Narcissists Harvest Your Energy

Some people refer to narcissists and other manipulators as energy vampires. This is because they drain your energy via your emotions. It’s important to be aware of this tactic so you can set boundaries and protect your energy. In this video, you’ll find out about how narcissists harvest your energy and what you can do to protect yourself.
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[@sonodiventataunalbero5576]

@Farmer Jones hello. I've been brought up playing that role. Pity seeking myself and letting myself got into pity seeking of others. It's terrible for one's life because you get stuck on the same spot forever. I'm working on getting free and living my life and not someone else's drama. What a relief

[@roleat]

Better help is a scam site.

[@sonnyca]

I used to yell on the phone because I got fed up of gaslighting. I did not realize that my abusers were getting supply. What horrible people.

[@veefeen]

I've been there I can relate to you...they want your energy and your power and they prey on that.

[@sonnyca]

@@beckysouthlondon Hack how?

[@soheilay6778]

After interacting with these people you feel like you can sleep for a day

[@caron4725]

WORD

[@mariana_cook]

Yet they won’t sleep, they keep machinating ways to keep draining.

[@tempa04]

True... I'm SO lost and confused... My mum is the sweetest but I feel drained and off and like I have to give her my ALL and like she's insecure and bit jealous of me... Am I crazy?!

[@dawnacoxon3111]

@@tempa04 Trust your intuition a.k.a. your gut feelings. Sweetness/charm is often used as a manipulation tactic.

[@tempa04]

@@dawnacoxon3111 Thank you so much 💗

[@Juliegrl4368]

That's why we feel depleted when we are around them. You can be in a good mood and they will bring you all the way down and you feel drained.

[@Iamawesomelovedandblessed444]

Asshats gonna enjoy starving them to death no reaction emotionally devoid 😂 cold turkey mfs 😂

[@tjfSIM]

Yes, they soak up your emotional well-being like a sponge. Every time I was with mine, she left me feeling empty, like I’d been emotionally robbed. And I found increasingly I could only feel energised when I was with her, so I became completely dependent on her. That gave her a tremendous amount of power and control. Very scary.

[@JollyCelery]

It was an unbearable energy drain that I can't believe I survived. Never letting that happen again. Love you, Meredith!!!

[@youssef8077]

Hi Joanna how are you ? Better now ?

[@rezinatebasshead]

its a weird feeling being drained by one of these people... you don't really notice it until you are away from them, but you eventually realize that you feel better when you're NOT around them. you feel mentally better, spiritually better and even physically better by keeping your distance from these people. every fiber of your being will try telling you that something isn't right

[@grayrockaroundtheclock9937]

I made the mistake of joining religious groups as part of my healing journey. They were FULL of energy vampires.

[@Learnedit4me]

Jesis is a vampire

[@wheres_bears1378]

Even with no contact I feel like they are literally sucking my youth and vitality from me

[@Arpan_Vishwakarma9]

After no contact how u know they were sucking your energy Did u went through any symptoms plz tell me

[@AngelKrystalStar]

Their Goal is your energy and power over you. But it’s always dressed up as something else.

[@InnerIntegration]

Exactly

[@christinebuckingham8369]

Debra Ulrich Trump is a Narcissist

[@serious4701]

@@christinebuckingham8369 If Trump is truly taking down the deep state, then he has to have this stance of this way or no way, because the deep state will never give up power. We will see what happens.

[@vivianamieres]

Empower Empaths: totally truth, covered by some else, delivered as help ....

[@AngelKrystalStar]

@@vivianamieres exactly. And we miss it because we're looking at the red herring

[@redbones6046]

"Psychic abilities are not the same as spiritual maturity" That's genius insight ❤

[@karenkasteler942]

I have given my power away...in the form of energy most of my life....always tired...and not recognizing it's my relationships at the core. I am happily single now.

[@sagemarie1144]

Same... I JUST barley came to this realization the other day. Took me long enough.... so much loss and pain.... i guess now finally at least, rather than ever.

[@angel772921]

I was close to killing myself a few times just for the exhaustion and pain to end!. Still here and instead of ending myself . Ended all contact with the nutcases..they are filled with negative paracitic energies ...that's another story. ....love to you and all present. .stay safe.. and narc virus free..💖

[@mdaze9753]

So glad you decided that you are worth it :) Peace to you.

[@angel772921]

@@mdaze9753 much love to you..thank you for your loving comment..stay safe on all levels..💜

[@tamarastarproductions8627]

U can feel it when ur being drained by a narcissist..

[@jake90009]

Your body has that icky feeling

[@Learnedit4me]

​@@jake90009I become mean in seconds when one is near and have thoughts I normally do not

[@AromaticSympathy]

Whenever I’m in the presence of one I never look them directly in eye. Honestly, it’s not even done on purpose or out of intimidation. I really feel that something in spirit just turns away from them, refusing to look. I can even go back to childhood and remember certain people I couldn’t look in the eye. As an adult, I’ll always stay busy whenever they’re around but silently observing them and being mindful of what I say next. Perhaps this is a form of Grey rock, I’m not entirely sure but either way I no longer give away my energy.

[@kyliewilson2911]

Sounds like a great strategy i will give this a try thanks for sharing x

[@CRISTINAQUERETARO]

Hi Erica thanks for the tip! And I agree with you!! I too cannot look at them directly in the eye either!!! I feel as though something string irritates me and I cannot hold eye contact with the narcs... Ive wondered this before several times wow!! Good to know I'm not alone!

