Mom Refuses To Cook For Entitled Step-Children Anymore After Their Behaviour r/AITA

[@songohan3321]

So basically in story 1, the ex-wife is showing why she is the ex-wife.

[@wmdkitty]

Or OP was the Other Woman and she's rightfully upset at her marriage being destroyed...

[@donniejefferson9554]

@@wmdkitty We have absolutely no evidence of that and even if that were the case she's still acting terribly. She's taking the kids phones and deleting messages to make her kids think her father doesn't care about them. There is absolutely no excuse for that kind of behavior

Caffeine story: omg, she thinks she OWNS him; "I'm not bothered by his body acne" well, he is bothered, let the man try whatever he wants to feel better about himself, jeez

[@bunnyslippers191]

Not only that, but she should be limiting her own caffeine to no more than 200mg per day. Caffeine crosses the placental barrier and studies have shown it makes the baby's heart beat faster. Studies about smaller birth weights and other fetal issues are rather contradictory, but for now all the leading medical organizations are calling for absolutely no more than 200 mg and preferably even a bit less.

[@terramarini6880]

My husband had bacne as a teen and was horribly scarred by it, he said it hurt so bad and when they popped left a huge bloody pussy mess on his clothes, he couldn't wear white. If the husband has a suit and tie job this would be an actual problem.

[@jgw5491]

I think of all the stories where a male SO tries to control what their other wears or harp on them about weight and what they eat. Would SHE like it it if hubs tried to micromanage her pre-natal diet?

[@wmdkitty]

@@terramarini6880 That's a personal hygiene issue -- all he needed to do was wash his back on a regular basis.

[@terramarini6880]

@@wmdkitty No, it's genetic, I too had bad acne and had a cleaner face than most, acne sufferers wash religiously. Attitudes like yours are the worst and the reason people feel such shame for something they absolutely cannot control without medical intervention...you know where I want you to put that attitude.

[@emtims1670]

I knew the ex-wife had something to do with the teenagers. She is a problem that the husband needs to handle before it gets worse.

[@sylvestercat1898]

Yes! I understand he’s worried about custody changing but, with the information presented it actually could go in dads favor. The daughter literally said that she was scared that she and her brother would be forced to live with their mother. If a judge were to hear that along with how the bio-mom was alienating the step-mom and bio-father to the kids, the dad could easily get full custody.

[@danacarter9147]

@@sylvestercat1898 I'll tell you one thing, the stepchildren will hate their real mother when they see what a manipulative and evil AH their mother is, apologize to their father and stepmother, and will also need a therapy.

[@danacarter9147]

Exactly. I heard that mothers are twice as likely to lose custody of their children, due to parental alienation.

[@unluckypuppy13]

I literally laughed out loud, alone in my car when she said him ordering lemonade changed their relationship dynamic

[@danadelorey3203]

Same that sent me 😂😂

[@bethanyvarre9142]

Yeah, op is extremely controlling!

[@dash9641]

@@bethanyvarre9142 I lowkey think those pregnancy hormones are getting to her a bit. Like its caffeine madam, not like alcohol or something. Chilaaaaaax.

[@bunnyslippers191]

I'm kind of wondering if she dictates what he eats as well as what he drinks.

[@unluckypuppy13]

@@dash9641 did I miss the part where they said she was pregnant??

[@bellesmith8925]

Do not hide the fact that bio mom is actively breaking into their phones and deleting your calls and texts. They deserve to know how manipulative their mom is!

[@Bleg94]

but OP must not tell them directly OP must tell them "But we did call you so and so often and did write you so and so often, we were frustrated that you two ignored us" and then show the proof they must come to the conclusion themself by seeing the proof

[@jgw5491]

@@Bleg94 Exactly. Show them the texts.

[@marshawargo7238]

@@Bleg94 Absolutely! Never badmouth their mom, u never know when the situation or the "tide turns". They'll remember when older Who was the most fair & honest with them (even small & seemingly unimportant stuff)

[@AaaaNinja]

It's not that easy. Like the other person said, never ever ever ever badmouth a parent to their own kids. Kids don't need to hear that. EVER. They're the ones who have to live with the fact that person is their mom. And it could backfire, because the kids might feel like they're being used as pawns in a feud between two adults who don't get along. Which is exactly what it would be. If the kids believed OP didn't try to contact them, at least they were able to express it and feel listened to, and she would be able to respond by reassuring them that it was just a simple misunderstanding. And that would be the truth. She can do that without making accusations. She doesn't have to lower herself to their mother's level. Shit would hit the fan if the kids told their mom "so-and-so said you did this and that". Not worth it.

