My In-Laws Are Treating Me Like A Live In Maid And Husband Accepts It r/Relationships

[@Sherwoody]

Story 1: Raising a child by herself is easier than caring for three by herself.

[@botanicalitus4194]

Exactly, if she had the baby and stayed she would be taking care of 4 babies because Im certain they would not have helped her out with any actuaI baby chores like waking up at night to feed or changing diapers. They would have had fun with the baby whiIe leaving all the work to OP

[@kaykay8855]

Which kind of makes me think if her stbx MIL was treated like op, and is now upset because now she has to care for her two man children.

[@persephoneszeliga]

@@kaykay8855if so, MIL is the worst. WTH. All 3 are trash in any case.

[@Iflie]

For sure, especially as she can work from home and be flexible about her hours. It will still be really hard but she's used to worse. Plus they didn't even care now it's a girl, it sounds like one of those Indian families, the DIL is the lowest of the low and girls don''t matter, son is the prince.

[@kaykay8855]

@@persephoneszeliga what I noticed with people like stbx MIL is that they rather inflict a unfair tradition on the new generation because it was inflicted on them and no one helped them.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Don’t let that bastard gaslight you. The right to be emotional when you reached your breaking point

[@hungrymusicwolf]

At least children you're allowed to reprimand and punish, good luck trying to raise these adult toddlers without that.

[@chaosshiva4165]

Never date anyone who isn’t willing to call out their parents stupidity. Be vigilant when they’re around their parents and staff.

[@marleneperry6972]

That's why we never married, my spineless finace lost me ..good riddance.

[@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334]

Some aren't ABLE.

[@chaosshiva4165]

@@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334 If this is a situation where they’re too afraid then they do not need to be dating until they’ve cut them off. Fear is no excuse to put your loved one through this. I can’t think of logical reason someone has to be around an abusive family unless they’re underage.

[@EnDB]

The house will be an inheritance, so it will NEVER be OP's house.

[@akl2k7]

And how old are the parents? 50s or 60s? That's at least 20 to 30 years of this nonsense, and chances are the house will be sold to pay for costs when they go into a care home unless they already have the money for that.

[@D-Dollie]

Story 1: glad OP had a job which allowed her the financial freedom to leave. I am also glad she is having a girl so they can leave her alone. What a bunch of awful people!!

[@jenicdarling9425]

I wouldn’t be too sure about them leaving op and the baby alone just cause it’s a girl. Once it’s born they may come out of the wood works to get their precious grand baby since op’s ex is a only child so then they will be their 1st grandbaby. They may be sour about not having a boy but that doesn’t mean op is safe yet. I hope for op’s sake they leave op alone but have a feeling that may not happen. If not to be with 1st grandbaby once they made peace with it being a girl then to save face with family and others who knew op & ex were expecting when they start to question them about the baby & how they’re doing. They seem the type to go for some custody to save their reputation of how they abandoned their grandkid cause they were a girl. I’m sure to save face of op leaving their golden boy they made up a whole story of how horrible op was, maybe even make up some lie that they had to kick op out instead of op leaving to escape them. And leaving out how they treated op like the help as a live in maid & chef & soon to be nanny even when sick. If the pattern continued then op likely be caring for the baby all by themselves too. That once op got the baby clean, feed & diaper changed then they’d want the baby to play with or show off to others before handing back to op after bored with the baby, too much work or if they started crying. Ex is a piece of work

[@LovesGaming37]

Huge levels of misogyny. Only wanting a boy and when the OP found out it is a daughter, they stopped

[@dandotvid]

"I don't want to get what you have" While you forced her to MAKE FOOD FOR YOU.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Normally I don't prefer a certain baby sex over the other , but in story 1 I'm relieved that OP is getting a daughter. At least the in laws leave her alone now.

[@judyjohnson9610]

This belief that you have to have a boy is ridiculous! Look what happened in China. And do these people forget that it takes two to tango?

[@animatorstanley]

It's so gross when people favor one gender over the another. As if girls are useless or their only value is making babies, cleaning and cooking. I wonder if MIL was treated that way after she married.

[@judyjohnson9610]

I only got one grandchild and I was kind of hoping for a girl. Just not out loud. I had two girls and couldn't afford to buy them nice things so I wanted one to spoil with pretty things.

[@animatorstanley]

@@judyjohnson9610 you can still spoil a boy.

