r/Entitledparents She Called a Paralyzed Child "Useless"

r/Entitledparents In today's episode, OP is a young girl who is paralyzed from the neck down. She was in her wheelchair waiting at a doctor's office. An entitled parent has her hands full, so she puts her purse on OP's lap without getting permission. When OP calls the Karen out on her behavior, the Karen replies, "Aren't you glad that you can finally feel useful?" Wow, imagine being so entitled that you literally treat a disabled child like a coffee table.
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[@Drakenborn]

"No, you might consider it kidnapping. I can't take that chance, sorry!" - LOL Perfect. No notes, flawless delivery.

[@morgandouglas6014]

That EM sounded nuts. I thought it was going to end with OP and the brother having no relationship with her.

[@averxion]

Sounds like someone learned who was in charge

[@stangace20]

that was an epic comeback

[@michaelhizon4180]

Why is the brother drunk

[@reddwon2191]

the mom's kid the 15 year year old son was drunk where does this take place?

[@Positivekitten]

As someone who has been called “useless” in the past due to my disability, I totally feel for the girl in that story!

[@therealspeedwagon1451]

What is your disability If you don’t want to talk about it that’s fine too

[@kbdcoc2526]

I’m not disabled and I’m useless 🤔😂

[@Positivekitten]

@@therealspeedwagon1451 I am legally blind. If you’re wondering, blindness is a spectrum. Only about 10% of people who are classified as legally blind are 100% totally blind. The rest of us have varying degrees of usable vision but have impairments that cannot be corrected to better than 20/200. I do have a fair amount of usable vision but I’ve never been able to drive. Also, if you’re wondering, there is plenty of adaptive technology for the blind that ranges from being able to enlarge text like I do to adaptations that will read anything on your screen and allow a person to dictate text, so even people who are totally blind can do pretty much anything on the Internet but anyone else can. I say this because pretty much anytime somebody says they are legally blind, people jump all over them accusing them of faking because they assume we are not capable of reading or replying to comments. But yes, I’ve had people tell me I was useless, And denied me access to activities and employment that I knew I was fully capable of doing. So now I take any opportunity I can to educate people.

[@eowyn8340]

@@Positivekitten My aunt (whom I love dearly) is legally blind and has never been labeled ‘disabled ‘ in our family. There are some things, like driving after dark, that she can’t do but we’d never criticize her for it. It wasn’t until her older brother, my dad, was teaching her to drive that anyone knew her vision was compromised. Needless to say, those were some harrowing driving lessons that they still laugh about to this day. I’m sorry anyone ever told you you’re useless. Growing up with my aunt I know that’s the furthest thing from the truth. Being legally blind just means you experience life a little differently. I also have a cousin who is deaf, married and has children. So my perspective on ‘disabilities’ may be slightly different than usual.

[@ZombieSazza]

Same - my biological family abused me throughout my life (physical violence and psychological) and weaponising my disabilities was one of their favourites, they’d make me feel horrible for having permanent nerve damage which comes with mobility issues where I’m literally 90% bedridden, and have PTSD, they’d use it against me whenever they could as a reason to tear me down because they were bullies, so I heard “useless” more times than I care to remember, along with claims that I was “flaunting” my disabilities when I dared to post a photo of myself looking happy on social media where you could see my walking cane, that I was “choosing” to be bedridden, that I was “lazy”, “selfish”, “lying”, “making it up for attention”, etc etc. I’ve a whole medical team who can easily prove my disabilities are real, but according to my uneducated biological family, they knew better than literal doctors. Thankfully I cut all contact with them, life’s a lot better since cutting my abusers from my life where I can just concentrate on “lying to the government for money” (disability is literal pennies lmao) and trying to enjoy life as best I can. Totally feel for the girl in the story because lord knows I’ve been there, and it’s such a horrible feeling, like you’ve been punched in the gut for something you cannot control.

[@seabass819]

That's a first time I've heard about a Karen yelling at someone for NOT using a handicap spot.

[@nightrayneraven1323]

Ik it's like so weird. My mom has a handicap placard thing that she hangs in the window and if there is a normal spot open near (about 3 spaces) from a handicap spot my mom will park there. And if something like that happens to my mom, she's confrontational

[@GOGOSLIFE]

@@nightrayneraven1323 I know, I'm the same. If there's 2 spots, I'll take the further one. There'll always be someone worse off than you, is my motto. Good on your mom, glad she'll take care of the situation if need be.

[@A_Rose_From_Concrete]

Ikr?? That is the weirdest thing ever

[@Yumi_Jay]

This is the second time I hear about a Karen yelling at someone for not using a handicap spot. First time was when someone was driving their spouses car which has placard plates, but because they aren't disabled they park in a normal spot. The Karen got upset that they didn't park the handicap spot because she needed that person's spot for her and her crotch goblins.

[@Robin-oo5il]

@@GOGOSLIFE I do the same when I don't feel bad I'll just park in any space, only use handicap space when I hurt.

[@franl155]

"It's nice to be useful for once" How would she know what it feels like to be useful - ever? It's a wonder the kid still has some humanity left in him.

[@c6rn6g2k1d]

There's always examples of good parents being assholes to everyone else, and then there are seemingly reputable people who are the worst possible parents to their own children. In real life, paragons are a rare breed, if not a total myth that some strive to be.