[@fate_clotho9596]

@Belle Smith Not to mention that's complete Parental Alienation, which is illegal!😠 Dad can TOTALLY take Mom to court over that.

[@dannietea]

Story 2: YTA. You can still drink your coffee and Diet Pepsi. He’s not forcing you to join his caffeine free life and he definitely doesn’t need to drink the same thing you are.

[@lily-zg6io]

At the same time, you could argue that the husband might be a very very gently AH for not telling his wife beforehand, especially when pregnancy hormones can make people very irritable and think irrationally

[@gabebarnes6814]

@@lily-zg6io No, pregnancy doesn't excuse controlling behavior. Husband cutting caffeine from his diet is none of her business. End of story.

[@KCCAT5]

Yes she sounds like a total controlling b word

[@KCCAT5]

@@lily-zg6io why does he need to tell his wife he's cutting out caffeine? He's an individual he's a person he can eat and drink whatever the hell he likes without his wife's agreement or knowledge

[@horseheadlegman414]

@@lily-zg6io no, its not drinking caffeine all the time not randomly leaving the house everyday for an hour

[@bruuh0_0]

Unless that being married turns you into a one body entity, no what he consumes does not affect you and it's not your bussiness. OP2 is insane

[@kikigaming8099]

OP: Was i wrong to make an issue out of it? Mark and I at the same time: YES

[@sandel712]

😂😂 yeah. me too (or me three?😉)

[@whiskey_phillips]

@@sandel712 Same

[@starwarriorterra8373]

Story 2: "AITA for getting upset that my husband is making his own independent decisions without consulting me for permission?" Fixed it for you, OP. In case you still haven't figured out why what you did was so ridiculous, obsessive, and borderline controlling. Wow.

[@Lillypop93]

Story 3 NTA if he had followed proper procedure then there never would have been a confrontation to begin with he disrespected the guard and didn't stop until another man entered the situation this would have gone differently if the second guard hadn't come.

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

Agreed. I don’t get the people saying YTA.

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 2: YTA. It doesn't matter if it does or doesn't bother you, it clearly bothers him.

[@mercurialmelody]

Like, yeah, it's not all about you, Karen. 😂

[@christinedehn3257]

Did it never occur to you that inflamed acne is not just visual, it can also be mildly painful? Yes you ATA

[@amazinglynn]

Y’all she’s pregnant give her a break 🙄 those hormones are no joke

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

@@amazinglynn yeah sure but this us an AITA post, and it’d be right that she is TA in this situation. Could definitely be the hormones but even with that she’s gotta realize that it’s a ridiculous notion. I especially didn’t like et comment about his acne “it’s my bad so idk why he cares if I’m not objecting to it” like the guy can’t just want to look good for himself?

[@amazinglynn]

@@terra_the_nightingale135 fair point. All I’m saying is let’s not jump straight to assuming she’s a controlling and narcissistic person and that she’s always like this

[@digitalharmony26]

“Bonus children” is a cute term.

[@gaysatan4565]

Story 3: can someone explain how the security abuse their power? NTA for me but what they did just sounds like common practice for someone who walks in, doesn’t listen (get the temp check/state why they’re there) and doesn’t leave when asked

[@Lillypop93]

Exactly!!! All these YTA are tripping cause all OP left out was that there were some swear words and raised voices had it gotten physical and then she lied it would have been yta but screaming at the guy who's not listening to leave isn't worth these people being punished for the customers ignorance and sh*tty attitude

[@squeakybb]

I agree, these security guards were just doing their job. Could they have been less confrontational? Probably but that's a customer service issue, not a political one.

[@Cel3ere5]

Thank you, I thought I missed something too. It sounds from the male security guard, the dude said some sexist comments to boot. So, who knows what he said to Corporate when he filed a complaint. OPs friend isn't paying attention. It was appropriate to lie here, else that Asshole's behavior is being rewarded. Giving it this much attention is too much already.

[@gaysatan4565]

@@Lillypop93 yes! Like def YTA for lying if the cops got physical (I’d still argue that they may still be in the right depending on the guys actions, like if he attacked first and wasn’t stopping, but this didn’t happen in the story so who cares.) but yelling and swearing at the dude might not be “respectful behavior” but it didn’t start like that! They were respectful, the dude didn’t listen, and it resulted in more aggressive confrontation to make him leave

[@wmdkitty]

Security behaved unprofessionally.