[@HonorWillow]

There's few but still some scenarios where preferring sex is okay and I think you're justified here! This is one of the few

[@atqmra13]

I always hate these stories that end with “I found out I’m pregnant”

[@katharineeavan9705]

honestly it's what gets me doubting a lot of them, because this theme of "told I couldn't have children naturally, so of course I have to keep it because what if I can never conceive again?" is far more common than is realistic. Like, it happens, but not THIS frequently. Another one that makes me doubt is when a situation starts off relatively normal and someone just doesn't like their parent/step-parent or ex and then two updates later we're told the 'villain' has been diagnosed with multiple mental health issues, is stalking them, was arrested for attacking someone but released out of the goodness of OP's heart, is now in a mental ward and everyone that supported them is now fawning over OP and no contact with the 'villain'. Again, I'm sure it happens, but the frequency of it on Reddit, particularly when OP isn't necessarily getting the total condemnation towards their villain that they're obviously looking for, is rather difficult to buy into. The best is how frequently BOTH of these situations appear in a story.

[@floraposteschild4184]

Lawyer, lawyer, lawyer up. This arrangement is ridiculous and exploitive, but there's no excuse for husband not participating in whatever work they have to do equally. No wonder he is "against" moving out. I'm only concerned he'll go for custody at some point so document this whole abusive situation, OP.

[@bigbearkat2010]

Custody situation would be fun in court. Dude lives with his parents and none of them can cook for themselves apparently, so clearly an ideal place for an infant.

[@animatorstanley]

Theu didn't even seem to want the baby once they learned she was a girl. Sick people!

[@dionysus_adores]

If they want a maid they can pay for one. Op is paying to stay there and doing all chores alone. No way this family isn't exploiting her. Disgusting especially that husband.

[@MountainPearls]

She needs to get to the state she wants to raise the kid in (assuming this is the US) before the child is born. Often, many states (Florida comes to mind) makes it difficult, and sometimes impossible, for you to leave if a child is born there. Even if they aren’t, they can be problematic too, the sooner she leaves (and more she documents) the better! OP…see a lawyer, and get to your home state ASAP! (Should she intend to do that, that is). It’s probably best it’s a girl. I would move away, they will try to manipulate and alienate that little girl against her mom!

[@maryseflore7028]

I hope that when she gives birth, she fills the "father" section as "unknown."

[@295Phoenix]

Story 1: Hubby won't ever have even a long-term girlfriend until both his parents die. What a pathetic momma's boy.

[@catharsismemory]

Not even after they die once they see he doesn't help out with anything.

[@bigbearkat2010]

MIL- Sees no issue with forcing a sick person to make her food Also MIL- apparently a germophobe

[@megnotmegan1966]

Yeah, asking the sick person to clean the house is insane

[@bunnyslippers191]

It's incredibly stupid of the MIL to think having OP deep clean everything *while OP is sick as a dog* to keep her germs from being all over the house. OP will just be spreading *more* germs around!

[@mbyerly9680]

It sounded more like a dig at her being the family slave than any concern about illness.

[@ScarletTsubasa]

Concerning story 1: Usually, the people who want you to not be "emotional" or to pick "better time" to address grievances are really just trying to shut you down. There will always be an excuse, or a reason that OP is in the wrong in their eyes. Adding the obvious misogyny to the mix, it's clear that there is NO winning for OP. At all. Good on her for choosing herself and her daughter. It will also be easier caring for one child, rather than THREE

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Great point those sayings are not often used by the injured party

[@alexacarrillo4339]

My in-laws used that line about the house. They then sold it and moved into a fancy retirement community. NEVER let yourself be manipulated by the promise that something might happen because people who do that will use it against you at all times.

[@defender4004]

Exactly. And in this case OP did all the work but her husband (not OP herself) would eventually inherit the house. - If there would be any inheritance that is.

[@MinisterManDan]

I don't know where the OP lives, but in the US it's extremely easy to do a life estate deed where an older person or couple retains a lifetime right to a home, but they go ahead and put the ownership of the home in someone else's name with the named people getting total ownership of the bundle of rights when the original owner die. If you have an in law or whatever that wants you to move in with them in America at least, it's extremely easy for them to go ahead and create a life estate. If they won't do that, well, you know where you actually stand with them

[@darkestsideofme101]

Story 2: The moment she said "A decent boyfriend would do this for me" i just said nope, dump her. A "decent" gf wouldn't emotionally manipulate her partner like that.

[@tgbedini]

Heck, a halfway decent person would't treat everyone like crap by making them wait, wouldn't speed to work every day, would freaking grow up and take responsibility for their own actions. But other than that, I'm sure she has no flaws. (/s)

[@TheRockinDonkey]

“A decent boyfriend would do this for me”. Stop right there. I’m no longer your boyfriend is the only response to that

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op deserves a lot of smacks for staying with this woman. He deserves her treatment as long as he stays.

[@ComaLies225]

Story 1: The moment MIL snatched clothes out of her hands, I. Would. Have. Gone. Ape. Glad she got out. Please OP, get cameras, do not give them your address, give any preschool/school the list of people who are allowed to pick your kid up. Those people are nuts.

