Why Select Brothas Have a Different Perception of Black Women

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[@OshayDukeJackson]

Some of the best commentary on KZbin period

[@RomWills]

Thank you. It's an honor hearing that from you.

[@barackthecomposer6642]

@@RomWills If you were to share this much street smart truth at my old university Texas “Christian“ University (TCU) they would interrupt your lecture and have security escort you from campus. 😂😂😂😂

[@GustusGrimm]

WOW this video really hit home because I was shy in HS and smart, but I found that black women rarely checked for me until they were broken by Select dudes. They definitely let you know that you weren't her top choice and no matter how well you treat them you're not going to make your way out of that basement. I've dated other races because Sistas just wasn't checking but then they label you as sellout and think that you hate your mother and your race, but its like this, I like steak but am I going to starve if I'm in a place where there's no beef or eat chicken? And just because you see me eating chicken is it fair to assume I hate steak? as the Apostle Paul would say 'God forbid' lol. As a man the most desirable trait a woman can have is showing attention to you and making you feel like you're her type. Enjoying the videos I've listened to the angry black men who have given up on Black women but not every man that dates other races exclude black women.

[@RomWills]

Many brothas have said the same things. That female selection criteria is a trip.

[@GustusGrimm]

The irony is some will call the Select brotha a dog, then give him the midnight booty call while she's making another brotha wait 90 days. There's not a shortage of good black men but too many black women lookin at us like we short - RIP Bernie Mac

[@RomWills]

GustusGrimm In a nutshell.

[@akeemb9449]

You'er too feminine my dude. You need to develop more masculine energy and then you'll attract queens.

[@erictbrown1]

I started getting more women when I got older and learned how to talk to women and learned some game.

[@cassandraterry1477]

Eric Brown Thank you!! That’s the main problem with men! They don’t know how to talk to women nor have a respectable conversation!! Amen!! ❤️

[@alvinhollingeriii2562]

Perception becomes Reality. I'm glad the internet is bringing the gap together between the Select and nonselect men. Thats going to create synergy for the game. Its going allow men to know the full spectrum of a woman and what he may need to develop and ultimately how he will handle most women in his life, and which he will choose to handle and for want reasons. I have learned a new appreciation for the players and select men sharing their experiences. And the things the Squares and Non Selects can do to have their share of positive female attention , reciprocation and behavior.

[@TheSinisterMinister666]

This is real science, ROM! Excellent video! I'm going to listen to this one a couple more times. I've had experiences on both ends. I think most men start out in life maybe not so select. But as we mature and they earn more in our careers, we become more select in my opinion. That's why men become more valuable as we get older.

[@RomWills]

That's the truth. Most men become more select as they grow older.

[@326ka8]

great analysis.i think the reason why some select black men are non productive is because they don't have to work for black women.black women will sleep with a dude with zero potential if he looks good enough.i've seen black women reject doctors and air force men because she did not like his looks only to later on regret not getting with a guy like that because the men she chose were unsuccessful.i think that's why a lot of successful black men do date out more because other races of women do not make looks as the total reason why being with a man.the inner qualities matter to these women most black women do not get that.everything is surface shit.i don't want a women who only looks good she has to have other good inner qualities as well.going for only looks is a recipe for disaster aka the black community.

[@RomWills]

The looks issue is the one we really dance around. Sistas don't want to admit to it and brothas want to feel like their verbal game is really doing it. I'm going to have to do that video though. You are correct though in that women of other cultures like looking at a man but he better have something going on for him.

[@ronedwards7207]

yea man, great video, yea I use to hear woman saying they didn't like to get with someone who's is to serious and deep, I couldn't get it at first,.... but, man I was wondering if you could do a video on bout handling the baby daddy deal, if you ever been though and experienced that deal,.. seem like we brothas don't know how to talk bout the thing we love the most...

[@RomWills]

Ron Edwards Maybe explain what you mean exactly.

[@ronedwards7207]

yea, I didn't know if dated anybody who had kids themselves and you had to deal with the kids father, and if so did you have any type of way of dealing with that situation that you can put in video form

[@326ka8]

Rom Wills exactly.brothers talk that game stuff but at the end of the day women are the choosers.if a chick likes a guy physically he does not have to have much game.