[@kranberry3318]

Some kids manage to be good people despite their parents being trash. I did. I think there’s usually another family member that can kind of “raise” them and instill better values and recognize the shitty behavior of the parent. Maybe the kid’s dad is good? For me, it’s my grandmother.

[@noobiesensei6281]

The kid may have a father. Honestly, that's the only viable explanation

[@christopherandresen9790]

@@kranberry3318 yeah I know what you mean. often grandparents and aunts/uncles but sometimes even older siblings that looked through their parents faccade are real parents to their kids.

[@michaelterrell]

The girl should have started screaming 'ASSAULT!'.

[@neilprice513]

The last story: OP should save all the newer emails and texts. As well as find as many other older texts an emails from their Abusive Father. Then take all of that to the custody hearing and show the judge that he's in now was a suitable parent.

[@snivythefencer2898]

Yeah that was the first thing that came to mind. They surely wouldn’t give over custody if he doesn’t even pay child support, right?

[@7xlukasx785]

@@H-to-O Based on the word "Nutzungsentschädigung", which btw means a compenation payment for using something, i assume that it's not in the States. Custody shiz in Germany is actually okay-ish and they don't just give it to trashy dads.

[@black1917]

At very least he can use them to get a no contact order against the EF.

[@QuietRage]

@@H-to-O She mentioned earlier in the story that they live in Germany

[@christopherandresen9790]

and maybe file a restriction so if the father tries to reach out for her he gets arrested

[@maeghanmahaffey]

As someone who went through emotional and mental abuse from their narcissistic father, the last story absolutely disgusts me. Also wtf gets off by calling a disabled person useless?? People like this piss me off to no end

[@cosmicreef5858]

You are not alone. I am currently working on to finally move out and cut him off from my life. I hope that you are doing better now!

[@maeghanmahaffey]

@@cosmicreef5858 it's a process even without him in my life, but I am doing better. Good luck to you my friend, I hope you get out of that situation soon

[@1bendykat]

I’m disabled. There’s a common thought in society that people have to be abled to be considered valid, productive, or useful. At the start of COVID I saw this a lot when people were saying that disabled people deserved to get COVID and die because they didn’t do anything. I’ve been repeatedly told I deserve to die just for existing by plenty of people, even Senators (I’m from the US). Keep in mind many of us have full time jobs and even if we didn’t, that’s no excuse not to treat people with respect.

[@Starfloofle]

The only people who deserve to get covid and die are the very psychopaths who can see people as that far below them perpetuate this kind of anti-human nonsense >:c

[@IrkenExile]

Ran into a pair of ableist assholes the other day. Talking about how people in low-skill jobs deserve to struggle and suffer for "not doing their part." I countered with people who are disabled, mainly mentally disabled or the developmentally delayed (like me). One literally said, "cry me a river, build a bridge and get over it." The other literally claimed that only less than 1% are actually disabled and the rest are just weak useless fakers. Rarely do I ever want to inflict serious injury on other people, but I really wanted to introduce those two to a sledgehammer

[@trentongreen5133]

I'm with you. I shattered my hand in a work accident (I worked on a farm at the time) and because I had to have my arm in a cast and splint I got told countless times that I should get covid and die

[@carolbielas3519]

People who disrespect someone whi disabled are disrespected for their awfulness

[@carolbielas3519]

Whoops are disrespectful and honestly disgusting excuses for allegedly being called a human being

[@Lotuswalker]

Nutzungsentschädigung means compensation for usage. Basically the mother uses the house, and compensates the second owner, the father, for not using it.

[@Nerobyrne]

Dankeschön

[@christopherandresen9790]

its a bit more complicated but basically yes. it is more like a leased house that goes into your posession if you reach a certain amount of money that is decided at the devorce. normally the market value - your part of money at buying time -/+ infation

[@franketa76]

Deutsch ist eine tolle Sprache, wir haben viele lustige Begriffe ;)

[@franketa76]

@@christopherandresen9790 Nein, das ist so nicht richtig. Eine Nutzungsentschädigung ist vom Schuldner zu zahlen, wenn die vertragliche Nutzungsüberlassung endet, ohne dass der bisherige Schuldner die Nutzung aufgibt oder die vertraglich vereinbarte Nutzung nicht möglich ist. Mehr sagt der Begriff selbst nicht aus, das, was du beschreibst, sind dann schon Vertragsdetails.

[@christopherandresen9790]

@@franketa76 naja in diesem Fall war das ja auf das Haus bei der Scheidung bezogen aber ja im Endeffekt ist eine Nutzungsentschädigung nichts anderes als ein Leasing Vertrag bei dem am Ende das Objekt in deinen Besitz übergeht

[@BadBerri]

The 15 year old story hit really hard. Thought I never got drunk, My mom was very abusive and it nearly drove me to a darker place. Thankfully my older sister actually took me and my brother in, got power of attorney and helped raise us even though she was just 20 years old and had a kid. I am thankful for her everyday and try to give back to her the best I can.

[@stressedbyamountainofbooks]

That cop "HAVE A NICE DAY" Response was gold

[@starbird3939]

I feel so bad for the brother in Story 2. It is obvious he IS struggling with the mom and his sister just victim blames him instead of, at least, calling CPS.

[@jadedflames2809]

"My brother tends to exaggerate" if this was an AitA post, OP would be an ah for being dismissive. Like I get that she can't/doesn't want to care for her brother, but seems to refuse to help him from the outside and wants to get consent from the *abuser* to get him?

