For Anyone Who’s Been Told It’s “Just A Phase”

[@algae1716]

these comments make me wanna cry wtf ? it's such a beautiful poem and the comments are jokes and people complaining. ugh

[@James-134]

Profile picture checks out

[@quanzelle]

Same

[@tylerh23]

+James Downing lmao

[@mayrarios1941]

SAME

[@Kyle-du7rb]

Hai phandom And true. This video is so beautiful omg

[@ChadDunderthick]

I remember my parents wanting to throw out my brother when he came out, and the only thing I said was: If he leaves, I'm leaving with him. They wanted to throw their own child out because of 1 thing. 1 thing that never changed him as a person.

[@lannie771]

Jack Morrison ❤

[@ditzy_ditzy]

Jack Morrison aw that's not fair! you sound like a lovely brother

[@ChadDunderthick]

#EveCinnamond * Thank you! I'll defend my little brother any time.

[@auggiemain]

Jack Morrison My friend's aunt endes her marriage with her husband because when her son came out as gay she thought her husband had 'touched' him and made him that way.

[@olivercraig6887]

Every time they started speaking together, I got chills.

[@birdiki]

this is so beautiful! I was told that my attraction to women was "just a phase" by my mom when I was 12. I am now 38 and I am happy to report that she was very wrong. In fact - my wife and I have been together for 15 years this month. For anyone who is doubting themselves - cling to your truth as best as you can because it is the only thing that will see you through. Surround yourself with positive people who see, accept and love you for you. As for my mom, she finally came round but it was tough on both of us. At the end of the day I had to let go of my desire for her to "accept" my sexuality in order to be happy, and once I let go of this desire, she opened up.

[@mrhugotuff]

I love your story!❤️🌈

[@mrhugotuff]

I hope you have a happily ever after with your wife❤️

[@museera]

These are my favourite kinds of BuzzFeed videos.

[@Snowcone530]

same

[@thisaintit526]

agreed

[@griffinlamon1489]

Nope lmao they gay

[@ImperfectManga]

Same

[@flaze248]

+Griffin Lamon that's why they're my favourite soo

[@vanessasalamon8750]

1:28 ".. And I'm afraid if I write him one now it will sound too much like a suicide note that he did not leave.." This hit me more than I expected

[@abi7591]

I know right, I​ started crying when he said that

[@nataliafekiacova2332]

Me too...

[@iigingerspice5458]

"I'm afraid if I write him one now, it will sound too much like the suicide note that he did not leave." Damn. That hit me hard.

[@misssoligirl]

iiGingerSpice I felt so sad

[@jaqsre]

iiGingerSpice I literally started crying because that hit me so hard

[@cliffyyyyyy693]

“He’d exchange poetry for portraits, but I’m afraid that if I write one now, it’ll sound too much like the suicide note he did not leave.” my heart sank...

[@jjju3]

"but I'm afraid if write one now it will sound too much like the suicide note he did not leave" I wasn't ready for that

[@megggyboi9812]

I know right.

[@danielzzz8554]

*I'm afraid if I write him one now, it'll sound too much like the suicide note that he did not leave* This hit me so hard.

[@amandaelfviljanen7272]

daniel zZZ it truly broke my heart

[@stealthethrone7520]

I THOUGHT THIS WAS ABOUT BEING EMO BUT I WAS PLEASANTLY SURPRISED

[@MawsPawsAndClaws]

Emily leeds same

[@koopi789]

i was disappointed af

[@meganeliza8028]

ITS STILL NOT A PHASE

[@moonbulschair1047]

Yeah me to lol

[@cynnamynbun7875]

It really hit me when they said it’s not “JUST a phase” and I really took away from that how even if something is a “phase” during that time and experience of a phase it doesn’t make it any less valid than it is.

[@sleepykot]

When I was *9* years old I tried to tell my mom I'm *bisexual.* She *didn't believe me* and said I was *too young.* A couple months ago I was talking to a guidance counselor with my best friend because of drama. I mentioned that I'm bisexual and then my best friend said she was pansexual. The *guidance counselor* said it was *just a phase.* Last week my friend told my crush I liked them. My crush said *she* liked me back. We are now *dating.* My best friend came out to her parents last week, the day my crush asked me out. My best friend asked if she could tell her own parents that I'm bisexual. I said I don't care because *you're parents will support me more than my own mother.* I can't tell my mom I'm *dating another girl* because she *won't approve.*

[@wills5945]

My aunt: so how's your gay phase going? Me: stronger than your marriage.