[@mdaze9753]

That's a coping mechanism many of us learned in childhood :) We attempt to fade into the background.

[@casperinsight3524]

I look them directly in the eye to let them know I see right through them

[@wisesavedone2721]

💯💯💯

[@mdaze9753]

My mother used to do something pathetic that for years I would "buy into". She would call each of her (adult) children to "check on them" and then in the course of me confiding my personal details to her she would interject what her other kids (siblings) were doing. In other words, she would use the woes of my siblings to diminish my own problems (she would do the same to them) >> so, in turn, I would react like a 5 year old and beg for her attention and appreciation. This caused riffs that rippled throughout my family that still exists today. Every time I got off the phone with that woman I felt emotionally used and battered until I stopped answering her calls ... THEN she went to my siblings and tattled *to them for me being a mean daughter AND they bought into it. Narcs NEED to control the narrative and if you do not allow them the story they will make it up > to suit them. When you leave ... and you must ... you have to be comfortable with the tsunami of lies that pummel you to react. Be strong in your conviction. Ride the waves. You will eventually find your peaceful island of justice and tranquility. You are worth it :)

[@InnerIntegration]

Excellent insights!

[@mdaze9753]

@@InnerIntegration Jeez Louise ... I just reread what I wrote and I am amazed that anyone could understand that maze of confusing pronouns. LOL ... Thanks for listening :)

[@simpletruths5322]

My mother used to do this too! (She can’t do it to me anymore as I haven’t spoken to her for 5 years) I haven’t spoken to my brother for 12 years! Learning about narcissism has put my whole life into context! The damage done to children of narcissistic parents lasts a lifetime. Addictions, poor mental health, suicidal ideation to name just a few side effects of having a parent like this. I learned of the smear campaign that my mother did on me when I went no contact. To think that she would rather lie about her own daughter than reflect on her own behaviour! So so sad! It’s terrible being the scapegoat. I wish you well x

[@charisszuster2890]

Thanks for sharing this.

[@notyou5831]

M Daze thank you!.. sad you went through this, they sure make us feel like 5 y old in the blink of an eye.. wishing you well and joy in your healing x

[@SaraFJones]

I used to overshare, I thought so that people would understand me, but it looked like a narc ploy!

[@Hawelufamily]

Do they ever! I could not believe the peace and emotional stability that slowly began after they were gone out of my life. It’s taken a lot of work on my part and still going, but I could never go back or tolerate another Narc. Peace to all sufferers out the there.

[@caron4725]

Beautifully said

[@sagemarie1144]

The Almost INSTANT peace... Is a HUGE sign. Hard to not recognize, or miss lol

[@crystaljean522]

Hmmmm... Problem. Reaction. Solution. Getting an emotional reaction and feeding off fear... sounds exactly what's happening in this current global climate! We live in a narcissistic/psychopathic society. Reminds me of Anne Barndart's Societal Narcississm presentation.

[@sagemarie1144]

Boom!! My that's exactly 💯

[@sugarysweet5674]

I'll never forget the feelings of pure frustration, emotionally empty, sadness and upset after I would have arguments with my narc mother. It would throw me out for the whole day. Days/weeks even. She, on the other hand would walk off from the argument with a new lease of life, a spring in her step. It took me awhile to realise I was transferring my energy to her. Thank you for sharing this. I've also noticed in a lot of social justice movements, the initial cause comes from a pure place, and a sense of 'righting a wrong' then as it gains traction, it attracts narcissistic energy who become quite extreme in their thinking and begin to oust others who do not feel the same. Once they've done that a few times, the other members of the group (who cling on because it's now their identity or because they still hold on to the origins of the movement) begin to do their bidding for them. I'm so glad you touch on both.

[@erockfreedom6399]

This is my exact experience of my narcissistic mother, father. 12 step groups.

[@InnerIntegration]

Exactly!

[@Thedragonwithin]

You’re on point with the social justice movement! This is why I got away from getting a social work degree and moved to psychology. The social justice warriors were incredibly mean and narcissistic cloaked as compassionate and caring for human rights. 🤮

[@See_Life]

@@Thedragonwithin Whether psychology, psychotherapy, social work, work in the UN, ..or anywhere else it doesn't matter. They've been placed in every tier of this system and the system is a set up to support certain agendas that are anti-human. Some professions involvments are only more obvious than others since power and authority positions attract more npd and border line personalities or full on psychopaths. They all protect the same system which on a big scale is an energy harvesting trap.

[@RealPrincess181]

my mom is sever narcisstic.right now with the quarantine she is doing a silent treatment with me and my autistic son.It feels like Hell with her.Everytime she walks around the kitchen, I feel weak, paraylez and insistently having a panic attack.Three months to go and am off to new chapter in my life.

[@pdxbound81]

My narc ex wanted to know where I was every second of every day. It was exhausting. I later found out it was so I wouldn’t run into her and her new supply. They are very sneaky!

[@MsPeppersmom]

I work with a woman i highly suspect is a narc. She is really strong into creating division and that was my 1st clue about her.

[@shack109]

They have no use for anything they won't receive supply from. That's our get out of jail free card. Meredith keeps kicking out great videos week after week, every Saturday morning is like Christmas!

