

@@kayshawnsimmons5585yes it truly is demonic . Many people don’t even get how demonic it really is

[@FreeBirdee]

Men are incapable of love. I wish more women understood this. Love is a concept that is out of reach for the majority of them. They care for you out of obligation/duty and ownership. Their duty/obligation to you is mainly based on whether they can claim ownership over your agency. This is why a lot of them stop supporting their children once the relationship ends - it effectively ends their duty/obligation to you.

[@madalice5134]

When a man says, "What do I know? I'm just a happily married man." I want to ask his wife if she's happily married to the man who said he put her through he'll to get to HIS happiness. IDGAF of you're happy, dude. I want to know if she's happy and how she feels about the hell she lived through.

[@tajr.2650]

I alwaysssss question these men. Don’t trust a single one of ‘em when they talk about their marriage.

[@smfarrie2943]

Exactly. He’s trying to justify what he put his wife through.

[@unicorn73212]

They don't get to decide how women think or who makes them happy if we're being real honest I've actually never heard a woman say her husband makes her happy and if they did the only reason they were happy is because her husband was rich or famous and she could afford to be at home and lay around by the pool all day. If men made women happy then we would all be living this way after we got married especially if men were forced to support women again and if we really look at How stupid men really are they thought the patriarchy benefited them but it actually didn't it put them in a situation were they had to work two jobs like women to support there families and I actually didn't grow up in a generation like that in my family both my mom and dad worked. Some women have no clue what it's like to live like a princess so when they speak on a small majority of wealthy women it's almost laughable because if they really did ban women's right we wouldn't be sitting at work right now my ex bf would probably be forced to work and pay my hotel bill sense the relationship was toxic and I'd probably have to stay in it till they found me a more suitable provider.

[@sg5720]

I think he sayiyng HE went through hell with his woman to get to the happiness him and his wife is at. I’m a happily married woman, but we have been through bad times, but we learned together and grow and don’t REPEAT the mistakes that caused those bad times. The problems in relationships and marriage is people constantly making bad decisions and hurting the person they claim to love over and over and therefore no man and woman should “be endure” . No relationship is perfect but no man and woman deserves to go through hell just to have status of having a relationship or marriage. Being with someone should not hurt 90% of the time. 🙏🏽

[@nalignmentwlifehealinglife]

True. Their wives happiness is not a priority.., it's not even on the list. The man's happiness is the priority.

[@Dnvrluv01]

I was in a tiktok live last night and EVERY man told the women to STOP complaining and think about how they can become better wives. They told older women to STOP advising younger women to get their own money and education. They blamed older women's bitterness as the reason they are telling these young women not to invest in a man /relationship. They said we are making young women's lives lonely and not worth living. It was the biggest gaslight and shame fest I listened to in some time. They had the older women talking down to and shaming the single women. They were blaming the abused women. They even blamed the women for the rampant child abandonment. They want us to change. They have NO intention of becoming better anything.

[@BurbNBougie]

I do not listen to "them" for longer than a minute or 2 unless I'm getting content. Most times their "advice" is along the lines of making us ensure. Eff that

[@Ourown311]

Wow, I sure hope that is the last time that rhetoric ever gets any airplay

[@Dnvrluv01]

@BurbNBougie I was honestly shocked. I do not last long in those spaces long. Being in there for 5-10 min was enough.

[@Dnvrluv01]

@user-ol9bo2ei1r Idk how long it lasted. I had exclusively seen dancing djs, ppl with singing bowls, food prep, streets, highways, etc. on tiktok live. It's sad that they are using an app my teen nephews are using for dancing and singing to berate ppl.

[@mamat1213]

Yep. And THIS is why many women are opting out. Public shame (or whatever they think will deter us from staying single) Isn’t enough to willingly deal with that mess!

[@evildoesnotsleep-x2b]

Christianity is inherently misogynistic but that's a conversation people are not ready to have

[@samuelzulu9731]

Not quite

[@ShilgenVens]

I wish women would actually sit down and read the Bible instead of having it curated to them. The Bible is deeply misogynistic. Stop supporting systems of your own oppression women!

[@SuckerPunch92]

Definitely not

[@sabrinamystified]

Hinduism as well.

[@maisanascimento5441]

Most religions are

[@EMC1986Hobi]

Religion is abusive. I wish women would wake up.

[@sarahrobertson634]

Right???

[@RuminatingRaptor]

Right? How many women have suffered because they were indoctrinated? Then they get blamed by other women, for staying, even in this comments section. I’m disgusted.

[@faythnhim3863]

The reason is because religion is unholy but many have been taught to believe the opposite! Religion comes from the spirit of religiosity! While Christianity comes from the Holy Spirit/God! There are fake Christians who are religious because they proclaim to be followers of Christ but they don't possess the Holy Spirit but the spirit of religiosity, an unholy spirit, not of God!! I pray this message reaches whoever needs to know this, including Ms. Burbs! 🙏💯

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@faythnhim3863 Christianity hates women.

[@filmadcamp1512]

@@RuminatingRaptor Racist men and women were also indoctrinated. We not excusing being indoctrinated as a means for an excuse.

[@michelledavidson1781]

You don't develop the "fruits of the spirit" with a covert narcissist. You develop PTSD. You develop becoming the perfect partner to someone who doesn't care about you. You lose your identity and become the devil living in his ego that you are with. There is no, choose better. Treat a narcissist as they treat you. Stop caring about those who don't care!

[@K.desharah]

She probably want to be with him probably in death. Sad to say

[@barbaraburbey7654]

"Fruits of the Spirit" are rotten. Compost them.

[@33-vertebrae]

"You develop PTSD" Facts.

[@NewBlooom]

True, but change narcissism to -> abuse. There's no point to shame mental illness here.

[@thefeminineeye]

The first line gagged me.

[@myheart715]

Understand that a lot of major religions still see women as incubators. Ladies, remember that YOU have the divine power of creation. YOU get to decide if a man has a bloodline.

[@o_oLISSo_o]

My aunt has been married for over 60 years she is in her late 80s, as is her husband. She endured and suffered and is still at her old age enduring and suffering. He beat her and mentally abused her for DECADES often in front their children. He refused to contribute to household bills, so she was left to pay for everything; the rent, food, and energy bills etc all while raising 3 kids. And obviously she did all the cooking and cleaning, still does. Nobody knows what he did with all his earnings. He STILL verbally abuses her even now. He hates her. He is a wicked man even his family; sisters brothers told her to leave him but she is very religious and thinks it goes against god. So she endured. He wore this once vibrant feisty woman down. She is nowhere what she used to be. She and her kids are now just praying that he dies before her so that she can experience peace and some kind happiness without him before she too passes. I will NEVER endure or suffer like this. If it means I end up in hell so be it.