[@brandi5126]

Story 4: NTA but report to hr immediately. Telling people you slept together isn’t a joke, it is sexual harassment.

[@Wander85942]

Considering people’s reaction to the pandemic, security had to be strict because the guy was making it difficult. He wasn’t tackled or harmed

[@jgw5491]

This.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Yeah, the YTAs can stfu. "OP didn't seem to be paying attention" yes they were? If a man is walking by and refusing to acknowledge protocol, what the guards did seemed to be the proper thing, save perhaps the raising of voice, but that's just bc they're human. People get angry. They were still doing their jobs and OP was paying enough attention to notice that. I'm sick of people pretending that bc some guards/cops/military/whatever abuse their power, everyone does, and everyone in that position is an awful person. No. OP is NTA.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

​@@thedestroyasystem Agreed, and I would even argue that the female security guard raising her voice may have been necessary. I don't yell normally, but I'm small, and if I'm feeling threatened and nervous that someone external to the situation may not notice, I will raise my voice to get the attention of others. If that guy was that much of a dick head, that disrespectful and disregarding of safety protocol, then it's not beyond the realm of possibility that he may have given off a threatening vibe and made her nervous. Her raising her voice did get the attention of other guards and got their assistance, and their assistance was able to convince the jerk to leave. So I would say the female guard did the right thing. Plus, like another poster pointed out, there have been a LOT of assaults on security guards during this pandemic, so she has reason to be at least overly cautious in my opinion. I'm all for demilitarizing the police, but that doesn't mean it's ok to harass guards or punish them for acting in a self-preserving manner that doesn't harm others. Her yelling does not harm the jerk.

[@donniejefferson9554]

@@thedestroyasystem The dude apparently spent 2 minutes trying to avoid them. If that's not am excuse to raise your voice then I don't know what is

[@stephanien6237]

Yes!! Exactly. All of these comments!

[@yougosquishnow]

Story 1. They go to moms house then decide to disrespect step mom. Sounds like bio mom talks smack about step mom to the kids when step mom and dad aren't around. She is probably fostering this behavior.

[@corrinnelee2959]

Work wife story: NTA. I was on the other side of this when I was pregnant with my eldest. I was working in a pub and one of the volunteer glass collectors was telling all the locals that my baby was his. I had people asking me if it was true - very uncomfortable. My boss couldn't technically do anything as he wasn't an official employee.My mums boyfriend ended up telling the guy that if he didn't pack it in, he'd be picking his teeth up off the floor because I was young enough to be the guys daughter and very much married. Seemed to do the trick...

[@amilikestea433]

I'm glad the first OP got some insight. But the train of thought is confusing. "I'm afraid I will be sent to live with my mother so I'm going to be absolutely horrible to my step mom and risk forcing my dad to have to chose between us"

[@Cel3ere5]

They're lashing out because they felt their mother was slighted, in addition they thought Dad & Step Mom didn't care. "You don't care? FINE! Me neither! See if I care!" It's... Childish. They have done a bit of a disservice to the kids. Gotta work on that.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: YTA...What is OPs deal? Hubby wants to cut out CAFFEINE for his own benefit and she thinks it's gonna " change the relationship dynamic"? Also, he can't feel self conscious? Then with the " he has to talk with me about every little thing". This lady is nuts...and extremely controlling.

[@karend1577]

Coffee story. As I was listening, I assumed the husband was going to change her coffee order to non-caffeine drink because she was pregnant. I was taken aback that she was the one going hard against his decision to get lemonade for himself. She's TA. She's very controlling.

[@fcold9402]

She purposefully embarrassed you why should you not confront her with the truth, even if she finds it embarrassing. OP NTA.

[@carolroberts4614]

He needs to tell his girlfriend too!

[@pauldavisjr.3284]

The fourth OP should immediately go to HR and tell them about her joke and shut her down before she tries to pin her baby on him. There's nothing funny about convincing everyone that he cheated on his girlfriend with her and got her pregnant.

[@Russman67]

Yeah this is a trip to HR. The last thing you need a woman telling people at work you fathered a random baby. Let alone what happens when the girlfriend hears about it. Shut that down hard.

[@adog6495]

@@Russman67 he told the gf and she is on his side

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

@@adog6495 Good to know!