[@yvonneshanson1525]

"They don't know how to connect to the infinite energy on the Universe"!! Loved this! My narc bord mother is an excellent heart string plucker: you always nail it when you describe them..this video is priceless in so many ways! A special tnx for 3.20-4.51, I know resonates for so many of us right now, hope people wake up.. Also thank you for your podcast and content for us who are quarantined with narcs, it's so helpful❤️

[@dancingappaloosa8926]

Yeah, I really couldn't put my finger on this for years, but every time I visited my mother, I felt like she held me in her thrall for the few hours I was there. I would literally have to pull myself away to leave because she would fixate on my every move. Once I left, I always had this feeling, even if I enjoyed the visit, that I could not do it again for at least another couple of weeks because it sapped every last bit of emotional energy out of me. Eventually, after a long time, I came up with the term that she was "farming" my energy - you know, tilling the soil, sowing the seeds, watering and fertilising the ground, and then just coming in and harvesting all of it. It's good to know this is an actual phenomenon and not just me.

[@dianakraanzeitler3041]

The combination of critical thinking and intuition ... Some people call it Soul intellingence :)

[@beautifullyascending2024]

Don't ask yourself why they are telling you this story. Distance yourself completely and don't talk to them at all. keep your vibes high and live life without them👌

[@kevinjohnson7418]

Sowing discord. Exactly 👍. Look up Proverbs 6:16 , nlt version. Number 6 is " someone who sows discord in a family. " Verse breaks down what a narcissist is.

[@carrierobinson8046]

Wow, scary! Good warnings there! I have a chronic illness that includes fatigue and inability to handle stimulation and am drained just by being around people. Not that I completely blame the narcissist but I believe they had a part in my developing this illness, which was probably primed by my narcissist mother, because they drained my energy with hour long conversations on the phone and I think I couldn't get my energy level back up before the next drain came.

[@jencameron8124]

Very interesting topic! It's the EXACT scenario that's been unfolding in the world over the past umpteen years and currently with the so called "pandemic". Problem, action, solution...keep people fearful, ignorant and then begging for the so called "solution". Narcissism and Psychopathy at home, in personal relationships etc., is a barometer for what is happening on a planetary scale. If the insidiousness is happening in your very own home, you can be damn sure it's happening at the hands of the of self appointed "elite". Thank you, Meredith, for discussing yet another very important topic regarding this covert and dangerously harmful abuse.

[@seagreentangerine2065]

This!! 💯💯.👌🏻

[@flamingsword777]

@@seagreentangerine2065 ikr? 👏👏👏

[@pegasus5148]

I have always suspected that the pandemic is fake.

[@alyciamarie4163]

Loosh

[@dieseldejavu]

I never yelled or responded to her provocation. I guess that’s why she discarded me. I wasn’t good enough supply. Poor sap she’s with now. Little does he know...

[@persiamotorman]

I have noticed that if I get low on energy (ex: miss a night of sleep), then like clockwork, I will get a call from someone like this. But more concerning of all to me is when I get a call and someone talks and talks without pausing. It can go on literally for hours. You could put the phone aside, go buy groceries, walk the dog, take a shower, cook and eat, and then come back to the phone, and they would never realize you had left.

[@DicyaninGlass]

😂omg ..yep!

[@jackrobertson328]

Great video. I have always described narcissists as emotional vampires. They drain the blood and energy from you. One of my former partners was a quintessential narcissist. After seven years of having my energy drained, I pulled the plug, packed up and moved. I lived on my own for several years afterwards and entered into the most productive period of my life. I also severed ties with a couple of "friends" for the sake of my own sanity.

[@tintrung468]

My neighbor is one of them. I won them and now they try to back. 😂

[@sunowl5301]

My ex looked 10 years younger after we’d been dating for awhile. His friends even mentioned to me that he looked younger. I took it as a compliment to how well we were suited to each other and a sign that it would last. As time went on I became more and more exhausted, confused and on edge. Totally drained. We had a child and it was then that I had to cut him off energetically (not consciously but organically). I barely had enough to keep myself and her going. It wasn’t long before he was tapping into new supplies and moved on to have a child with someone else. He kept trying for awhile to create drama but I learned about the grey rock technique and it was very effective. It was DARN HARD to stay level when dealing with him. I wanted to rip into him so many times. It took everything I had to hold myself in check and it was well worth it. It’s like playing dead. They’ll get bored and move on. It does take a long time. I had to keep reminding myself every time he would try a new angle to get supply from me. At this moment I am so grateful for all I’ve learned. I’m not beholden to him and not sharing a home with him during this quarantine. What a relief to be free.

[@mariagorettij2308]

be blessed

[@blueshoes915]

You’re daughter is lucky to have you as a mother. Glad you got out safely. 💕

[@mdaze9753]

@travelerwithstyle Thank you for this information. I am listening to their podcast now.

[@sunowl5301]

maria goretti j 💕

[@sunowl5301]

blueshoes915 💕 thank you!

[@Guitargasm1000]

Childhood narc-abuse survivor. Male, gen-x. I've never received the answers and knowledge I've been searching for by counselors with prescription pads. (Think big pharma) there is so much empowerment here within this channel. Thanks

[@marciestoddard730]

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[@DeborahLArmstrong]

I grew up in a strict, fundamentalist sect. That was over 30 years ago. I have long since moved on and am not involved in any organized religion. Well, a few years ago, I ran into a former minister from that church. We met on facebook and he told me that he had left the church and moved to Peru, where he was planning to found an ayahuasca retreat. At first, I was impressed and thought that he had done the same deep introspection and the hard work that I had done when I left the church. But after a few months of interacting with him, I soon discovered that he had not changed at all. He was condescending, spoke to me life I was beneath him and it was his job to "set me straight." He had the same entitled, smug attitude that he and the other ministers had in the church I grew up in. He had simply parked his car at a different "church". So yes, you have to be very careful around any organized religion or spiritual group, and especially around the "guru" types. Often, they are not what they advertise themselves to be.