[@Ourown311]

Ha! Your aunt is in hell now

[@Redskywinter204]

He never had 💩to begin with🙄💯

[@manifest2203]

God never leads us to suffering. They have twisted everything God said and unfortunately indoctrinated some women to think like this.

[@fantym-1]

She was conditioned, starting from birth, to put up with all his BS; that divorce is wrong. Her family of origin was probly in that same model & church, with the primature of god, sealed the social conditioning. I'm 10 yrs younger than gramma & I was almost 20 before I could open an account on my own recognizance (w/o a male cosignor). She was born w/2 strikes against her.

[@blueee6306]

Religion always makes women vulnerable.I hope also this lady can taste peace 🩵

[@tynaangelici3023]

Being single is so empowering

[@laurennkundimana173]

Amen to that 🙏. Im only 22 and i haven't been in a relationship and its going to stay like that.

[@tynaangelici3023]

@@laurennkundimana173 Good for you!😊These men out here are toxic. Do you. Build your own empire get your own bag.

[@maricelg777]

Exactly ❤

[@swvolleyball9137]

So when a woman suffers for a relationship, it’s what she’s supposed to do. But when a man goes through hell fighting for a marriage, it’s him “settling”.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

It's the Demonic hypocrisy for me👹🤛🏾

[@sg5720]

So many men are so selfish. They can’t see past their own nose. 🤷🏽‍♀️😞

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

Males mostly fight for marriages if they have nothing going on and are broke. They need women as resources.Other than that they will leave the second they are unhappy.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

@@somebodycomelistentothispo7217 I say all the time. Males treat women like batteries

[@optimalscore]

Boy math! 🧮🤪

[@EC-yl7xk]

I keep telling all women to make their own money and be financially independent, instead of looking for a rich husband. If you can go to school and get a degree, do it. Women need all the protection in the world. When men depend on women for money, women don't abuse them, rarely to you hear about women abusing men financially.

[@joylastname3035]

In those dynamics where the woman is the top earner or breadwinner, she has to walk on eggshells around him. She's not allowed to complain because he'll use her earnings power as ammunition. Her: "can you pick your clothes off the floor,pls?" Him: "you're talking to me like this because you make more money than i do." Her concerns, no matter how valid are challenged with, "is it because you make more money than I do." On the flip side, when he makes more, he will still use it as ammunition. Every concern of hers is met with, "I make more money", "I pay all or most of the bills (how dare you ask me to load the dishwasher?" "I pay the rent (why can't I cheat on you without you complaining like it's a big deal)?

[@EC-yl7xk]

@@joylastname3035 spot on, it's never safe for women.

[@ragingrn8342]

That Mormon lady's testimony was heartbreaking. Laboring for love really is for suckers.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Yup!😹😹😹😹

[@mrttamara]

I know, and she is so pretty. What an evil man.

[@cielo082]

How was she not rewarded more by the courts??

[@meowy4720]

​@@cielo082courts are bullsh*t and are biased against women

[@asiabrew81]

​@@cielo082 I've seen some of her other tiktoks, get ready dude was a BASTARD. So initially, her ex was ordered to pay $3600/mo in alimony and child support because he had a high paying 6 figure job. He got himself fired from that job and the court adjusted the payment to $1640/ mo for 6 years. He made ONE payment a month after their divorce and then the next month "decided he just wasn't going to pay alimony anymore." Fast forward to the pandemic and Jennie catches COVID is looking like she's at death's door. So her ex goes to the court to eliminate all alimony going forward and take full custody of the children since she was sick and dying! So unfortunately she was so TIRED of this man's abuse and games (while she thinks she is DYING) that she signed a paper to "relieve all past arrears and get rid of alimony going forward". What she didn't give up was custody of her kids in case she didn't die. So she signed off on missing out on $116,440 because of this man's gaming of her health and the system to get out of paying what he damn well should have been paying because she solely invested in him and their family for 24 years.

[@married2purpose]

Its demonic to want to oppress someome you claim to love. Scary

[@BellaGoodieDoritos]

💯💯💯💯

[@KidPoe]

Ever wonder why demons are depicted as male and angels are depicted as female in art… it’s almost as if they know most men are going to hell and women to heaven.

[@sabrinamystified]

​@@KidPoebut these men are so arrogant that they do not see that something is wrong with them.

[@txspacemom765]

The most abuse I received, up until I was 21, was from the Church- physical, emotional, mental, financial, all at the hands of MEN leading the Church and women allowing them to hurt me. Nope. I don't turn the other cheek, I speak up now.

[@AgnieszkaStachowiak-u1d]

Not many people knows but "turn the other cheek" does not actually mean that you should allow people to abuse you. In acient times when a man were offended by a slave he could slap them without consequences. By allowing sb to slap the other cheek you demand to be treated as an equal humain being and then you get a right to fight back when you feel that the attacker's perception is wrong and you never offended them.

[@Strega4646]

Im so sorry I also went through the same thing as you did. christianity has been grooming and gaslighting me to marry a creepy old bastard to be his sex slavr and baby incubator. They would punish me everytime I speak up about it. Forcing me to sacrifice my lifr and freedom. Left christianity and now I'm WICCAN.

[@mikochild2]

Men: marriage is hard. You have to endure. Woman: talks about her suffering and trauma. Man: should have chose better. Same Man: Man she cheated on you? She made you feel bad in some way? She nagged and complained? Leave asap. Which is it?

[@sabrinamystified]

They should just come out of the closet and get married to each other. They should leave women alone.

[@inprogress5210]

They want women to be angels when they're devil's incarnate and drag us through hell. Guess what? Angels don't live in hell. I'm glad there are discussions about this. My parents tried to get me to go back but I just can't see myself there.

[@Ourown311]

Don't go back. They want everyone to be miserable like them

[@manifest2203]

Exactly. It prevents women from being healthy and also prevents women from raising good children- especially if she had kids without financial security of your own or if she stays in that toxic mar1age.