[@katie0leary497]

Wizardporn2008 this is the most amazing this I have ever seen

[@rebbilyreb]

Wizardporn2008 savage, but good. Really good.

[@ephemeralight5406]

"the most amazing this"

[@ikilledaunicorn5903]

Duuude xD That's awesome 👍

[@katmonroe1491]

YES

[@crimsoncosplays2366]

My sister continuously says that me being a demiboy and gay is just a phase. And it hurts to know that someone in my family that I trust more than anyone told me it is just a phase and I'll grow out of it..but I tell her. That being straight, was my phase...

[@braesmr770]

SAME!

[@abhilasha9608]

This video came out in 2016 but still has comments from an hour ago. This says it all.

[@rxmiree]

This video came out in 2,016 and I haven't came out yet xd

[@DavidLopez-dh4vu]

Yes, it is a phase. A phase that will last all my life.

[@fishfoods2622]

THANK YOU

[@SleepyMamaBear-]

my bisexuality, my veganism, my love for tattoos, it's all just a phase to everyone around me. and this made me cry

[@overcaffeinated_gaming]

Thinking I was a girl was the phase. Believing I could live happily as someone I didn't _want_ to be for the sake of keeping my family at peace was the phase. My gender, my attraction isn't a phase. Thank you for this. I really needed to hear it.

[@the_rising_pheonix973]

Im crying. To anyone who's been told it's just a phase, I'm sorry. To anyone who may have been wrong about their sexuality, gender, or whatever and they're scared to come out because the demons on the outside will say, it's just a phase, it's okay, it wasn't a phase it was an experience. To those kids who are now adults who finally have the right body, the right person, who are still told it's just a phase, it's not, you're you. I accept you. Sincerely, A pansexual closeted demi-boy.

[@Bella-uj9dr]

The_Rising_Pheonix thankyou Sincerely Another closeted pansexual

[@whoops7447]

My anxiety? A phase. My depression? A phase. My slight anorexia? Just a phase. Or so they say, but to me, they are not. They are the demons who haunt my life, ever day.

[@kittymollykitty4785]

Whoops my asexuality is just a phase

[@Mrkyuu]

You basically just described me o

[@xjuliarosex8311]

My dad told me it was just a phase.. To him, my depression is a phase! I understand, he wants it to be a phase, he wants me to be the perfect little girl. Doesn’t every parent want a perfect child? Stereotypes and the word “perfect” play a role in this. Because of being told, “it’s just s phase, I took back my coming out, and now my parents think I’m straight! Which I’m not.

[@SerratedMouth]

Obviously Toast it's not that they want you to be perfect, it's that they want you to be happy.

[@andrewwilson9316]

No one has ever told me "It's just a phase" until today when my mom said "You don't know what your sexualities really mean, you and all your friends are just going through a phase". Right when she said that this video came to my mind and it made me feel so much better, and my friend thought this video was touching. I know my love isn't just a phase, it is a part of me and I am proud of it, and I'm about to send this video to my mom. Thank you BuzzFeed❤️💛💚💙💜

[@lillypuppygirl2813]

I've never been told this, but it's still a powerful message to me: Believe in who you are, not what others expect you to be. This meaning has carried so much weight and meaning through my toughest hours, and it helps me just stop and remember to believe in who I am no matter what people yell at me.

[@dearbhlalala]

tbh i thought this was going to be about goths and emos BUT I LOVE THIS SO MUCH

[@loesy_c]

same!

[@MissAbbie1411]

same

[@cicadabug5038]

+Mr. Benzedrine same

[@VicariousClient]

+Mr. Benzedrine :)

[@emmas7937]

The fact your profile picture's Gerard Way makes your comment so much better

[@sodercan1167]

I got the chills whenever they talked at the same time, their voices are so powerful and beautiful. I love this video so much, I hope many other struggling LGBTQ+ people hear this and take it to heart

[@mari-de9pp]

im like...sobbing now because this was so beautiful

[@purplebunnycupcakeg.4202]

Same

[@shelbear5115]

Yes it was and was inspiring

[@mari-de9pp]

i've been told its just a phase just for..different reasons

[@donniemontoya9300]

the poem delivery was really annoying. oh well buzzfeed, I'm sure it's just a phase

[@GiantOsprey]

No.