[@LineStrandvik]

I love that you expand to global issues, organizations etc. Narcissism in personal life is step 1 of understanding.

[@brendaharding8010]

I met mine in a 12 step recovery group. I believe now he is cluster b. It left me traumatised. I listened to your videos back in 2017. Really helpful ❤️

[@simpletruths5322]

Thank you so much 😊 The peace and emotional regulation that comes from recognising and removing these damaged humans is beyond measure! The hole in my soul from having a mother as you describe in this video, I’ll take that to my grave. All the drama, one upping, envy, competition, controlling & manipulation that’s my mother! So so sad! x

[@gioian.493]

you are not alone, there are many of us experiencing the same stuff. There's probably some reason why we can't count on our mother that we can't understand from our point of view...Nobody's life is perfect but you can still make the best of it...You are the most important part of your life...

[@simpletruths5322]

Gioia N. Thank you for your reply. I think our experience isn’t uncommon at all. What I understand about narcissistic people is that they were abused by their parents, my mother is the meanest woman I know, her own mother was cold, mean and cruel too, so, I understand why and how this thing is inter generational. I believe narcissism to be from CPTSR How sad to think, my mother believes kindness is a weakness! She didn’t experience a kind, loving parent. I’ve found listening to Sam Vaknin to be very insightful. It’s just so very sad x

[@flamingsword777]

@@simpletruths5322 speaking of generational, i wanted to just say that look at the wars fought in the past 150 years worldwide. These people had PTSD back then too, but they just called it being shell shocked. I believe this trauma ALSO comes down the family lines to future generations. I say that because both sides of my family were in WW2 and Vietnam. They were also in abusive households and marriages and freemasons going back over 100 years.....i was literally born dead for a while due to trauma. Like, Jezebel has been after me since day one.... I had to piece this all together with The Lord's help and then i went to His Court Room with help and repented for my ancestors (they were also Indians) sins, my own and to ask The Holy Father to cleanse and repair my family blood lines......i feel like a battle worn soldier...

[@anajadwa6875]

The way you likened critical thinking and intuition to the left and right hemispheres of the brain is a very clever and helpful way of looking at it. HG Tudor calls narcissistic supply "fuel ". He also says that negative fuel is much more potent than positive fuel and so that's much more desirable for them. From my experience I have found this to be 100% true. The end game of all their manipulation, deception, gaslighting and games are to gain control over you so you cannot escape enabling them to have a constant supply of fuel I.e. keep draining you of your life force by continually hurting you in the very many ways that they do. If they can manage to end your life, literally kill you then that's the greatest, biggest boost of energy for them. Driving you insane is also a big win for them because you will be in constant mental anguish a good supply for them.

[@flamingsword777]

Ma'am, i am a female. Is there any way i can speak with you?

[@critchie]

Oh, how interesting! Harvesting “energy in motion” =emotion.

[@ashleem3327]

My narcissistic parents use holidays, birthdays and other special occasions to try and make contact for their supply. They won’t try and contact on any other day of the year. I find this extremely interesting and yet disgusting that they try and take away from what the event/holiday means to me and my family. Since I’ve gone no contact with them, they can’t get their supply filled from me so they try and use my kids birthdays/events too.

[@mdaze9753]

My narc mother used to use MY birthday as a way to get attention. I was made to feel guilty (when she retold the day I was born to everyone - every year) and thankful (for her giving birth to me). It was never my birthday. It was the day she gave birth to me - therefore I was indebted to her.

[@audreyandrea460]

@@mdaze9753 I know what you mean. Recently I received a message from my dad saying how upset he was that HE had not heard from me on MY birthday. (Meanwhile he’s just a garden variety narc, my mom is the psychopath.)

[@BA-vx7gb]

Yes thank you so much I was married to a covert narcissist and also have a family member that is a covert narcissist so I know the damage that they can do with provocation and stealing your energy. They provoke you by going for your weekness so that you respond .its easy to fall into the trap that they have set for you if you don’t know.they do tell the same story over and over again for years, sometimes it’s not even their story it’s other peoples story they pretend it’s theirs. I found this quotation on my search for salvation ! The wise man practices a detachment from his emotions ...he is indifferent to praise or abuse...he will not succumb to provocation ! And be the victim of his own emotions . I learned eventually ! Not to take the bait 😊

[@LiquidDrumnBreaks]

8:57 TRUTH! I used to think people with those abilities and who talked the talk were "connected"... they're not. It's a tactic.

[@ardent9422]

I might have mentioned this before, being stuck in the house with a narcissistic family member who hoards food in their bedroom and gives the silent treatment during the quarantine, that silent treatment is over now, because that family member was about to go out and go shopping and get positive energy from the people at the markets they visit. We still have to be very cautious because anything could still set them off, my other family member still gives emotional reactions even though I warned them, egg shells everywhere, but I mostly just stick to my room.

[@yellowbird5411]

How awful. I think I would pitch a tent in the woods before I would live in such a depleting environment.

[@mdaze9753]

My narc mother would spend hours on the phone getting filled up by her "friends" that were her supply. I used to think she was so popular LOL

[@ardent9422]

M Daze it’s the same thing, this Narc family member of mine is not able to go a full 24 hours without talking on the phone, they say they don’t gossip but all their conversations are gossip. I have to be very careful about sharing any information because that info will be repeated on the phone, one time I was ill and all the details of my illness were share, I was so embarrassed, thankful it wasn’t anything to serious.

