Dealing with INFJ Emotional Overwhelm

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Dealing with INFJ emotional overwhelm is one of the biggest problems INFJ personality types struggle with on a daily basis. One way an INFJ personality type deals with emotional overwhelm is through avoidance, and many of us don’t even know that we’re doing it or how much it’s holding us back. Avoidance in INFJ personality types may show up as social anxiety, procrastination, perfectionism, shyness, and/or denial about things that need to change in our life. One of the reasons we have such strong avoidant tendencies is because we get emotionally overwhelmed. Almost every INFJ is also a Highly Sensitive Person, and this high sensitivity extends to our emotional system as well. We are hurt easily by criticism and dragged down quickly by pessimism or any other kind of excessive negativity. We are also hyper-aware of the tone of voice and moods of others, so if we feel like someone is judging us or doesn’t understand our point of view, it can quickly send us into a tailspin of INFJ anxiety and even INFJ depression. All of these things can cause us to experience an emotional storm within ourselves. These storms are hard to weather and so, as a way to protect ourselves, most INFJ personality types avoid anything that might cause one of these storms within us. However, there is a way to deal with emotional overwhelm for INFJs that doesn’t feed into our unhelpful avoidant tendencies. I talk about this more in this video on dealing with INFJ emotional overwhelm.
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[@leonorabrandscheit]

people think we are cold if we door slam but really its us protecting ourselves because we are overwhelmed

[@tietoinenyhteys]

It's both in my oppinion

[@ashleys1655]

My car is my safe place. That’s where I process my emotions and let everything flow out. I work in a small office with only men and men have crazy emotions, I’m constantly telling myself “these aren’t your emotions, you were happy when you walked through the door”. It helps during the day and as soon as I hit my car, I figure out which emotions were mine throughout the day.

[@jamlaw]

My car is for me too! I can cry in my car more easily than anywhere else.

[@y_zass]

I'm an INFJ Virgo, to say I feel things deeply is an understatement. I struggle constantly but the more I learn about myself the more I'm able to recognize what I'm feeling and why.

[@xixian8157]

INFJ Virgos in da house 🎉

[@tristangarcia632]

Hello! I am an INFJ Leo, 22 year old young man, and I am not going to lie I feel like this a lot. I don't really understand how nor why I feel so overwhelmed by my emotions. Thankfully, I know that I can how to stay calm and dissolve conflict and de-escalate situations, but I definitely have found myself blowing up on my friends and family after holding my emotions for so long. Funnily enough, I smile most of the time, but my face gets serious when i get lost in thought (or when i get upset). First experiences are also incredibly overwhelming at first, but once I face my issues I create a basic understanding for myself that helps me deal with the emotions and stress that comes from them. One more thing I would love to share, I recently found out that I love to sing (I find analyzing lyrics for meaning and understanding so much fun, as music is in a way an expression of the experiences of people) . This has helped me take on so much more stress as this sort of allows me to get away from the world and hide in my own bubble (just for a little bit) so I can go back to the world. I also lost my fear of other people as singing has in a way become something I can share with my friends and family.

[@chrislim7976]

Thanks for this. I become overwhelmed with others and myself and become either paralyzed or very blunt towards people. Time alone is essential.

[@yehiaelharmiel]

I feel like you’re my psychiatrist! You’re explaining everyday detail of my life without telling you a word! Thank you so much!

[@salanietakoro461]

I find melancholy to be a constant comforting state and it seems to be so because it is closest to being sad on the verge of apathy which soothes my constant feeling of emotional overwhelm from others, as emotional overwhelm for me manifests as anxious, glitchy, twitchy, awkward, uncomfortable, adrenaline, and needing lots of energy to sustain. When my melancholy tilts towards apathy because I haven't dealt with it, I usually self soothe by watching youtube compilations of human and nonhuman animals being kind to each other which never fails to bring me to tears of carthasis and makes me feel better about the kindness still in the world and makes me love humans even though humans are what causes my emotional overwhelm and I get to see nonhuman animals being their pure innocent beautiful selves which is so so beautiful and healing.