[@coorocorbeau6557]

"Trust in your own gravity. We are closer to the stars than they will ever be" This is so beautiful, I can't help but love myself after this amazing video.

[@smol.cinnbonmaya3078]

IT BOTHERS ME THAT THEY DIDNT TAKE THE CHANCE TO END IT WITH "WE HEAR YOU, LOUD AND QUEER"

[@mudboowl]

Smol.Cinnbon Maya XD

[@trash1106]

It's just a phase.... ....that never ends

[@mattlong8727]

I LOVE THIS. OH MY GOD. THIS NEEDS TO BE REPOSTED. EVERYWHERE.

[@benjiclover311]

I love this poem it's so beautiful "Phase hate out of your sky" Hate is the only thing that should be just a phase.

[@kategronquist1144]

Im not gay but I support LGBT rights. I have this really homophobic friend and I don't know what to do. What would do do?

[@benjiclover311]

Kate Gronquist: I would probably not be friends with them anymore because if they can hate me for just being who I am but that is just how I handle that situation I know that probably isn't the way to handle things but I don't like the fact my friend using bible verses telling me that I am signing when she sins to my coming out to her just didn't work out I probably shouldn't have told her that I am a lesbian but I thought she would have been open minded but she wasn't and I didn't want to feel like things were going to change with our friendship so I just ended the friendship so if you're friend is making you feel uncomfortable I would just end the friendship because you being hurt isn't how a friendship should work I hope this helps I try to give out the best advice I can.

[@disturbanceatthedancingpla1581]

Am I the only one who thinks that the girl had the most beautiful voice?

[@salonidesai457]

I'm straight but I legit cried watching this. You are wonderful, no matter what. Your sexuality doesn't define you. Your love is pure, it is valid. I pledge to fight for you, in whichever way I can.

[@samhaney3533]

Grammer Nazi18 same

[@salonidesai457]

I am glad it made people feel better Samantha. Anybody who has ever truly loved someone can understand that love knows no gender. I just do not understand homophobes. We are in the ignorant age. But keep strong, the future will be better!

[@havennelson4951]

🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈forever screamed the crazy cat lady they thought she was crazy but she was the only sane one

[@kandykookieunicorn2308]

I came out to my sister today as lesbian, and she said "your probably just going through a phase " I don't think 11 YEARS is a phase...

[@juliafossaengreen9303]

I thought you were American

[@iwillpoopinurpants1836]

@@picklejuice8210 the joke is that the brother thought that "lesbian" is a country just like America. Which is why he responded with " I thought u were American" in the vine lol.

[@iwillpoopinurpants1836]

@@picklejuice8210 no problem 😊

[@aditijain3705]

the camera stopped focusing on that artist to show that he faded out of existence. beautiful.

[@minicoconut]

just found this video again after looking for hours in my youtube history. ive written this poetry in my journal when i was fifteen years old, and now im here four years later. i'm glad i found this video back then, because it gave me a lot of hope and courage. i was confused and sad because of my sexuality but now i embrace it and im proud of who ive become.

[@jarodengle3151]

al j. min I always come back to this video every now and then the word ‘Phase’ has stuck with me

[@ceceliakittyface5301]

This is the most beautiful slam poem i've ever heard

[@cassolance9397]

When someone tells me being ftm transgender is "just a phase" my reply is "yes being a girl was just a phase." Then I flip them off and go get ice cream or something.

[@ambertrevino5528]

Same thooo

[@Cj-up7ge]

Yesssss

[@leoheywood2120]

Moooooooood

[@anonx3332]

Can I have some?

[@shiny2575]

Damn boi

[@dbm-yv1gl]

This deserves an Oscar award award a standing ovation *cries, stands up, and claps*

[@lomalanni]

I think this message should go beyond sexuality. This can be about anything and the world needs to listen. Be who you want to be, and the right people will love you.

[@EmoKpop]

It's -just a phase- who I am.