[@mdaze9753]

@@ardent9422 Oh my gosh ... I know exactly how you feel :( The shame and embarrassment is deep. The only way to persevere is to ice them out and hope they find a surrogate daughter. Mine did ... poor thing. My mother thought I would become jealous .... LOLOLOL!

[@cecee3480]

I already suffer from depression and during the quarantine I’m staying with family. I hoard myself away and barely want to come out to use the bathroom. Are you sure they are a narcissist? The narcissists I know right now are looking for excuses to not quarantine. From my experience they can’t handle being alone.

[@funlovinbloke6266]

Thank you for this information. You are so correct. I had a relationship with a covert narcissist person. The longer the relationship continued, the more energy it cost me. Especially the last two months of this fake and toxic relationship. I was so tired and empty everytime I came home from a couple of days when I stayed with her and her two young children at her place. I sometimes felt asleep during the day when I took time for myself. Even at work I just had such energy losses that I sometimes almost fell asleep. I was really drained by her. After I ended the relationship with her I needed months to heal. My energy came back slowly. Although my ex works for the same organization I avoided her as much as possible. She loved it seeing me hurt, but after I confronted her in front of our mutual colleagues because she was playing the victim again (she didn't want to give me my key of my house back because she came with new demands. For me that was the final step in this proces. I was done with her. ) I showed them what she really was. It was not professional but it was the only way to stop her harvesting my energy. After that I felt relieved and for me it was finished. She stayed of my back since then, 16 months ago now. She already has new supply and uses that person probably now. I could move on with starting having a future again.

[@loveanpeace4eva]

Sooo true! They want your energy and attention, whether GOOD or BAD! Demons they are! I told him I would STARVE him and I am! Your videos are the best I've seen on this topic. What a wonderful tip to ask "WHY" and quite often! They are everywhere! ALWAYS be on guard guys. "Remain sober and vigilant." Thank you the work you do in exposing these monsters.🙏

[@dandeliongreens4664]

Excellent, as always. And I really like "it's critical thinking and intuition."

[@Greg-hg9cs]

The interesting thing here is that when you have several Narcissistic personalities working in concert. They are able to mislead more of the unknowing oeresons around you (in the community) who help in the abuse.

[@Greg-hg9cs]

The more interesting aspect is when they put on mask. Makes for good actors as if pillars of the community. As the Narcissist age start feeling depressed because they do not have the looks. Which looks is not everything. Many times they will keep you stuck and prevent you from moving on even while they themselves continue with the new supply.

[@pelte]

There is a girl who sits right behind me at work which I though she was an empath at first. We had this crazy connection where I can feel occasionally how she feels and she could pick mines which isnt very difficult. And if I'm not mistaken we had an astral energy connection one time. There were also some occasions she suddenly said the thing that I was thinking a minute ago. She would just say 1 sentence and the whole room would go cold and depressing that people just leave it completely draining right after a joyful talk. She was on my mind 7/24 and I couldn't think of anything else. I though I was going crazy. So after some research I though she was some kind of past life relationship/ twinflame etc. So I was putting up with her all kinds of abuse, silent treatments, small insults of her. After start doing the healing work, living the memories again in my mind and start loving and respecting my self again, I realized that I was living in an alternative reality. There was an instance where she just completely drained my energy that I had to lie down on the couch for 30 mins. And another time when I tried to talk about whats going on, she got so mad that almost felt like she cast an invisible void wormhole that was sucking all the energy in the room that I couldn't even stand there. The energy was still lingering there after a 10 minute meeting. She is probably a narcissist and was consuming me. It took me over 6-7 weeks to break free even with no physical contact but still on my mind.

[@teodoradediu7971]

I know this, i was in the same situation, depleted of vital energy. More than that, my legs became weakened when i talked with this person, or trying to behave as with a normal person. Sadly, no one could help me and my mind and body are now invaded by this narcissist,... Plus, i feel that this person is stealing my personality traites. I think she is a covert narcissist.

[@minnesotamystic3996]

I’ve never watched a video about narcissism that aligns with my energetic beliefs. I really understand you! Thank you!

[@starstop1063]

It is so hard to understand how someone would want negative attention. Great video, thanks 🙏

[@U2lover]

Thank u so much.. especially for your meditation to let go of the narc, it really helped a lot. Almost one year now since I went no contact. I'm gonna celebrate it. Cheers to all of you 🥂, Take care 💕

[@TanyaKatherine]

I need to watch this twice, because you are literally giving me the answers to everything I've experienced from that spiritual group and male leader for the past 2 years. Thank you. Keep strong everyone, don't give in in any way to them!

[@TanyaKatherine]

This happened in the spiritual group I was apart of. It still is operating like this. I am so glad I found this video. This is exactly what I am experiencing RIGHT NOW!!!!!

[@charisszuster2890]

My father in law is a passive aggressive covert narcissist. He always made a great first impression with people but would tell the same stories of "the laughs" he and his old colleagues had from 20 years ago - they never really kept in touch and he has had several jobs since then, very telling! Narcissists talk to the room instead of to you. I always felt my energy drain as soon as the phone would ring. It's a struggle to remain no contact at times but your videos always help us. Still maintaining no contact 2 years later.