[@LoveableNiki]

Definitely do all this, but they don't want a girl....so OP will be fine....until Daughter is older. Then, Daughter can become a maid. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@kentario1610]

I could not believe the audacity of these people. I am so glad she's away.

[@jeannebligh2383]

I would have turned into evil incarnate; with a smile on my face no less. Respect is earned. Not given because of age or family relation. Ughhh!

[@DrownedInExile]

OP was far too passive. Glad she finally took action and got away from those awful people.

[@clydethehobo2687]

Story 2: "She said a decent boyfriend woukd go to those lengths for her-" And a decent girlfriend wouldn't have put herself in this situation to begin with. NTA, OP. Dump her and stop dating children.

[@slackerman9758]

A decent girlfriend wouldn’t ask you to take the blame for her speeding. She would have to be supermodel beautiful to have anyone put up with that nonsense.

[@chrisa.k.1531]

A decent boyfriend would dump her butt for knowing his worth 😂

[@johnbradbury8610]

Smack, Smack, Smack, OP and his GF have one thing in common neither of them respect OP. he deserves what he gets.

[@One.DeSanctis.]

​@slackerman9758 what does her beauty have to do with it? Don't you mean her willingness to be a bedroom servant? ETA: or is your point that OP is a simpering idiot. Aka a "simp"?

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'm baffled that OP put up with this for one moment. It's one thing if they moved in to help a sick relative, but no one is sick here except OP. Sick and tired of beating treated as a whole slave. Get a divorce. No one who loves you would let his parents treat you this way and he has enjoyed it too.

[@ChangedWinds]

As they say in the '10 Crack Commandments', silence is violence. OP's husband supports her abuse and exploitation.

[@ElCid48]

yeah, as for the husband, he acts like he is having fun with his parents and OP is just the maid he is having sex with

[@bigbearkat2010]

@@ElCid48 frankly, it sounds like the husband enjoys being acting like he's 14 and because of that he naturally balks at taking any kind of meaningful responsibility.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@ElCid48 He wants a bangmaid, not a partner.

[@dm9078]

Constant lateness is a power play. Why OP puts up with this crap is beyond me.

[@Poopiepies]

This reminds me of my parents except they treated my husband like an indentured servant and they still had us paying $700 a month to stay in the basement. He did all the yard work (mowing leaf’s snow shoveling chopping wood chicken care ect) and I did the cleaning of the house (minus master bedroom and bathroom. I even cleaned both their offices weekly) the cooking and grocery shopping. Eventually they blew up saying we weren’t contributing enough to them and their house. We left. They can go cold this winter.

[@botanicalitus4194]

Youguys are stronger than me for putting up with that for years.

[@Poopiepies]

@@botanicalitus4194 I feel so bad for making my husband endure it for so long. Grateful he stuck by my side and actually made me see that they not only disrespectful to him but myself too. I always wrote it off as “that’s how my parents are”

[@BruinPhD2009]

Brava!

[@kentario1610]

_They_ blew up? What in the world...

[@Poopiepies]

@@kentario1610 yep. Told me that I’ll remember this when I look around and realize that I’m all alone and miserable (aka without them or my sisters whom they gave around $800 a month each for their bills but that’s another story) haven’t talked to them in almost a year now.

[@Araraki-Itto1]

Story 1: This is exactly why people shouldn't give up their homes and support systems and moving across countries for their lovers. Date someone close by seriously.

[@impishrebel5969]

This is NOT going to be a good blanket approach for every situation. I moved across the planet and it was the best decision I ever made because living with MY family was horrible.

[@Araraki-Itto1]

​​@@impishrebel5969 Obviously. If your home life is bad I applaud you to leave. But what I'm talking about is people who give up GOOD support networks for a lover. Cause if things go south they have no one and feel trapped.

[@miminana-hd6nf]

when OP stated they didn't pay rent but were paying all the other bills, buying groceries, taking care of the pets etc. it was clear that not only was she the maid, she was supporting them all. That is all the house expenses since there was no mortgage. So glad that she woke up and walked away from that mess. Her husband sucks as much as his family.

[@hi_stranger9156]

"i want to move out but husband and inlaws are still against it" OOP cooks, cleans, handles the pets, and pays half of the repairs? No freaking wonder they don't want her to leave, she's doing all the work! I'm glad OOP got the hell outta there eventually.

[@MarkNarrations]

Half way through the week guys, we got this!!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤗🤗💜💜🧇🧇

[@Cazlouisa123]

roll on Friday 😂😂❤

[@MariaPlacido-b7s]

Good Morning Mark, Poppy and Waffle Gang, happy Wednesday from Toronto Ontario Canada 🇨🇦

[@meganhall8290]

Waffle Wednesday!!!