[@NyxyPixie]

Yeah I was pretty upset at that too. Like the mom calls screaming and threatening and she's like "oh, don't worry I won't help your victim escape without your permission!" I don't know if the mother's behavior is somewhat normalized to her or what. Like yeah he's not your kid but he is your brother and he is still a kid!

[@limiv5272]

@@jadedflames2809 Legally if OP came and took the brother, their mother could cause legal trouble for her, as she indeed tried to do. OP would need to go through a long ugly and costly custody battle to get the brother out of there, and it may not be possible for them to do that. Calling CPS does sound like a good idea, though it's possible they already have. These stories don't usually come with a lot of background.

[@phobiaxz]

@@limiv5272 THey didnt need to necessarily come get the kid but they couldve at least not fucking act like the brother was lying. Clearly the mother is fucked up and the fact that the sister is not only blaming the MINOR in the situation but also not even trying to help by calling cps is fucked up. OP needs help. wheres the fucking empathy/sympathy

[@GJBndls]

Calliing CPS does not always work, most of the time they just get off with a warning. then the person who called has the risk of being exposed and cut out of the family removing their ability to check up on the child.

[@silverflight01]

Story 2: Looks like SHE'LL be the one learning who's in charge, and that is law enforcement.

[@lauras.9294]

The one with the mother and the 15 year old boy hits me hard for some reason. I mean, she's pretty clearly abusive to him, like that's pretty obvious. I find it a bit strange that the older sister doesn't seem to care much and that she seems to think that both of them are in the wrong the equal amount. Like, when a parent is abusing a child, the child's response is the parents' fault, no matter what it is. If the kid was like over 20 or so and would theoretically be able to move out and live their own life, that responsibility would fall to themselves, but blaming a 15 year old kid the same amount as the abusive parent for a situation is pretty weird and I'm honestly concerned that the sister doesn't seem to care. As an older sister who's already taking huge risks in order to make my little siblings happy and giving them chances that I never had even though I'm only 19, I find the sisters behaviour really weird...

[@HobieInTheBox]

The kid is becoming like his mom, but it's not too late for him to change and get help. I'm disappointed too that OP didn't try much to help him. Idk what she does in her free time tho

[@robert-janthuis9927]

I'd not be surprised if the OP there simply had run out of empathy for anyone there. They probably just want to be done with the entire thing since it is just continuous suffering for them.

[@velvety2006]

@Alexandria maybe she has tried it multiple times but it has fallen on deaf ears or mom blocked it, like she said it's not her kid. It maybe sound cruel but sometimes you just have to let people go.

[@kranberry3318]

@@velvety2006 Plus she has two young kids of her own that need to be her main priority.

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

I understand that, the level of it is a bit odd, but at the same time, I understand running out of empathy from a situation when being burned out from it. Hope they all end up okay.

[@gerrard1144]

OP: *has a private diary and door isn't locked* EK: *read's diary* OP: hey karen your kid has been reading my diary, it's not really ment for kids. Karen: lol idc here's 15 bucks OP: *doesn't want to babysit Karen's kid* Karen: *confused screaming*

[@dracko158]

More like "autistic screeching".

[@Richard_Nickerson]

meant*

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@We need new president Oh I'll gladly miss it, spammer

[@Datrebor]

The mother is a bad parent. The child needs to be taught not too mess with other people's private stuff without permission. It's a brat raising a brat.

[@Persholm1]

@@Datrebor "The mother isn't a bad parent. The kid needs a good parental figure to teach them what's right and wrong"

[@leohunter801]

I'm betting that the child that Karen called "useless" is 10 times more useful than Karen

[@cecejamesable]

I hope that Karen rolls her ankles and takes a long, long stroll off a short pier.

[@EvilMeganium]

But isnt 10 x 0 = 0?

[@lolmancz1417]

Probably a safe bet.

[@black1917]

A wet paper bag is more useful than Karen.

[@Palkia8-Bit]

@@EvilMeganium fine then (k + 1) * 10 So its k = 0: 1 * 10 = 10

[@John.Doe42069]

That German word "Nutzungsentschädigung" means as much as "usage compensation" if anyone is curious. Basically you have to pay back a portion of the value of a good to the co-owning party (and for the time of usage), that they aren't able to have access to the good.

[@GOGOSLIFE]

Thank you.

[@charleshadley1468]

Thanks for explaining this, I was dreading trying to Google it properly

[@John.Doe42069]

@@charleshadley1468 you're welcome.

[@lordcatboygaming]

Long scroll to finally find this comment I was gunna figured I'd check if someone did first good job

[@FutureBereaAlumn]

Karen thinking disabled people are legally required to use accessible parking is just baffling. Wait until she finds out not every store has accessible parking spots at all.

[@gmun2248]

The guy with the disabled permit in that story is making an excellent point and being very considerate. I had a disabled permit for a few years for a serious health condition that limited my ability to walk 'long' distances, but it varied from day-to-day & was invisible. Except on days when I needed to use a wheelchair. I had people shout at me for parking in disabled spaces because I didn't "look disabled"; & like everyone, I saw people take up the 1 or 2 disabled spaces when there were no others, with no permit. I also didn't park in them if I was having a good day & could still get close enough, because there **are** people who need them more - for wheelchair space, or mobility aids, or car ramps etc. People should be more aware of all those issues.

[@saphiriathebluedragonknight375]

@@gmun2248 I know my mom considered one when my sister had hip surgery. I can't remember if she got one though.