[@blueshoes915]

Charis Szuster Love your comment, “narcissists talk to the room instead of you”. Great observation! Thank you for sharing. 💕

[@mdaze9753]

I too loved the "narcissists talk to the room instead of you" comment! So true. I always thought a great test to see if someone is a narc is to have a 1:1 discussion about feelings or vulnerabilities. They cannot expose their underbellies. They cannot express a genuine thought. Their only form of communication is to repeat what someone else said or create a lie or spin based on that knowledge. They are evil disruptive automatons existing only to create pain and suffering.

[@boudoirmelbourne]

Wow I didn’t realise about the global meditation thing! Thank you

[@joeyd8767]

Thank you so much Meredith for being there in this difficult time. I went no contact a year ago and wouldn’t have known how to handle this without your direction.

[@yellowbird5411]

The one I know is constantly telling me something he thinks will upset me, when it is none of his business, or he will fabricate a conversation he supposedly had with someone, and of course, "they" said these supposedly negative jabs at me. Being around him is like having a porcupine throwing barbs faster than I can deal with them. One right after another, and if I tell him I don't care, or I am not taking any of it personally, he gets irritated, and indicates it's a character flaw of mine to not be concerned about anyone but myself. I have held my tongue thousands of times when he is just pounding on me, until I can get away. He is "happiest" when he is being his most negative and nasty.

[@casperinsight3524]

Well said 👍😎 so True! It can be a 1-2 punch, they provoke us to both sabotage while getting an emotional rush

[@aprilholton1150]

That is the horrible thing about them: they LOVE negativity, sadness, making you upset!! I know someone who is always talking negative- one day I said: Can you say something positive, something happy?! She was SILENT! That's when I knew what she truly was!

[@dianemarie8873]

What an idiot that guy is.🙄

[@brianwalsh1401]

@@casperinsight3524 Yep. The more worked up and angry you get the calmer they get as they feed on all you negative energy your sending their way from your reaction to them. Still amazes me how little most people know about cluster b's. I guess you have to figure out first what happened to you and then somehow come across this information before you get it. If it hasn't happened to you it's hard to get. Even if it does happen to you, it's hard to get if you were with a real sneaky covert like I was. That's what happened to me.

[@oliverrojas7117]

Thanks, listening is is slightly painful, but extremely helpful.

[@paulahope6301]

Thank you very much! That's so true. Those spiritual gurus and groups can be very dangerous. I've experienced that and suffer PTSD. No one would believe me what they are capable of and how abusive and evil can be.

[@heidiyoder694]

Thank you for all your wisdom and insight

[@simpletruths5322]

I used to be very confused when my mother would ‘randomly’ begin talking about people (she is a nasty gossip), now everything makes sense, within the context of narcissism, she ‘feeds’ off the energy that people give off, my mother particularly liked talking about people who were ill, the more serious the illness the better, now I can recognise she was getting off on my reaction & sympathy 🙈 When my aunt developed terminal cancer, it was all my mother talked about. It’s so true for me that we should be very careful what we think about, my mother got diagnosed with cancer soon after her sister died!

[@InnerIntegration]

Excellent insights!

[@mdaze9753]

My mother would actually be jealous of women who had bad things happen to them > who persevered. She wanted them battered and bruised. It was almost as if she thought their struggles were badges of honor that should be scoffed at. ie: "Oh, look at her, she thinks she is special because her daughter died of cancer" Pfft. And the sick part is that she portrayed herself as a "good Christian".

[@OceanOfLight]

My mom is a Christian and the meanest gossip, it was extremely toxic, I spent way too many years feeling bad for the people she gossiped about. I hate gossip, it makes me sick to my stomach. I had to go no contact with her for many other reasons, never regretted it to this day

[@simpletruths5322]

KaMaTiMa77 Thank you for your reply, I feel your pain. I too hate gossip, it triggers an emotional response in me that goes very deep and makes me feel sick! I now realise that my own mother was gossiping about me and backstabbing me too, telling others things about me, often very personal things. My personal crisis turned into fuel for her when she gossiped about me, narcissists do not respect. other peoples boundaries at all!

[@charlesmunroe7081]

I love Meredith! Always brilliant....

[@robbiedimatteo2725]

Again and again thank you thank you for this reminder going through this right now holding them accountable and getting the silent treatment and your beautiful video is reminding me that I'm just feeding them

[@lileelisamc.4722]

I think that narcissists do not know how to direct their energy, therefore their actions are very time wasting, unfocused, ADD, They are like a wobbly, inbalanced tire that is causing the car to veer all over the place and they expect you to veer all over the road with them and say it's normal.

[@gmod8033]

Great advice/info. 12 step programs are rampant with these types.

[@InnerIntegration]

That’s what I hear!

[@OceanOfLight]

That's true, unfortunately

[@witchhazel7928]

I had a good experience in Al Anon. But I could see that being more frequent with active addiction meetings.

[@tigress725]

So true . I am a member of NA and due to my lack of boundaries and vulnerability I was preyed upon . Now I have trust and " judging others excessively" issues that I am working through with a sponsor who isn't a covert narc , that I trust . I am pretty good at spotting the pretenders ..... but with all the " service committees " they hide behind they can be hard to spot as some are oscar level actors. I remain true to doing the steps to continue my healing from familial narc abuse/pill addiction. I am free at last ! Peace to all in this community

[@gmod8033]

@@tigress725 it's very unfortunate. I'm 9 months into my recovery and a covert narc women older than me really took me for a ride and she is very involved in the fellowship. Definitely preyed upon and was a damaging experience.

[@pokemont9989]

4:53 wow this is my mom exactly. She tells me and my sisters the same story about my grandpa over and over and is still using his death for attention (he passed in 1995). But when my father passed away recently she would talk about how much harder it was for her (losing my grandpa) and that we don’t know what grief is like.