[@matthewrhodes4385]

Love learning from my own kind. Never heard it explained like this before. I approve.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@RomWills]

Guy King Well I would say they have a different view. Select men can be some of the harshest critics of sistas though they will not be public about it. Someone like Zo Williams being an exception.

[@DarronBrown88]

Your right. You have given me a new perspective. Of my close group of friends, I am the lightest one. My boys have a dark chocolate complexion. The thing we have in common is that we are all athletes and my friends are jacked. We never had a problem attracting women of all races. But like you said, their bodies have to be damn near perfect. I never thought about the experience of men who don’t fit this category and I may never understand it. From personal experience, because I have dealt with women of different races, they are all superficial. After completing your video what I see is that non-select white men having an easier time than non-select black men. I have seen some okay white dudes with good looking white women. But what I haven’t seen is okay black dudes with good-looking black women. I have actually seen okay black dudes with good looking women of other races including white women. Thanks for broadening my perspective.

[@RomWills]

You see what I'm saying.

[@busyrand]

I'm loving this. I made sure to join my fraternity to get around more Select Brothers so I could get a working understanding of what those guys get away with in relationships. I knew that I was too perfect in relationships at a young age, but never got an idea of the boundaries until recently.

[@walterbrown2425]

Great video!!! Eye opener!!!

[@KhemistryIBMOR]

You established a bridge of understanding concerning two types of brothas. Good job.

[@glennjohnson6897]

Rom, yet another outstanding video. You were totally on point. Select brothas have no idea what the non-select brothas go thru unless they are connected due to being family or good friends. I've seen it my whole life. There is absolutely a disconnect between the two groups. And I am waiting for you to drop that video about sistahs dogging the brothas that like them. I know that's going to be some real talk.

[@RomWills]

Yeah that video is coming up next.

[@alfonsecapone1]

I never had a problem getting girls n sex n highschool. I dated mostly white n black girls. I found all races of girls attractive but sisters n white girls where into me the most. I thought black girls were sweet for the most part and I knew which one's to avoid when it came to dating. I may have slipped up and had sex with a few I wasnt really into just cause they were throwing it at me. Even though i also liked white girls I felt obligated to marry a black woman. After a real bad marriage to one of those sisters I thought was sweet. I haven't dated a black woman since. Its been like sixteen years. It seemed to me after h.s. and a divorce when I was back on the dating scene sisters werent so sweet n nice in my opinion anymore. It seems like alot of the roundaway girls change when they become adults. I like sisters better when Im just they're friend. I just dont work with them romantically. I dont bash them publicly but my perception of them has changed I just keep it to myself...

[@RomWills]

I understand brotha.

[@regionprince]

Binge watching your stuff. There's also some select brothas that criticize black women as well. But their reason is because they tend to come across bad experiences at a young age with young girls. Some select guys are the targets of more predatory female behavior, the type of girls that like that they can get the cutest guy, but she quickly move on to the next guy, leaving the first guy heartbroken and wondering why. Same happens in marriages as well. A woman will marry a man that all the other women want, only to find out she isn't really into him, then turn the marriage into hell, cheat, or divorce. Then of course there are the men that started out non-select but became select due to self-work, but haven't shed the non-select wounds.

[@Semajjame5]

Every video nothing but facts... good channel

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@thatguyfromthe6eh649]

Excellent Video Brother, I feel like we can make some progress with this concept 💯

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@dollarwil1234]

Please consider continuing the theme of how selects and non selects have different experiences. Both are right. Men need to respect one another's experiences and accept that other men win differently without simpin.' We need to explore the source of this need to insult one another. We must first demonstrate that we respect the various stages or levels of manhood before expecting the respect of women or society. As you point out, we are likely to ascend and descend the ladder throughout our lifetime. As a young man in my twenties, a player became a mentor to me. I was impressed when he said he never ridicules another man's self improvement plan. I wish his attitude was common.

[@RomWills]

That's why I reach out to young men. I was there at one point.