[@gmun2248]

@@saphiriathebluedragonknight375 I think the fact the US allows temporary ones is actually a really good thing. I'm British & lived between the US & UK for a few years. Here, at home, they are a permanent disability/ chronic illness thing and very difficult to get, plus it takes ages (with the exception of terminal illnesses). They can make a huge difference for someone's independence & ability to do things, short term or long term. 'Invisible disability' is a major issue though - & ironically, the majority of 'qualifying conditions' are invisible. (& so I always try to share...) I hope your sister recovered well. (*Edit - I assumed you're in the US bc I know you can get them for after surgeries there. Everything I said applies to anywhere that's possible.)

[@saphiriathebluedragonknight375]

@@gmun2248 She fine. That was a long time ago now. Her issue was hip dysplasia in both hips. Needed two sperate surgeries. The second one was after she graduated high school.

[@zombiechicken7114]

Poor op in 1st story. I would hate someone disrespecting my space and reading my diary. The mother is vile. 2nd story I feel so bad for the brother.

[@tiredman99]

Man Kabar sounds like a good guy. Not taking a handicap spot cause he doesn't think he needs it and that someone with greater needs can use it

[@goombapizza6335]

No. This is the one time in any of these videos where I've sided with the "bad guy". At least in my tri-county area there are way more handicapped spots than there are handicapped parkers. We will be trying to park in a lot with 50 occupied regular spots and 5 unoccupied handicapped spots, because the proportion of regular to handicapped spots does not even nearly reflect the real proportion of handicapped to non-handicapped people. And we're staring angrily at those 5 handicapped spots, the only available spots in the whole parking lot but no one is coming to use them. So if someone with a handicapped decal comes through and decides to take the only available regular spot rather than take one of the prime spots designated for him which the rest of us can't use, so that now we have to wait another ten minutes or park a mile away... well, that's just cruel.

[@Holychickendinner]

​@@goombapizza6335The lady in the story could have parked farther away. There were other parking spots, just not cLoSe OnEs. She just didn't want to. Kids usually have more energy than adults, so either her kids wouldn't have cared how far they'd have to walk and she was just using them as a scapegoat for her laziness, or they're lazy and entitled, in which case they definitely needed to suck it up and walk the farther distance anyway.

[@Bmacthesage]

It would've been so perfect if the GF in the wheelchair had her appointment called, and just went in with EP's bag still on her lap

[@ernestlemmingway1124]

My grandmother left me her SUV when she died and it still has handicap plates because it was transferred to my name while she was still alive. I _never_ park in a handicap spot because I'm not disabled (though my left knee may change that soon) and I've never met anyone who demanded I do so because of the plates. The fact idiots like that exist is scary.

[@jacquelynsmith2351]

I'm partially disabled, but not enough that I've ever considered applying for a placard (though I won't go anywhere on my really bad days). I get so uncomfortable when I use the spaces even though it's only when I'm driving my dad for doctor appointments using HIS placard. I'm just waiting for the day when I pick my dad up from a clinic or hospital, he won't already be in my car, and I get accosted by a Karen XD

[@hauntedshadowslegacy2826]

Fun fact: Some places actually have laws against using accessible parking spots if the vehicle is not being used (or about to be used) by someone with a qualifying disability. Good luck with your knee, but keep this in mind just in case.

[@MichelleHell]

She wasn't stupid, she wanted to park close to the entrance and made shit up to get her way

[@drwboy07]

When I took care of my brother, he had a placard but I would only use it if I had his wheelchair with me. Other times I would have him push the cart. I would get so many dirty looks when I would park in the handicap spot. A few times I got cussed out. Another time this dude threatened to beat my ass. That was hilarious.

[@coreylemon]

That last story: Save those emails. If your dad really is still threatening you, you'll want those as evidence.

[@hauntedshadowslegacy2826]

I also recommend the OP stops using that 'd' word in relation to the dangerous creature. Having cPTSD myself, it helps to create distance between oneself and the abuser. Allowing such relational ties, even just verbally, can further the trauma. But yes, keep all evidence from the monster.

[@BloodThirstyAvengers]

That last OP got threatened via email. He needs to print those emails and present them as evidence.

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

9:08 Honestly, if they'd done that during MY sex ed class, I would've had my many questions answered WAY sooner. Had to figure everything else out from erotic novels and "Big Mouth." No, seriously, I was the only one not laughing and legitimately wanted to know what the teacher was talking about.

[@textme739]

⬆️⬆️HIT ME UP⬆️⬆️•.

[@someguy7629]

Same, i was very shy in general, especially about such things. but i was the only one not giggling and laughing during those classes.

[@saphiriathebluedragonknight375]

I had sex ed three times, but it never clicked until I became an adult. Thanks to my sister. Now I never want to get married.

[@nahnot6247]

@@saphiriathebluedragonknight375 wait a sec "thanks to my sister"? Uhh

[@saphiriathebluedragonknight375]

@@nahnot6247 NO! Not like that! We lived together and our house had thing walls.

[@buckysgirl4945]

If I were the GF in the wheelchair, I would have driven out of the room when that "lady" put her purse in my lap.

[@DarcOne13]

Master has given Dobby a purse! Dobby is free!

[@Leslie58]

@BritneyMorgan thanks for the laugh. I am totally picturing that scenario 😂😂😂

[@Yumi_Jay]

Then you have a Karen-Malfoy chasing after her being all upset like some crazed Goblin.