[@joylastname3035]

Every time, it is "I need a woman who will be my peace." Sir, you're a chaos agent wearing human skin. You can't expect peace when you're the demon wrecking all these havoc and then expecting her to have infinite pools of patience, acceptance, understanding, and goodwill for your stroke and heart disease inducing existence.

[@maryinsanfrancisco]

I feel so sad for @lifetaketwo. She was done dirty not just by her husband but by the legal system as well. She helped her husband build their wealth, she is ENTITLED to part of it.

[@natcl9974]

I do too, I tell others her story as a precautionary tell, but it seems like many women are aware of this especially the younger ladies, most want no parts… while men think it’s older bitter women the reality is life gave some harsh lessons and people are attentive to repeated behaviors and actions by these very men… women don’t even have to say a word now, we just see and hear and it’s a wrap

[@edunlap6594]

I wonder if there have been any women in the legal or something that reach out to her or made videos regarding advice for what she can do now?

[@shakwon619]

They don't want you to go hell with them. They want you to go for them because they aren't there and they aren't suffering.

[@Ourown311]

Exactly! This comment needs to be pinned because religion is nothing more than man sacrificing women and their own children, thinking god will ignire their sins by taking the blood of others on their behalf.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Indeed. It would appear men are born into a personal hell.

[@talkingtochapri]

Black and asian women needs to stop doing struggle love and struggle life. It's not benefiting anyone, and kids suffer because parents poor selection and choices 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@brizy___]

This must be your first video because it’s literally ALL women. Most women would rather stay in struggle love to avoid the public backlash. Just like she said, women have been taught to endure bullshit from birth 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@jojoone1099]

What kind of struggle love do you feel Asian women are indoctrinated to accept as normal?

[@akiram6609]

Speaking as someone of Asian descent, marriage is struggle love. Toxic patriarchy is entrenched in Asia. Women are supposed to put up with infidelity and abuse. It’s expected.

[@elenawalker517]

@@jojoone1099 I have no tic-tok insta fb just on KZbin it’s documented, Women are sharing their stories. I know I KNOW Black Women this applies to us but it’s honestly not just us.

[@elenawalker517]

@@jojoone1099 and don’t let me started on Amish and Mormon Women. Lady its Women period. (If you knew me , everything is an especially Black Women on the end if that)

[@studiosandi]

Sadly, it isn't just Christianity. It is also Islam coming for black women.

[@RoseMidas]

Christianity, Islam and Catholicism is all part of Judaism. Their root is patriarchy and none of them are rooted in spirituality that preceded it, which acknowledged multiple Gods and Women as Gods as well. They just used some of the stories.

[@MrsDazl]

I honestly think religion of any kind has little to do with this mentality. Pick up your history book of choice from any country (especially if it's an ancient text) and you will see men writing accounts of themselves or other men making terrible decisions for their country and family, usually as a result of poor self discipline or poor gratification control. They keep telling us these bad behaviors are "in a man's nature" 🤔 so let's believe them

[@talkingtochapri]

11:16 this is exactly why married male are richer than single lonely male because they are ripping the benefits of women's hard earned money, free access to her body, free surrogate mother without paying 150k, free house chores labor meanwhile women getting nothing in return. I don't know who raised these women but if a male isn't buying you a house, car, giving you money, atleast something he isn't worthy or getting married or having kids with. And don't give up on your dreams just for a man, man will come and go but you need to have a job or a business to pay your bills 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@femmefatale71]

Not only that also her sexual life force energy !! Most women have no idea who we are or our inate DIVINE given power !!

[@food4thought692]

And it has to literally be so much money for it to even start making fiscal sense for a woman to be in the situation. 90%+ of marriages don’t make sense for the woman. It’s a net negative.

[@ellegmye]

Men are the REAL gold diggers

[@SuperFunJess]

God told man to LOVE his wife but they're abusing us and treating us like garbage(they're clearly disobeying God). Women are told to respect the husband which we go above and beyond. The problem literally is all 100% the man being at fault.

[@Greenplanet949]

I had a psychology professor in college and he said he had to give up marriage counseling because most of the marriage problems were caused by men being selfish, abusive jerks. He would call out guys in class for their stupid, entitled opinions. This was 40 years ago. Nothing has changed in man world, but women are waking up.

[@HomeAtOahu]

I agree with this so much! When a woman asks me "how did I know it was time to get a divorce?" I tell them, the minute you start asking that question, it might time.

[@nursemaggie2321]

Once a person mentions "proverbs 31 woman" they lost me already. They're negotiating for a slave, not a woman. I don't even listen further,i don't care who they are.

[@venda1008]

African women especially we have bragging contests in who endured most in her marriage and they wear it like a badge of honor.many will never get out of this mindset due to mental conditioning through religion,culture,tradition,society

[@mavismensah271]

You are right. I used to hear my mum talk about how my grandma suffered like a badge of honor. So she decided to follow in that fucked up footsteps.

[@ogolden8315]

That’s slowly changing. The younger generation of African women (especially if they are financially independent) are not putting up years of abuse. They are leaving these men. That’s why many African men are complaining about “feminism” and “Western ways” 😂😂😂

[@Michelle-1133]

My parents are Nigerian and my mother divorced my dad because she was not going to be treated anyhow! Very proud of her because she was shamed for it by some of the people back home, but she didn’t give a damn lol. She never remarried and is a very joyful and happy person. She is now living a very luxurious lifestyle that her kids (including me) pays for🤣

[@sg5720]

SAD. Men in this world know how powerful women are so for centuries men have made it their mission to suppress, and oppress, and control women. Sad how fragile and how little men think of themselves. They literally have to hurt women and down play them to feel better about who they are as men. Men simply don’t know their worth. 😔

[@Ourown311]

@@Michelle-1133 my mom did the same thing, I'm so proud of her.

[@meredithr9824]

I am so embarrassed about the stuff i tolerated in my marriage for the sake of god. Sending both those men packing was the best thing i ever did. Religeon is so full of bad ideas how to live your life

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Same here💯🤡🤛🏾👹🤛🏾

[@mrod87]

I just got in an argument with a male friend who told me the bob Marley movie was amazing, i told him it was disgusting. We were lead to believe he was polyamorous when really he treated his wife terribly and never saw his kids. Actually most his kids don’t even know him, they know him the same way i know him. They his music and legacy (and we know historical figure legacy is often made up) I’m of these games. He then tells me his parents are still married they are in their 80s and he believes in marriage. I said “did ur parents have a nice marriage” he’s no they fought like dogs, my dad treated my mom terrible, but here they are in their old age and they have one another. 😢😢😢😢😢

[@tajr.2650]

Ugh!!