[@Arinaretina]

This is really beautiful

[@wandernoodle]

What a beautiful video. This really means a lot from an Aro Ace. A lot of people think that it’s a phase. “Your too young” “Your supposed to love someone” I miss these buzzfeed videos. Thanks ~someone who has been told “it’s just a phase”

[@taramain1251]

This video gave me chills. My daughter is part of the LGBT+ community and I support her 100% but my mother is a very sonservative Christian and called her an abomination. It breaks my heart that people are so ignorant and blinded by hate. Amazing poem.

[@caitlynanderson9881]

I wish you could tell my parents this they think I'm a useless child to them just because I'm gay😭😭

[@lukitchu2887]

As someone who can’t be out to both parents safely, thank you for loving and supporting your child for being *herself* , not the person *you* want her to be. My generation needs more parents like you 💜

[@dragonseclipse2556]

I did go through a phase...Its called thinking I was straight

[@Penny2005]

Dragons Eclipse omg Same!

[@ring._.taled._lemur]

My family rather have a suicidal daughter than a happy son. This video got me threw these years and still does. To the people that need this, you're beautiful/handsome. You are wanted and needed. It may be terrible right now but at least it's not yesterday and your one day closer to whatever you want. I hope you have a good day. Goodbye.

[@moonbook12]

Michael jack that is sad but I hope you will have a light somewhere =)

[@francothecowboyy7446]

Hey guys. I'm bisexual. And I just came out to my mom. Her reaction was...not expected. But it's better than not being accepted at all and ignored. To all the people who came out as anything and weren't exactly accepted and/or just not someone people would talk about with a smile, you're beautiful. You're handsome. Whatever you prefer, because you could like either or neither and I would be just as accepting because I accept you as a person, no matter what you identify as or what you're attracted to, what you look like, what you like to do. This video helped me so much. I hope it helped you.

[@friitzer57]

hello I'm crying on the bus. my friend just sent this to me and I love him so much I can't even express it. this is such a beautiful poem, everyone needs to hear it

[@nathankofoed9871]

I came out to my mother when I was 15. I’m 18 now. When I did she told me that she’d love me no matter what, but over the past couple of years she’s been acting weird about it. She keeps trying to convince me that I might be bi, and that she doesn’t think I’d enjoy being with a man. Every time she mentions it I tell her the same thing which is that I just am not attracted to the female form the same way I am to the male form. She tried to make me promise her that I’d try being with a woman, and that I wouldn’t wear a dress, the latter of which shouldn’t be an issue since I’ve never shown interest in dresses or makeup or anything like that. Since I’ve come out however, she’s become increasingly transphobic over the years and it’s bled into the way that she views me. She tells me every once in a while that I’m a boy and that I always will be a boy, or acts relieved when I’m around people putting on makeup and don’t receive any, like it’s some kind of drug that I can’t resist, or gives me weird looks whenever I do something feminine like the one time my little sister put a flower in my hair and I didn’t take it out. Her weirdness hurts... a lot, and it makes me angry. But I don’t want to bring it up because it doesn’t happen very often and I don’t want her to feel bad or act a different kind of weird. Sorry for wall of text, I just needed to let my feelings out a bit

[@monikankanakalita507]

I hear you Thank you for sharing 🌻

[@superlamenick172]

Every time I've tried to come out to my parents they've always said it's a phase and shoved me back in the closet. I've always felt so humiliated every time. I haven't seen this video until now.

[@roxannedewinters896]

To everyone in the comments section at midnight, one a.m. ten p.m., noon, whatever time it is for you, if you are reading this, I want to remind you that you are loved. Your identity as you isn't just a phase. You are you. Nobody can say otherwise and still have a clear conscience at the end of the day. I myself am currently in the midst of a mild identity crisis and I don't know 100% who I am. But even though this video is two years old, it's relevant. I know I'm two years late to comment on this, but I really just want to remind you all that you aren't forgotten. Your satellite didn't get lost in space. And friends, I want to remind you that no matter what anyone says, you have value and are loved.

[@brenrypaige9956]

I watch this video so often. It still gives me chills on the a thousandth time.

[@phanisreal132]

This is what i want to see from buzzfeed

[@ParsnipParsely]

Hillary Quack that would raise the quality game by a level youtube didnt see before

[@KittyKalavera]

there's so much time that went into this and effort this is gorgeous I love it

[@Ozpex]

I'm crying tears of joy. They've come out of the corners of my eyes like when I came out of the closet, and was treated like it was all just a phase. Everyone else who's like this, you're not alone. This video means so much to most likely everyone in the world who understands further than the stars of those with small minds who are forever stuck on Earth.