[@hauntedshadowslegacy2826]

@@Yumi_Jay It'd be even better if the chair had a turbo-speed mode. (cue Benny Hill's Yakety Sax)

[@kranberry3318]

@@hauntedshadowslegacy2826 Thank you for this mental image!

[@maieen2665]

It's too bad OP's girlfriend doesn't have telekinesis. If she did, she could've slapped the EP with her mind.

[@jackadams3878]

dont you need to make a wisdom check for mage hand?

[@saphiriathebluedragonknight375]

@@jackadams3878 It's against a Karen. Even a one should be enough.

[@teslagod7221]

telekinesis?if she had it,why throw something or slap that EP when that EP herself could be thrown...

[@guerra_dos_bichos]

That first story hit home so close, being the elder child of an unstable mom, I feel so powerless to help my young siblings, I do my best but sometimes it feels like it's not enought

[@batteryhunter]

Rslash has become a bit of my morning routine and honestly, I'm not complaining

[@varahunter68]

lmao your comment's been botted

[@batteryhunter]

Oh god what they really liked this comment

[@DoenSnikduj]

Gotta love my daily dose of RSlash. I find it somewhat therapeutic, listening to stories from all over the world.

[@stressedbyamountainofbooks]

@salamah of course you gonna show up in here Edit: this comment got bombarded with 3 spam bots lol

[@buzzsawwyrm1595]

Don't worry I reported them all

[@QuietChaos1996]

@@stressedbyamountainofbooks Don't worry. I also reported them all.

[@Clawthehedgehog1]

These help me get though my work day whenever I’m having a slow day.

[@jellynotfromminecraft8965]

@@QuietChaos1996 I also reported them all.

[@theavatarofinsanity]

For Context: "Nutzungsentschädigung" would probaly translate best to something like "Usage-compensation". As in "compensation for not being able to use/ do something". In this case: since the parents purchased the house together the father should usually be in his right to go there whenever he wants. But since he's an abusive butthole he's keept away by receiving financial compensation.

[@GTSE2005]

I love how everytime a karen condemns someone they are condemning themselves

[@Hybrid301]

It’s so unfortunate that “lack of empathy” isn’t considered a disability. That parking story Karen would always be able to park right up front.

[@coreylemon]

That's the third story my friend

[@Nekulturny]

Now I feel bad, I have a handicapped placard, and while I'm 36, I have health issues. I almost never use it, because the biggest problem I have are back related issues that only bother me when I'm bending over, I can walk fine. I hate to put anyone out, so I'll usually just park in a normal spot, because I can walk the distance and there are people who need wheelchair access, and because I don't want someone to be run over in a wheelchair in a parking lot because someone can't see them. Jeez, Karens gonna Karen no matter what I guess.

[@rigandigy2329]

Multiple mental disorders (or whatever they are) have lack of empathy, so, it technically is

[@samsoncooper1]

Hmm, it isn't a disability in and of itself though. Selfishness has served a purpose in human evolution and it still does. Although as stated q fair few mental illnesses have lack of empathy as a symptom. Cos lacking empathy usually is a symptom of something else. I think everyone should be taught mindfulness, taught how to feel for others. Some can't learn but most people can learn to be empathic

[@augustaseptemberova5664]

@@rigandigy2329 Yes and no .. it depends on how you define "lack of empathy". tl;dr I think when people think/say someone has "lack of empathy", they're actually meaning "I can't empathize, with why/how would be capable of doing " Like, every human has mirror neurons that physically enable empathy. And those recognition patterns of emotions and feelings in others "as one's own" is refined as we age. Also, any and every person is capable of learning cognitive empathy. But, someone with antisocial disorder doesn't have a good fear/stress response. Their ability to feel empathetic stess is severely reduced. So they recognize feelings and empathize with them, but seeing someone upset won't cause any stress/need in them to help someone not be upset. Someone like that is heavily dependent on growing up in a good environment that positively rewards acts of cognitive empathy. Someone like me (Aspergers), is capable of all kinds of empathy .. but .. what upsets/amuzes/bores/etc. me, doesn't usually upset/amuze/bore/etc. "normal" people .. and vice versa. So, for example, I can see when someone is upset, and I get empathetic stress because I empathize with being upset and I wish for them to not be upset, but I have to ask why they are upset, and then exercise cognitive empathy when they're sad about something that wouldn't faze me. Someone with pronounced narcissism is also fully capable of empathy, but depending on how bad the narcissism is, empathy may be used as a powerful tool to manipulate & exploit people. Like, if I know what makes you sad/happy and why, I know what to say/do to get a reaction out of you that plays into my own need for attention or some other selfish agenda. People with ADHDlike disorders often get characterized as unempathetic, because if their symptoms are severe enough they're too "all over the place" to focus on someone else's input for sufficient time and give them the attention they deserve, or they seem unpatient. And then there's sadists, who are very empathetic, but unfortunately enjoy the pain they inflict on others.

[@cosmix_lav]

The story about the 15 yo rubs me the wrong way "he tends to over exaggerate" yet OP knows how her mother is but won't help. She doesn't have to take him in but at least make sure he's safe and has the resources to get better. He obviously doesn't have a good home life and op expects him to be perfect. Do better!!!

[@austinriley8410]

Back in college, I wrote parking citations for a couple semesters. One time the supervisor sent out an email reminding us that just because someone has a handicap placard, they aren’t required to park in a handicap spot. I was shocked that he needed to tell us that. Apparently 3 of the 5 (not me, because I’m not an idiot) had done this a couple times each.