[@OGfromQueens]

Chile Rita took a bullet in deh head fi he and he still used fi put she outta di house fi matey dem!!! *Kissing my teeth mad loud 😒

[@Callimo]

Yikes! How many Silent generation/Boomer generation marriages are only held together by a trauma bond and sunk cost fallacies?

[@toyaJM]

This is why I refuse to watch the movie because they never tell the full story he was horrible to Rita had her raising kids by other women etc and in the end put her out like why are we celebrating anything other than the music

[@33-vertebrae]

All the famous men in history that people love were terrible in some way. Many of them rapists or otherwise sexually immoral. It's very telling.

[@shaolinqueen3684]

Them: The Bible does/does not say that. Me: Shut up fool, you don't even read!

[@tajr.2650]

Funny they miss the MOST important message of the Bible. They love to pick out the worst parts but miss the real message of LOVE.

[@shaypope4732]

Heavy on the don't read or they read at a 5th grade level

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

That Part💯😹😹😹🤡🤛🏾👹🤛🏾

[@parklady4233]

All of society tells women that to be in a relationship is to be forever compromising, loving even though the man does whatever. It is like you don’t love a man unless you are able to endure his mess.

[@joylastname3035]

Yep! They keep telling us the proof of being a "worthy woman" is only evident in how much crap you can withstand

[@natcl9974]

@@joylastname3035I told men I didn’t care for marriage when I was younger and the look they gave me was interesting; like I had two heads. Now I’m older I wonder if the look was actually “I can’t dangle marriage like a carrot with her, what can I do to play her”

[@nichaalmeida983]

​@@natcl9974💯💯💯

[@DeannaBaileytheRavensFan]

Celebrating suffering for the sake of a relationship is psychotic, not inspirational... And I'm saying this as a married woman...

[@numbness97]

I'm an āsexuāl, hetero female. It might be better for me to get a wife who's similar to me. Just another faithful roommate who wants to share household responsibilities and the burdens of life together, with a few cuddles here and there 💀.

[@fantym-1]

Go fer it

[@A.D.I.I.D.A]

❤

[@annah5507]

If you're looking for an equal partner u are sort of already looking for a woman

[@bec7080]

Imperfect is my husband is kind of shitty in the morning before he really wakes up. He doesn't talk for the first 10-15 minutes he's awake unless you want to hear something grumpy come out of his mouth. *not abusive* grumpy Imperfect is me having too many cans on my beside table because I don't take them to recycling every day. Imperfect isn't "when he gets mad he slaps me" or "when she gets mad she threatens to cheat on me.

[@oblivionslight1346]

Wish I could like this a thousand times. We as humans have to stop putting up with this societal BS.

[@evergreenforestwitch]

Yes a deliberate act of deception and betrayed like cheating is not a man being "imperfect", it's a man being entitled and to the core of him not gaf about his SO. People are imperfect and we need grace for our annoying habits, as you described, but choosing to be cruel and to take actions that harm your SO and family is not an example of imperfection.

[@sabrinamystified]

​@@evergreenforestwitchyou described psychopaths and narcissists. They literally do these things.

[@evergreenforestwitch]

@@sabrinamystified obviously. What's your point?

[@kayleslielouise1180]

It’s so crazy how we won’t actually ever hold men accountable, rather, we will just have to constantly find ways around their horrible behavior.

[@Greenplanet949]

Yes, I would watch my mother “manage” my father’s temper and constant demands.

[@elenawalker517]

Once Women stop, allowing organized religion or rather stand up to this, it won’t matter if men change. Once we get over our fears whatever that may be. They won’t have anymore tools to use over us

[@sabrinamystified]

The biggest tool they can use is money. Even families give their daughters away (for marriage) to the abusers if they are rich.

[@mikochild2]

Didn’t realize that that man loving her, liking her, and finding her attractive would determine her children's futures. And this why some of us prioritize education. This is why some of us choose to be gold diggers and leave that man if he goes broke.

[@tishr9670]

I couldnt imagine asking for money to buy tampons. Phuq that.

[@joylastname3035]

An indian woman I worked with was in this situation. She said her husband didn't give her permission to have an account. Her paycheck was deposited into his account, and she had to ask to be given money to buy even her essentials.

[@MelanatedHomesteadher]

​@joylastname3035 😮wtf

[@ravenmoon4819]

@@joylastname3035HELL. NO.

[@joylastname3035]

She said their church leader or something called her to give up the business. Who wants to bet that it was the husband who reported her for being "unwifely" and doing things like having common sense and a business acumen? You'd be shocked (or not) by lengths a man who is jealous of the woman in his life would go to "put her in her place."

[@DeannaBaileytheRavensFan]

My thoughts exactly.

[@lorenam8028]

Agree!!! All that BS "relationships are supposed to be hard, you have to push through it", what the hell??? If a relationship makes you feel like crap, that's not a badge of honor!

[@manifest2203]

They want women to push through it. But not men. Everytime they say that to me I say that yes men should accept the woman ch3ating, accept the w1fe overspending and accept the d3bts without question and accept if she doesn’t make any f00d for him and 0ffers no s3x to him. That shuts th3m up.

[@natcl9974]

When I felt like crap at a job, I’d walk out, and I’m supposed to endure a marriage 😂😂😂 good luck. If they are actually to make it so no fault marriages aren’t available anymore or you can’t divorce if you’re pregnant, I’d just walk away to family and call it separated, because ain’t no way

[@sabrinamystified]

​​@@natcl9974or use arsenic in tea like the women in the good ole days

[@soulanstreets222]

I find it odd that they are quick to mention the Proverbs 31 wife....but completely ignore the fact that that woman was married to a wealthy man that could afford staff that she delegated the domestic and child rearing tasks to as the lady of the house. They also ignore the fact that at no point in proverbs 31 does it talk about her being abused mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, or psychologically.

[@Its.giselle234]

People just make up stuff at this point twisting Gods words to suit their messed up agenda.

[@HaughtyHedonist]

The Last Segment From The White Lady With The Pink Hoodie Was A Whole Sermon 🩷 Every Single Time I'm Tempted By A Man He Reminds Me Why I'm Better Off Closing My Legs && Keeping Away From Them

[@OGfromQueens]

I felt her and am glad she finally found PEACE

[@ChrisTEAna43]

Amen!