[@Bella-kk7ep]

ShallowSen Studios dude, their just tears, they don't have a sexuality

[@Zoewolfspells]

My mother runs a gsa for her clients, she’s an occupational therapist for young adults. I came out to her as bi, she called it a phase. That was two years ago. I’m still bi. I came out to her as trans earlier this year. She doesn’t believe me. I had known for six months. I’m still trans. She’d rather ignore the signs and act surprised than accept that her child is a son. She still ignores it. I’m still me.

[@ajaxtanner874]

GalacticParker you're awesome and valid. Love from ~ a fellow but closeted trans.

[@clockworkbun]

I understand this? My parents have thrown me back into the closet even though i’ve felt this way for almost 5 years now.

[@lissawho4974]

I feel you. My mom acts so supportive to other LGBT folks but never to her own kids. It’s hard to deal with.

[@jmdenn3000]

Never felt good about something that just says gay/straight

[@sleepless-cc4mo]

If you ask yourself "what if this is just a phase" Thats okay we all go through phases at least you went through it and found yourself then not having to find yourself at all.. Year's later and im ready to go through this phase to find myself

[@kevinkantor2829]

"We hear you. Loud & clear." Love & light to you!

[@emf1145]

THANK YOU! Almost every other comment I've seen is negative!

[@itsyahooman_jxd5843]

my mom told me it's a phase in public, I wanted to cry so I put on headphones, put on my fav song and turned the volume all the way up and had a sad face all day

[@dustymaxwell8305]

I honestly would’ve done the same...

[@oliviianna902]

I watched this after my mom told me loving girls was a phase and that I'd grow out of it and it made me legit cry like a baby. Buzzfeed, thank you so much.

[@samsamsings187]

im not crying youre crying. my eyes are just sweating-

[@ashleygreen5629]

I am a lesbian. Not a phase. I am a person. Not an image.

[@sarawilde8476]

I have genuinely never heard a more spectacular and important poem. Thank you

[@alecbrickl9049]

"I'm afraid it will sound too much like the suicide note that he did not leave" This line struck me like a hammer, I'm sorry.

[@tate.777]

Pro IBrickwall i was looking for a comment talking about this line. It is heart breaking.

[@booklover-hu9tw]

Yeah it hit really hard I teared up

[@jg-jay2017]

Being straight WAS my PHASE. Being female WAS my PHASE . im trans (FtM) and Bisexual

[@AlexMig]

JG-Jay that doesn’t make you non female

[@jg-jay2017]

Alex Is AWESOME Mig I don’t know what you mean, but I know I ain’t a female.

[@victoriamaakulmamerijarvi9036]

good luck on your journey 😊 like the poem said: "trust in your own gravity"

[@jg-jay2017]

victoria maakulmamerijärvi thanks a billion😊😊☺️☺️

[@kawaiiwolfie1385]

I'm Nonbinary and Pansexual

[@shmoo803]

I came out to my parents and i thought it went well, but a couple days later they told me how its just a phase and all it will do is tear my family apart, how they will be ashamed of me if i fell in love. This video really helps a lot. It gives me hope to know that no matter how many people disapprove of you, there will always be others who accept you with open arms.

[@danielzilka4013]

you are not a phase, you’re you, and that’s amazing! if they can’t see that then they’re the only ones tearing anything apart

[@CuteDeadGirl666]

They are WRONG if they’re ashamed? Get a different family made of friends and companions if you are a minor study hard and get into a college that is far away from them so you can heal. Get with local organizations that can help

[@watchovergng1962]

Oh My God I am fairly young and I try to convince myself it is a phase. I don’t want it to be just a phase. I want it to be a real experience that is not shameful but empowering. I do not want to hide this part of me from the people I love. This is my statement of self empowerment to ensure my place in this world among those who are truly themselves and are truly happy. I want to be truly happy and I want people to know the real me.

[@sis6302]

This, made me cry. I've been told that my depression, my bisexuality, ADHD, and so much more was just a "phase" and was quickly forgotten by everyone around me. This was beautiful.