[@rylashadow18]

I hope the weeks been good to you as well as every member of the community Mark.

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #2: I've heard that speeding laws are really strict in Australia. This girl has no excuse, though, since she apparently was born and grew up there, so she knows what they're like. She sounds lazy and entitled (expecting OP to illegally take a fall for her was a huge red flag, as was being too snobby to take public transport). Glad OP is moving on to someone better.

[@fuzzylittlespider]

Story 1: OP shouldn’t have told her abusers that she was pregnant. Doing that could be dangerous and add stress to the baby. My blood was boiling when she described how they treated her in the shop! I’m so glad she was having a girl so they would leave her alone and little girls are so cute! So a win 🏆

[@TsukiKageTora]

Sure, but the way they were acting gave OP the final push she needed to leave mamma’s little b*tch

[@Danie_pixie]

It speaks volumes when she announced its a girl and they went silent, no longer caring you left. The child would have felt 0 love for being a girl.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 I'd dump this girl. She's getting legal consequences and she's trying to get you involved too. She can take public, I sure wouldn't mess up my schedule to drive someone who compromised their license

[@mattm314]

"A decent boyfriend would go to those lengths" a decent girlfriend wouldn't put their boyfriend in that position.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Wireless headphones going from "40%" to that infernal beeping in 5 minutes is why I have trust issues. But, the weather was a bit nippy and overcast. My favorite. Had a nice walk

[@MarkNarrations]

I bought an electric razor for my facial hair, the other day it had 35% and I thought perfect it will last. Literally shaved half off and dead....was most annoyed lol

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oof

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@MarkNarrations Bloody technology 😂 Hope you got the other side shaved

[@Sherwoody]

@@MarkNarrations this could be a new trend.

[@lauriemeyer7030]

Raising a baby by yourself us far easier than caring for FOUR others by herself!

[@paulclay4229]

Story 1, OP is being treated worse than a maid. Maids get paid. OP is paying to act as a maid Story 2: not sure if its legal in OPs country but here thats an offence. You will be charged if caught. Id maybe offer a lift.

[@bigbearkat2010]

Fr, this is some Cinderella type shit

[@jennilynne1977]

Story 1, the OP was treated like a slave and an incubator. If she had been having a boy, they would have treated her well until she had the baby, then it would be back to being a slave.

[@SCP01986]

She is a slave.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Story 2: I wouldn’t offer a life. She doesn’t deserve a license. One of the first thing you need to know for driving is that if you’re late, that’s not an excuse to endanger everyone else on the road, pedestrians, etc.

[@WolfgangDoW]

Yup, dunno why noonj mentions the financial abuse there too. There's no mortgage, but OP is paying for all electricity, internet, TV. What are the parents paying for?? She's paying to be a slave

[@DrownedInExile]

S1: OP was YTA to herself, for putting up with that crap for as long as she did. And her jerk husband totally gaslit her, dismissed her as "emotional" during that cooking sick debacle. Glad she finally took action and got clear of that madhouse.

[@hollyberry0602]

The girlfriend's morning routine in the second story was definitely familiar for me! lol But knowing I have a tendency to do that, I set my first alarms way earlier than I need to be up, so that I have time to dawdle while getting ready and sit on my phone. There's nothing wrong with taking a long time to get ready, but not making time for the things you need to do to get ready for the day (even if it is sit on your phone or sit with a coffee for a while) is irresponsible.

[@jacearmor5274]

S2: This is the consequences your girlfriend's actions. She needs to learn how to manage time. You shouldn't have to treat her like a parent getting a child up for school.

[@CouncilEstateRach]

She knows what she is doing, she told you all her friends are a calling you the ahole. She's a sociopath.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

The final step is for her to lose her job by being late again. Then she'll have the Loser Trifecta: lost car, lost BF, lost job.

[@hirohiroarikawa6806]

Story1: Nah she needs to go back to her parents while the three stooges find there next meal. Also needs to demand they move out if her husband won’t then he can stay while OP frees herself from there toxic behavior

[@Sherwoody]

The three stooges were comedic actors. These three are more like the three headed dog Cerberus at the gates of Hades.

[@bigbearkat2010]

Frankly they seem to operate more like she's Cinderella and they're the evil step family.

[@jennilynne1977]

​@@SherwoodyCerebrus was nicer than the family members and her husband.

[@Bubileaf]

Story 1: They stopped respecting you once they felt Entitled to your Labor. They definitely saw you as the hired help and incubator. Good on you for leaving.

[@megnotmegan1966]

She wants to move out and he’s against it?! Yeah, no shit, then there won’t be anyone there to do things for him. She doesn’t need his approval to leave.