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: OP: " I know it sounds bad but hear me out. Also OP: even worse than it sounded

[@lunardances]

story 2: if your relationship hinges on whether or not you consume caffeine, then there are clearly deeper issues that need to be addressed. jfc.

[@ceciliajacobs5346]

I agree. I had a friend who was dating this A$$hole (not just my opinion) because they used the same soap. This man did not treat her well, was not faithful, but they used the same soap. So it was good enough for her. LOL

[@mbyerly9680]

The kids came back after a month and act totally different? Mommy has been feeding them toxic nonsense about OP. Story 2: A Keurig coffee machine and K-cups of caf and decaf. Marriage saved.

[@gaxalee7392]

I hope the bio mom loses custody in the first story. She’s committed parental alienation and the dad’s/Op’s phones likely have proof of the deleted call logs and text messages.

[@pippo17173]

It seems to me that two things could be happening 1)Get full custody so the husband will pay full child support 2) Trying to reunite the family and hope the dad falls back to her arms. Ether way, she is fucking evil.

[@danacarter9147]

Me, too. Not only do I hope 1st OP's step-children go complete NC with their mother, I also hope their father and stepmother get them therapy.

[@lorifiedler13]

They've been married for 8 years.

[@Chubbasaurus]

Story 4. Addy is absolutely setting it up to pin paternity on OP. She's saying it's a joke only so she can say he didn't deny it later.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

I'm curious if she's actually suffering from some sort of delusions or psychosis. Perhaps she has convinced herself they really did have some sort of relationship? It doesn't make it right, but still, something feels off. Sometimes pregnancy can exacerbate pre-existing mental health issues, or maybe she's at that age where schizophrenia/schizoaffective disorders begin to manifest and the pregnancy brought on a massive episode? If that's the case, then for the sake of the baby, she should be evaluated in addition to talked to by HR. (Because if she is having a psychotic episode, the confrontation of HR could lead to some scary for OP and baby type of consequences)

[@ray30k]

...It's rare to see a post that starts with "hear me out" and doesn't end with a YTA verdict, huh?

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 4: so Addy was going around telling everyone her and OP hooked up and he’s the daddy to her baby? When he’s had a girlfriend for five years so basically implying OP cheated on his girlfriend with Addy? NTA. There is a huge difference between joking with your friend and making the same remarks behind their back. Making those jokes behind their back, no wonder coworkers took it as gossip and started questioning OP if he was actually the father or not. What if OP‘s girlfriend caught wind of this? She’s going to assume OP cheated on her and Addy’s jokes are going to end up ruining his relationship.

[@sierralovat5498]

Story 2: what the actual hell? That's OP wanting to control their Partner. Lemonade changing a relationship dynamic. Now I've seen everything

[@nonono3766]

Story 2: as a woman myself, it feels weird typing this but please...just be quiet until the child is born. OP sounds fucking insane 💀

[@DaZebraffe]

On the last story: If this is taking place in the USA, then it's more than just OP's relationship with his girlfriend that Addy's putting at risk. "Same company, but different departments" is fine in some states, but all of the US considers it illegal to get into a romantic and/or sexual relationship with a coworker in the same department as you, which it 100% sounds like OP and Addy are in the same department. So Addy's also putting OP's career at risk! Risking his relationship, risking his career, AND refusing to stop after he's told her repeatedly that he doesn't appreciate these so-called jokes? Absolutely not, she 100% deserved that blowup, and the fact it cut her so deep she cried? A good thing. Hopefully that pain will help her remember to keep her "jokes" more appropriate in the future.

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 4: NTA It's not a joke if people are asking you if it's true. OP had every right to call her out and if she can't understand why he's upset then she's clueless. Not only that but these are unwanted sexual comments. He needs to go to HR immediately.

[@sagejungwirth4155]

For the last story: op needs to go to HR, just flip the genders for a moment, if a guy went around saying he slept with a girl even when she asks him to stop telling people that because it's not true, there would be no doubt that it's a form of sexual harassment. At the very least its extremely inappropriate behavior for the work place. Just because addie is pregnant does not mean she should get away with what shes doing, double standards are the worst.

[@sethjr9815]

2nd story, I decided to cut out chilli from my diet (my tolerance is at chilli eating competition level) because of gerd, my kids noticed it, asked a few questions and that was that

[@ResidentMilf]

My daughter is eleven, and she makes her own breakfast and lunch every day, and even cooks dinner for the family at least twice a month. I was the kid of a single mother and was much more independent at her age, and regularly cooked for my siblings. Those kids are spoilt AF.