[@marren6323]

Great information. I came across this in 12 step groups, (though not the only places). I found most people to be very caring, supportive and genuine about pursuing recovery, which was incredibly helpful for me. Then there were the narcissistic ones. They learned the lingo and worked the system to prey upon the vulnerabilities of those needing help. This video is spot on in describing the problems and solutions I have experienced with the narcissism.

[@tammyfleming1410]

This monster has hijacked my family turned them against me and now I want to be a healer of narcissism. This is evil destructive and does nothing good for the people

[@synesthesia.aesthetic]

I have been warned multiple times that someone I'm in love with is an energy vampire and he himself has admitted he is narcissistic. It's been a long journey and I am trying to distance myself. I am realizing certain patterns and think my energy has been harvested. It's weird that was on my mind and then this comes up in my feed! Thank you

[@yasminayodele]

The narc I knew used to have laugh attacks if I get mad and scream, the angrier I get the harder he laughs. It never sat well with me.

[@loladickson4373]

I actually know someone who is very antagonistic towards her targets. When she succeeds in getting negative reactions, she doesn't let up! She continues and even laughs in between.

[@ChristsPapillion]

You were dealing with demons

[@InnerIntegration]

Like the Joker

[@loladickson4373]

@@InnerIntegration her targets also includes children! She targets their Vulnerabilities then push on those until there's a huge negative, emotional outburst. I think a normal reaction would be like; "Oops, I've crossed the line and I apologise or just stop". But she continues with lots of half laughs in between while continuing the antagonism and word-salad built in to justifications and minimization. Purely crazy making! She does this to close friends and family but in public completely different! She has this extremely friendly/charismatic act towards complete strangers. Even her tone of voice, accent and behaviour is just out of this world! That's the mask she uses for getting positive attention leaning more towards virtue signaling. She does this also at her local church. Then there's a flip side to this... she's very nasty towards service providers! People like; the guy selling ice cream from an ice cream truck, the shop assistant in the hair shop, the latino guy who works at a chicken and chip shop. She antagonizes these people in the ways she speaks down to them, changing her mind last minute, confusing them about what she ordered, keeping them waiting etc. Then there is her somatic side! The subway, the beach, anywhere there's a crowd, its her stage...taking pics, posing, mannerism, Speech pattern etc it goes on and on! She adapts her acts accordongly to the type of audience she's represented with and at other times she cultivates it. Truly sick! but being able to observe her is in itself first hand, education. (Ross Rosenberg, is correct about observe don't absorb).

[@robynsimon566]

It's a weird competition where none should exist. The narcs MUST be the best. If they can't do what you do out genuine love, they will crush you to lower the bar to their inferior std. INSIDIOUS. I couldn't figure out what was happening. I am healing now.

[@CoachK10190]

‘They will crush you to lower the bar’ my exact experience. They don’t want you to become anything

[@Ardistan667]

What drained me and depleted me of my energy when I was with my ex-girlfriend was the effort it took me to anticipate what sets her off and prevent it. A simple vacation day with her was a balance act on a rope, constantly having to make an effort not to say or do something wrong that would lead to being lashed out at, harshly criticized, or met with other forms of contempt such as sulking, staring, or things such as sighing and eye rolling. I recognized that even if I get two, three precarious situations right this time, there will always be something else. Reflecting back and connecting the dots, the triggers were having a different opinion, a different decision on what I would like to do and how, expressing any need that is not the same as hers (e.g. I am thirsty and want to buy some water, but she is not, or I ask her for a towel at her place to shower), but also things that I could not anticipate, such as saying something allegedly “obviously uninteresting”, talking too loud, using the wrong vocabulary or pronouncing a word differently. Also, she would repeatedly disrupt the peace in the situation by starting to excessively complain about normal daily obstacles, such as something being sold out in a supermarket, a bus being late, some traffic alteration, etc. She would also claim to be under time pressure despite that not being true and then randomly speeding up without telling me why. I would refuse to just run after her like a dog and she would turn around and look at me as though I was a piece of garbage. She would dominate conversations by rather talking at and interrogating me instead of exchanging words in a balanced way, while ignoring my obvious cues that the debate is misplaced here. At times her monologues would actually get us in time trouble so I began to pack our bags a bit, as I was eager to avoid her anger for not being in time, only to then being accused of being a bad listener. She would also go on long rants about how upsetting and unfair her family and society are and the like. I would then try to console her and try to find a solution, but she then lashed out at me for telling her something she obviously already considered or for not solving her issue or whatever it was that she disliked about my attempt to help. After a day of being exposed to all these little things, I began to withdraw, unable to understand how to conduct myself so to avoid her anger. She then accused me of being a killjoy for being so depressive. Another thing that drained my energy levels were that she required constant attention and care in order to not fall into these patterns of complaining, disrupting peace, and being angry. In simple terms, she was very lazy, not participating in the planning and organizing of our day. While I did all sorts of chores, she would sleep or sit on the sofa and talk at me, requesting my attention and affirmation, oblivious to the situation being one in which we both were ought to get ready for going out as we had previously arranged. She would forget to shower or bring food with her when on a longer journey and insisted to take a turn so to get those needs met, taking hours and spoiling the day. It sounds really weird to write it that way, it is difficult to imagine maybe. We would for example go to the beach together and she would question me for ten minutes in high distress which size of pizza she should buy at the snack bar, or she would lash out at me for not having prepared dinner for her when visiting a friend’s place, although we had not talked about having dinner there as well. But also whenever I did plan something for her or arranged her getting her needs met and anticipated everything correctly, it often was not up to her standards and she still yelled at me, then acting as though she had not done anything wrong afterwards and again slamming me for being “in a shitty mood”. Basically, it felt like I was out with an unruly child, one of endless needs, chronic distress, endless problems with the world as it works, no gratitude, no regard for my needs, no engagement in teamwork, and no empathy, foresightedness, or modesty. One week with her was as draining as a very hard job with insufficient payment and abusive colleagues. At least that is how I would imagine that to be. I was literally finished, suffering from neural fatigue and emotional distress after spending time with her, feeling like I need a cold drink or two and a lot of sleep and interactions with normal people to recollect myself again. On top of it all, I was then asked by her what my issues were, that I was such a grumpy person to be around, that something was wrong with me, etc. And during that time, I kind of believed it, or at least I was not able to connect the dots and explain to her what it was about interacting with her that wore me down. Her confidence in there being no wrongdoing on her part was overwhelming and after all, there was no doubt that I felt distress. As she repeatedly stated how much she loved me, this must have all been my fault then, was what I used to think during the time all of this took place. The self-doubt and the war with my own intuition was further depleting my energy supply.