[@SteviiLove]

I was in a similar situation to OP for the last 8 years before choosing homelessness over that situation which did lead to finally finding our own tiny apartment. Even then, my parents didn't make me cook when I was sick. Heck, I wasn't allowed out of my room when I was contagious. The only reason I was able to endure everything I have is because my partner has been my rock this entire time. Even when we lived with his parents, he's always had my back and I've always had his. A partnership is supposed to be a team. I could understand OP being expected to do so much if they weren't paying to live there but they are; just because they aren't paying rent doesn't mean they aren't paying to live there.

[@zarajones5428]

Story 1 genuinely sounds like its on its way to modern slavery

[@jennilynne1977]

Not on it's way to modern slavery. She was a slave. They weren't paying her and I'll bet she was contributing to the bills as well as everything she said she did.

[@shellchenonceau6987]

Silent treatment is a form of abuse. A BIG red flag, that you ignore at your own peril.

[@BruinPhD2009]

Story 1. Nope. Nope. Nope. Move out, with or without the husband. Preferably without.

[@LadyJuse]

"I don't want whatever you have" Then why did you make her cook?

[@jackchop1576]

After getting treated like that, I hope OP in story 1 takes him for everything in the divorce.

[@21ThoughtsKennetha]

First story: I would move out by myself. One day I would be gone and not a word would have been spoken.

[@mahdodo1]

Shout-out Brisbane, Australia! Mark, we say ‘Bris-buhn’ or ‘Brissie’ (said Brizzy) for short

[@rebecca4480]

😂 I was wandering if someone would say this. Did a double take at that party lol

[@markanthony1004]

Story 1: Why are you even in this marriage? Wtf?! Another story of Good Women marrying terrible men and it just keeps repeating

[@notevenlistening6072]

Oh, gosh. Imagine how they would have treated her daughter? So glad she fled

[@JayeEllis]

Story 1: Just stop. Do for yourself only, and see what happens from there. YOU are the AH for letting them treat you like this without putting an end to it. When someone tries to get me out of my sickbed to cook for them, my answer will always be 'no.' Full stop.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Would've been interesting if she'd called and ordered pizza or something and put it on hubby's credit card (or just told him to pay for it when it comes), and gone back to bed.

[@jackwatt8988]

1: "I'm moving out, let me know if you are coming with me or not"

[@tracicolvis7382]

She's lucky she got out now. If she'd brought her daughter into that situation they likely would have treated her horribly and expected her to be another servant for them as soon as she's big enough to push a vacuum.

[@Erikafman]

Same time as always, perfect for that last hour of work 😊

[@MarkNarrations]

Nice! Hope the last hour goes by swiftly Erika

[@briansmaller7443]

These "late" people drive me insane. Said it before but I had a brother like that. He was never on time for anything. The only reason he got to his own funeral on time was because the undertaker drove him there.

[@starlingswallow]

Wow. OP number one.... RUN!!! RUN AWAY!!!!!!

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Normally I hate the “break up immediately” Reddit often spews out but in the second OP’s case it is extremely warranted. It was like he was parenting a bratty teenager. The final straw should’ve been when she sicced her friends to harass OP.

[@ebayrose]

Story 1: "We don't pay to live here" proceeds to say they cover almost all bills in a paid off house in addition to all chores, and pay half on renovations as well...😬

[@mystearicanohr9521]

Story 1: I had an Indian co-worker that went through this situation. Semi-arranged marriage, moved across the country to live with husbands parents, and forced to be the maid/cook even after a full day of exhausting work. Her husband never took her side and her opinion was always shamed/ignored. Did I mention she went through med school and they still treated her like an incompetent? I sincerely hope she left. 😢

[@spriken]

Story 1: Damn, I called that multiple times! When she said she was sick, I guessed she was pregnant. When she said they were all wanting a boy, I was like "lol, she's gonna have a girl!" and guessed they would ditch her when they found out! Just as well, It's much easier to raise a baby on your own than to take care of a baby plus 3 grown adults!

[@damien678]

They're gonna come crawling back when the girl is old enough to start training to be their next maid

[@Heliophobic]

Such infuriating stories! Lol! Story 1: I'm so glad the wife left. I can only imagine how much worse things would have gotten for her after her daughter was born, especially since there was apparently "disappointment" that she wasn't having a boy. I pity the next woman that winds up with the ex-husband. Good riddance to bad rubbish. Story 2: I HATE tardiness. I have ADHD and am never late but I guess some people try to blame their time issues on that? Maybe having to use the public transportation that she hates so much will teach the (now ex) girlfriend a lesson and she'll actually pay attention to alarm clocks and not speed....at least for the first few weeks after she gets her license back. If her friends think OP is TA then I guess they won't mind giving her a ride to and from work every day.

[@damien678]

I have ADHD and also hate being late. My ADHD symptoms are usually pretty bad, too.