[@AceMoonshot]

It never occurred to me that people would think it is some type of requirement, instead of a privilege. But yeah, I can see how it happens. People make the dumbest assumptions sometimes.

[@Arcin.]

15:20 As a German, hearing rSlash try tro pronounciate "Nutzungsentschädigung" just feels really awkward

[@lolmanboss]

Ihm fehlen die "u" und das "ä" 😁

[@Arcin.]

@@lolmanboss ä wundert mich nicht, dass er das nicht richtig ausgesprochen hat, gibt ä/ö/ü ja im englischen nicht

[@armagedus]

Wohl wahr. Aber genauso seltsam klingen wir Deutschen wenn wir andere Sprachen ohne Vorkenntnisse sprechen 😅

[@sussylittlemeowmeow6068]

The last story I can kinda understand what OP is feeling. My old bastard of a father was like that too. The only difference is my mom actually pressed charges WHEN the abuse was happening and got a divorce cause he treated her the same way. Sorry that OP had to go through that

[@AlGoYoSu]

When I was in HS I was on crutches after reconstructive surgery from tearing my ACL/MCL during football. Some dough boy wannabe upper classman decided to act tough and get in my face for some reason I have no idea about. I lived in a 2nd story condo at the time and was an expert on the crutches at this point. I shifted my weight to one side, and brought the other crutch up with as much velocity I could muster and struck him in between his legs. Dropped him like a bag of flour. 2 weeks later I got the clear to put weight on my repaired leg. Dough boy knew better than to step to me now that I was back on two feet, and my friends/teammates were aware of what transpired. Good times. Knee still sucks though.

[@silverflight01]

Story 5: Insulting a disabled person makes you worse than a common criminal. At least a common criminal would just steal or punch someone, but this Karen inflicted emotional damage, and that is worse.

[@Bremend]

Steven He "Emotional Damage!"

[@LeafyLeafbloom]

@@Bremend ya beat me to it

[@MatthewShepherd-wm4tz]

Damn a year too late

[@stressedbyamountainofbooks]

How come people not see an invasion of privacy as a serious matter?

[@fdm2155]

I think most normal people would see that kid's behavior as unacceptable and the mother's response as outrageous

[@Rj-ij6ko]

LOOOOOL😂 **mom calls the cops on her daughter** also mom: Hey can you bail me out? 😂😂 i’m gunna need her to explain her mindset on that

[@christibritton1436]

lady dropping purse into quadraplegics lap - should have called cops for assault, harrassment and trespass. Also report to doctor, they would know who it was, and have EM banned from office.

[@FerventLotus]

"Boys are curious." All the more reason to make sure your crotch goblin learns what he needs to at that age.

[@dave900575]

Update: IK is now a monk and believed new life comes from spontaneous generation, e.g. leaves in a river turn into fish...

[@deadonarrivalgirl9785]

The girl that ran over the dudebro's foot absolutely ended me! Just envisioning her with her friends and OP standing around, dudebro opens his mouth and she just narrows her eyes, scoots over his foot and backs up again while everyone just retains laughter while dudebro loses his marbles. Thanks for the giggles XD

[@textme739]

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[@carlborneke8641]

Dear god that last story. Every time I hear about abuse that bad I think about another story I heard years ago. It was about a 13 year old boy who was living alone with his father. He was tortured endlessly both physically and emotionally to the point where he one day took a kitchen knife and killed his father in his sleep. He then called 911 and confessed what he had done and I don’t know or remember what happened next but I hope he got help.

[@Starfloofle]

If nothing else, the world is better off without that scumbag sack of flesh that dared pretend it was a human but taking a life is gonna leave plenty of trauma too so I agree with you :c

[@vanessadutoit4646]

As someone who has a disability and in a wheelchair that story about the entitled mother my mouth was my on the floor the entire time like wtf. P. S love your entitled parent stories its my favorite ❤️

[@kiaowens2856]

Second story: why did you let your brother stay there??? Your mother was drunk and let your brother drink underage. That whole part baffled me. It would be clear to the police she’s drunk and so was a minor.

[@jhepadidaymaypamoa5172]

I'm disgusted by how the girlfriend of the OP in the "useless" story was treated. This is beyond disrespectful. I hope the recovery therapy helps as much as possible !

[@songohan3321]

For the Karen that drop the purse in OP's GF's lap, I have this saying. "Violence is never the answer unless the right question is asked." Kazuma's ideology of Gender Equality also applies here too.

[@cherry__Soda]

I kinda feel bad for the fifteen year old, he’s probably not mentally well considering he has been drinking so young and has a parent like that. Hope they get help too and find a safe home to live.

[@SoccYT]

Yeah I hate OP. Brother was getting abused and her response was tough tiddy.

[@jaspr1999]

I will probably sound like a terrible person but I do have to admit to throwing purses, coats, packages, mail, groceries, and whatever else some dimwit has dropped into my lap to 'Hold' for them. It's such a common occurrence that I don't really think of it being out of the ordinary, but it sends me from zero to pissed, instantly. So, yeah. I do pick up and throw anything and everything as hard as I can when someone drops into my lap so matter what it is. I joke that I'm a human dolly, but only to friends and family. That doesn't include strangers. I'm SO grateful to have my upper body and my heart goes out to the frustration of that gal. That woman REALLY needed to be slapped!!! I apologize for my rant, but this type of stuff sets me off.