[@joshshepler7460]

this video highkey changed my life i am .. convinced i would not be who i am today if i had not watched this years ago

[@grim3075]

Came back years later, did not expect to cry today...

[@moonbook12]

Same

[@dustymaxwell8305]

To all the people in the comments saying how people told them it was just a “phase”, don’t listen to them. Only you can know who you truly are on the inside. If you know that, then it doesn’t matter what anyone else has to say about it because you are who you are and nobody can change that.

[@kaylene1573]

Guys, a moon may have its phases, but it's still a moon. Just because it doesn't always show its full self, doesn't mean it has changed or anything. It's still a moon.

[@cinemafx3035]

So what u mean its a phase for lgbtq or not a phasr

[@renjijoo]

Why did I just saw this in my recommended???? I should have watched this a year ago.

[@michaelsfxbrook8660]

JJ Reyes saaaaame

[@justcat8819]

"if I write him one now it would sound like the suicide note he did not leave"

[@shapelessblob7725]

the cat that gave me chills In fact it all gave me chills

[@justcat8819]

Taetae Kookies same here like the tone is his voice sounded like he wanted to cry

[@thebestwillow]

"just a phase" - hurts my heart for me and all the people who have had people trying to silence them. Nobody chooses their own gender or sexuality, why do some think they are entitled to choose other people's?

[@caidenstein7456]

thank you this was very useful, I'm transgender ftm and I'm constantly being told " it's just a phase " or " it's just your tomboy stage " and it hurts because I've felt this way for years but kept it bottled up inside instead of embracing it I've just recently come to terms with it and started coming out to people but I'm still being told it's a phase. This video helped it reminded me that one day I will be on T and perhaps have top surgery and then they will know it wasn't a phase.

[@dustymaxwell8305]

My best advice is just be yourself.

[@makeawishkid1339]

Do u have a binder and if u do... Give me some tips on how to get it without my parents knowing. Ftm trans gay male here...

[@loganparkison8969]

One day history will look back on us as ignorant beings. Teachers will be lecturing about our social issues saying "People actually hated other people because of who they loved." "What an awful thing to do" the students will say. Hatred towards the LGBT community will be viewed in the same context as how we view slavery today. We will ask ourselves how something so inherently evil could exist between humans. I am not gay, bisexual, or transgender, but they are like me. Isn't it true that we are all just stardust?

[@MarinaAndTheDevil]

i think i love your comment on a unhealthy level

[@loganparkison8969]

+Marina and The Devil I'm glad my comment found you well

[@alisharao4329]

hopefully...one day no one will have to come out...hopefully one day my son or daughter (or anyone's son or daughter) will be able to just bring home their partner, regardless of their sex, and be able to introduce them to me...it won't be weird to the parents or shameful to the parents if their son brings home a boyfriend or daughter brings home a girlfriend...it will hopefully be just as normal as bringing home any heterosexual partner....hopefully

[@loganparkison8969]

+Dovekin Humor is a powerful tool that can bring light to many issues in the world.

[@MarinaAndTheDevil]

I'm happy people like you exist, it gives me shards of hope that future will be at least somewhat lovable.

[@skylarkwhy]

You did good buzzfeed. Well done.

[@librowyrm8332]

I wish I could tell the writers how much this has helped me.

[@SisterSnowySpace]

My father knows I'm bisexual, he has fully accepted that I might one day come home with a guy OR a girl, he just wants me to be happy, that's all that matters to him.

[@mayiholdyourhand8105]

This is truly beautiful. I really needed this, I honestly love it so much. I’ve got chills running through my body and I want to cry. Thank you so much.

[@kingdollop-head743]

This is so beautiful and important. I saw this video a long time ago, and it didn't affect me as much then, but now it made me cry. I love this. ❤️💛💚💙💜

[@karolineboegh500]

I've watched this so many times and I still get tears in my eyes every time. We can only hope that some day people will accept that our love is not just a phase.

[@lironweirdo31]

this made me cry.

[@felixblair4060]

“A hopeful romantic, who always wanted to exchange paintings for poems. I’m afraid if I wrote him one now, it would sound too much like the suicide note he did not leave. Signed....” “....Andrew”

[@burmpot8264]

This made me cry, I'm figuring out what I am And it's hard and the only support I have is on online :(

[@samwinchester7403]

Baka Scribbles I support you

[@rainbowdeath398]

I'm bisexual. And people tell me it's just a phase. My phase had always been that I was to scared to stop them. I let those voices hurt me. Define me. But that phase is over. And it won't be coming back.