[@susankaempfer8427]

I think girlfriend just doesn’t care. Other people’s time doesn’t matter to her. Also, why isn’t she ex-girlfriend?

[@Heliophobic]

​@@damien678Same! And I can't even do anything about it because of the medication shortages that seem to not be stopping. 🙄

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

Story 2: "I'll need you to cop this one & say you were driving" That's NOT the way it works sweetheart. If this is the US each license has its own number & that number is usually on your ticket & on your record. Is she that stupid? Also, I hate public transport but I still used it when going back & forth from campus. In fact the only time I needed a ride was when one of my last classes ended AFTER the last bus. And that class was twice a week so I wouldn't be too much of a burden on my parents or friends that could pick me up. NTA. After Update: The fact that she wouldn't even consider Uber... yea, good on OP for breaking things off with her.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

Story number two: OP is absolutely NOT the butthole. When she tried to gaslight him and claimed that he wasn't a decent boyfriend for not agreeing to become her chauffeur, I cringed so bad. Why is he even with such an irresponsible, delusional, entitled person? He needs to break up with her. This is giving me flashbacks to a former friend of mine. Let's call her Kelly. Once she was in a similar predicament because she had fallen so far behind on her car insurance that her licence had been suspended. Apparently after her neighbor declined to let her use her car, she expected me to drive over to her place and then chauffeur her around to all of her errands. Considering she was so broke she couldn't even afford to pay attention, let alone her car insurance, I knew she didn't have errands. She just wanted to go to the local corner store to buy cigarettes and booze. You may be wondering where she had the money for those amenities when she couldn't even pay her bills on time. The answer is she was into hock and often “borrowed” money from other people then turned into a ghost when they demanded repayment. When I called her out, she went to pieces. It turned out I was dead on and she was out of cigarettes. I told her I wasn't going to drive her. She then brazenly said she would drive and, without missing a beat, reached for my keys. I slapped her hand. I put my keys in my pocket and she pulled her hand back like I had cut it off at the wrist. She had a shocked bug-eyed expression on her face. I went off on her stating that she would NEVER drive my car even if her licence wasn't suspended. She immediately devolved into a toddler-like tantrum, stomping her feet, flailing her arms and muttering about “selfish people.” She kept casting side-eyed glances at me while I, in awe, watched a grown woman have a meltdown because she didn't get her way. Then, perhaps, because I wasn't giving her a reaction, she stopped flipping out and snootily asked me what I was looking at. I remember I said, verbatim: “Nothing. Just realizing where your son gets his shitty behavior from.” The look on her face was as if she had been shot. She then ordered me to get out of her house. As I left, I reminded her that her home was in foreclosure because she was too lazy to get off of her flabby butt to get and maintain a job long enough to keep up with the mortgage payments. She then screamed at me to get out and to never call her again. I quipped back that I never had to call her because she would always call first looking for yet another favor she had no intention of ever repaying. I told her she was a lying parasite and would sell own kids up the river to get what she wanted. On the drive home, I got a series of shouty, grammatically incorrect, typo-filled texts and nasty voicemails calling me every name in the book. It was a typical cowardly reaction from her as she always had to have the last word even when she was totally wrong. I have it on very good authority that she threw an even bigger tantrum when I didn't respond.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Bravo! Well done.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@@user-wr3vt8uq4s thank you. Friendships are supposed to add to your life, not take from you and drain you while taking a toll on your emotional as well as your mental health. Kelly was a psycho who treated people like they were disposable

[@tailsimp]

Listening to Story 1 reminds me that sometimes, you should absolutely make a scene.

[@WolfgangDoW]

Story 1: why is noone talking about the financial abuse too? OP said there's no mortgage, but she pays for all groceries, electricity, internet, TV. What exactly are the parents paying for? Or even the husband? Cos it's not just free slave labour, she's actively supporting their lifestyle. Them sitting watching the TV while she cooks, that electricity and TV is paid for by OP!! It's not just the labour that the parents don't want to lose, but their free fucking ride too

[@paden1865able]

Getting stuff done early so I can do my Man From UNCLE marathon without guilt, nice to catch you so early, Mark! Much love to Lady Poppy!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Nice

[@CaseyTyler357]

Ooh, that puts me in the mood to marathon the show as well. Such a fun series. Enjoy your marathon!

[@telinhajp]

Good afternoon, Mark and Poppy! Big hugs from Tokyo! ❤️🤗

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey there Telinha hope all is good!!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

💜💜🤗🤗🧇🧇

[@IFAMILYIH]

SHOULD DIVORCE HER HUSBAND WHAT A COWARD

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: I would have laughed in her face the second she said all of her friends are on her side "Oh really? Good, you'll have no problem getting a ride to work in that case" Seriously did she not think that could backfire.