[@douglasjones4650]

Absolute truth 👍🏾👍🏾

[@BGSIBMOR]

LMAO about hiding the car...

[@RomWills]

Bruh, I remember the time I had all four of my tires slashed. I had it towed to the shop and the first thing the mechanic asked me was, "What did you do to her?" I said which one.

[@doncalypso]

BGS... we need to have you, Rom, and Alan Roger Currie take the wheel on an Obsidian Radio Live broadcast where all Obsidian and I would do is monitor the switchboard.

[@RomWills]

doncalypso Just let me know. Imma have to show up early though. I was trying to call in for that show you had the the two haters on. Y'all was about to hear THAT different side of me. It was too busy on that joint.

[@doncalypso]

Uh-oh.... was Darth Romulus attempting to unleashed the full wrath of the Dark Side of the Force?

[@RomWills]

doncalypso Naw I'm a Grey Jedi.

[@dtharlem5801]

That high school mentality still thrives in Atlanta in adult hood

[@salsaqueen4911]

So true I'm encountering a gentleman which through time has left me confused and bewildered. He the other day shouted hello to me in front of a bunch of women, startled me to death at that moment. I looked strait into his eye and with a calm medium to low tone voice hello him back I think he felt bad for yelling at me and quietly walked away. A week later I was part of a bake sale at our job location and he was in front of the building waiting for me so he can hold the door open for me. The power of not just femininity but a greater understanding of the opposite sex. My parents were my primary model they were married for 47 yrs. until my mothers passing. My father earned my mothers ultimate love and respect, and my dad 85 yrs old is a true man till this day.

[@baileyedward774]

The prime directive of the mack is to be selective =Quality over Quantity.

[@patton1909]

Very insightful

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@NkrumahTure]

Rom, let me ask you this. Are the facts you are pointing out in your videos similar across race lines between men and women? And if so, how, if not why? Also, is this just something particular to black people because of our sojourn in a white supremacist america where we know blacks have been so affected between the genders? Are these things due to social engineering? To what extent have we as black men and women perpetuate the view you are articulating as seen through the lens of black men and women? Hope that isn't too much to answer brother, but I'd really like to know. Thank you.

[@RomWills]

NkrumahTure In my videos unless I specifically say otherwise I'm talking about Black male/female issues. Also what's affecting us is a combination of many factors, white supremacy being just one. Other factors include religion, the media, and the education system. Some of it has to do with bloodlines going back to Africa. To explain everything would take a video series. I think BGS IBMOR has a lot of insight into these issues judging from his videos.

[@NkrumahTure]

Rom Wills Yes. Well, I appreciate your points brother. It appears to me that we experience what no other race does, especially when it comes to male and female relationships. It all seems like an unnecessary game for sport that is being played. Like most of our people are putting on an act.

[@negrofam1]

could the reason the select guys don't pass on the knowledge be because by learning the tricks to appease women, they developed feminine traits. so they look at non- select guys with the same eyes as women do.

[@RomWills]

Naw the two groups don't interact much unless they are related or grew up in the same neighborhood.

[@jaylon.713]

Like you mentioned in some of your books and videos, non select dudes have to work on being their best selves so you can be select. It’s just not gonna come outta nowhere, you gotta put in that work

[@demetriusarmstrong5154]

💯💯💯💯

[@jackmanslightpepper]

Hey, Rom. I'm thinking maybe Smokey Robinson would have been a select broths at one time??? Light skin, green eyes? ??

[@joefromdc]

another great video and i myself have been on both sides. couple things i wish ppl would address more as it relates to dating in the African American community. slavery has serious distored our views of each other since we are all held to the dominate Societies standards of beauty. meaning the closer u are to white (example: light skin green eyes - ur the man. the darker u are u look like bad). lastly do woman really understand the power they hv over men as it relates to what we are willing to do to make them happy. i.e. sale drugs to other ppl that look like me to make sure u have material wealth.

[@RomWills]

That standard of beauty piece is a big reason Black relationships are jacked up. Black women youtubers have spoke on it from their perspective but it goes both ways. I stated on an internet radio show that a big problem is that Black people generally do not find each other physically attractive. That's the real reason behind swirling (men and women), why some sistas fight over weaves, and why brothas used to get that s-curl. I might have to go live for that one.