[@justsomeguy1695]

If i were the women's place i would politely ask her to hold it for a few minutes not just drop it in her lap

[@dracko158]

EM: **Calls OP a kidnapper and accuses him of planning to kidnap, gets arrested** Also EM: *"Please come and bail me out!!"* OP: *"LOL no."* EM: **Surprised Pikachu Face**

[@stangace20]

I feel like "immature kid" was really just "dangerously sheltered kid" thanks to his mom, don't know how old the story is but if it's old can only imagine how F'd up he is now thanks to her!

[@TomJeffries1]

The last story: If the OP has proof that the EF is unfit to look after their brother (the e-mails), they should this to the court hearing. The mother sounds like the lesser of 2 evils as she just doesn’t care but for God’s sake don’t let him win again.

[@textme739]

⬆️⬆️HIT ME UP⬆️⬆️

[@strikeforce1500]

I legit feel sorry for the paralized GF. I hope he was raised by an actual human being, and not that trash of EP

[@Shiverwar]

Credit to the injured kid in that story, though. Despite his absolute cunt of a mother, he seemed like a good kid.

[@merlinathrawes746]

As the story said, just because you have a handicap placard/plate/permit you don't HAVE to park in a handicap parking space. Good thing too as if it were the law, I'd have a whole bunch of tickets from parking in "normal" spots when all the handicap spots were full.

[@sydneyyxD]

If I brought my paralyzed daughter to a PT appointment and someone used her as a table I would be in their face IMMEDIATELY. That’s beyond disrespectful. Like are there actually people who think disabled people are there for their convenience? Jesus.

[@Yumi_Jay]

It happens more than we think. People tend to use me for their benefit because I am on the Autism Spectrum.

[@retro3188]

That stinks! I’m sorry, Yumi. I’m autistic, too.

[@drive9395]

Errrrrr

[@cyanideytcuriousseadoggo]

@@Yumi_Jay both owners of this replying account ducking HATE those people due to one of the holder is said replying account being on the spectrum.

[@13BGunBunny]

"That's what you get for forgetting to do the grocery shopping!" 🤣

[@graced3826]

the first story is so heart breaking. i get how it feels to have a journal that u vent in, it feels like a personal safe space where u don’t have to worry abt the judgement from others. When someone reads it , it’s shattering. the safest place you had was exposed and when it happened to me, i wasn’t able to keep a journal, it wasn’t the same anymore. it wasn’t a safe place. i hope they’re doing okay:(

[@eldupont3095]

I feel so sorry for the sheltered kid in the sex ed story. His mother is doing him a disservice, and he was clearly not prepared for what he saw as a result. Yeah, he did something he shouldn't, but I still feel for him.

[@stevolution666]

I bet it felt good to be useful That line alone sent waves of hatred and murder right through me

[@kacielawrence]

I hope Karen's kid ends up going no contact with his mother as soon as possible. And hopefully she gets caught treating some other disabled person like that. As for the divorced father and mother, I hope OP and their brother ends up in a place where they don't have to see either parent as soon as possible. They should go no contact and expose their parents as horrible people.

[@evadedenbach1226]

Yes, no contact is the only way to have a life and have some peace.

[@Noooooone]

Nutzungsentschädigung, literally translated usage compensation, roughly pronounced Noot-soongs-ent-shae-dee-goong

[@ZombieSazza]

God I feel so much for that wee lassie and can relate all too well, my biological family abused me throughout my life (physical violence and psychological) and weaponising my disabilities was one of their favourites, they’d make me feel horrible for having permanent nerve damage which comes with mobility issues where I’m literally 90% bedridden, and have PTSD, they’d use it against me whenever they could as a reason to tear me down because they were bullies, so I heard “useless” more times than I care to remember, along with claims that I was “flaunting” my disabilities when I dared to post a photo of myself looking happy on social media where you could see my walking cane, that I was “choosing” to be bedridden, that I was “lazy”, “selfish”, “lying”, “making it up for attention”, etc etc. I’ve a whole medical team who can easily prove my disabilities are real, but according to my uneducated biological family, they knew better than literal doctors. Thankfully I cut all contact with them, life’s a lot better since cutting my abusers from my life where I can just concentrate on “lying to the government for money” (disability is literal pennies lmao) and trying to enjoy life as best I can. Totally feel for the girl in the story because lord knows I’ve been there, and it’s such a horrible feeling, like you’ve been punched in the gut for something you cannot control.

[@mr.scarlo2234]

I hope that everyone is having a good Wednesday!

[@shizanketsuga8696]

The pronunciation of "Nutzungsentschädigung" was spot on... if we take "spot on" to mean "it almost made me blow my drink through my nose". So, uhm, well done? It's financial compensation for EF for not getting to use the house he (probably) owns half of, roughly translates to "usage compensation".

[@CatNolara]

Oh man, I so wished for a happy ending to that last story :(

[@osohombre]

That second story had a generous helping of Malicious Compliance.

[@wafflestoast4546]

Op in the last story needs to document and send the threats to the respective authorities. Bonus points for audio recordings.

[@erikeinfach]

"Nutzungsentschädigung" basically means that she pays him for using the house that is his. simple: compensation of use.

[@glitchedzenkokitsune9703]

“Mom: My sons disabled!! Son: Bitch what?!

[@Donkeyearsa]

In many states giving alcohol to your own kids in your own home is still supplying alcohol to someone under age and will still be held up in court.