[@hothotheat3000]

If I’d gotten that reaction to a pregnancy announcement, I’d immediately terminate and GTFO.

[@queenrhubarb1676]

I hate how people dismiss women saying they’re too emotional.

[@thebladeofchaos]

...........how the fuck can anyone in story 1 think that's anywhere near right? she's doing everything, but can't even take a moment for her own glory of having a kid, it HAS to be the family who decide it, the family not including her.

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 2: NTA Remind her that there are consequences to her actions, and that you are not responsible for paying HER consequences. I would even go so far as to dump her, because I don't know what I would do when the police advised me that her speeding has killed her and/or an innocent person.

[@iwritejennsnottragedies8842]

You know what would be even spookier than a red waffle? A blue one 😱🫥

[@tartlynerdy]

Story 1 - "If I pushed too hard it would be everyone against me" and? It's already three against one living in this house. At least professional live in maids get paid for their services. Op is just unpaid servant labor. If the rest of the in laws gang up on op for this that means they're not allies and should be treated like the enemy. Also, I "love" the "you could have been nicer/more gentle/more careful in your approach" crowd. They say this but offer nothing to how they would have handled it if this were them in that situation. This marriage was over as far as I'm concerned. It's just really sad op's husband didn't even fight for their child either. I feel sorry for the next gullible woman he tricks into marrying into his toxic family. Story 2 - NTA. This kind of behavior has been enabled by her family and now she's set into this habit. She's too old to be acting like this and expect other people to just enable her. Also, how does she expect anyone to believe op was driving her car when she got those speeding tickets. Has she never heard of traffic cameras? Look look at her thinking she's too good to take the bus, lol. The silent treatment has me like "cool. I'm gonna order some food. You want anything? Nothing? Okay." And other petty things while they're being petulant. I'm pretty sure after this if nothing improves they can just straight up suspend the driving license indefinitely and she'll be bumming rides for the rest of her life if she doesn't end up killing someone on the road first and going to prison.

[@shebakoby]

story 1: Inlaws sound like Clusters of Bees, Hubby being their only child is a Golden Child of course to his mother, and OP is a form of readily available scapegoat/maid. She needs out, YESTERDAY. Preferably without her jelly-spined husband.

[@EmpressGemini]

Story 1: NTA. Even tho this situation didn't turn out the way OP wanted. It did turned out the way that she needed. Basically, this showed her who she could rely on, and it wasn't her husband. He cared more about pleasing his mother, instead of doing what is necessary to support his nuclear family. No marriage is sustainable when a third party is involved. Good that OP "nope" out of there when she can. Wishing you the best Story 2: “Well, well, well… if it isn’t the consequences of my own actions” NTA. You are never the a**hole for letting someone live out the consequences of their own actions. And the fact that OP’S girlfriend is using manipulative tacks to try to make her problem his, speaks volumes about her character. Question? OP why are you still with her. She sounds exhausting😮

[@silent0knight0]

Story 1: Narcissistic central… lawyer up and run for the hills!!!

[@prophetsith]

Ive never heard of a maid who pays to clean someone else' home. Which is what OP is in story one

[@TarisLuna]

I don't get how people are so comfortable with being late. Being late makes me horrendously uncomfortable, so much so that I'm habitually 20 early to everything and spend 15 of those 20 minutes waiting outside / to the side before actually going in.

[@kristinecollier9155]

Story 2, I'm surprised she hasn't been fired yet! Usually it's 3 times you're out!

[@rf159a]

Story 2: In the U.S. if you get so many speeding tickets you lose your license. Not to mention your insurance rates go sky high!!!

[@MrsMonroe714]

That husband knew exactly what he was doing they planned this from the beginning

[@listenquitely2888]

S1: Nope. Asian households are like this. You move out and if your husband is not coming with you, he can stay. If your in laws are still capable, go now.

[@marysmith-ps7uj]

Honey, leave his cowardly ass. He has no intention of taking your side. Leave and don't look back!!

[@nancyvasquez5589]

Best feeling is when I time my shower to be able to listen to a new upload and it works out

[@mindyschocolate]

S1: OP should return home and have her kid there. She’ll have her own support network there.

[@impagain]

I'm so glad she got away from that toxic, horrible family, and I hope and pray for the best for her baby. I'm so proud of her for having the strength to leave. ❤

[@izuela7677]

"Only" would be a week or two. Not six months.

[@dorianleakey]

Story 2 is hilarious, she swapped the meaning of the better late than dead on time is about NOT speeding. Same with "it's only 6 months"

[@CharlesGriswold]

Story 2: The entitlements is strong with that GF.

[@CouncilEstateRach]

Wow, poor gurl. I hope everything sorts out.