[@susanlosey9511]

Last story.. NTA! That remark by your coworker is getting out of hand. Report her now to HR. Protect yourself. She’s going behind your back! Report her now!

[@markparker7857]

I had a married co-worker who called me her ‘work husband’. (As opposed to her home husband?) I’m gay. It made me uncomfortable hearing her say that.

[@cheskydivision]

Op did the right thing telling the pregnant co worker to stop telling ppl the baby is his. It will cause problems with work and your relationship.

[@songohan3321]

Story 2's future be like this: Judge: "Why are you seeking a divorce?" OP: "He betrayed me!!! He decided that caffeine wasn't good enough! He wanted lemonade, LEMONADE! IT WASN'T EVEN HOMEMADE LEMONADE! Caffeine was special! Next thing he wants is grilled chicken! How can I trust him going forward?" OP'S Ex-husband: 🙄 The Judge begins questioning all of his/her life choices that has lead them to this point.

[@KuroAlis]

Story 3: NTA, the security was trying to deal with someone who was rude, disrespectful and possibly putting people in danger during a pandemic. Even if they raised their voices they were not in the wrong in that situation imo

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

I know, right?!? The guy didn't lie at all. He could be here specific words because he was too far away so he just told the truth about what he saw and heard, which in this case was that the security guard did the right thing.

[@19WolfGirl74]

Story 1: sounds like the mom has been bad mouthing and brainwashing the teens. And frankly they need to be cooking their own breakfasts AND lunches or getting part time jobs to buy it at school because they are more than old enough.

[@Arylwren1]

Story 1: op and her hubby should check there own text and call logs and see if they still have that info to show the kids Story 3: as a mall security guard, thank you. We get a lot of hell from customers and people loitering around, the pandemic makes it worst. And those calling out OP as the AH clearly don't work in customer service. Sometimes jerk NEED to be yelled at but we don't often have the right to do it. The whole "customer is always right" bs.

[@drakeloki4214]

At 7 I was given three option when it came to meals. to eat what my parents made, make something my self or go hungry. To me it is sad that the kids didn't learn the kitchen until their mid teens.

[@morecoffeeNOW]

Same here. We also had a "one bite" rule meaning we always had to at least try 1 bite of the food before we could say we didn't like it. Now I'll eat most anything as an adult. My list of "don't likes" is very very short. Thanks mom 🙂

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@morecoffeeNOW Same. And most of the things I don't like taste fine, it's just a texture thing. Picky eaters are no fun!

[@Cel3ere5]

Re: Story 2 _Me who also has weekly date nights with SO, and both of us tends to drink _*_a lot_*_ of caffeine, but one of us will change our drink on occasion._ *H U H?* 👁️👄👁️ Edit to add: had SO listen and his facial expression did not disappoint. 😂

[@LilChuunosuke]

I hope the mother from story 1 still has her message history. I think she may be correct in her theory, but I'd advise against telling the kids that. She should pull out her phone, show all their attempts to reach the kids, apologize, and say that she would've tried other ways of reaching out had she known the messages werent going through

[@hgquint]

My husband goes off caffeine and I have a grumpy, ornery man complaining about having a headache which makes him whine about everything. Yeah, I'd want a heads up. Not about control, it's life saving, his!!

[@saltytoshiro3685]

Day 116 of reminding Mark that he's amazing and that his work is appreciated ❤️

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Wow that's so long 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@kristinecollier8113]

You're appreciated for doing this!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Ye

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

Jesus, you're desperate to get acknowledged aren't you?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax be nice they just wanna spread some positivity, smh

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@toni3548]

Thank you Broken. You are the best!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

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[@Y4ZYAZ]

I read this and that is a fact

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@Y4ZYAZ 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@Y4ZYAZ]

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[@mcarthur692]

The first story pisses me off on many levels. My twin 16 year old children have had the big bad coronavirus and then I've also taught them how to cook and they come up with new recipes. I don't make them breakfast anymore. I make supper.

[@CatsOverBrats]

It should be discussed that he wants to drink coffee? WTF? What kind of mindset is that? I didn't discuss it with my husband when I decided to go vegetarian. I told him this was my choice, and my choice doesn't effect him still eating meat. It's not a discussion worth topic that someone wants to quit coffein. Come on.

[@stephanien6237]

Him cutting caffeine “affects both of us”?! This woman sounds insane! Controlling! Self-centered! What kind of mom is she going to be…?