[@kxtrbl4143]

Someone told me my kpop obsession was "just a phase" it's been 6 years and still FANGIRLING for these hot oppas

[@majajukic8989]

Same.

[@georgiaturner2782]

Agreed! Kpop is fantastic baby!

[@AsukaEnergetic]

what hot oppas?? i'm down for the HOT UNNIES AND FEMALE DONGSAENGS! (i'm a lady ;D) XD

[@patriciamattos1135]

Same. Let's be friends

[@georgiaturner2782]

+Patrícia Mattos kpop fans unite!!!

[@oim8856]

Being *straight* was my phase ❤💛💚💙💜

[@fameprincessmsp]

Same. :)

[@shiny2575]

*PLOT TWIST*

[@purple_pumkin_cat7409]

Same

[@brisaweinert8952]

Your pic tho- it’s a homophobic reading that comment xD

[@EdenA1968]

Your a sussy baka

[@natalietice788]

i've been told that being pan is "just a phase" i was told that i didn't know what i was and that i would grow out of being who i am and that everyone wants to be something these days and that i was invalid and i needed to stop begging for attention. some roses are red others are tan this is a poem to say that i am indeed pan

[@louisa177]

The one person i trusted to tell that i was pan, they told me 'its just a phase' or im 'joining in on the trend' its so irritating so im not telling anyone else 😞

[@nerren5066]

I really understand why you don't want to tell anyone know, but please don't let one bad experience ruin coming out to people for you. I'm really sorry it didn't work out with them, but don't let that stop you from telling anyone you feel you can trust in the future. Stay safe

[@mikerecek8317]

Same but bi

[@allanv.7519]

Pansexual = Bisexual = Gay

[@lydiahamilton6876]

ok literally their voices together are amazing

[@riiverends3951]

As someone who just came out to my friends, this was something I really needed. They were all very supportive of me, but I still have this ball of tight fear inside of me.

[@buffy8444]

Riiver Ends well done

[@childofspace648]

Riiver Ends I love you

[@Jana-qm7og]

I watched this 2 years ago, the day it was posted. I was closeted and isolated back then. I didn't understand every word, partly because I couldn't understand English as well as today and partly because I was crying and couldn't quite focus. Back then, this poem was a sign for me to keep going and it moved me more than I thought it would. Today, I have a girlfriend, am out to all of my friends and siblings and more confident in myself as I'd ever been. Thank you for this.

[@sillygoose6715]

Quiet Ky That's really great. And also, nice profile pic

[@noodleraptor]

Sexuality isn’t a phase. Gay. Not “sinful” Asexual. Not “lonely” Bisexual. Not “confused” Straight. Not “boring” Not a “phase” Love who you want to love And be who you want to be And I promise you, it isn’t a phase. - Noodleraptor

[@rachelhammerle94]

Noodleraptor would God still love me if I’m bisexual

[@courtneymulligan2373]

Noodleraptor yassssss

[@elizabethwalker3344]

Rachel Hammerle Yes.

[@elizabethwalker3344]

I was once told I was boring for being straight haha

[@corpuslamenta7153]

🙏 thank you Im not confused or experimenting

[@soupgirlgains]

this give me hope honestly. i was so terrified of people saying my sexuality was a phase and now i have some confidence. thank you, giving people hope is the greatest thing

[@dangreen3868]