[@mariannami8049]

How timely. I’ve been feeling emotionally overwhelmed today. Unbelievable how universe sends us support in these videos. Thank you. Your concern is helpful for me to better understand my personality type.

[@carolinebrown8965]

I am an infj and my husband died recently. He was my soul mate and whole world. He understood me !! I am in infj pure hell.

[@bcrwarlock1974]

I'm so sorry for your loss Caroline.

[@Elven.]

My condolences, I can't imagine what that must be like

[@Emefur1]

I don’t think sigma INFJs need people as much as this video asserts!

[@davidcook680]

I usually look stoic. Most people think I'm angry sometimes they ask me. Am I angry. I'm like no I'm not. Only emotion I feel comfortable for people to see. Is nothing or anger. Around the right people. I let my emotions show a tiny bit. Hoping somebody picks it up. Ask about it.

[@maybee...]

As an INFJ I'm alway's surprised to see so many celebrities who are INFJ 's, I protect my anonymity and would never consider a career that brought me under the spotlight. When I see who in the limelight is an INFJ I can understand them better.

[@loveli_anne]

I go on drives (every day!!!). My car has been an oasis for me; a place I can really let out, and let go, all of my deepest thoughts and emotions/feelings. My car is my keeper of secrets😔♥️

[@janetleeadams7287]

I lived in the country and the road to town ws a long straight road. At times I would get into the car and imagine just driving forever on the long straight road--driving away from everything................but I knew the town and I knew that at 6th street, the road ended and I would have to choose to go right or left. Ha !

[@shannonsmithjared]

I feel so understood watching this!

[@shelbysaunders7700]

Thank you so much for understanding and sharing.

[@mlbullbooks]

So true for INFJs. 💯Thanks for this video, Lauren!

[@leonorabrandscheit]

thats actually so practical for acting

[@QuLice]

This describes my emotional life pretty accurately 😂thanks for the video!

[@hurtjonnegut]

LOUDER, please.

[@bpassion4fashion581]

Great video . Thank you ! I think I got this video a bit too late for the class. I will subscribe to the news letters . Also, suggestion : Can it not be assumed that everyone knows what INFJ stands for. Can you mention (at least once) what the letters mean? Some of us highly sensitive ppl that are new to your channel will appreciate that . Thank you again 🙏

[@kimberlysoto3490]

I suppressed my feelings for so long (years) that I didn’t realize I had completely closed myself off to them. All I had been feeling for a long time was rage and would easily blow up on people. Now, I’m going through a hard time and they hit me like an ocean. I’ve noticed I’m scared of feeling them as stupid as that sounds. So whenever the feelings come around my heart races, I sweat, get nauseous and almost feel im about to faint. Another thing I had noticed about the repressed emotions is that they turn into lots of aches and pains. Does anyone else experience this? Any tips on how to deal?

[@davidcook680]

Along time I felt angry alot. Every once in awhile I will feel other emotions. Usually it feels overwhelming. If somebody is around to see it. I will freak out. When I'm alone I will feel sad or upset. I can start to cry. I feel ashamed for allowing myself to feel it.

[@kimberlysoto3490]

@@davidcook680 It’s strange with me. If I’m crying from being upset or frustrated, I feel no shame. It’s like the adrenaline of the anger trumps anything else because it’s so intense. Now if I’m crying with any other feeling behind it, that’s a different story. I will feel very stupid for letting the intensity of that show. I hate my own feelings sometimes. They’re so weird and unpredictable.

[@davidclarke10]

Are quiet Infj very patient and understanding open minded and warm?

[@snehadosieah2950]

Spot on

[@Alice0579]

Can the INFJ change their personality so they don’t have to go through so much pain and emotions through life?

[@thebeachful]

I signed up for the newsletter but did not receive any info on the class, maybe share a page?

[@whimsylore]

Class info hasn't gone out yet

[@thebeachful]

@@whimsylore Sorry, thought it was out. Just got it this morning while watching your latest video. Thanks!