[@susanlosey9511]

It’s not a joke. Enough is enough. Go to HR ASAP! This could destroy you if you don’t go to HR. Protect yourself. This is not a joke anymore. NTA!

[@gaysatan4565]

Story 1: NTA. Why is she making breakfast for them in the first place? WHY IS SHE EVEN MAKING THEM LUNCH? Maybe I’m alone on this but when I was a teenager, I made my own meals (unless we did a family dinner). I don’t get why she even make them lunch, they know how to put deli meat and lettuce on bread right? Or are they just super coddled?

[@songohan3321]

Depends on if they suck so bad at cooking to a point it will be more work than them actually cooking or if was like me, had 4:30am practice every morning and physically could do it. I new someone that was that bad at cooking. Their parents said that it actually cost them more for the friend to cook then the parents making the food for them. It was funny and incredibly sad at the same time. When I actually saw it myself, I thought I was either dreaming or high.

[@clarehidalgo]

My mom would make my brother and I breakfast at that age since she was already cooking breakfast for herself but we always had to make our own lunches since we were like 10

[@songohan3321]

But as usual, there is most of the time something more going on in the background. OP reveals it in the update.

[@gaysatan4565]

@@songohan3321 yeah I know, but regardless of why they were being mean to her/her cooking in the first place (although I’m glad they are working to change their behavior) the step mom shouldn’t feel bad for not doing that type of stuff for them/feel like she has to start making everyone food again cause they are on better terms. Edit: also I get your first comment lol. I was a bad cook in Highschool but I think most people in highschool aren’t making elaborate lunches/breakfasts when they want to sleep in as long as they can

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@cherylann9781]

If I were step- mom I would show the step kids their outgoing call and text history. I would throw that bio-mom right under the bus.

[@Amelia073]

Two teenagers are perfectly capable of making breakfast for themselves!

[@l.dougherty7573]

Re: coffee - WHAT A TROLL!!! He didn't tell Her that She had to stop drinking coffee! What the ACTUAL F***!!!!!

[@novabrilliant4510]

Just took my cat, Stella Blue, for a walk. Came in to find a spicy waffle treat ☺️ Thanks Mark. Hope everyone is having a wonderful day.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Awwww floofy baby

[@novabrilliant4510]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 hope you are having a wonderful day. Your comments always make me smile.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@novabrilliant4510 awww thank you im glad I can do that 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@nonbinarybannana]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 You have been here longer then i have. You are amazing. Thank you for giving many of us hope. You and mark are angles

[@co7314]

I was required to make my own breakfast and lunch starting at about 5 years old. Spoiled brats.

[@redundantnspeechless]

Story 2: what the actual hell, lady?

[@shecoda4402]

STORY 2 OP YTA Why can't hubby change up his life? Also why can't hubby just have decaffeinated coffee or decaffeinated Cola? I have a suggestion. It has been shown that dairy can contribute to acne. Might consider cutting out dairy. Some people also think gluten might cause acne. You eliminate one thing at a time until you find the culprit. There are books about this. A relative had this problem on her face at 40. She picked up a book that recommended cutting out 7 different things from her diet. One at a time until she figured out the problem. It turned out to be gluten and dairy. She cut back on both and no more problem. She didn't cut them completely out, just cut down on them in her diet.

[@carolroberts4614]

Might consider cutting out listening to controlling wife, too!

[@oakenshadow6763]

Story 2: OP has no right to control what he eats or drinks. It doesn't effect her AT ALL. You can still have a drink in the morning, his will just be decaff. Jeez.

[@threeducks157]

Cutting ... Out... caffeine... BLASPHEMY!!!!!!

[@iamallaboutfood7242]

Story 2: What the hell is wrong with that woman? Is she looking for a fight on purpose? Is she that controlling? Like seriously? Sure, mentioning that he wants to cut out caffeine could have been nice, but probably because she acts like that is the main reason why he never did... Like wtf definitely YTA

[@charondusk5608]

Story 1 - "Where the phones are under her care and not with them" Oh god, she's one of THOSE parents. Yeah, no, that is exactly what the ex has been doing, deleting the texts and calls, and OP needs to talk to her husband about it because if she's doing that, who knows what else she's doing. Story 3 - NTA. The guy started the shit by not following the protocol, the confrontation could've been avoided if he hadn't been a smug bastard and deserved worse imo because he could've put people in serious danger. And yes, the security guards should be professional, but they also don't deserve the amount of shit that gets thrown at them. Story 4 - OP NEEDS to take this to HR because once to his face is passable as a joke, but the rest is going too far and could not only get OP in trouble with his GF, it could lead to a hostile work environment for him if people take her seriously and start to see him as a "bad father".