[@joefromdc]

whats the hold up lol

[@RomWills]

Joseph Monroe I'll do that when I feel like dealing with the fallout.

[@franciscobonne5380]

exactly we have different perspective as far as in choosing a mate especially in this western society.

[@raylove8473]

Rom I have had alot of Bad Experiences and Good Experiences with Black Women. I hate a Toxic, angry Arguementive, Smart Mouth Black Bitch ,UGGGGH!!!!!! I also love an Intelligent, Friendly Supportive Sista! My Mom and I had a Great Relationship, and I know alot of Cool, Beautiful, Supportive Black Women. I have been Dissed alot, yet I have Dated a lot of Sistas, told I was Handsome, and Flirted with! I get Frustrated with the Attitudes,but I don't let a Small Percentage Of Negativity, Stop me from Loving Black Women!

[@RomWills]

That's the way to do it.

[@armandjacques179]

What’s up Rom, Just coming across your video I’m a young brother aiming to go to med school in the DMV in about a year. Looking for a mentorship group or private group you talk about. Let me know how I can join any. Thanks

[@RomWills]

I don't have something offline you can join. Check out my connectpal site in the desceiption box.

[@kj3887]

Could you make a video about the Pimp and the Player mindset?

[@RomWills]

I could do something about Players and Thorough Dudes. I've known a couple of true to the game Pimps but their mindset was different from what people think. Books are only the tip of the iceberg.

[@kj3887]

+Rom Wills I know Pimps are the kings of the game

[@dwohntanywilder6889]

BOOM!!!

[@RomWills]

Yep.

[@sharifs649]

Facts I love my sistas

[@DarronBrown88]

I can’t relate to this issue but I am tilted to agreeing. I have noticed that when I travel to the East Coast i can good treatment from black women. I get free food, fly 1st class, all around good treatment. I was just in New York and these Dominican women were asking me what am I mixed with. I just told them I was black. On the West Coast Im just black. On the West Coast white women will chase you down. Chase you down down. Women of others races too but white women are on another level of thirst out here. As long as you take care of yourself the blacker the better it is for you in CA.

[@RomWills]

I keep hearing that.

[@jamesjeromebell284]

What's up Romulus this is James Jerome Bell Cleveland Ohio me and my uncle have a running joke he calls and King Solomon or at least a descendant of such saying that I've been with as many as a thousand women a dear childhood friend of mine said it's more like 500 but either way I have never had problems with women had a lot of crazy women though but now I'm just looking to slow down and just have that one really really nice woman that's on par with me in all ways and I'll actually physically mentally spiritually and someone I can grow with I really don't desire a harem or stable like I used to have but I just want to be saddled man I just want somebody I can come home to you know somebody who if she don't want to work she don't have to you know what I'm saying she could just cook clean and make my life happy I know that's a tall task for the American black woman today when I still have my faith and sisters because there ain't nothing like a woman a black woman whose love is an endearing and true and like a puppy love but that's all that I have to say man just keep the message motivated and clear and remember your time is now I believe that the almighty has put you on my path for greatness please tell Warren Lance Bowens when you send that James Jerome Bell his old roommate said Hello thank you!!!JAMES JEROME BELL YOU TUBE AND GOOGLE ME!!

[@MsJoyce31202]

1.These names though. Wow, can we stop with these disrespectful names? 2. Yeah you will deal with emotional stuff but I try to be upbeat with the man but I got a right to my feelings, etc. I have few problems to share because I am a private person but I guess that's what you get even with friends with benefits. The benefit isn't only sex. It can involve some type of sharing too. Or at least a basic relationship where I can hold a short conversation. It's hard to believe that any of these relationships are just communication through grunting.

[@kj5205]

Just for the record, chocolate men will always be in😊🍫

[@sivart27886]

Damn, you hit that shit on the head. What about being select and not knowing you select cause you had no one to teach you the game?

[@RomWills]

Many men had to find out on their own.

[@sivart27886]

@@RomWills yeah, that's true. Some guys didn't have access to it, till the internet made the knowledge popular.