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Same here💯🤡🤛🏾👹🤛🏾

[@ET.Montana]

Felt this in my soul!! I have had enough of Men and their BS. I was terrorized for 10 freaking years, now me and my children are happy and at peace for the first time. I'm never going back, EVER!!👏❤️

[@HaughtyHedonist]

@@ET.Montana I'm Sorry You Had To Deal With A Decade Of Degeneracy 🫂 Hopefully Things Will Be Much Better For You && The Chirren In 2024 💖

[@wick3dwords]

Struggle love is out. I cant imagine i'm going to be proud to list out the many ways in which I was scammed and taken advantage of an order to earn that coveted title of "wife".

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

-these males are Demonic👹🤛🏾

[@dymondlegss5398]

No longer a believer. But when I was married and my ex husband was in the streets, keeping secrets, hiding money..I thought I had to endure. My sister said, "Is this really what God wants for you? I thought God wanted you to have abundance and joy". Two weeks later I put him out and shortly after filed for divorce.

[@barbaraburbey7654]

Religion truly does poison every thing.

[@nichaalmeida983]

When twisted for people's selfish purposes, then heck ya! I truly believe a society without religion, would be far worse. Fear of God n afterlife judgment has honestly stopped Lord knows how many wicked people from going full metal jacket and commit even more egregious crimes and other acts against their fellow humans. Just look at how many bad minded people find God in jail after they have had nothing but time to reflect on their vile crimes. Now imagine the absolute chaos prison guards would have to deal with even more if there was no fear of God from some people. They obviously don't fear the justice system, so please let them have religion to reflect on and have a silver of hope for some kind of mild improvement on their brokenness.

[@barbaraburbey7654]

​@@nichaalmeida983Religion does not hold the corner market on ethics and morality. It is possible to be a decent human being without religion.

[@tinamenon1593]

Faith and Religion are entirely separate things. Once you see Faith as love and see the doctrine of Religion as man made political constructs, you will never see things the same way again.

[@gravityclarity]

Never trust men--not with your financial situation, not with your body--nothing!

[@Bri-nc8yp]

Yup some white woman Republican trusted her husband and had a struggle marriage. She endured 34 years of a toxic marriage but never left. All she did was go to her church to ask them to “pray over her marriage” How did that man repay her for years of her staying faithful and loyal ? He gave her HIV. She got diagnosed when she was turned down for life insurance. She was at AIDS diagnoses not even HIV. She had AIDS when she found out in 2019. With a low T-cell count of under 100. She lost 20 pounds and had all kinds of infections back to back. That’s what being a “ride and die” for a man gets you.

[@gravityclarity]

@@Bri-nc8yp that's so horrible! It's literally terrifying to trust a man. We literally risk life and limb trusting men.

[@flor9422]

I will never forget when my ex fiance said his mom was a saint (just like the lady in the video) because she stayed with her husband even when he cheated on her and treated her poorly (he was on a "bad mood " daily and yelled at everyone). Super Christian family. I definitely dodged a bullet! Now my ex is married and has a baby with the woman he cheated on me with hahaha

[@ladybug3380]

If every choice we make is wrong then we should stop choosing.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Exactly💯

[@NobodyImporttant]

More women need to hear this. All of this hits hard, and that last woman beautifully pointed out how the majority of religions don’t recognize women as being divine or ever being divine.

[@EloraSelah]

Mem isn't divine either. Both are creations of God who alone is holy n worthyof praise

[@S.A.White...]

Dude paid alimony ONCE and I bet hes still whining to all his friends about it.

[@sabrinamystified]

Cause he's a cheap person (mentally and spiritually)

[@ButterflyBree]

There's no honor or virtue in suffering in a relationship, in your familial relationships, these wack wss jobs, etc. If you show me twice that you don't respect me or value me, I'm exiting the relationship. I decided years ago to create my own heaven, Instead of waiting for "heaven' after you die.😒😒🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

[@Greenplanet949]

I read in Missouri it’s now illegal to get a divorce while pregnant. Solution: Don’t marry or better yet, give men a pass.

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

JFC...

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Its not that you cant even be a trad wife...but the contract needs to be written that there needs to be a 401k fund for her, a separate bank account with monthly allowance, separation payment agreements, etx. Its a biz and we've been treating it like a romantic partnership. Many middle eastern cultures have thus conversation between family embers during marrage megotiatiom- its not done in the west, but with this calbre of men, is now evidently necessary.

[@manifest2203]

Yes reality is most men cannot afford their sahws if the w1ves were paid actual salaries for the work they did.

[@miss_chelles1338]

🤯 Wow! This is what I've been lowkey thinking about earlier! 👏🏾👆🏾❤️‍🔥

[@sabrinamystified]

Yes. Unfortunately, I've come across foreign men (example - Indian) who are coming to Canada to find white women to exploit them, because these men literally say that white women are "easy".

[@mariag.8242]

Even men who don’t pray or go to church will haul out old religious ideas about why women are bad and should suffer. Catholic doctor telling me that the pain of menstruation and childbirth is god’s punishment for the original sin of the woman giving the man the apple. Had another guy tell me that all evil in the world was because of Eve. Completely no religion otherwise but he got so angry I thought he was going to pull his truck over, kill me and leave me in a field where I wouldn’t be found til harvest. I was terrified and just shut up and let him rave until we got back to town. Never saw him again. Trust your instincts, or if you don’t have instincts listen to that crazy anger and believe he means what he says.

[@HomeAtOahu]

It's also why I hate songs where the male singer says something about loving his woman because of how long she put up with him... Gtfoh

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

YES! It's demonic Propaganda 👹🤛🏾

[@agc1161]

Forreal it's so cringe & outright disgusting, the conditioning in music of all eras. Smfh! Struggle love is NOT it

[@shantavanee]

Best part of waking up is BurbnBougie in my cup! ☕️

[@BurbNBougie]

💗💗☕☕

[@tracey892]

😂😂

[@shantavanee]

@@BurbNBougie it’s true! You are now apart of my morning routine! Luv you queen 💛

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

😍🧐🍿☕💯

[@Nope.54321]

THIS COMMENT! Old School!! 😂😂😂

[@peacefreedom4930]

Long suffering is not one of the fruits of the spirit. Patience and long suffering is not the same thing. Plus long suffering isn’t for abuse and infidelity.