[@sammyk.6457]

That last one was crazy

[@brokenrabbitsfoot]

**cuts out caffeine** "HOW DARE YOU!!" What a wacko

[@DaZebraffe]

9:51 "It's not bad, so I don't know why he cares if I'm not objecting to it." Yeah, 'cause, you know...whether or not your SO objects to it is the only measure of whether or not you should care about having skin issues. Jesus, the self-absorption of this chick...

[@doggothesavior9107]

Story 1: NTA op doesn’t have to make them breakfast, if they know how to cook, and aren’t under the age of 10, they know they are being assholes and they honestly didn’t do anything wrong. Story 2: YTA super petty, op is acting like she owns him and is being very rude and pushy. NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO CONTROL THEIR SO’s DIET. Story 3: ESH/NTA op didn’t do anything wrong, not really at least, and the guards don’t need to be fired over someone who could possibly be sexist. Story 4: NTA she can’t be acting like that, if she was told to stop that and she knew that it was making you uncomfortable, it could also turn extremely serious and she should be reported.

[@darkrose1983]

The caffeine police , you ATA. My husband drinks Earl Grey tea, loves and eats olives and salami. I hate all these but I love chocolate and other food my husband doesn’t. It doesn’t affect our dynamic and we both give up things every now and again. By the way, we’ve been married 30 years.

[@nareegreel]

Them young people would be making their own meals, especially since they are being rude about my cooking. I would stop and let them stew in it. Their mother would have gotten cussed out trying me like that.

[@momotaro1236]

Story 1: NTA you’re not asking then to get down their knees and beg for food you’re just asking them to not say mean things. And she still making food just not breakfast breakfast.

[@stephanien6237]

To the guard story, do I have the details right: during a lockdown when by law the place has to have a guard screen every person entering, a man walks in, willfully disregards/ignores the guard and the mandatory process, and then escalated when she catches up with him to ask him questions and still refuses to do the very basic thing required by law… and then escalates, yelling and using foul language and having to have more guards come over because of his behavior..? He sounds like a male Karen!

[@rossvegas1346]

I wonder if OP of the second story being pregnant has anything to do with her reaction? I’ve never been pregnant so I don’t know from experience, but doesn’t pregnancy fuck with your hormones and make you behave out of character sometimes?

[@phoenixsky6124]

Story 2. Definitely the a*hole! Leave him alone!

[@Mscrimsondragon]

Well, theres the problem right there. The mom. Its not rocket science when they had no problem with OPs cooking until they got back from a month long stay at their moms house.

[@karenvecchio2229]

Put a box of cereal & milk on the table. Breakfast served. Put bread , peanut butter & jelly on the table. Lunch is served.

[@hbkgirl1982]

Story 2 there's always decaffeinated coffee and colas. OP should consider that as an option for herself and the baby

[@Deergon]

Mark: I used to eat quite a lot of chocolate and I got quite a lot of back acne Me drinking chocolate milk while watching: 👁👄👁

[@Equinyx666]

C h o c c y m i l k you mean? PS: both lactose and chocolate fk me up with some acne 🤣🤣

[@Mikedeela]

Caffeine story, imagine what kind of control freak gives someone grief for choosing not to drink caffeine. His life is going to be a slog, if it isn't already.

[@cheskydivision]

Omg maybe he was just thirsty for lemonade that night.

[@micahpatchen1538]

omg #2.....really?!?! I'm .....she's going to go stalker and boil his bunny one day

[@alexlibby5087]

The caffeine story is insane I thought when she said she was pregnant he was going to be pressuring her to quit too But cause she doesn’t care about his bacne so why does he? And it could judge their dynamic because of what morning coffee? Insanity

[@cheskydivision]

The mom is instigating the problems with he step kids. The dad just wants you to put up with it. If the kids have a problem with OP's cooking then let them feed themselves.

[@shecoda4402]

MALL COP OP NTA There are some people who just won't comply until it the situation is escalated to yelling and screaming. However, had security been out of line, cussing, pushing, shoving just generally rude then they deserve what they get. STORY 4 OP NTA, go to HR or management. This is OP's reputation at stake and who knows what the ramifications down the line are? (15 or 18) year old child finds OP and asks if Daddy because a coworker from the past said that it was well known at work that OP was the daddy. What a potential mess. Nip it in the bud, right now.