[@Healingfromtheroot]

Cutting all parasitic cords daily rn

[@adriennf525]

Meredith, your words are Golden! Thank You ❤🙏🙏

[@midnightpastone2080]

Thank you SO much, i just discovered this cr-p with a few i know in my community during this lockdown. And thank you for reminding of what i had forgotten on how to ID and deal with butts like this. I have definitely noticed the Flying monkey thing this week from a group that hangs out outside in the sun. They are ignoring me, like an unwelcome guest in that part of the yard after socializing with them last weekend and not agreeing with their beliefs about myself. But also noticing how much better i feel NOT being anywhere these ppl, esp the Narc i believe is causing the issues. The cool thing is on the other side of building, their a smaller group of ppl that are fully aware the dynamic of that group too. So it was insightful to see others 'see the vamps for what they really are'.

[@kaylassoundbathsanctuary]

Also thank you for this reminder about spiritual groups as I just joined an online spiritual retreat yesterday with over 500 people. I’m going to make sure to watch out, and limit my interactions with the group. Already felt this intuitively but it’s so good to have the reminder and makes me sad because how can I ever go and meet people with like minds if I’m always worried about it being infested with predators?? Thanks

[@kellyheflin685]

Brilliant video. Thank you so much Meredith.

[@trance212]

Fantastic video, so grateful you made it! Thank you Meredith!

[@anns9549]

Meredith, you are so amazing! 🙏🏽 thank you!

[@darrenkendall6834]

You are Divine. Thank you for all the clarity.

[@MarthaMcCrum]

I love your title so much and it is so true. I’m just about to watch ur video ;) I found a quote on Pinterest that resonated with me so much and I’ve written it down on post-it-notes and posted the words in places I’ll see them often: “Protect your energy”.

[@blazeme2]

Great video! Very insightful

[@DriscolDevil]

So glad this part of youtube still exists. I hate that so many alternative philosophy/spirituality stuff is being taken down or impossible to find in the algorithm. This was really well done. You're a great speaker, kept me hooked the whole time.

[@heather1081]

@innerintegration, you have literally saved my life. 12 yr victim of severe abuse, I’m finally digging myself out. Thank God I came across this!

[@earljackson4482]

Thank you Inner Integration Your program has help me greatly. Allways on point n strong wisdom. No energy they loose there mind. Im a 2 year victim of Gangstalking/physcopaths/ flying monkeys.

[@mdaze9753]

This is an amazing video. Thank you Meredith :)

[@tempa04]

Thank you for this space... I feel safe here which is rare for me!! ❤️❤️

[@philpell9002]

This is such a striking message, Meredith! I have been immersed in spirituality as a seeker over the last few years. It feels to me like a 50/50 mix of genuine and very much non-genuine seekers and teachers out there. It makes perfect sense as seekers can have experienced major adverse life events, are looking for healing/direction or are generally feeling lost. Unfortunately, they make up the ideal targets for narcissists and other toxic people. Please use discernment and intuition as best you can people. Inevitably you will face some set backs along the way 💜🙏🏼

[@shelbykofficial]

Thank you for this video 🤍

[@kalkhan816]

Thanks Meredith, your amazing doing all this work for us! I hope I can remember stuff and put it to use too! Thanks again...

[@RoastedStudios1]

I'm glad you have videos in Spanish too, you can reach so many people that way, excellent work

[@ItsKells]

Wow. This helped me on my journey, thank you, Meredith 💖 3:19

[@melissak.8385]

Hi Meredith! Excellent talk on energy exchange. I am becoming quite aware of people that have no empathy-and how I have no business in their life. Working on healing now. Thank you for the love you put out there, Meredith. appreciated!🌻😊😊

[@scleo1959]

Brilliant insights. Thank you.

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Excellent video!! Thank you! This information is so helpful and healing

[@roytiesler4314]

Thank you! You're right on with this. There seems to be some spiritual influence actively poking and prodding.

[@pom-mom1]

Excellent explanation. Will watch the other ones you suggested as well. Thank you.

[@AnthonyTizzleMyNizzle]

I love your advice around discernment. Sage advice. Thank you 🙏

[@ontimeprocess]

Wow this video was really helpful. Thank you 🙏🏽!