[@deestupi]

They didn't tell you these things about having your own financial security because the society you were in designed it that way.

[@nhvkuy4675]

Christianity, in general, romanticises suffering "during the earthly life." And women, as always, get the shortest stick possible in this case, too (or should I say, especially in this case)

[@Calcium-mn9eq]

I feel so bad for the woman in the car and women who've been in similar circumstances. Life has truly been so unfair to women.

[@maco9324]

Yeah, I don't do religion or BS from men in general. I don't even do female friends who are manipulative in keeping peace in my life. I'm enjoying who I am and not giving it up for anyone.

[@tammyn18]

🎯💯Live your life!!

[@gregzgurl2004]

Why I became agnostic…thank you for this important work!

[@mamat1213]

5:24 THIS changed my life. Once I let go of the fear AND made PEACE with being single for the rest of my life if I don’t have a healthy, loving, safe relationship, my whole perspective shifted. For YEARS I internalized this bs and I was distraught waiting for “My Turn” as Reesa heartbreakingly said. That is so real! I regret not coming to this space sooner! I’m still mildly religious but I dont believe in many of the doctrines bc I see the destruction, the pain and stagnation it causes in people’s lives

[@samyuktaashokkrishnan]

People get so mad at me when I talk about the importance of financial autonomy but it’s videos like that woman’s that keep me going! I’m gonna keep educating women and am not gonna be quiet! I’m gonna keep going!

[@__gemoftheeast]

I let it be known that not only do I put me first, but you will be REMOVED from my life if you ever disrepect me or disturb my peace. That goes for platonic relationships too.

[@eveharris30]

This is Christianity! Proving yourself through suffering. Being "Long Suffering," dying to yourself, endurance of tests, dying to yourself, and being a servant. Then you will be rewarded when you die. Im an Atheist, so no, thank you .

[@west913]

Facts! And as a former member of this cult, Christianity for everyone, but especially women = suffering.

[@nichaalmeida983]

​@west913 no need to disrespect other people's beliefs. What cult? I'm Christian and don't tolerate b.s from any man, happily dumped my ex while pregnant to save myself from extra stress on my pregnancy.That was over 16 years ago and still one of my proudest moments in life that I brag about!! Also, happily single AF and going on 4 yrs on denying any men access to my body, unless they check enough of my boxes, which is becoming more rare. Y'all love to disparage other folks believes based on the bad apples, but let men or society tell you that all Black women are ratchet Sukihanas n Chriseans Rock, then you get all offended by being thrown under the bus with weakest links and poor examples. I feel the same way, stop lumping everyone together based of their faith, period!! My mom divorced my abusive dad in the 80's n he was a provider. Then she did same with my cheating step-dad in the late 90's and he was an even bigger provider, who financially took care of all 3 of us kids that weren't even his. None of that mattered, she still left him!!!. There's plenty of examples of Christians who ARE NOT long suffering fools enduring hell on Earth for sake if religion or just to say we got a piece of "man" keeping the bed warm at night.

[@nichaalmeida983]

​​@@west913sorry that YOUR former church/home/mentality/whatever, etc, while you were a Christian, felt cult-like to you, sounds a lot like a YOU problem!! I'm smart enough to recognize f*ckery in Christianity when I see, that's why I happily worship at home and no church or pastor can influence me or my personal life decisions n relationship with God.

[@nichaalmeida983]

no need to disrespect other people's beliefs. What cult? I'm Christian and don't tolerate b.s from any man, happily dumped my ex while pregnant to save myself from extra stress on my pregnancy.That was over 16 years ago and still one of my proudest moments in life that I brag about!! Also, happily single AF and going on 4 yrs on denying any men access to my body, unless they check enough of my boxes, which is becoming more rare. Y'all love to disparage other folks believes based on the bad apples, but let men or society tell you that all Black women are ratchet Sukihanas n Chriseans Rock, then you get all offended by being thrown under the bus with weakest links and poor examples. I feel the same way, stop lumping everyone together based of their faith, period!! My mom divorced my abusive dad in the 80's n he was a provider. Then she did same with my cheating step-dad in the late 90's and he was an even bigger provider, who financially took care of all 3 of us kids that weren't even his. None of that mattered, she still left him!!!. There's plenty of examples of Christians who ARE NOT long suffering fools enduring hell on Earth for sake if religion or just to say we got a piece of "man" keeping the bed warm at night.

[@simzluver2057]

As a Christian, I totally see your point. This is not Christianity IMO, BUT, the church has made it this way through manipulation of what God actually wants for us. Even God himself tells us in the Bible to watch out for these false prophets. God was literally handing out kingdoms and ranks, yet so many Christian folk force themselves to be less than how God sees us just to follow and not upset the agenda of appearing like a Christian. Totally hate it, and once I stopped listening too much to most preachers, I’ve been very unapologetic for how I move now honestly. I’ll always believe in who God is, but I’ve become very weary of how some pastors (just so happen to be men, lol) talk about God.

[@tahreesa]

No man on earth should be your “master” or your “mister”!!!

[@R0291-l1l]

Some women "choose wrong" (usually because they were raised in abusive environments and don't know better), but most women try our damnedest to find a good kind solid partner. It's not that most women attract bad men, it's that predators will attach to whomever they can and they will hide their true personalities until you are so far in and don't know how it happened

[@samuelzulu9731]

Nonsense

[@samuelzulu9731]

We are all acountable for our own choices and we will be judged by them

[@ravenmoon4819]

Why don’t you troll somewhere else, Samuel?

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

​@@samuelzulu9731the red pill is premarin

[@jessicagerou4132]

A lot of people in religion are taught to be martyrs in their lives.

[@asiabrew81]

9:05 That is the ish right there! Young boys growing up watching mom just take shit from their first model of masculinity. That's their blueprint, so of course they want a woman like "mom": Someone who just takes hit after hit, who will not challenge them to do better, to hold them to a higher standard to deserve love and respect. They can just be wild and free and know that woman will always be there and maybe even a church to scold her if she starts having doubts. The problem is they've treated women's loyalty like a public bathroom for so long and relied on it, that now they're mad that young women also saw all that mess and said "Hell no!", locked that shit up and added a cover charge and a bouncer like a club. Because clearly when its free and always available: Nothing but disrespect. Lesson learned.