[@macylouwho1187]

I generally have a very sweet mother in law, but there are a few complications here and there. But whenever I feel ganged up on in any way or disrespected-instead of sitting quietly and taking it or being made to do things I am uncomfortable with, I literally get up, grab my stuff and leave for the entire day. Without causing a fuss or problem-I remove myself from the equation and leave my husband alone with it for the day. I get up and drive to a Barnes and Noble and spend hours drinking coffee and reading books/buying them in the most delightful way. It’s pure bliss to me, I love it. I don’t do that enough as it is, so it’s a happy thing when it happens. I’ll call a friend and see if it’s a good time to pop in. I’ll go see my informally adopted grown kids at their houses if they’ll allow it due to schedule and time of day. I don’t mention why. When I come home, mother/father in law look a bit put out and distant. They don’t know how to handle it or what to say. I totally ignore this and act like nothing happened. Husband is both a little annoyed and super careful with me simultaneously 😂. Again, gets no reaction from me. I just dip out and no one really knows how to respond to that so no one does. And then we go on as if nothing happened the next day and it’s a win/win for me 😂. Over time they learned simply to not push me too far anymore because they know exactly what I’ll do. They can’t do anything with me or to me if I am not here 😂. No one has to fight for me or against me if I’m absent. I can’t be made to do something that I’m uncomfortable with if I’m gone. It’s the easiest argument killer ever, and no one can even get more mad at me and make it a bigger issue than it was getting to be. Nothing implodes, nothing gets worse, my boundaries are maintained. OP can do this too if she works on a laptop. Get up and go work somewhere else for the day and do not allow all of the work to be dumped on her daily. Leave. They can’t make you do something if you aren’t there. I’d stay out past supper time if necessary. They can cook their own dam- food. I do that anyway when this happens at my house. I can also go work on my rental properties because I keep frozen food/drinks necessities on site in the fridge so I don’t have to leave. But usually I just go do something fun instead.

[@CareyBilley]

S2 She sounds incredibly disrespectful to everyone.

[@CareyBilley]

Dump her butt because this will be your future.

[@gerrymichaud3851]

I was the SPECWARGRU 2 staff photographer. I was late for a photoshoot of an officer reenlistment. The SEAL captain, a Commander and his wife were waiting for me. I was a bit late. After the shoot was done, the captain who was about 6'4", and me at 5'3" were in the room. He came over to me bend down over me and screamed at me for 5 solid minutes. I was NEVER late for and shoots for the rest of my career.

[@Michelle_56]

If I were OP in story 1, I’d look at the husband and say, “I’m moving out. You can feel free to follow if you’d like.”

[@MsTemptation]

S1: I applaud op for knowing her worth and making the right moves towards ending her awful marriage. She had the wherewithal to secure her money so that her husband couldn’t use it to keep her tied to him. Then she moved out and filed for divorce. Now she’s in her own place with a job that allows her to work from home. She also has a sister who is willing to help her. Women need to be very careful when dating and marrying because it could cost you more than you thought it would. Always have a backup plan because crap happens and men know how to hide their red flags. Don’t be that person who thinks that nothing like this could happen to you. Keep working and keep a separate savings account that only you have access to. Think with your heads instead of your hearts.

[@mbyerly9680]

A bang maid and broodmare. What an awesome future OP was facing. I'm glad she got out, and I hope she bleeds her husband financially dry.

[@reginarainer9740]

Story 1- OP needed to gtfo when they started doing this. Glad she’s out now, guarantee he’s going to be a dead beat dad. Story 2- that woman has no respect for anybody else or their time. He needs to break up with her, and DEFINITELY should not cop to the speeding because it just means she’ll make him do it even more and ruin his license along with hers.

[@CouncilEstateRach]

As sherl crow says....run baby run baby run. Run baby run baby ruuuuuuuuuun!

[@bridgetbenson6291]

Once upon a time, I lost my driver's license. Nothing to crazy just driving without insurance. I didn't blame anyone, I didn't force others to drive me, I figured it out myself. It sucked but I learned my lesson. That little girl needs to get over herself.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

16:19 he needs to counter this with, 'a decent girlfriend would get her sh*t together'.

[@michamocha]

Story 1: How she managed to put up with this for this long escapes me but good on Op for finally leaving. I hope she lawyers up and get a clean divorce. With how things were going, it was doubtful that the husband would change since everything was in his favor. Last: Had Op gave in to her demands, he would've been putting his own job on the line because I highly doubt she would be mindful of his schedule and get ready more on time. Plus, if Op doesn't speed, she'll probably blame him if she ends up getting in trouble at work for speeding. Breaking up was kinda only the option he had left because it really doesn't sound like she wants to change. She just wants everyone to bend over backwards for her.