[@insanedeer844]

People who are abusive have zero self-awareness about all of the stuff they have done and The last story represents that a lot

[@TitanusGojiraEditz]

Calling a paralysed child useless is like calling me an rSlash hater. Simply not true.

[@trustingGuard]

First! Have a good day! This will def help me feel better after the panic attack I had yesterday. - School Crossing Guard

[@funnytian7233]

Nice

[@myy1008]

you were 6th

[@bondkiller8351]

Damn you beat me

[@rachelmartin3631]

It's so hard for a kid, or an adult, to watch their passive parent being abused and not being able to do anything about it. I'm sure the OP, in the last story, has that as a contributing part to her PTSD, and depression. I went through some pretty bad abuse by my father as a kid, and he abused my mom too. He didn't sexually or physically abuse her like he did me, but emotional is the worst and that's what he did to mom. As a teen I went to NC even though the foster care system tried to force a relationship. When I was mid-twenties, I did try to re connect but I saw him still abusing mom. I had to walk away, and it nearly killed me. I couldn't help, she has a traumatic brain injury from a car wreck and is totally dependent on him. Finally I had to say no I can't do this again. I went to NC in my 30s, got therapy, stopped trying suicide, or cutting, take meds, and live a normal life. I hit 45 a couple weeks ago, and I'm glad I made it.

[@believeinshadows139]

Man that last story is heartbreaking

[@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902]

First story: If an entitled kid doesn't respect privacy, expect the parent to be worse.

[@businessduck3900]

Your videos always make for great background noise for while I’m doing work!!!

[@alexthewolf3179]

Same!

[@karanhdream]

The first one... poor OP... What's it about *private diary* that people don't understand?! My father once found my diary, read it, and got mad at me because in it I was venting about him and some other stuff. So I got grounded for writing about my feelings and venting out in a non-aggressive way. WTF?!

[@duskthesandwing9714]

"There! I corrected my error." That's hilarious, kudos to you for doing that.

[@jam8066]

Happy ground hogs day!!

[@jordan_cagle]

Hello

[@MrCommentGod]

Hi

[@paxhumana2015]

On the second story, did the brother get the help that he needed in his life? The mother of the OP sounded like a total dumpster fire of a human being before getting sober in her life.

[@donaldham308]

FOR REAL!!! Y’all have soooo much more patience than I do. I have absolutely no idea how a random person placing their bag on your lap as if you’re furniture doesn’t result in you immediately pick up the bag and toss it across the room. It makes zero sense to me.

[@iloveplasticbottles]

The sheer testicular fortitude it takes to tell someone to hide their own private journal in their own home so your kid doesn't go snooping and read it. Bro, just teach your kid to not touch other people's stuff.

[@bdpickett]

The Karen in the handicapped parking story seems to be confused as to whom those spots are meant to be a convenience for.

[@pixiesouter9419]

One of my favourite things about this channel is hearing the wonderful creative names that exist in the world of Reddit. Caravan of Capibaras 😂🤣😂

[@wakeangel2001]

I just want to point out that I'm pretty sure "aiding and abetting a runaway" is not a thing, at least it isn't a crime. I mean, if someone ran away from something and you helped them you would get praise, not punishment, especially if you were a family member.

[@azisles02]

Sneaking into someone's room and reading their diary, that's a justifiable throat punch to the kid and the parent for saying it's okay.

[@eduardpeeterlemming]

Fellow people. Today is 2.2.2022, The perfect day of a month of a year to say its Wednesday

[@SierraX369]

"Nutzungsentschädigung" = "compensation for use". When you buy or build together a House and both are in the "Grundbuch" (A owner List of Properties in a District) One Owner cant do Property related actions (eg sale or mortgage) without permission of all other owners. When she said she want to use, she has to pay a compensation because EF can't use it anymore)

[@madambutterfly1997]

EP: it’s just a diary Me *pulls out a book of EP’s personal information*: the same way this is just your social security number

[@AMLee158]

Nutzungsentschädigung= A compensation by contrakt for not being able to live in his house. That's how I unverstand it.

[@textme739]

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[@Dreamy1408]

As dramatic the last story was, hearing you trying to speak german was incredibly adorable. btw it means "compensation for use"

[@Shannessa]

5:50 My mom broke her ankle (in 6 different places thanks to an uncovered pothole at the end of an elevated shop entrance) over 6 years ago and still sometimes gets bad ankle pain to where she doesn’t want to walk too far. Since she’s now over 50 she has gotten a permanent handicap placard in her car (instead of getting a temporary one good for 6 months after she gets surgery or whatever) and she only has ever used the handicap spots if the parking lot is nearly full and those are the only spots near the entrance or her ankle starts to acting up, and even then, we go into the store, get what we need and get out asap cause she knows other people who are in worse condition then her needs those parking spots more then her.

[@ethang.8238]

What does she expect? A bedroom door with a lock and then lock it and use a key to re enter it each time?

[@textme739]

⬆️⬆️HIT ME UP⬆️⬆️

[@andesite911]

i speak german, and "Nutzungsentschädigung" translates over to something like compensation of use.

[@textme739]

⬆️⬆️HIT ME UP⬆️⬆️

[@5AMUR-41]

That poor kid from the second story, I feel like there's not enough information about how his life is

[@FirstNameLastName000]

thumb'd up as soon as my ears heard: "Karen spends the night in jail"

[@delilahhart4398]

I'm glad that woman didn't bail out her crazy mother.