[@annnee6818]

That blonde lady almost made me cry. How men just don't care about their offspring

[@Theamandaa]

This is so sad. I completely empathize for her. This is why I never suggest any woman be a stay at home wife or mom without having a backup plan or something they can fall back on in case this happens. I wish her all the best ❤

[@acomment5991]

An interesting watch is the story about the Duggar Family: Michelle and JimBob (19 kids and counting). The women were trained to be “mercy givers” in their religion and… the kids weren’t paid for the show. One of the kids and her spouse came out about that. This channel and others like it are so important. Men exploit women and children for free labor all the time.

[@dalmalifemore]

My ex said to me “you don’t know how to suffer” you bet your ass I suffered for the short time I was with him which was my clue to get away. I just chose not to suffer anymore and walked away “early” or earlier than he expected so it was my fault because I didn’t know how to suffer. Such BS.

[@lkf8799]

That woman in the car 😢 That is not right.

[@valeriew4833]

Burbnbougie check out the book, The Black Church - Where Women Pray and Men Prey by Deborrah Cooper, I think you would like it and what it adds to this very important conversation! ❤️

[@GreekYogurtGranola]

One of the Fruits of the spirits is literally self control. So a man shouldn’t use fruits of the spirits to excuse cheating and emotional/physical abuse. If you practiced the word you would have self control and not cheat or abuse.

[@luesbabygirl]

there is no glory in struggle love

[@KT-zd2fj]

I think they need women to put up with the suffering because they know most men will never get with "The Act Right." It's easier to work on the women because they know most women are willing to do the work. The work on themselves and the work to help the relationship grow... and a part of that work means being able to sustain and maintain, also known as resilience and enduring (in this case). If the men are incapable and/or unwilling to grow and evolve, the only other step is to get the women to put up with shyt by pretending this is the only way to have a healthy relationship or to have a relationship period.

[@meadowrae1491]

Growing up in the Southern Baptist Church I can relate to so much of what Reesa Teesa said. The shaming and suffering of women and LITTLE GIRLS is so rampant. They once had a teenage girl apologize to the congregation for getting pregnant. This was in the early 2000's.

[@ravenmoon4819]

Oh my god, as if that poor girl wasn’t going through enough! That breaks my heart!😭💔

[@brandy4530]

An imperfect person is an abuser? No, an imperfect person is someone who gets tired, or someone who does their best to make good choices, but messes up sometimes. An abuser and a cheater is not just an imperfect person. That is a person who has something wrong with their moral fiber, and changing that would take miracle akin to raising the dead. You can’t change or love someone enough to fix something like that. My grandmother was the “endure to the end” kind of person. Looking back, she was this way because she didn’t believe women could have choices. She was from a shame based society. In her mind it was better to endure than experience the shame of divorce. It didn’t matter what he did. This attitude turns women into codependent enablers. My grandmother enabled my grandfather’s alcoholism until he died. She enabled DV in the family in general. She did it all so she could say her marriage worked, but did it really? Our whole family is screwed up for generations. As for that last woman, who believed all this religious crap, and ended up homeless, I don’t even know what to say. The church does NOT have women’s best interest at heart. It has the institutions best interest at heart. I know exactly how she feels. Nobody in the church, or the family, ever tells women to protect themselves. They never tell women about paying into social security or any other government benefits. They make it sound like it is totally okay for women to stay home, have babies, and be taken care of. But when we are on the street due to a failed marriage, at best, the religion shakes its head and says how awful it is for her, and at worse it blames her. Women need to be financially safe, and men who do not consider the financial safety of a woman who is staying at home to raise his children is a blaring red flag. The court will not protect you.

[@manifest2203]

Exactly. There is a difference between an imperfect person who didn’t remember birthdays and doesn’t do chores. Now here the case is the imperfect person is lazy and stupid. But they want w0m3n to accept imperfect persons who are abuzive, v10lnet and ch3aters.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

I am done with all that sh.t for a long time now and it makes me cry to see you younger women still being stuck in that bs no matter where you are from. Take back your power, ladies. 🙂💛

[@1108-g1q]

Her current partner isn't working? It sounds like she is at risk for going from a man who was controlling to a man who needs a mommy. Like it sounds worse now than what she had before. She doesn't need to do a tradwife sequel. She still has a lot to learn. We are only seeing the beginning of her journey.

[@LoveK1]

I caught that too. She’s working like a dog and he does nothing! Why isn’t he working?

[@availanila]

He is sick and out of work and so is she (of she has good dick leave too) bit they're building something together.

[@1108-g1q]

My man owns his own business but if he worked a job and was fired this morning he would have a job by this evening. Partly that is due to the way he has lived his life and behaved at other jobs up until now. Many former employers are a call/text/email away from an instant job for him. He has friends who will network and put feelers out for him and help him. It's wild how many men have friends purely for a drinking or smoking buddy. If they need anything their "friends" will ghost them. That's the only reason they are interested in a woman. They find a woman to pay the bills and do the housework and then they sit around a bottle or a bowl and complain about her to the "friends". And they wonder why we want out of the game. We will indeed enjoy our cats.

[@joylastname3035]

I think she meant her ex-husband isn't working now to get out of paying alimony and child support. I personally know another woman whose BD quit hid job and moved on with his mother to avoid paying her child support.

[@1108-g1q]

@joylastname3035 no. She said her partner isn't working at the moment and so he is helping her by building furniture or something

[@kay-collins]

So true. I’ve been with my husband for 7 years & I never had to “go through” anything, any bs, at his hands to “prove” my love to him. & I wouldn’t & he knows this. He knew this out the gate that I didn’t put up with no bs. I thank my lucky stars for this man every single day. We are in a happy & healthy relationship & we always talk about this type of sht right here & how we have something the vast majority of people will never have & he agrees that the main reason most people will never have this is bc men are the problem!! Idk if it’s bc he was raised by all women, he was raised by his grandma, mom, & her 4 sisters, NO TERRIBLE “father figure” IN HIS LIFE TO FCK HIS MIND UP WHEN IT COMES TO INFLUENCING HIM TO MISTREAT WOMEN THANK GOD!!! Everybody talks about how boys “need a father figure” to teach them how to treat women when in my experience that’s the opposite of true! The only thing having a father figure usually does is gives little boys an example of how NOT to treat women but most of them see it as an example for how TO treat women! I am SOOOOO GLAD my husbands trash behind “daddy” wasnt in the picture! & he is too! He also has 3 daughters (all the same BM) & I think that’s also helped shape him into a good man. He recognizes the bs most women are having to sift through out here to possibly find the crumb of a good man out here bc he raised his daughters to find a good one fs by BEING the example in their lives for how a good man is supposed to treat them!! & that’s huge!! He’s not overly protective of them either bc he knows he raised them through being the example of a good man in their lives! He doesn’t have to worry about them bc he knows they’re going to demand respect form men thanks to his example!! I think that’s also helped him a whole lot. He doesn’t at all deny the fact that 99.99999999999% of the time it’s the men causing the issues here. Nope. He’s well aware of this fact! Listening to this video he agrees 100000%. He said “you never hear them say he suffered for 10 years putting up with my bs so I guess I’ll finally settle down with him since he earned it”. & I’m just sitting there like “exactly bae!!! Exactly!!!” Finding a good man is literally like finding the most rare gem in the world!! Idk how tf I ended up with one! I’m never lucky like this in any other way ever! Lol I am SO glad this is the ONE area where I’ve won at life! We both agree that the other is the best we’ve ever had & we’re the happiest we’ve ever been in our lives since finding each other & it’s so crazy & rare & amazing!!!!