Playing drums was my phase. Anime was my phase. Greek mythology was my phase. I struggle to even call those phases, because they still stick with me to this day in some capacity. But I've always felt this way. I've always known I wasn't a girl. My disgust at dresses and skirts. When I'd play as Dan the warrior and never Danielle the princess. When I'd pick the boy characters in video games. When I avoided mirrors for years because the person looking back wasn't me. When the little boy at my brother's birthday party though I was a boy and I felt strange correcting him. When I got so excited over drawing someone who's gender I couldn't see. When I first heard of singular they. When I got so exited at the idea of people not seeing me as a girl or boy. When I screenshoted a picture of the nonbinary flag last August and decided to figure myself out. When I went to homecoming wearing a tie. When I came out to my trans best friend. When I started going to the gsa as Dan. When I cut my hair and saw myself in the mirror for the first time. When I came out to my parents. When I started seeing a psychiatrist. When my psychiatrist gave me a more certain diagnosis of gender dysphoria than my ADHD. When I got my first binder. This has been here my entire life. This isn't just a phase. My entire life cannot just be a phase. This won't pass, mom. I know you see a lot of your gender nonconforming teenage years in me, but this isn't the same as you cutting your hair as an act of rebellion. This isn't the same as you thinking that you'd never want to get pregnant. This isn't the same as your style of clothing as a teen. I've always been this way. It's just taken me fourteen years to find the words to describe it. And I'm sorry Lior can't have an older sister. I know having two girls was important to you. But I'm still gonna love Lior with all my heart, and if anything this has brought us closer.

[@vishnushankar7232]

That was just so touching! I'm gender nonconforming too! And I'm so happy to hear your story! I can relate so much to the phrase, "It's just a phase"! But the actual phase is them learning to accept us! I came out as gay last year and as gender nonconforming this year. Yes, it did take me a lot more time to get comfortable with people knowing about the latter than it did for the former 😅! But I'm glad to hear you! Btw did you send this to your mom?

[@dangreen3868]

@@vishnushankar7232 nice to hear that my message resonated! No, I didn't send this to my mom, I'm taking my social transition one step at a time and she's starting to come around, this was more for me and for people like you, so I'm happy it touched you!

[@vishnushankar7232]

@@dangreen3868 All the best in life🙆🙆

[@drzed6282]

"Oh she's just a tomboy," says my mother. "It wont last for long, I'll pressure her to be more girly, get her to wear dresses, skirts, pink and makeup even if she doesn't want to, even though she has been a tomboy since birth, there is no way she could be transgender, she just wants to join in with the 'fad' of coming out, it's just a phase" "She is just a teenager" says my father " even though she has become reclusive, stopped talking to people, is unable to sleep, harms herself with self inflicted scratches and steals from us, she is just a teenager, going through a phase, trying to get our attention". "YES" I shout, though no one is able to hear me because half the conversations I have are in my head due to crippling anxiety "it is a grab at attention, a desperate bid in fact, I want you to notice me , to help me, but in a house of five kids which suffocate you, it's hard to get attention" "and yes mum" I say "I am a tomboy, but that knowing that I am a tomboy has slowly morphed into the realisation that I am transgender and I am depressed, dad. And you cant accept that yet you want me to love and be with you because you helped me grow up, yet half of that maturing was done on my own due to a lack of mothering on my mother's part and a lack of parenting on both of my dad's parts (one estranged) meaning that I had to learn how to cook and iron and do my laundry and had to look after four younger siblings that stole attention away from me and bullied me but got away with it because I shouldn't be able to be hurt by the words of someone four years younger than me even if the words are reiterations of my parents. I am not going through a phase, so please, stop saying that" and I stop and curl up in a ball, a fetal posistion, and begin to shake with fear and pain and a loss of the love that most kids have. But no one hears me, no one even glances at me, because this is all done inside my head, at night, when I'm supposed to be sleeping. Sorry for interrupting yours with my pained sobs, but it is not just a phase.

[@jasommen]

What I have been through is nothing compared to your daily struggles but that should not keep a fellow human, a fellow member of the LGBT+ community if you would like to identify that way, from comforting one another. You are not alone in this darkness and; be sure to know, family are not always the ones you are physically related to. A bond stronger than that is love. Whoever you love is your family. Choose your family. Build your life. You are a beautiful human

[@jasommen]

Blood doesn't make a family. Love does

[@mariamehdi765]

I'm so sorry for you I know my struggles are nothing compared to yours but I really hope you get better and I wish I could find someone to talk to I love you

[@derpyangel101]

It's not a phase. Don't starve yourself from people. Find some friends that are going through thia too. Build your own family that loving and supportive of everyone❤❤❤❤

[@vivian4457]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@catabasiis]

i still cry when a i watch this, masterpiece

[@lilyford2554]

Well I cried so very hard. Thank you so much for this, I came out as pan to my mom and she still thinks it’s just a phase that I’m going through. It’s not.