[@amusing4me257]

For the mall story; so what I’m hearing is that some jerk decided that he was more important then everyone else and didn’t have to go to the same checkpoint? Screw him if you give those kind of people an inch they go a mile

[@15oClock]

1. Parental alienation was always on the table. Turns out, it was over more than a bowl of cereal. 2. I woke up before 6 AM because I overreact to caffeine; I may be biased! Still, this sounds insane. 3. Why lie? If OP thinks the guards were in the right, why did they feel the need to lie about it? 4. Abby's not funny; that's reason enough to stop. I'm not even sure she's joking, considering the context.

[@gaxalee7392]

3. Op explained that the security management is very strict towards the guards so it’s likely Op fears the guards will get a harsh punishment for being slightly unprofessional.

[@Arylwren1]

Also, there's no telling what kind of lies the guy told about the guards. Security guards in malls are essential workers and shits been stressful for then too. Getting the blunt of provincial and company decisions pissing people off.

[@riceracm]

3:50 Seriously, my _11-year-old_ usually makes their own breakfast! 😆

[@Y4ZYAZ]

As a 12 year old I used to make everyone breakfast at 8 were more than capable lol good parent

[@Arylwren1]

Why does that sound odd? I could cook an egg and make toast for myself by the time I was 8. At 14 I solo cooked Thanksgiving diner. If parents take the time to teach, kids can learn .

[@81babyruthluv]

Disrespect = closed kitchen. Those damn teenagers can fix their own breakfast. My 13 year old daughter makes her own breakfast, for crissake.

[@momotaro1236]

Story 2:YTA just because he’s not drinking the same drink anymore doesn’t mean you can’t still hang out, instead of drinking coffee he can drink hot cocoa or orange juice, instead of ordering a cup of lemon twist he can get a lemonade it’s not that big of a deal. Do you want to know what Is? Having scars all over your back that your partner doesn’t care about.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA Their mom is alienating the situation. They're also old enough not to be cooked for for every meal. They should've been cooking their own breakfast as it is. Edit:Ii knew it! Also the kid is afraid they'll be made to go to mom's permanently...so they treat her like shit? Teenagers are weird..

[@tamsel814]

Teen logic at its best. And a good example of how teenagers are emotically not yet adults. In this case I think the teens may have looked at it as inevitable that they would be send away and decided that it would hurt less if they started acting up.

[@vivianwalters1329]

Story 2. One word: decaf. BOOM, fixed. Seriously though, you can't control what your partner eats or drinks. I am pretty sure that can eventually turn into some form of abuse. I understand wanting to know what is up, and if it had stopped with you being upset that he didn't tell you, I would say NSH. But you do become the AH when you think that you have any say over what he wants to drink or eat. His body, his choice.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

I had back zits as a teenager, I don't have it now at 53.I drank caffeine then and now

[@Mapache095]

Sorry 4 to me NTA - the security guard was telling the truth! The guy was scoffing at the other person because she was a woman! People always say “men need to be allies” and then when one is being one people get mad... huh???

[@kristenhlady4079]

Story 1: show the texts and calls that you and dad sent them while you guys were sick, and ask what times do they have their phones, maybe get them to call you ? Don't cover for people, it makes you look bad. Just be honest and show proof it will expose the lies she has been saying hopefully

[@jeandobkowski8571]

About 15-16 yr olds...I was in the fifth grade and made my own breakfast, lunch, and often started dinner for the family. My mother was ill and gave me simple instructions. 2lb hamburger. make meatloaf. potatoes ready to bake. Both in oven 350 at ??? time. I knew how to do all that and much more.

[@brendaseminoff615]

I cooked for 12 on the weekends by the time I was 12. I can make a mean fried chicken dinner,with mashed potatoes and gravy plus salad in less time it takes most people to discuss what they want for dinner.

[@jeandobkowski8571]

@@brendaseminoff615 I totally agree. 20-30 min for a great meal! I have friends that take 2 hrs to cook what I do in 30 min. It's all about timing as I'm sure you know.

[@TheCopyblogger]

Story 2: YTA. His body, HIS choice.

[@S7-Envy]

Smh what makes any of you think that the kids don't know what kinda person their mother really is. They know already. They might not want to except it but they know a lot more than people give them credit for.

[@rutyqutykandi1361]

Story 2 sounds like the wife has some kind of obsessiveness over what people do or don't do.