[@sarah_757]

I am so grateful to hear strong resistance to this religious patriarchy bs. I was raised in an abusive, neglectful home by fundamentalist xtians. The abuse and neglect my siblings and I suffered was a feature, not a bug, of their flavor of fundie. It was miserable. As adults, we all bear scars. I am so glad to see these systems of oppression being challenged and toppled. I want children to grow up free of the constant, unending fear and scrupulosity inflicted on me. I want adults to be free to treat their children and spouses as real people, not automotons. Keep up the good work on this channel! 💚

[@dannykes-m4j]

I remember a pastor telling me I should stay with my abusive alcoholic undiagnosed bipolar baby daddy and wait for him to change.i was younger and naive just glad I didn’t listen

[@DeLaTr0ll]

So I went to a white church and they weren’t looking down on people for getting divorced. They had a host of other problems but they’d help women get out of bad marriages if they needed to.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

They have big issues as well. Read anything by Sheila Grégoire.

[@DeLaTr0ll]

@@dumfriesspearhead7398I stated that and I witnessed it first hand. However, that’s the only thing they were “forgiving” about.

[@randomgeekcrap]

I remember this pastor growing telling women that if there abused should endure being abused by there husband's because that's what would have wanted that's when I really started seeing how evil god was and how the cult of christen is just disgusting the same pastor was married to a 14yr old girl

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

They are sons and worshippers of Lucifer, so to say in the figurative language of religion.

[@SiSi-oi2or]

That’s not Christianity That’s disgusting If you knew the teachings of Jesus and his heart towards issues in life you would know it’s not that. Marriage was not created to enslave and abuse. I’m a Christian, I’m getting a divorce, it’s abusive. The pastors know I have biblical grounds for it. Gods heart is not for abuse. It boils my blood how many people use religion and spirituality as an edicts for sins and how people not only believe it and fall for it but cannot tell the difference between people who actually follow Christ and those who just claim to. You know them by their fruits. God is very just. Trust he won’t get away with that.

[@GoldenMermaid]

Ive been seeing a meme on Facebook that cracks me up every time 😂 "No where in the Bible did it say Adam drops Eve off at work and keeps her car for the rest of the day" 😂 😂 I've watched several women do this 😢with some broke azzs men who dont manage their money responsibly

[@phenitagomes1292]

No man can make me stay in a situation i don't want to be in and if i don't feel safe with you; you'll never speak to me again. Don't get comfortable. Leave.

[@mizzmolly7649]

We have to remember that being involved with the church and following what the preacher says isn't always the same as having a relationship with Christ and living by God's word. A lot of times a preacher speakes very selfishly, telling women to do things that benefit only men. Also note that 5 books of the Bible were removed in the 19th century, probably because they made women seem too powerful.

[@GenieBee]

That last set of revelatory BARS needs to be remixed over a beat so we can dance to it!

[@thabodaciousempath]

I stopped following and attending church a very long time ago. I'm spiritual, not religious because I realized all the gaslighting, abuse, and lies that church/religion is built on. Even Christianity was changed and built on lies. You don't need others to hear your own spirit, voice, or God. Ironically, it was my Dad who taught and showed me this.

[@tinamenon1593]

Amen 🙏.

[@guinealove3744]

@BurbNBougie - Please take a look at Amalia's warning about the lonely men. Geeze! I am so tired of the threats from men and the women who support it. This "strega" Amalia is not only feeding into the fear of harm, but in a way almost telling women, if this isn't addressed it could be dangerous. Why do we have to deal with their loneliness? We could just as well say that lonely older women could become lethal and deadly with their cats and canes. Give me a freaking break!!!

[@user-cp5yi8cr5w]

She was speaking some truths… struggle love is not the move.

[@vikki8699]

If I have to endure suffering to be considered for a relationship, and still be humiliated and disrespected, I'd rather stay single and at peace on my own. God, Jesus and the angels love me to the point they would see me fruitful alone rather the see me suffer at the hands of an unworthy man.

[@sienkiewiczmonika1161]

Galatians 5:22-23 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Suffering is not a part of the Fruit.

[@AliseIam]

I too walked away from organized religion when I was a child… a very small child, they couldn’t get me to cooperate at all so they stopped going… and I never looked back… and THANK GOD 😅

[@deliritori]

This notion of suffering can also extend to work life as well. The idea that you should suffer in order to build your career or to have any type of job. It's the basis for exploitation of labor that you have to go through this type of abuse and exploitation in order to better your life or get that man or move up in your job or just to simply get a paycheck. It sounds like some sort of puritanical "bootstrap" nonsense! 😡😡

[@BurbNBougie]

Yup!! And this is another reason the "powers that be" don't like single and CF women. They can bounce from sucky situations a lot easier.

[@deliritori]

@@BurbNBougie Exactly!

[@kittykatz4001]

0:09 The headline for this content reminds me of horrible employment situation: many of us are currently in or have experienced working in an employment situation that we hate bec we need the $ it brings. Nope. I’m happy for women that have happy relationships, but I’m still glad I stayed safe and single, if ppl (not all) in this place and time still normalize “suffering” in these marriage and relationships. 😮 It goes without saying that ppl can change jobs or get credentials to change careers, BUT THAT takes time! Also,like me, one can start out in a job or profession that they love, and things change and NOW that job or career is insufferable!